ADVICE NEEDED
A few days to the end of 2024, i met someone who looks so much like my brother in law(Younger sister's husband). I was forced to put a call to him and my sister confirmed he also speaks like him.
This guy requested for my number afterwards and he left.
Days later, he started reaching out. The last day of January, he asked me to be his girl friend, which i didn't hesitate as i am very single and he claimed to be single too(i am currently 33 and he claimed to be 34).
Days later, he started reaching out. The last day of January, he asked me to be his girl friend, which i didn't hesitate as i am very single and he claimed to be single too(i am currently 33 and he claimed to be 34).
We lived in same city and we communicated via phone calls and but i declined video call the day he initiated it as i do not feel comfortable starting a video call at the stage of the relationship.
Middle of February, he mentioned that we were going to meet(maybe a date), and i was really looking forward to meeting him. The date/meeting never happened and he didn't talk about reason why the so called meeting didn't happened. Then i raised my displeasure about it, he mentioned he couldn't turn up for one reason or the other.
This guy love to use endearment which i am not comfortable to start using with him, he is always complaining saying i do not call him "Dear" and the likes and i have stated several times, that "my love" grows with time. i can't start calling you Dear within a month of dating.
Now, he won't stop asking when i will be coming to his house to come spend the weekend, and i have insisted several times, that coming to his house is the last thing i want to do now as i barely know him, and it just a matter of time for me to come visit or not.
My BVN'S please, i need advise.
Middle of February, he mentioned that we were going to meet(maybe a date), and i was really looking forward to meeting him. The date/meeting never happened and he didn't talk about reason why the so called meeting didn't happened. Then i raised my displeasure about it, he mentioned he couldn't turn up for one reason or the other.
This guy love to use endearment which i am not comfortable to start using with him, he is always complaining saying i do not call him "Dear" and the likes and i have stated several times, that "my love" grows with time. i can't start calling you Dear within a month of dating.
Now, he won't stop asking when i will be coming to his house to come spend the weekend, and i have insisted several times, that coming to his house is the last thing i want to do now as i barely know him, and it just a matter of time for me to come visit or not.
My BVN'S please, i need advise.
You need advice on whether you should visit him or not?Its your choice and if you dont feel comfortable or feel you dont know him enough, then dont go...He sounds like a f#ck boy and he doesnt sound serious at all
And no reason for the broken dates forget him please!
You fixed a date to meet up, the date never happened. And he didn't talk about it. Now he's lestering you to come to his house for the weekend. He is not a serious person. He just wants to gbensh you. If you still go, that's on you.
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DeleteFact, said by Stella
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I must commend you on how you have been carrying yourself so far....It is good that you understand boundaries...Please pull your ears and repeat after me ''All meetings with this guy must be public places like popular eateries e.t.c....on no account should you meet him privately or in his home''.....
ReplyDeleteWith the recent happenings, you going to his house is a no no and he should fix the date because na him ask you out.....If not, please unto the next intentional and serious man not chewing gum fuckboys....
All the best....
na married man.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Poster don’t let desperation send you down a dark hole. You’re obviously talking to a fvxk bot and you know it. Next thing he will start bombing and flashing marriage talks everyday. He’s even broke if not , he for Don scatter your dada with gifts
DeleteMeanwhile, Why are you interested in your BIL look alike btw?
sighting him as my Bil look alike was what made us to start talking the first day we met
DeleteDoesnt sound as if you like the guy so much but you feel ypu should keep him as an option because you are single. I dont see why else you will be asking us whether you should visit.
ReplyDeleteYou guys have not had a proper date? You have not even visited once and he’s already asking ypu to spend weekend?
See, no long story, i dont think either of you is suited for this thing. He looks like he wants to chop you with bare minimum effort, you seem like you’re not really into him. Its too early in the situationship for chronicles.
This one has play boys traits and features/characteristics. Lol
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't seem serious to me from your write-up. Don't indulge in anything against faith, standard, principles and discipline with him
Maybe he is a ritualist looking for someone to unalive. Too many glaring red flags here. Considering the present reality, I would stop all communication and block him straight. Lions sometimes play with their food before they rip them to threads, all that dear and my love business reminds me of a lion playing with the food.
ReplyDeleteHe didn't turn up? Red flag.
ReplyDeleteWith all the killings going around everywhere please don't visit him.
ReplyDeleteIf you must meet let it be in an open place.
Btw he operates like a married man so please don't lose guard.
Please don't go to his house for any reason... beside you don't know him enough to visit privately at his place
ReplyDeleteThanks for your advise. i am not ready to visit someone who i hardly know in his house talk more of spend the weekend i am not idle....
DeleteHe said to me, do u know u are my girl? and i replied that i am not moved with words rather actions. This guy flare-up stating that so i want him to be doing the work while i am receiving all....Fear catch me no be small, like how na
Poster, with this review, you need not go further please. Block that irresponsible, badly raised human.
DeleteHe’s trying to see if you’ll give and visit. Stop talking to him. One day he will look normal in your eyes and you’ll let your guard down
DeleteYour gut feeling is always right
ReplyDeleteHe’s just trying to see if you’ll come and gbensh
ReplyDeleteIf you refuse, it’s no loss to him
Free yourself cause you’re already calculating that he’s a good one. But he is UN A VAI LA BLE
Take him out on a date and speak about Ur likes and dislikes..
ReplyDeleteIf u like him...
He wants to gbsnsh you. There's no relationship here
ReplyDeleteMadam, simply put - He wants to knacking you. If you are ready for just a bedmate; then go spend the weekend with him. Thanchu.
ReplyDeleteTake your time to understand who he really is.Do not pay him a visit at home for now,it's very dangerous.
ReplyDeleteBe careful.Red flags.
ReplyDeletePoster you never get boyfriend o, hmm.
ReplyDeleteBeware of k!llers. Dem full everywhere o. Have we forgotten the young lady that lost her life in Abuja recently already?
This idea of relationships not going pass house visits nah wah.
Why should I visit someone I barely know?
Just move on with your life like you never met him.
I tire oo if na visiting go cause quarell let it be meaning you are not a serious being Hanty for the last time never you visit him ooo,let him come over to a public place oo 🙄🙄
DeleteSee his mouth, he wants you to call him sweet names. Pls be very careful
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