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The wedding was to hold on the April 5,2025 in Jos but was called off by the groom and his family because the bride insisted that she would not attend the groom’s church after the wedding but would continue to attend catholic church..
The groom, a staunch member of Church of Christ in Nations (COCIN) didn't agree to it....
The groom’s mother heard about the brides insistence that she would continue attending her church and said if the bride refused to attend her husband’s church then the wedding should be called off.....
The bride, felt that the mother was meddling and said ‘if your mother is going to decide everything for you, then maybe the wedding should be called off’.
The Bride allegedly tried to make her future mother in law change her mind but her effort was in vain....
The Bride allegedly tried to make her future mother in law change her mind but her effort was in vain....
This issue should have been discussed before now. Hmm! i don't even know what to say. I wish them all the best.
ReplyDeleteSee as the man be. Na wa.🙈
DeleteThis bride no mature.
ReplyDeleteWhich one is "she will continue to attend your church".
All these small girls entering marriage without brains, nawa.
You dodged a bullet! Why must u impose? Did u not know she was a catholic before u started a relationship with her?
ReplyDeleteSo she did not know he was a member of Church of Christ before agreeing to marry him?
DeleteThe man dodged the bullet rather. If she cannot submit to her husband and find a common ground then she's not ready for marriage. Let her go and marry her co-catholic member.
DeleteDidn’t she know the church the husband family attends before she agree to that relationship, knowing that one day marriage will come up. You already know what is on ground as a lady, the only thing she would have done is to compromise and later sort it out with her husband or refuse earlier . Maybe the family dodged a bullet.
DeleteThe both of them are bullets.
Deletedidn't she know when she was dating him that he is a member of COCIN church so after marriage she too will start attending the church?
I don't blame the groom and his family for calling it off. If church don start to dey give wahala from now it is better they all go their separate path.
You’re too sentimental Eka
DeleteFrom what I heard, the question came up during a sessionwiththe revd days before the wedding and she replied that she would have continued to attend the Catholic Church but will go with whatever the groom decides.
Delete13:22 you that isn't sentimental, go and marry someone that will never let you do you. Abeg abeg
DeleteI really think she's the bullet.
DeleteWhy's she making it about her mum in-law when her ex was saying the same thing? We are always on about mother in-laws, but would any of us disrespect our own mums? Abi there's never been a time that our mothers have influenced our decisions in this life? Does that make us immature?
I think some daughter in-laws are plain disrespectful, knowing that when they come out and say anything in the name of "my mother in-law" everyone would be on their side.
Fidel that y I like u oo. This your comment is on point. Some ladies forget they will be in laws soon. Our mothers are inlaws too. We must be objectives
DeleteWhat could have been discussed amicably have now caused cancellations.
ReplyDeleteSuch a waste of funds.
Because she's senseless and egocentrics.
DeleteTotal waste of funds.
DeleteAnonymous. You summed it up. 🙄🙄🙄
DeleteThe groom's mum is the problem. she answered the question truthfully.
DeleteI don't know but I don't buy the idea of couples attending different churches. If the bride has decided to marry the man, then she should also marrybhis Church.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion though 🤷
That's the way t should be.
DeleteShe replied that she would have loved to continue with the Catholic church but will go whatever the husband decides.
DeleteI don't understand what was discussed all through till the traditional marriage.
ReplyDeleteSome things are non negotiable example your faith.
So why was it not properly discussed?make everybody rest
I wonder o, what were they talking about? 😗
DeleteI wonder. These things should have been discussed long before preparation for the marriage.
DeleteThank you for this comment.
DeleteThere's is a clear lack of wisdom from all the players in this story.
Fair enough.
ReplyDeleteY'all are not in tune.
Better to cut it off now then enter on pretense and true colors starts to unfold, then we later have in December, headline like;
"Man hacks wife to death for refusing to attend church service with him".
I was waiting for this to get here . Me i have one question to ask when people are courting what kind of discussion do they engage in? Because how come they waited until things got bad ? This is why i believe in having convos upfront .
ReplyDeleteThe thing just no make sense at all.
My tot exactly..
DeleteOne of courtship discussion.
Na wah ooo
They discuss things like 'how many kids should we have.
DeleteOne, no tew teree'😂😂
You get, because they would have dealt with this issue since before publicly embarrassing themselves
DeleteFrom experience, this lady must have told the guy that she won’t change her church and the guy accepted or couldn’t summon courage to stand his ground. His mother did the right thing and I think they would later thank her for that.
