CHRONICLE OF A MARRIED MAN

 Everytime, we talk about how motherhood changed women, we hardly talk about how fatherhood changed men. Could it be that most men don't like talking about it or is it considered a 'women' thing?

Well, let me talk about mine.

Fatherhood changed my sleep pattern. Yes it affected my sleep too just like it affected my wife's sleep pattern. I am a very light sleeper, if I hear a little noise, sleep disappears for hours and leaves me with a headache.
After having our first child, I started sleeping for less than four hours per night.
Now that we have stopped having children, I still find it difficult to sleep from night till morning.

I'm more compassionate now. Before I became a father, I had some traces of meanness. After having my first child, I changed. The girl softened my heart, I started pitying people easily.
I don't take revenge like I used to. I now consider my children before dishing out wotowoto.

I now love children more. I used to love children but after having my own, the love tripled. I see small children on the road and smile at them, greet them. In my neighbourhood, they are elated when they see me and we hail ourselves.

I stopped fighting. Before I argue with anyone now, I think of the result of such action. I reason that it can escalate into a fight which may not end well. A police case or court case will affect not only me but by my children and wife.

Lastly, it changed my hustling spirit. I now hustle harder. Before, if I lost a job, I would be selecting job offers, after all, no responsibility. Why the rush to take a not-so-good job?
Now, I even go as far as collecting a motorcycle for okada job and deliver money to the owner if a job is not forthcoming. I have to feed my children and pay their school fees.
Oh! fatherhood has shown me shege banza but the joy of fatherhood covers it all.

So my brothers, how has fatherhood changed you?