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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MESSY SITUATION
My ex and I broke up in 2021 after 5 years of dating, we started dating when i was a teenager, we had our issues so we broke up.
We still talk even after the breakup and help each other financially, I moved to the city he is based due to my work and we started seeing , first time we saw everything was fine .
Second time we met we gbenshed , third time we gbenshed again . At this point I think I'm pregnant although I'm yet to carryout a test , I dont know if I should keep it or get rid of it if positive, I'm able and capable of taking care of the child, I'm financially buoyant.
Also within the four yes we broke up, he had a child with someone older than him , I dont want to be in such a triangle. Na konji cause this thing ooo , I'm in a mess. I'm 27years old .
At this age and time you want to abort your baby? His having a baby mama is none of your business, you are pregnant and can decide if you want contact or not but you have no right to end that baby's life inside of you..
Since you have enough finances, then keep the baby.
But you sef, why did you let Okafors law play out with you?
You don't want to be in a triangle, but you are. Keep your baby.
ReplyDeleteWhat happened to contraception? Social media has made this baby mama thing look easy and funny to you, Abi? At 27? With your entire life ahead of you? A mistake you didn’t do in your teenage years? Are you a child? Use your tongue to count your teeth.
DeleteMs Saphire are you minding her?
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteDon't even think of aborting that innocent baby in your womb.
It was your sole responsibility to Gbensh without protection, therefore enjoy the outcome.
DOZZYBEST.
You went back to him . Have you discussed with him about the pregnancy to see his reaction?
ReplyDeleteYou just want to commit abortion without justification.
Btw ,condom no dey again?
What if he has infected you with HIV or Herpes. Una no dey fear at all .
They don't care about that . A lot of them have sex with people they don't even know their status. The moment relationship starts the next thing is to fornicate
DeleteThis was posted last week or thereabouts.
ReplyDeletePoster you did this intentional cos you’re already hoping to be pregnant even without testing. Just know that pregnancy cannot trap a man. Congratulations in advance
Don't take the life of an innocent baby because of your carelessness, why gbensh raw without protection, why even gbensh in the first place with an ex or someone you aren't married to, which kain konji be dat that can't b controlled.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, Let's not kid ourselves here......You have completed the shape of the triangle and it might become a quadrilateral if not a pentagon soon...So nothing can change that fact....
ReplyDeleteMy concerns are: Are you really disciplined enough not to allow this happen to you the second or third time? And are you sure you can handle this sole financial cover in the long run? You might have to think this very well because that child should have his dad in his or her life and it will be great he makes some contribution to your child's upbringing....Because na two of una gbensh....
That said, learn from this and decide to do better in choosing a life partner because being a single mother by choice is very daunting and can be challenging...You are 27 years, an adult and should know what you want for yourself....
Please make better choices for your present and future self and if you confirmed you are pregnant, then a hearty congratulations to you....
All the best
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ReplyDeleteI sha hope it's not Dan.
ReplyDeleteKeep going off and on. Started early with him. But I declined sex.
Aunty have a test done. And inform him too
I don't support abortion
Your last paragraph is supported. Inform him, and if he doesn't want the pregnancy. Keep your baby since you are financially stable
DeleteAnd y’all think being financially stable is the ONLY condition for having a child. No wonder parents are having kids that would kill them because of inheritance and spouses kill each other to claim insurance and death benefits.
DeletePoster please keep your baby and be grateful. It's pregnancy you got and not venerable disease. At this time and age,having an unprotected sex,it's a sign of irresponsibility and low self esteem. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteAbort the baby if you truly feel like you can’t do this. Don’t let anybody deceive you because no one here will be there for the next 18 years. Choose you.
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DeleteAt your age you know what unprotected seck can do. Why have you not confirmed it and spoken to him. He is not a stranger, this is someone you have known since you were a child, so tell him! Your families know each other, your parents know both of you.
ReplyDeleteIf the families know this pregnancy exist they will accept with open arms and your will be protected. You will not be on your own. So get out of fear and realize that you are ok. But first tell him
If you keep your baby, you won't regret. The joy it gives is untold. All the best.
ReplyDeleteHow did you know?
DeletePls keep the child.lt could a sign that both of you are mean 't to be together.
ReplyDeleteOzi ogwu o😳
DeleteInform him and keep your baby.
ReplyDeleteI also hope you are mentally prepared for this baby if truly you're pregnant. To cater for a child as a single parent has its own challenges.
ReplyDeleteI pray you make the right decision for your future self.
In 1992-1996, I was escorting all my friends to go do D&C (abortion) in a hospital close to uratta road Aba to be precise. (just to let you know that i am not making the story up.) We used to hang out in a provision store close to the hospital to have coke and buns whilst we wait for my friends to regain strength to go home so their parents wouldn’t know where they have been or what they have done.
ReplyDeleteOn the “protection”door of the provision store was boldly written “Do not touch that baby in your womb, you will regret it tomorrow.”The reason for the bold writing maybe because they know what young girls come to the hospital to do.
23 years later, most of my friends that had that abortion struggle to have a child including me, the escort. Some have got now and some haven’t got at all.
“A bird in hand is worth two in the bush”
Lots of people struggle
DeleteYou better decide yourself for yourself because that older person that has a baby for your friend won't leave him along even if you told us that the man is older than her .Age is not a factor when he impregnated her so be prepared for a fight with his baby mama
ReplyDeletePoster please keep your baby.