DeleteJust because of church? Not even different religion.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm
Christians in different denomination find it hard to love themselves. They always have the belief that their own is more better. Some even believe they will make heaven more than others. I went to one church, half of the preaching was how this and that church was evil, how their practices was this and that. The pastor was busy criticizing different churches. I knew instantly that place was off for me.
DeleteEven same denomination fight among themselves because they attend different branches.
DeleteGood riddance to bad rubbish.
ReplyDeleteThey had to wait until the date for marriage and everything had been fixed before deciding on such crucial matter in a relationship? Them no serious.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't they notice that this would be a problem in their early days of relationship? I wander how people waist emotions unnecessarily. Is it that their ability to think deep was not functional through our those years of dating? This is one of the avoidable mistakes people make in relationships naaa?
ReplyDeleteIf you're a Christian born again brother, marry your kind. Sister or brother, if you're an Orthodox, marry your type or kind. Stay on your limits and beliefs. Stop dragging someone to be in your fold when clearly they don't wish to.
ReplyDeleteThe lady should date and marry a Catholic nah. Why venture outside of that?
ReplyDeleteIt's good they all went their separate ways abeg"
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together unless they agree?"
The man should have also sought out someone in his own sect that his mother approves of instead of this situation. The mother in law ought to have done these findings on the day the lady came visiting or at the point the man told her he was bringing his fiance. Wisdom is far from their setting.
Delete20:42 Naturally, he wouldn't feel the need to because he would automatically reason that whoever he makes his wife would go with him to his church; after all, he is the husband. He wouldn't refrain from dating outside his denomination because he wouldn't see the need for it.
DeleteWhen it comes to marriages, men always feel they can marry from any tribe, religion, etc., but a woman always feels a bit restrained and has stricter preferences because she knows it would be expected of her to embrace the culture or religion of her husband.
The bride is the one leaving her family, merging into a new family, and the one who is going to bear his surname and all; hence my focus on her and my belief that she should know better. Any woman who gets married goes to her husband's church, except the man isn't super religious or a churchgoer. That is why some pastors always want to introduce the active sisters in their churches to the brothers because they know once they marry a brother from a different church, they are bound to start worshipping over there.
They Are Both Christians Self
ReplyDeleteWhy Didn't They Discuss It Before
Abeg Nah Them Sabi wetin no even Cos Heat..
Hello iya Boys
This is why it's good to have conversations and not make assumptions.
ReplyDeleteAlright.
ReplyDeleteIt should have been discussd before getting married, and the groom's mum had NO business meddling in their affairs.
ReplyDeleteCANDY
You think the bride's mum, father and siblings and even friends didn't meddle in their affair? or is it because the lady is the one narrating everything?
DeleteWhy won't she meddle?
DeleteAs a mother,I will meddle in my kids life abeg,why didn't she just marry her church member..
They must have been dragging this issue before it got here and she's insisting to be attending her own church after marriage ..
So you don’t advice or meddle in your siblings affairs, oh! because he is a man his mum shouldn’t come in.
DeleteThis church wahala happened to us...my hubby and I discussed this while dating and agreed to find our own church..after we got married my inlaws said we must attend the church they go to,the church sef was so far from us..it became a big issue..my hubby handled the situation so well and insisted we are a couple and should be allowed to make our decision..after a lot of back and forth that was how they left us o..it's really important to discuss these things before marriage and most importantly,marry someone who can fight for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this comment anonymous the difference in denominations or the MIL from Hades are not the problem but it's obviously two people who don't love each other enough to fight or make compromises.
DeleteMost Catholic women don't marry Pentecostal men because they don't like leaving their churches, except if the man will allow them continue to attend the Catholic Church. One of my neighbors is a Muslim, married to a Catholic woman who still attends her church.
ReplyDeleteThey should have ironed out the issue before marriage. It's good they went their separate ways.
You’re right.
DeleteThe young woman should have done better in understanding herself and what she valued. She probably dreamed of having a Catholic wedding and realized too late all that she would have to give up, and that she would be the one to always give up. Still, it is better it ended as it did. Yes, embarrassing but better than being controlled for the rest of your life.
A lot of people actually take their time to prepare for the wedding and not the actual marriage.
ReplyDeleteAll these should have been discussed and settled before now. Total waste of funds according to Miss Ess.
Waste of funds,time and effort. 😔😔😔
ReplyDeleteCatholics have no business dating Pentecostals. Staunchly religious ppl do best dating someone of their own faith, and some faiths are completely incompatible with others. For interfaith relationships to work, the individuals have to be modest believers.
