Taiwo. T Says
''You have been through it these past years, you are still going through it.
There are days when your sanity is just hanging by the thread. The sleepless nights, the inability of your child to communicate his needs resulting in his now frequent meltdowns. You try to be the best mom you can be, but you also wear other hats. Wife, Boss lady, Sister, Best friend, Worker, Mom to your other kids as well, even Child to your aging Parents .
The list goes on.
When it seems you are excelling in one, you are sure one other aspect is taking the hit.
You try to balance things but you just cannot help it. There is only this much you can cramp into 24 hrs. On those sad and lonely days, you remind God you didn’t ask for this burden. You know what keeps me going ?
It is the glimmer of hope that my boy will live a fulfilled and purposeful life
despite/inspite of Autism. I remember his ‘many firsts’ on days like this. The first time he called me Mom at almost 5 years, answering to his name when you call him, identifying colours, alphabets and numbers. When he stopped wearing diapers and many others. Every first is a significant milestone in our household worth celebrating.
A testament that we are conquering Autism.
So, to those who not familiar with autism, when my boy did not greet you, please note he’s not rude, he's yet to understand the concept and not to worry, we are working on it.
When he’s sitting on the floor in the supermarket or in church screaming his lungs out and covering his ears while at it, please do not give me a bad stare. I am at my wits end as well. He’s having a sensory overload, don’t worry we are working on overcoming that one too.
So, to those who not familiar with autism, when my boy did not greet you, please note he’s not rude, he's yet to understand the concept and not to worry, we are working on it.
When he’s sitting on the floor in the supermarket or in church screaming his lungs out and covering his ears while at it, please do not give me a bad stare. I am at my wits end as well. He’s having a sensory overload, don’t worry we are working on overcoming that one too.
No, I will not leave him at home. He deserves a chance at living a normal life. He will enjoy the same experience of childhood as much as it is feasible to do so.
My fellow Soldier navigating this autistic world, I see you . Though you didn’t ask for this, you will not give up. Yes, there will be down days but you will not stay down. You will trade/sacrifice a lot for that child, but it will pay off. You will reap the reward of your labour over that child.
Lastly, take a breather. Take a break whenever you can afford to but don’t give up. You’ve got this Mama. Stay strong, it will end in praise''.
May the Lord give them the strength to continue to be strong
ReplyDeleteI know a couple whose two kids are in this situation, the husband has been super supportive.
The right words ! don't give up
ReplyDeleteBear hugs to all mothers that have kids with autism and down syndrome. God will continue to strengthen you.
ReplyDeleteWhew!
ReplyDeleteI used to have this autistic learner. I met the mother when I job hunted to an organization. She's very rich and successful. It was inherited.
He was responding well in class but I fell out with the mother when it was time to pay. She renegated on payment agreement. Perhaps, she thought the renumeration was too juicy.
The autistic boy is so intelligent, he communicate his feelings by grabbing you in the hand and takes you to what he wants. He was an absolute delight. I prayed him for everyday. Maybe we will see again, or not.
Happy Autism day.
Please, where do you reside? That how my son communicates too. His school is not doing him any good
DeleteMay God's healing hands rest mightily on every child in such situation in Jesus name. Amen! 🙏
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DeleteMay the Lord continue to give them the strength to carry on 🙏
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing mother! Raising a child with autism requires patience, love, and dedication. Your selflessness and devotion to your child's unique needs are truly inspiring.
ReplyDeleteKeep shining, mama! Your love and advocacy are changing the world for your child and for families like yours.
May God continue to strengthen you guys 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteThank you Ma'am.
ReplyDeleteThe write-up got me teared up 🥲
ReplyDeleteSending 🤗🤗 to all mothers with autistic children, you all are the real MVP. May God continue to strengthen you and your labour shall not be in vain.
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DeleteThe Lord is your strength.
ReplyDeletePlease don't give up
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Only a mother to an autistic child will fully understand this write-up.
ReplyDeleteThis is part of the reason why I don't say amen when people pray for me to have twin boys. I'm okay with my two girls abeg. I'm still dealing with the one that has autism and they're praying for me to have twin boys again. As if they're ready to help me take care of them.🚶🚶🚶
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ReplyDeleteWhen you meet one autistic, you have met one autistic child, these are unique to themselves.
ReplyDeleteI am a mother of a non verbal autistic child, omo e no easy oo but God is our strenght.
Extremely difficult!
Mine is non verbal too. Sometimes, I can't help but cry. God is our strength 💪
DeleteI have an autistic nephew that I love to the moon & back. I pray & hope that some day soon, he'll be able to handle himself fully. He's taking strides, so I'm sure we will reach our goal.
ReplyDeleteThere are more autistic persons in the population than ever before. We all have to understand this condition and create empowering spaces for them in the workforce and society.
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