Hmmm.....
HELP!!!!!!!
I Need Help
I am currently in my third marriage and the same pattern that ended my first two marriages is beginning to show again.
My husband is growing distant, he complains about everything I do and seems to find me less and less attractive. He disappears for weeks without telling me where he's going, and when I express concern, his response is cold and indifferent. He tells me I can leave if I want, that he's tired of the marriage.
But I don’t want to leave. I want this to work, with all my heart.
I confided in a close friend recently, and she said something that shook me. She believes what I'm going through isn't ordinary. She shared her own story about how things turned around for her only after seeing a soothsayer who revealed hidden things in her life. She offered to take me to the same spiritual man, but warned that his help comes at a high cost, not just financially, but spiritually.
I'm torn.
All my life, I have known Jesus. I've never consulted any spiritualist, never sought help from a herbalist or soothsayer. I’ve prayed, fasted, cried but things seem to only get worse. I feel like I’m losing my mind.
In my first marriage, I had a child but I lost him at just two years old. My second marriage produced no children. Now, three years into this third marriage, I’m still childless. The silence and loneliness are deafening.
I’m exhausted. Emotionally drained. I feel cursed sometimes. Is this how life is meant to be for me? Has anyone ever faced something this painful and confusing? What would you advise someone in my shoes?
DO NOT GO TO ANY SOOTHSAYER; GO BACK TO GOD ON YOUR KNEES!!!......
See eh, let that Marriage for the 3rd time instead of you to betray your Faith by seeking help from a soothsayer......Dont try it!!!
You can't claim you serve God and be thinking of how to visit a soothsayer. Do not meddle into any diabolical thing, cos it will surely backfire. Seek the face of God.
ReplyDeleteDon't go to any soothsayer. Join NSPPD 7am prayer everyday and see what God will do.
Delete15.03 This is true, the diabolical and even pastor praying routes prey on vulnerable people.
DeleteEven if na oyibo, being married multiple times is something to look into on your own. Therapy and looking into why you are repeating patterns is beneficial.
I recently discovered on my own my reasons for dating below what should be my standard. I didn’t need any soothsayers or church, just praying and thinking.
Poster, sorry for what you’ve been through. God will always be there as long as we don’t give up.
Madam,
DeleteListen to me and listen to me very well.
I pray you see this.
Look for a place to stay for 2 weeks. Go on a personal retreat.
Go with your bible, note-book, pen and go with a downloaded youtube message of Apostle Selman - I think its on the mystery of deliverance.
Pray just one prayer : OH LORD SHOW ME MERCY, SHED YOUR LIGHT AND SHOW ME WHAT IS WRONG AND SHOW ME THE WAY OUT. Psalm 13:3.
Worship God: Rev 5.
Pray for Mercy and light.
Listen to the message and read your bible A LOT.
You wont do this for up to 4 days before God starts opening your eyes. What is happening to you is not ordinary.
You need to pray!
God is more than willing to show you what is wrong but dont tell him to make your husband to love you. Ask him to show you mercy and open your eyes.
Dear Poster, did you ever hear of the story of a woman who was going through issues in her marriage and she confused in a friend cum neighbor who took her to her so called pastor. She was told all what to do and bring in the end she lost everything including husband and children to the hands of death. Only for her friend cum neighbor to start raving mad and confessed to being the one behind her predicament. Please face God and continue to face him.
DeleteWhat if those men were never yours for starters?
What if God needs you to draw closer to him?
Please do not go anywhere and STOP SHARING WITH THAT PERSON !!!!!!
Let Jesus fix it.
ReplyDeleteAt least she's honest to tell you its expensive. They will mess you up. Don't go there. Think back and hard have you done something?could be a curse or fruit of an act?
Is it just you or family thing?Please challenge your God to handle your matter.
It is well with you.
May God who death could not hold break the shackles around you. May he set you free and make you winner. The lord bless and keep you. May our Lady queen of the family crush this serpent's head.
Amen
DeleteLet me say this to you
ReplyDeletehave faith in God.He is sufficient for you👍believe me he as a better plan for you🤍🤍
Don't go to any soothsayer
Forget soothsayer.you might end up in a bigger trouble than now. See , God is able to bail you out. Take the positive advice from here and implement it.
DeleteMay God show you Mercy.
Dear Poster, It is well with you..Please don't panick so you don't end up making mistakes....I have never for one day subscribed to visiting soothsayers or diviners....Yes they are diviners masking as holy prophets and prophetesses.... Get on your knees and pray to God...You are not cursed....Prayer brings clarity and then you know what action to take....
