ADVICE NEEDED
Hello Stella,I am a single working-class 31-year-old lady.
I have been trusting God for a partner. I met Segun when he mistakenly dialled my number, and we became friends.
He came to Ogun state, and we met because that's where I live and Segun's parents lived in Ogun state, too.
Segun lives in Lagos; he told me that he had a fiancee and that we could only be friends. I agreed. After all, I can't date everyone I meet.
Segun jokingly said when we get to bed won't I pretend to be a novice. I scolded him that so far, we aren't dating, and we can't discuss anything about s#x. He apologized.
Now the thing is that a friend of mine who's an event planner wants to host a two-day trip to Badagry. The price for a single is cheaper than the price of people coming in pairs. Segun said he was going to come with me and foot my bills, and we would both attend the event, but I felt Segun's coming might prevent me from meeting my potential prince charming.
When I told him he should bring his fiance along if he is interested in coming for the trip, he said he doesn't have a girlfriend to come with and that he would prefer to come with me. What do I Do? Potential suitors, too, might attend the trip, and I feel gumming with Segun might prevent guys from noticing me. I want to attend the event to specifically network.
Madam why did you tell him about the trip? He wants to come so that he will see opportunity to gbensh the living daylight out of you... See that he has denied having a girlfriend? scam.....Please dump the Segun or whatever his name is and go to your event alone......That ''What do i do'' that you asked eh, makes me feel like jump slapping you!!!.....Like seriously? Some of you babes should stop acting so soft with these scum becos una dey find husbands....
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ReplyDeleteDump him before you come and shout, "He took advantage of me".
Babe, I believe this is in fact, a wonderful situation. Let me tell you, nothing is more attractive to men than a woman that is desired by other men. It will be obvious to a blind man that Segun wants you but this is the opportunity for you to let him chase you. He isn’t married, is he? Enjoy his attention and leave your green lights on for other guys too. Be classy about it and enjoy yourself while there. A happy woman is as attractive as fk. Whenever any of the other guys is talking to you, babe, give that guy 100% attention at that point, laugh at his jokes and look at him like he is the only man there. The last thing you want to do is allow that yoruba demon string you on. Don’t get jealous if he is speaking with other women either. When you are with him too, give him full attention. Don’t forget to have your “me” time when you enjoy your self by yourself or with other girls.
DeleteDon’t share a room with him.
At your age don't let anyone play games with you, you are not a toy.
DeleteGod bless you Stella for that reply.
DeleteImagine.
It is possible Segun has no girlfriend, like he said. He might be telling you the truth. But he has a wife though. He has not denied that one. You should forget Segun and move on
DeleteSegun has other days to be around you. This is a one time opportunity for you to make new friends and who knows, one thing may lead to greater opportunities so don't let that Segun to block potential friends from seeing you.
ReplyDeleteWhen he said he didn't have girlfriend to come with, why didn't you ask him about his alleged fiancee?
ReplyDeleteWell, he may actually be single at the moment and he may actually be your future husband. You never can tell. You can go with him , it will give you the to bond with him , if you like him.
Yorubas say "what you are looking for in Sokoto(a State) is inside your sokoto (trousers)"
@Dreza, it's good she didn't ask anything to prevent him feeding her lies. If he's single now, he should use the same mouth he used to tell her he has a fiance to do so and prove it. Moreover he being single doesn't mean he wants poster for anything serious.
DeletePoster even if he tells you he's single now, you should still go alone. Meet other people, talk to enough people as you can. Don't limit yourself. If he wants to spend time to know you, he should do that properly after the event. Don't settle, you are not old, allow yourself to be courted properly.
Poster,this one is not what you're looking for in sokoto abeg,it's obvious he's trying to gbensh you..avoid that guy even if he now comes to say he's single..let him know you're not interested in going with a man..find a female friend to go with if you can.
DeleteIt’s like you guys don’t understand what’s happening here. Poster told segun about the trip because she wants him to pay for it. She wants him to pay for it and not be with her or reign on her parade. Poster na owo epo
DeleteI forgot to add that you may not necessarily have xes with him.
ReplyDeleteHe already told you he has a fiance. Jokingly talked about bedding you. He wants to go on a trip wuth you, and suddenly he is booless. 🤣🤣🤣. Madam, shine ya eyes. He wants to knack you clean, and walk away. If you wanna go on the trip, go alone, and fleeee from Segun.