ReplyDeleteKeep Your Baby
ReplyDeleteHello iya Boys
Please I beg you in the name of God 🙏 don't kill that innocent child .
ReplyDeleteit looks like you have not moved on since you broke up with him. that's why okafors law played out.
ReplyDeleteif you have the mind to gbensh without protection, you should also have the mind to carry the baby to nine months and deliver
maybe both of you can still be couple since he is also not dating.
All the best
Please keep your baby or you regret it later
ReplyDeleteA lot of you are so stiff-necked and incorrigible. Avoid premarital sex mbanu
ReplyDeleteClose your legs till marriage mbanu
You will now be looking for advice from the same people you ignored their initial advice. .
Stella's blog has been on for many years, don't you read chronicles and advices given on chronicles.
You didn't ask what to do before you went and engage in fornication. Do whatever you like.
Humans are not perfect beings, never was and never will be. You may not be fornicating, but lord knows you have a glaring flaw about you.
DeleteThat one is your problem oo
DeleteHumans are not perfect beings is an excuse not to have sense right? Is this about perfection or having sense. She had sex with someone when she doesn't even know his status whether he has STDs and if that was not enough, no contraceptions afterwards. Please, what was she expecting, a TV or did the guy tell her he was impotent?
It is comments like this that keeps this kind of chronicle popping up every now and then despite all the advices all over the place. As we speak now another future baby mama is in her boyfriend's house collecting raw s*"'' while reading this chronicle and would still come here to whine in the future.
18:34👌
Delete17:54 anon glaring flaw, please, who are you trying to guilt-trip? It is only when fornication is being discussed that most of you act very understanding and empathetic. The same people that judges people here everyday on a daily. I hope when a woman comes here and complains her husband cheats you tell her that she has a glaring flaw and nobody is perfect so she shouldn't act like she is perfect simply because she doesn't commit adultery.I hope you have never judge anyone in your life before simply because you know your flaw is different from theirs.
So what is she supposed to do with your comment, undo the sex she already had? You just ranting because she is pregnant, unmarried or contemplating an abortion? So, comments on a blog is keeping ppl having unprotected sex and getting pregnant. You want to tell me that in the long history of human existence it is only when blogs started and comments are left that don't castigate the poster that ppl started having unprotected sex and contemplating abortions. Look, I wasn't seeking for any comedy today, but you have sure brought it. You just ranting because you have inner anger that you have not worked out.
DeleteLife happens on earth and some of the things that happen to ppl on this earth is unfortunate. While marriage is beautiful and worthy of exploring if possible, it will not be the only way through which children are conceived, because we know this, it is important that we work to create a world where all children are accepted, loved, protected and valued and provided with all the things of life needed for a healthy and wholesome survival including free access to good nutrition, education, and healthcare irrespective of how they came to be on the earth. If such a world existed a great deal of the thoughts around pregnancy termination would not exist.
You are the one with inner anger anon 20:46
Deleteanyways that one is your problem oo. Keep ranting.
Anon 19:53 You better leave that one ooo with cheap blackmail. See how e carry the matter for head.
Dear poster, please keep the baby since you're financially stable.
ReplyDeleteWhatever happens, don't touch that baby. You will be glad you kept it.
ReplyDeletePoster, I pray you don't touch that baby. Give yourself 15 years, you will look back on this post and smile you did not touch the baby. Have your child.
ReplyDeleteTell him, who knows whether two of you can end up together as a married couple, and if not, you can still keep the baby since you're financially capable to take care of him or her, but be very sure that it's not an easy journey to be a baby mama, it comes with a lot of challenges, may God see you through.
ReplyDeleteIf the result is positive...... This is a great chance for you, still talk to him you never can tell his plans towards you too. Children are blessing from above
ReplyDeleteHave it in mind that the older lady, might not let you be and he may not be fully there for you.
ReplyDeleteInform him and keep the baby. You said you have the finance that's the most important thing.
I wish you all the best.
Get tasted to be sure if u are pregnant, then discuss with your partner to know the way forward
ReplyDeletePlease keep the child, do not abort
ReplyDeleteLol. You shouldn't have had unprotected sex . Don't have unprotected sex again until you are ready for pregnancy .Babies are very hardwork. Single parenthood na konkiri.
ReplyDeleteI certainly wouldn't advice keeping the baby or having sex with your ex. Move on ,please
If Genevieve had aborted her child. If Sophia had aborted that's how they would have missed the precious Jewels they have today.
ReplyDeleteTell him
ReplyDeleteYou guys can marry quick
Just get tested first, if it's positive then you talk to your partner. No matter what he tells you via terminating the pregnancy "DO NOT" I repeat "DO NOT". Like you said you have the finance so please keep it.....you'll never regret this ✌️.
ReplyDeleteOkafor's law in full swing. Find out of you're pregnant as early as you can do that you'd know what to do
ReplyDeleteHow people keep in touch with their ex baffles me.
ReplyDeleteI guess you are the one assisting him financially and you're receiving gbensh in return because why???
Please whatever you do, leave that innocent baby alone if you are eventually pregnant.
Did you not know that one of the consequences of gbenshing without protection is pregnancy. At least you are financially capable and won't be depending on your opportunistic ex for money.