ReplyDeleteHowever, on the physical aspect, you tend to attract the wrong people in your life...I don't know the dynamics on how your second marriage ended and how you met your 3rd husband but there are patterns that you either missed or intentionally ignored....
Have you tried to reach out to his family or someone he respects deeply to inform him about his new strange behaviour? Since you have tried on your part and he is indifferent...It's time for your family, his and other respected person to mediate on the matter...If after all interventions, he still does not want....Please just separate and give him his peace so it does not escalate to physical violence....
It's better to be safe while interceding for him and your marriage then being hellbent in staying because his resentment towards you will not end....
May God give you wisdom to navigate this difficult time...
All the best....
I have been in worst situation. Loveless marriage, childless so I totally understand what you’re going through.
ReplyDeleteI am just gonna write what stella already written.
One thing I will tell you is no matter what situation you find yourself, do not jeopardise your faith. God is always with us. Ask HIM and he will tell you what to do. Do not go spiritually because the consequences surpass your gains.
Poster pls don't follow her anywhere. They will rip you off and drain you financially, spiritually and emotionally. He may even sleep with you and inject demons into your life to make it worse. Trust no one including your friend. She will plan with him to defraud you and still no good result. That high spiritual cost she mentioned too should scare you to stay away.
ReplyDeletePls don't do it.
Go back to God in prayers.
Please join NSPPD Nd pray like a mad woman and see God in a new dimension..
ReplyDeleteI have a testimony already but it's not complete yet,I will share it soon by God's grace..
Sharapp pls.
DeletePlease listen to Sharon. Join Nsppd prayers by 7am. Pastor Jerry Eze. Don't mind that anon. na ignorant of the revelation of God dey worry am. Please make sure you watch testimonies. Your case is small to God. i trust God for your deliverance.
DeletePlease join the alter of fire! God is there o. I've tested it well!
DeleteDon't you think that not having any child will be one of the reasons for his behavior? Pls hold God tight and forget all these soothsayers.
ReplyDeleteE hug poster. It's well with you,you're not cursed,you're only going through trials of your faith. Genuinely and intentionally re-dedicate your life to Jesus. He will solve all your life's issues and give you peace. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🤗
ReplyDeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteIf you are in Nigeria.
Try and go to Prayer city, MFM(Mountain of Fire & Miracles Ministries) and prayerfully let God know all you are facing.
By God's Grace, the Lord will answer you.
Supported.
DeleteOnce in the Onike Yaba, Lagos HQ of MFM, the alter call was to name in our hearts 3 things we wanted God to do for us.
I named 3. I cannot remember now if any was for me.
But to the Glory of God all 3 were achieved.
Some then appeared impossible.
Thou art God who has made the heavens ....with thou outstretched arms
Is there anything to hard for God to do?
Nothing, absolutely nothing ....
A song so loved by the GO there.
This is my testimony.
May God help us all.
God bless you for this,way to go poster,it is well with you,cry no more,remember no soothsayer pls
DeleteBack to the secret place. Go and listen to Apostle Joshua Selman's message, Title: "More than a Conqueror ". Part 1&2.
ReplyDeleteLet me warn you that you will pray o (midnight and day). The kingdom of God is not likened unto a battle, it is actual war, and only the violence taketh it by force.
Hmmmmm. I don’t know what is going on. Have you had your fertility checked out to see if levels have decreased.
ReplyDeleteYou have luck to land marriages, the issue is in longevity and longterm mutual happiness. If all the husbands are behaving the same way then perhaps you keep choosing the same kind of man over and over again.
There is a story in the books of Tobit, a book in the Ethiopian Bible and Catholic Apocrypha. If my memory serves me correctly, a young man desires to marry a woman but a demon keeps killing all of her intended. I believe it is up to seven young men who have died. Tobit through prayers and the help of an angel defeats the demon and he was able to marry her.
Now, your friends has told you the price is high spiritually for the services of this soothsayer. This is a big red flag here. Anything requiring a high spiritual price that is not being requested by your Creator should be avoided at all costs. Better to lose the marriage than to lose your soul. A soul death is the real death, that everyone should fear. When you go before these ppl seeking their aid you do not know whose altar you have engaged to do business with. No matter what they tell you with your lips you do not know whose altar they are in service to. You may be making deals with demons in hell, who will for 100% give you what you desire but at a hefty cost to you and your generations. Because demons love to own lineage, once you depart this life, your children and grandchildren even to generations unknown will be owned by them. These entities do not sleep and their lifespans are far greater than humans. My dear that is not the legacy to leave behind.
