During an episode of the IMO podcast hosted by Elaine Welteroth, she urged ladies to stay away from men who can't cook or do household chores.
She noted that marriage should be a kind of partnership where both parties need to be hands-on, ready to step into each other's roles when necessary.
In her words;
"One of the things I say to people as they are thinking of picking a mate, you gotta think like a partner is a member of your football team, it's like if you're picking players to okay in a team,you won't just pick a shooter, everybody has to be able to do it all, each person in a couple has to be able and willing to do it all.
In her words;
"One of the things I say to people as they are thinking of picking a mate, you gotta think like a partner is a member of your football team, it's like if you're picking players to okay in a team,you won't just pick a shooter, everybody has to be able to do it all, each person in a couple has to be able and willing to do it all.
So you don't want to marry a man who's like I don't cook, it's like well, what happens if I can't cook.You just don't do laundry,life is so unpredictable and complicated and then add in Kids, right?
If you're married to a man that doesn't do house chores and have given birth and you've had a ceasearen and you can't be on your feet or heaven forbid you have a difficult pregnancy,and you come home and get can't do anything, he's never been to grocery shopping or you're the woman and you can't balance the checkbook, because you've left that to him, life is too complicated for two partners not be real equals in it because you just don't know what's gonna come".
Wise woman!
ReplyDeleteWell said Michelle Obama. Thank God for the wonderful man God gave me. He can do everything and anything for us
ReplyDeleteGood advice
ReplyDeleteShe is absolutely right. Marriage is like a shared performance - perhaps not always equal, but still a partnership. Both people can take turns stepping up, not because of gender roles, but for the good of their relationship. Even though each person may have their main responsibilities, they're not confined by them. Instead, they're inspired by the shared vision of a peaceful life together.
ReplyDeleteYou can say this again!!
DeleteMost Nigerian men can't relate.
ReplyDeleteWho made them to be so? If you as a woman and your fellow women teach your boys, as my own mother taught me, from childhood, then “most Nigerian men” can relate. So, cover your eyes in shame (and those other Nigerian women that share your view) for having failed .
DeleteMediocre entitled misogynistic men can not relate , that is why they are the bottom of the list worldwide. It shows in how their mentality is and the lack of development
DeleteLoud it mama 🎤 🎙. She wrote in one of her books that Barrack was not a hands on husband she used to get soo upset, she had to focus on her self development and what makes her happy not putting her happiness in a man that really encouraged me. She's a good role model and intelligent too
ReplyDeleteIf she were to be a Nigerian, she would have been termed 'feminist'.
ReplyDeleteExactly! Everyone should know life and survival skills. Peeling a potato is not woman’s work. Throwing a load of laundry in the washer or doing dishes to keep the household flowing smoothly, especially when children are in the household should be a united contribution. Everybody should know how to do everything. Wives should know how to change a washer or tire and how to handle finances. Each party should be capable
DeleteLouder Mama
ReplyDeleteOpen Their Ears And Sing It Like Chorus Inside ..
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She said it all. 👍🙌
ReplyDeleteWell said ma
ReplyDeleteWord of wisdom 💯👌
ReplyDeleteMtscheeeeeeeew!!! The society, lifestyle and culture in developed countries are different from ours. Labour is cheap here so we can have 2-3 domestic aides to assist at home. Moreover, there are willing relatives to help - mum/mum-in-law, cousins, nephews, nieces, aunts etc. In Africa, just pray for a godly and kind husband (who doesn't drink and/or smoke excessively- cos the 3rd most dangerous one, womanising, must definitely be added to the earlier two). If he misbehaves, the wife is out and if she misbehaves, the wife will also be out. However, in developed countries, women are more empowered to send the man out of the house if there is a conflict.
ReplyDeleteWe hear all these in different ways all the time. Nothing new or outstanding here. On the flip side also, after choosing right, it may still go south. It by God's grace after all said and done
ReplyDeleteChosen right is important, but the most important aspect is maintaining the right attitude while married. Some couples change, that you are left wondering if the person was the right partner you choose earlier. God grace matters, like wise being intentional for a happy home.
ReplyDeleteThese are the kind of women to take advice from about the man to choose. Not all these naija celebs with bad advice . I don’t think there are many naija women married to the kind of man she is talking about tho 👀 ☕️ shame
ReplyDeleteMothers teach your boys how to cook and insist them learn and do house chores.
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