Recently, my brother was having problems with his wife of several years. Reason was that she suddenly started wearing leg chain, pierced her nose and had a ring on it, then now had multiple ear piercings with earrings.
He said she didn't tell him before doing all those things, he would not have allowed the nose piercing especially as the new look made her look like ahewo and that he had told her this.
He then told her to stop wearing earrings on all the new piercings, also to remove the nose ring but she leave the ankle chain, wife refused. Fight started.
I berated him for saying that to his wife (comparing her to ahewo), told him to go and apologize and tell her to call me.
I talked to her on phone. Told her my own wife will never pierce any part of her body without my knowledge, as long as we remain married. We are husband and wife, a couple, we are one, we should discuss with one another before altering our bodies.
I asked whether she would love it if her husband gets a tattoo on his body without telling her. She said No.
I now concluded that she should remove the nose ring and the excess earrings for now and maybe sometime later, she may ask her husband if she can wear a tiny stud on the nose piercing instead of the ring she had on it and if she can wear one extra earring.
She did as I said and removed all the excesses. No fight for now.
Reminds me of my mum's reaction to my ankle chain 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteMy mum saw it on my leg last December
She asked me that what did I tie on my leg 🤣
I told her I didn't tie anything on my leg
She said that she is seeing something that was not there before, that what is it?
(I was getting angry by now cos I know she has bad mouth 🤣)
I told her that I'm wearing a leg chain and that I love it, my husband too likes it, she should mind her business. I'm not longer under her.
She said "okay ooo" and kept quiet.
All through our stay together those few days, I was very watchful. My beautiful leg chain did not leave my leg, when I sleep, I was half awake in case she comes and removes it while I sleep deeply. That woman get too much wahala 🤣🤣🤣
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DeletePraise your mum is funny 🤣. What did you tie on your leg? Hahahaha
DeleteYour mum is quite funny
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DeleteI think as husband and wife there should be conversations about anything you feel like changing about you, just carry them along, it will make the man or woman feel important.
ReplyDeleteBefore I started dreads, I still told my son and even the nose piercing I intend to do one day, I have informed him, not that he would see me one day and start thinking what's wrong with my mom.
When I was younger. I used to look at those that that do all of the above with one type of eye. Like they were immoral people, women with loose morals or fetish. As I grew older, my mentality about certain things changed. I no longer see some things as a big deal. I can do some of the above myself now, if I want.
ReplyDeleteYou are annoying
ReplyDeleteIt’s not your place to tell her shiiiiii
He has a right to
DeleteHe is her in-law and her husband sought for his help in resolving the issue.
Anon 14:51
DeleteHe has no right to
He can advise the one that went to him for advice on how to approach his wife on this topic
Not to call her and sit her down to discuss leg chain
Anyway na the hand you give anybody go decide how dem go relate with you
As I Dey like this you go sit me down Dey discuss leg chain when you are not mad
That’s how they enter homes and create crack
Oga you who Dey advise your own wife
Nonsense
You get luck
Good you talked to her to avoid issues
ReplyDeleteI don't like it. Thank God she listened to you. Na so marriage dey scatter because of disobedience.
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ReplyDeleteWhen I decided to cut my hair two years ago(it was seriously breaking), I already told my husband and he said I should go ahead...When I got to d daloy, d barber asked me if my husband is aware..dat he no want wahala oo..
ReplyDeleteI had to tell him dat my husband already gave me d go ahead to cut it..
I have a pierce on my nose but I did dat when I was in school..
I cannot take a decision to alter something on my body without discussing with my husband. We are one, he is the head of the house too. It shows respect and men value respect. I may call him by his first name but there are some lines that I don't cross.
ReplyDeleteBecause of my kind of hustle I have come to an understanding that na little little things dey spoil marriage
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And the real question has not been asked, why all of a sudden she felt a need to change her look so drastically? Ppl who have been one way all their life do not just wake up with the desire to have multiple piercings. Possible that there is something going on in her life that she wanted to have a sense of control, could be the marriage or something else. That woman is crying out quietly.
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteGood She Listen To You..
ReplyDeleteBut I Prefer Waist Chain
Mayben cos I wear it....and it makes Sense die oooo😁
Hello iya Boys
I don't have to ask for my husbands approval to alter my body
ReplyDeleteThere is no single manual for all marriages. Some spouses will not see the above as a big deal while some will make an issue out of it. Study your spouse and do what works for your marriage.
ReplyDeleteI detest tattoos, ankle chain, nose piercing and multiple ear piercings. Thank God, my wife equally detests and too serious minded a human being to indulge in such frivolous acts. Any married woman who does all these alterations to her body without tacit approval of her husband, no longer has respect for her husband and may have a new partner outside who loves it.
ReplyDeleteImagine telling your brother to tell his wife to call you? As per you are what and who??? I pity that wife that doesn’t know her right and your place in her marriage. How dare an in law talk to me, a grown add woman when I have a husband. Listen poster, you’re full of shit and I won’t take your likes interfere in my marriage.
ReplyDeleteI have told you below that you should stop opening this column with your negative vibes. Skip it henceforth. See you spewing bile all over the place. Carry your frustrations to Friday nght post and go vent about your life problems there
DeleteWho are you that your brother’s wife will call you and you still have the guts to tell her what to do with her body. I pity that woman cos she married a simp. How dare you tell me what to do? Go and fix your marriage before fixing someone else’s.
ReplyDeleteThe wife should call you as per what? Who is supposed to call who here. Listen poster, I don’t know why this your chronicle is running cos you have nothing positive to add to the marriage institution.
ReplyDeleteOnly you dropped three comments simultaneously, did this poster steal your paents?
DeleteYou must be the same anon that insults him on this post.
Pls if you are not comfortable with his column, then skip it. Don't open it again.
Stop coming here with your negative vibes. Some of us like his column and appreciate it.
This is the most irritating post from you thus far...inukwa i need to take permission from my husband before i cut my hair or get a piercing? Nigerian men and women una too do!!! na the only thing wey una sari be dis. Just negodu what is causing problem in a marriage...Tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteI agree with this. Your partner should know before you do anything to your body.
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