Please take your worries to your Creator and whatever God cannot do for you let it remain undone. If you lose the marriage then lose it. We will lose everything in this life eventually, so nothing is worth holding on to at the cost of saving your soul. But if it is God’s will to help you in this marriage you will be helped. So pray fervently with fasting and supplications and let God reveal what needs to be revealed, heal what needs to be healed, and renew what needs to be renewed.
At the cost of losing your soul*
DeleteNot to ne insensitive but could it be that you are demanding for too much attention? Maybe if you were working amd occupied you won't really notice the cold attitude? Maybe you need to check yourself out .
ReplyDeleteYou may be a physical touch person married to the opposite. And they all end in the first few years when couples are adjusting.
I may be wrong but talk to your husband and hear him out. See how to reach a compromise.
The mind can mess youup making you see a pattern. Settle with him.
Tell him you go nowhere and telk you what's going on. That way you know whatsrequired of you.
He said you could go possibly because of the approach.
Sorry
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Like I always say, everybody will not get married or have children. The best thing you can do for yourself is to discover why you are on this earth. All you people think about is just to get married and have kids. Your are here for a reason. Third marriage and you're still not happy. Hmmmmmmm!
ReplyDeletePoster don't dabble into what you don't understand. Still holds unto God
ReplyDeleteI am thrilled by the type of advice our SDkBlog family members on this issues. God bless us all for the Godly advice🙏.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please heed to the word of wisdom from God's children here: God's way is the only good and perfect way. Nothing is worth loosing your salvation and soul for. It would be too expensive to dine with the devil in the name of trying to save a marriage that will end here on Earth. God will answer you like He did Hannah in the Bible 🙏❤️
God Is Not A Man That He Should Lie
ReplyDeleteGod Is God
God Is Peace
God is Merciful
God Does Everything
Please Trust And Put Your Hope In Him..
Nothing Is To Hard For God To Do
I Pray For Divine Breaththrough Upon Your Life
May His Arms Surround You
May His Grace And Favour Locate You In Jesus mighty name 🙏🙏
If You Are In Lagos
Please Try And Attend Christ Living Spring Apostle Ministry (CLAM)
Is Located At Ojodu Beger
Stop At Clam Bustop..
It Is well With You
Hello iya Boys
There is a place for prayer. Another for introspection. Another for work. And another for prayer.
ReplyDeletePrayers -
Always necessary.
Introspection -
Three men, same pattern?
Could there be your part in this matter?
When a matter repeats, facts shows it is being made to or allowed to.
Before you consider whether you are allowing it to happen, reflect on whether you are making it to happen.
Oftentimes, things happen in relationships in response to what we do or refuse to do in our relationships.
Before you put the blame on the men, check yourself objectively.
Works -
Have you gone the full medical length in your third quest for a child?.
Prayers -
Necessary to support introspection and medical works
If you choose to go as encouraged by your friend, please make effort not to include your husband in the price to be paid. Spare him as another woman's son, and as you would want your child(ren) God will bless you with spared from what they do not know about.
The story of the female Bv who voodoo flogged her boyfriend to death in quest of a submissive husband came to mind as soon as you mentioned the types of "price" to be paid.
Please, no blame is being put on you.
All said are just opinions (apart from the BV story read here) and suggestions.
All of these, just to keep a man? Wow!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster please follow Madam Stella's advice
ReplyDeleteTo before warned is to before harmed, someone like me will even distance myself from such friend ASAP.
ReplyDeleteHave a heart to heart talk with your man and of it still doesn't yield anything, just forget men and focus on your life,
to be forewarned is to be forearmed ***
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DeletePoster please don't try it, you will enter another bondage if you meet the soothsayer because they don't give or solve any situation for free. It's only God that can solve this your issue without headache .
ReplyDeleteDon't do it just locate a church with bible believing pastor and start worshipping there ,it may include known churches but be careful not to go with your friend ,that COST maybe more than what you think you can bear
ReplyDeleteLife just won't ever make sense. Another is somewhere crying into her pillows every night asking God for marital settlement and then there are others who've had multiple marriages.
ReplyDeleteOP I don't really want to connect spirituality to anything because if we follow Christ's instructions, your true and only husband remains your first husband. So on that premise alone, spiritual intervention will fail because in the spirit, your present man is not your husband.
That said, not everyone is meant to be married and stay married. Make peace with this and let the cards fall where they may.
There's nothing wrong with you. Just the normal circle or phase of marriage all couples pass through. Some just choose to stick through it.