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all this one no concern me na gbola i need this hot afternoon
ReplyDeleteSame here. Gbola wey get vein. Aunty poster, you Mumu o.
DeleteLmao! Both of you are crazy! Nna ehn, dont remind of preek im trying to forget abeg
DeleteBabe forget about segun
ReplyDeleteHe just want to use you
Dear Poster, Na wa for you....Why you dey fall hand like this? Why are you behaving like a novice? This is how you give men mixed signals and you set yourself up, then you will again be wondering why he is disrespecting you & saying men are scum....
ReplyDeleteDon't pretend like you don't know what you are doing...You reprimanded him for mentioning sex to you when the conversation came up as you rightly said that you were not dating....Now you have a get together and bam! You invited Segun as what and to come and do what with you? Then you want to be clever by half saying he should invite his fiancé to do what exactly? Are you serious right now? For something, you have not clearly defined what type of relationship you want with him....
You don't have any other friend or girlie to link up with and attend this get together? See you are an adult; just say you want to taste his ''cucumber'' instead of this musical chair you are playing here...Then you are still looking for your prince charming 😅😅 at the event...Nna na wa oh!!
Them go too chop you for this Lagos....You better stop playing...
All the best....
What is wrong with you..?
ReplyDeleteIt's very obvious that Segun is a time waster but u are still hoping for what I don't understand..
Don't go with Segun, you may met promising young men looking for solid relationship there..
No matter how much is the trip pay for yourself,you are working and have the means..abegg
Bottom line is still to have your own money cos if you get your money for hand you no go dey worry say one person go help you pay for the trip. You want him to pay for the trip but you don’t want him to be seen with you?women always want to eat their cake and have it Abi what is this?Una matter tire me
ReplyDeletePlease do not get yourself in any messy situation for sake of paying a few dollars less for a ticket. Respect yourself always. Go to your event at the higher cost and stop all communication with Segun. He is not a friend in the truest sense of the word.
ReplyDeleteMistakenly dialing of number is what these 419ners who are into love scam always do. Yes, he mistakenly dialed your number and he luckily got a single lady, or he might have gotten the number from a random peace of paper he got from someone,dialed the number as a mistake and now they are both connected. He goes ahead to act like he's not a hungry man, of course, you spend to get what you want. Then when he has gained his ground around you, he'll start striking little by little, and you won't know when he will take back all the money he has spent on you. Poster shine your eyes. He is a desperate 419er and pray his birth month doesn't fall under Aries* because such kind of people don't give up when they want to do love scam. They are ready to spend hugely just to prey on you.
DeleteAlso, don't be deceived by those compliments saying, "I love you because you are intelligent, I love you because you are hardworking, I love you because you are a child of God, etc. Don't let those compliments make you not to use your head when dealing with anybody in this life. If you like possess the best quality a lady could ever have and let the quality be appreciated by the all him, it won't stop him from hurting you
when he's ready if he's a bad person .
You sounded like Segun is doing you a favour, anty, go to the party alone, he once told you he had a fiancéë but denied now that he thinks he has seen an opportunity to gbensh you, that is a very red flag, you cannot trust him.
ReplyDelete31 sounding like a toddler.
ReplyDeleteWhat is what I do?
What do I do as in how?
You don't know how to lift your hand, open your bank app and pay your own bill?
What is 'what should I do '?
I hate that question so much especially when it's coming from nature women who should be able to know the difference between black and white.
Is he your husband?
Is he your boyfriend.
Somebody who friend zoned you immediately then was jokingly asking you if you're down to be fcuk buddies. Afi 'jokingly' Cosmos the Comedian. Mtshewwwww.
Just let Segun be, he doesn't have any good intentions towards you, don't let him use you, he should stick to his fiance, I would've distanced myself from him the very first day he told me he has fiance if I were you, even if two of you want to be friends, be friends from afar.
ReplyDeleteFor him to jokingly tell you about seeing your nakedness. It says a lot about him
ReplyDeleteThe 🔴 flag always show itself at the beginning if only we will pay adequate attention on people and spoken words.
ReplyDeleteSomeone who told you he has a girlfriend and want just friendship with you, coming up with the bed and novice talk to you should get you concerned and worried about such a personality.