DeleteWhy don't couple get married and decide the church they have to go to. my daughter's inlaw would enjoy oo. I would never meddle into their affairs who get such Time
ReplyDeleteGod bless you! See that one up there saying she would meddle in her kids affairs! As if she would take it from her MIL. Na that kain mama dem dey avoid after dem pikin marry.
DeleteIf you as a woman cannot leave your church after marriage, just marry your church member. Simple.
ReplyDeleteBut why is it the groom mother that is canceling the wedding and not the husband himself? Seems like the she was about to enter the marriage where the mother inlaw will be the one controlling. Abeg the lady dogged AK 47bullets good riddance.
ReplyDeleteYup, she dodged death in that marriage.
DeleteExactly! It's the couple's decision at the end of the day..even as my husband and I have left naija, my father inlaw who is not in the country with us still wan dey dictate church for us, my husband told him we're in a good church already..too much meddling in marriages these days.
DeleteIncidents like this make me question the purpose of the talking stage in relationships. When you're getting to know someone, shouldn't you discuss your non-negotiables, like personal values or lifestyle choices, from the start? It seems counterintuitive to invest time and effort into planning a future together only to realize you're fundamentally incompatible. For instance, differences in religious beliefs or practices, like place of worship, can be a significant issue. Discussing these topics upfront could save a lot of heartache and wasted effort down the line.
ReplyDeleteThis is a failure of courtship. What exactly did you discuss during courtship?
ReplyDeleteHonestly, she dodged a bullet.
ReplyDeleteFather Lawd 🙄 that they may be one o.
ReplyDeleteImmaturity on both parties involved. Shikena.
This gist don reach here, the bride na Lafia babe. I have first hand account of what transpired bcos my friemd is close friends with the bride's sister. The question came up during a session with the revd days before the wedding. They are traditionally married bcos the sendforth had already been done. Let the mothereat her son.
ReplyDeleteThe bride has misled alot of people. in Jos or Plateau, brides follow the man to his church unless the couple had prior arrangement to differ. the girl knew that but maybe felt, the man loved her too much to object. Also do not forget that most Catholics hardly want to change their church after marriage. These are issues that i know have been discussed before they agreed to get a date and all as counselling must have been conducted by both denominations.
ReplyDeleteNoone has heard the mothers side or that of the groom...but its unfortunate the harm may have been done before they decide to voice out. the Bride accusing the mother in law of meddling isn't being fair on her: can she vouch that she wasn't also influenced to change her mind at the last minute by people she held in high regards? the groom might have been the one to have dodged a bullet here. unfortunately, they are already married, having conducted a traditional marriage earlier on.
There is no serious love between the people involved, Bible said love conquers all. Both are not serious with getting married.
ReplyDeleteLol 😆
DeleteThey should have discussed this issue during courtship....
ReplyDeleteMy own is why is the mother calling the shots in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteBe like the guy na imbecile.😁
What were they discussing during their courtship?
ReplyDeleteThis is what they should have discussed before any marriage preparation. Good luck to them.
ReplyDeleteCommunication is key.this ought to have been discussed earlier during courtship.The bride didn't handle the issue with wisdom.you don't expect your husband to bow to you, no! this is Africa and his families are involved.
ReplyDeleteFor the love she had for her husband,she should have accepted to wed in his church.
Abeg what were they discussing during there courtship?
ReplyDeleteAbi the story never complete.
This almost caused brouhaha one week after my wedding but I told myself this shouldn't be a problem..
ReplyDeleteMe who was an active choir member before the marriage/wedding.
Told my husband I was going for choir practice, he didn't stop me only for me to dress up in my choir uniform on Sunday morning, told my husband I was off to church;
Him: which church?
ME: WINNERS.!
HIM: That is not how it works.
ME: HOW DO YOU MEAN?
HIM: wife summit to your husband means that you should be attending my church hence you are now my wife.
ME: NEVER!!
Las las I'm now joining him to his church oo. (Who's ready for plenty talk??!)
Na my Jos people it was trending on radio. The woman never ready to marry Sha. I pray they all come out good cos COCIN members are s
ReplyDeletedoctrinal in there ways and all na heaven be the mission
I see comments saying the mother in-law dey interfere but most of you ladies when time reach what to control your children homes especially the male children. We want the best for our children but if learn to be let couples especially newly weds pass through this stage and give a little mutual advice from outside. It will all turn out fine.
ReplyDeleteI know someone who said she must marry a Catholic, babe is 46 now and not married. Both parties lacked wisdom and understanding. They are not ready for marriage.
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