Prayer is the only solution to prayer. If you have prayed before, pray again. Just keep praying. It can never be too much.
ReplyDeleteAkporoghene
I’m a testimony of Gods mercy. Please go to God, pray and continue praying. Try and do white fast for 7 days and Ul see a miracle. It may be a revelation or a warning so look out for your dreams etc
ReplyDeleteHey ma'am, I think a separation will do you some good, do not consult any soothsayer, the creator of marriage is God, continue to seek him but firstly leave that space for a bit
ReplyDeletePlease do not go to any soothsayer, the price to pay will be higher than what you are going through now.
ReplyDeletePrayer is good
ReplyDeleteBut I can tell you for free, your husband is starting to believe you are barren
He’s thinking you didn’t have a child with the second marriage and now no child in three years
Read yesterdays chronicle and what happened after she got pregnant
Go to a good doctor and find out what’s going on with you and your husband
Seeing a prophet is not a big deal to me. Even the money is no issue but you see that spiritual thing they say might happen. Don’t do it
Your husband may be cheating sha. Stop asking him since you want to stay by all means. Just carry him and you to a good gyno
That's the bitter truth. Keep praying and dis usd either him about IVF and other options
DeleteOn your knees is your victory. Not with any soothsayer. What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer. Take that hymn. Pour out your heart to God. HE will surely come through for you.
ReplyDeleteI pray you will have victory at last in Jesus mighty name,Amen.
What is the pattern from your family, your four fathers, your mother's side or from your father's side like. Has anyone in your family experience same challenge, are you the only one experiencing such challenge?
ReplyDeleteYou should have fought this before you entered into marriage for thr third time, knowing fully well that the fault is coming from you and not from the men. Your case is a very small one cos nothing that God cannot do for you, I would have recommended a pastor that you should see or speak to on this challenge but I don't think we are both in same state.
You should hold your God very well, especially that woman who said you are going to pay very high price not even with money alone with other things. Please I do not accept you to follow her for that cos in the future you are going to regret it.
How do you know where the fault is coming from
DeleteFault finder
She has had one child
Where is his own
Please, do not go to any spiritualist. They will only compound your problems. Simply go to God yourself. You dont need any medium to reach God. Midnite prayers is very very good. Infact when doing the prayers, be in your birthday suit and cry out to God. He will surely hear your cries.
ReplyDeleteAll you need is prayers. please follow prophetess chinyere umeh on Facebook
ReplyDeleteSeparate from that friend that recommended a soothsayer. Go back to God wholeheartedly, and incase you don't know any church to go, start with NSPPD @ 7pm.
ReplyDeleteRepair your alter of prayer, start studying the bible, listen to gospel songs. Tell God to come to your level so that you understand when He speaks to you.
Poster please don’t visit any soothe sayer. They are demonic and likely to destroy your peace!
ReplyDeleteFast and pray.Pray with all sincerity. It does wonders ♥️♥️
Beloved, I feel your cry in the Spirit. I came to remind you: You are not cursed - you are weary. Weary from standing in the gap. Weary from sowing in tears without seeing the harvest. Weary from calling on a silent God while cycles of pain repeat like an unbroken curse. Could it be a curse? Yes. But I’ve come to interrupt that lie with the truth: Your weariness is not your portion.
ReplyDeleteHear me - this is not divine punishment. It’s not just spiritual warfare. The enemy wears you down emotionally, so your own choices become your undoing. You’ve chosen partners out of fear, pressure, and loneliness. You placed hope in people unequipped to carry your heart. That’s not love - that’s survival masked as faith.
God is not wicked - He is your Father. A Father who sees, hears, and redeems. But sometimes what we call faith is unresolved trauma in disguise. You’ve been spinning a wheel God never asked you to turn, giving loyalty to people draining your virtue. You’re calling it love - but Heaven calls it bondage.
This may not be a test of your faith - it may be a battle for your soul. And the enemy is subtle. He doesn’t come with horns - he comes as a counterfeit. He offers charm with no covenant, a situation that appears holy but bears no fruit. If you’re not discerning, you’ll trade divine peace for emotional slavery - and call it destiny.
Child of God, listen again - the devil doesn’t give, he bargains. He offers validation wrapped in incense and whispers sweet nothings while stealing your identity. And through it all, your spirit is crying out, “Let go.” But you've called that whisper love, and that cry - confusion. No more.
You’ve prayed. You’ve fasted. You’ve wept in silence. But prayer without wisdom can trap you. Scripture says, “In all your getting, get understanding.” That begins with truth: not every battle is yours to fight. Some are meant to be escaped. You’ve been asking for a breakthrough - but have you checked your alignment?