Most Yoruba guys do this. They will lure you into bed and dump you after the sex. Some will even scam you as well. You see how he's operating baa, he will eventually tell you it was friendship he told you from the onset and not dating after knacking you. It's called Yoruba demon for a reason.
Pls don't be too desperate. Just flow with people socially and respectfully. Your own man will locate you.
© TEEJAY
18:08 Teejay is absolutely correct. I know it's the Yoruba that he put there that is making you vexed but it doesn't change the fact that his points are very valid. Forget tribalism and be factual sometimes. The boy don suffer for una hand . Even the main mumu will join to call him mumu😀
DeleteAunty use your brain, Segun want to f**k u
ReplyDeleteYou are going for a program and couple pay less :do you know you will be placed in the same room as couple that is why the money is different,so how do you want to sleep in the same room with a man and he won't fuck the hell out of your life and let me tell you, After coming back he will dump you,
ReplyDeleteSo IF he foots Ur bills, will you share rooms like couples,avoid it Biko.
ReplyDeleteEnsure IF you both make it to the trip ,you introduce him as a friend as Na he told so
At 31, you should be able to discard anyone that doesn’t serve your interests. Some women already know what they want at 25. That man is playing mind games and that’s not what you need at this stage in your life.
ReplyDeleteStella has answered.
ReplyDeleteShay.
Dont allow him to come with you because of maybe N30,000.
ReplyDeletePay that money by yourself and go on that trip alone. If he comes, you will not breathe walahi! Both male and female friends, you will not make because he will be following you like a housefly follows shit.
He sounds like a cock-blocking timewaster. Tell him ‘ho-ha’ that you dont go on such trips with men that are not your boyfriends and stand your ground. It doesnt concern you if he has fiance or not, as long as you are not his girlfriend
Beware of Segun
ReplyDeleteSegun will Gbensh you.
Segun has a serious girlfriend.
But don't pretend, you like Segun abi?...talk true.
Poster Segun has told you everything you needed to know but here you are asking us jamb questions, biko if you want to sleep with him kindly go ahead and leave us alone..what do i do ko😏
ReplyDeleteWhy did you tell him about it? I advise you find a way to block him out. If it happens tomorrow, he would clearly tell you he mentioned to you about his fiancee. Be smart!
ReplyDeleteStella's response is Soo on point!! Guy wey say he get fiance don deny say he no get girlfriend (hahahaha) you no go use your sense to know say he wan just gbensh you throway!
ReplyDeleteStella oooo. Dem go gbesh the living day out of you and ghost you. Except you want to collect too.
ReplyDeleteI am the poster
ReplyDeleteI have paid my ticket price myself. He later said he can't make it. I told him to come with his fiance. He suddenly said he doesn't have a girlfriend to go with. I was marketing the ticket to segun to boost the number of attendees for the event because the organizer is my friend.
There was no need inviting him at all...Dont you have colleagues, friends or customers to pitch this too?
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DeleteHe said he doesn't have a girlfriend, okay, please ask him again about the fiancée he told you about initially, and also ask him again to define his relationship with you. In as much as you shouldn't sound desperate, tell him you have other suitors coming for you, and you don't want him to be a distraction to them. His reactions to these questions will bring out his true intentions.
DeleteBecause of desperation,you're sending in a chronicle? Babe,he told you he's engaged. What do you want? A one night stand? Respect yourself please. He already sensed your desperation and even if there's no fiancee anywhere,he won't wife you. Rate yourself more.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteGbagam!
DeleteStella's response just captured everything in one so amma keep shut.
ReplyDeleteGirls pleas be soft and not fragile says Beverly Naya.
I am earnestly feeling Madam SDK's point of view on chronicle posts lately. Now, one of the best advice in the league of Saint Elsewhere Phoenix... Very professional inputs: Such breath of fresh air 😍! @Poster, a word is enough for the wise. If you respect and value yourself even a little bit, you should run from this Segun of a person. If you like give him to chop you, and clean mouth. The ball is in your court.
ReplyDeletePay for your trip yourself and go alone. Segun is who he has told you he is ooo
ReplyDeleteFor lying to you,please dump and block him,poster Segu will do anything within his power browse your private chamber🧐 except you wanna do the same
ReplyDeletePay for your self and go alone.
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