CHRONICLE OF A MARRIED MAN

The other day, I and my wife were gisting, one gist led to the other and she said "I pray for our children to be bigger than us by God's grace".I kept mute and she asked why I didn't say 'Amen'.

I told her it is not okay for her to pray it or wish it at this stage in her life.
If they are destined to be bigger than us, it is fine, let it happen but as it is now, we are still young, we can struggle and be bigger than our present level.

In my opinion

Young parents praying that their children be bigger than them, the children should have more money, more connection, more wealth, more popularity, etc and generally be more successful than them is not right in my opinion. I see those with this mindset as twisted.

That prayer shows that you have resigned yourself to your present level, you have lost the hope and the zeal of becoming bigger and more successful than you are now.

That prayer should be made by an old person on his/her death bed, an old dying person who was NOT successful in life.

It is only in Nigeria that you get to hear such twisted prayers.
That prayer limits Nigerians. Some even stop working early and balance at home for their children to take care of them as soon as they finish higher institution. They will now transfer all the family burden to the young graduate. SMH!
How can that child be great when you don't allow him/her to breathe?

They stop developing themselves and focus all their energy and resources on developing their children, then relax and wait for the children to take care of them in old age.
When the children don't turn out the way they envisaged, they become heartbroken, bitter, hypertensive, sickly, then d!e miserably.

Parents, why don't you go back to school, get more certifications, more skills, financial aid, etc, upgrade yourself and become more successful while training your children? Then let them go out there, work, get skills, etc and improve themselves, without you burdening them with the family problems, because you will have more than enough...
Don't you see rich parents giving expensive gifts to their equally rich children? I'm not talking about politicians who stole, I mean genuine rich parents.

In my late forties, I should be praying and wishing for my kids to be bigger than me?
I should stop developing myself and aiming higher in order to allow my kids become to be bigger than me? What a sick mindset..
Is that what I came to do in this world? I came to live for a while and then relax and give my kids room to overtake me so that I will be at their mercy financially in my later years?
Don't we all have our different lives to live as humans?

Who even made that rule?
Is any of President Tinubu's children bigger than him?
The late MKO Abiola, is any of his children bigger than him?
Is any of Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala's children bigger than her?
I will never say Amen to such a twisted prayer.
Let my children be successful in life, if they are destined to be bigger than me, so be it.

As I am now, there is still room for me to leave my present level to a higher level which none of them MAY surpass. I said 'may', which means they can surpass it.
I am already making moves to get more certifications and increase my market value. Business wise, I'm making moves to expand my business.
Let God's will be done in each individual's life.
This is my opinion. I'm sorry if you don't agree but I don't reason like the average Nigerian.