You might be praying amiss. Asking God to bless what He’s been trying to bury. You’re sowing into graves, not gardens. Sometimes love doesn’t heal because it was never holy. You don’t lack faith - you lack spiritual boundaries. This isn’t a call for prophecy; it’s a call to realign your soul.
There’s still a wounded little girl inside - waiting to be chosen, trying to earn what was freely given: your worth. Even if the enemy says no, God still says yes. The bearer of light still breaks curses, redeems His own, and restores sevenfold what the locust and cankerworm devoured.
You don’t need to audition for love in a relationship that’s become a silent prison. They didn’t choose you. They may never see you. But God is not glorified in your suffering. He’s glorified in your healing, your peace, your wholeness. Reclaim the altar. God gave you the mind of Christ - not the heart of a hostage.
You don’t have to die on a cross He never asked you to carry. Stop confusing long-suffering with divine instruction. Yes, fast again. Yes, continue praying. But also heal. Check your soul. Guard your heart. Rest your body. Even Jesus withdrew from the crowds. You’re not broken - you’re bruised. And bruises heal, but only when you stop pressing on them and calling it love.
This cycle of the enemy mocking your God - ends now. So I join my faith with yours and declare: This is your turning point. Not your end. Not your failure. But the moment you finally choose yourself. And in choosing you, you choose God.
Persevere a little longer - what you prayed for is closer than it looks. He’s not hiding. He’s rewriting this chapter while waiting for you. Waiting for you to stop begging for crumbs and take your seat at the table He prepared. Your seat is still there. Take it - what you have prayed for is coming to pass. In Jesus’ name.
Mahn. I am not the poster but I needed this. I will definately save this. Thank you
DeleteNne idi very solid!
DeleteIt is well with you sister. So sorry for what you're going through. To start with please never consider going to any spiritualist/soothsayer, don't go and carry something worse than what you're facing already. Thank God that friend of yours was sincere enough with you. Hold on to your faith and on to God. Personally I don't believe anyone is more special to God than i am that i have to go through them for my prayers to be answered. Talk to God by yourself. You may also need to do some soul searching to see if there's anything about you that's making these men behave the way they do, if there are please make adjustments. If you're sure you're not at fault in any way just allow God have his way in your life. God be with you.
ReplyDeletePrayer is the key,draw closer to God like your life depends on him alone,which it does.
ReplyDeletePoster don't blame the man, it's the hand work of the enemies,join commanding the day midnight prayers by Dr Paul Enenche every day by11pm via YouTube or Facebook,come with expectations and see God on your life
ReplyDeleteDisadvantage of those things are
ReplyDeleteYou will be initiated and add to your existing problems
It may work faster for the moment but the day it will backfire eeh
Lastly it has expiring date so what's the need of all the struggles
So follow God's way although sometimes it tally but he never fail and his blessings last forever no expiring date .
Wow..what you're going through is enough to drive someone crazy. I pray GOD sees your through. It's such a difficult thing to be going through
ReplyDeleteRead “The Secret “ by Rhonda Byrne. Also read “The Power “ by the same author.
ReplyDeleteExamine your character. This book will help you root out bad characters, change your perspective and how you react to things. But above all, it will help you build a solid spirituality to pray right and get answers with ease and speed.
You said you feel cursed? Lol, as a man thinketh in his heart so is he.
ReplyDeleteNote this; what you ever you believe determines the energy that will surround you and those things that surounds you births negative realities because of your frequency you carry within. Start confessing what you want to see as your reality today. Do the positive confession every day. "I am not cursed, my marriage is peaceful, my husband loves me, I am blessed by God..." Wether it's true or not , just keep declaring it everyday and it will soon be your reality very soon.
I wonder if the poster could answer some basic questions to be able to give a more credible advice/opinion. And I hope you don’t find them offensive. They are not meant to be. My apologies ahead.
ReplyDelete1. How old are you now?
2. How’s your relationship with your dad? How’s your dad’s relationship with your mum?
3. Was your mum ever married to someone else?
DF.
😆 🤣 😂 see my cousin up there commenting , when all babalawo yard she know.
ReplyDeleteAnd if this marriage ends? Will that change your destiny? Answer is No.
ReplyDeleteSee if your husband will go to couples therapy with you. If he won't,then clearly marriage is over.
Have you considered IVF? why not give it a try?
You can and will survive on your own. You dont have to be partnered up all the time. Give sind space to grow yourself.