BORROW BORROW FRIEND
I've been friends with Ms J since secondary school till date. She came to me that she need a bag that matches her outfit ( Note: she has seen this said bag before and likes it) she'll use for a date with her new bobo.I gladly gave her the bag because this girl don see shege for men hand hence decided to stop dating for over 2 years.
She promised to return the bag the next day.
On the said day she didn't return the bag and it didn't bother me because she's a friend and I thought she could be maybe too busy to return the bag. Lol
The few times I called she gave excuses why she can't come over and return my bag. And I don't want to go over to her house for my bag.
The few times I called she gave excuses why she can't come over and return my bag. And I don't want to go over to her house for my bag.
Madam stopped taking her calls (I'll call, no response, yet she won't call back. Which is quite unusual). I've decided to stop calling maybe na so relationship won take end.
It's been 6 months since she asked to use it. Yesterday she brought the bag and it looks roughly handled. I expressed my displeasure and she was just laughing. I'm pissed because the bag wasn't up to a month before I lent it out..
She was laughing? Thats your red flag!!!
Dash her the bag and end the friendship please...She failed the friendship test and is not to be trusted.....This one can never be a good friend.
Hmm.. she's not a good friend.
ReplyDeleteAfter this one, disfriend her.
Now you know why men dey show her shege.
Awon protégé ara show🤣 sorry but I think your bag has gone the ara show way
ReplyDeleteDash her the bag and move on.
DeleteAnd you mentioned that she has seen 'shege' for men's hands in relationship.
ReplyDeleteIf na you bi his boyfriend and she did this kind thing to you,se you no go break up? She should work on herself.
She doesn't value friendship while she took your kindness for granted .
If I were you I won't collect that bag, so she will not come and borrow next time. Her conscience will judge her.
Thank you. I keep saying this. A lot of girls that can't good relationships down need to look at themselves. It's not always about the men.
DeleteRed Flag situation. Either give her the bag (which will be kinda insulting) or keep it but be wary of how you transact with her in the future.
Dear Poster, I will say that lady is not a friend...You guys should learn to define relationships...You have colleagues, acquitances and then friends...Learn to weigh people before you apportion them a status in your life....
ReplyDeleteShe is more of a longathroat and a covertous person to have held that bag for 6 months...
Left for me I will give her that bag going by how described its current condition....Sorry about it....
Hope lessons have been learnt..
All the best
I practice relationship definition very well. You are a neighbour, colleague, relative, flat mate, acquaintance, church member etc. I don't use the word friend loosely.
DeletePoster you still find a way to blame men while it pretty obvious that your friend is a wandering red flag.
ReplyDeleteThank God I don’t keep nonsense people as friends
ReplyDeleteAt First She Never Wanted to Return The Bag
ReplyDeleteNah Guilty Conscience worry her that why she Returned it
Please Leave The Bag For Her
Use The bag As Pay Off for Dis Friendly her..
Hello iya Boys
Please don't accept that bag and kindly unfriend her.
ReplyDeleteDon't use the bag. If you didn't tell her to keep it then, just throw it away if it's still with you or give it out.
ReplyDeleteThat friendship should end, please.
This your friend doesn't value friendship. If I were you I'd dash her the bag and cut off.
ReplyDeleteNo wonder men dey show her shege.
Do not collect the bag. Tell her she can keep it, then quietly unfriend her. She is what we call "unfriendly friend".
ReplyDeleteI would have just let her keep the bag and not lend her anything again.
ReplyDeleteSometimes ppl are dealing with their own internal struggles so you don’t hear from them. She may have been going through something or trying to make something happen with the man she was dating. Everyone has flaws and there is no friend that you will like every bit of their personality. She may have a history of parental abandonment that shows up in her and how she interacts with others - hence the silence for 6 months. There are things ppl do that is completely without understanding even to themselves, sometimes it goes deeper than it appears. Maturity is a journey in of itself. Folks eventually grow out of things but for some ppl it takes much longer than others.
Whether or not you choose to maintain the friendship is up to you. But please do not lend her anything again. You can remind her of what she did to the bag if she needs a reason. Encourage her to buy okrika if her budget is limited.
If I were u eh, I'll never collect the bag. I'll ask her to keep it in annoyance and won't even hide my feelings cha-cha. I'll forego the bag and give the so called friendship a wide berth
ReplyDeleteDon't use the bag,and stop sharing your personal belongings with friends,if u like be my friend for 20 years I won't borrow you bag or shoes talk less of clothing, anything that comes in contact with my skin,is a no go area,please be guided
ReplyDeleteDon't collect the bag, let her keep it.
ReplyDeleteAny lady that can't handle another person's borrowed property well is not worthy to be called a friend.
It’s not that deep abeg
Delete@18:37 it is deep abeg. Care for people's stuff. Respect that kind gesture extended to you.
DeleteLa creme
I’ll only ask if you’ve tolerated this type of thing in the past
ReplyDeleteSometimes we tolerate and then vex at the friend in the end
That too is not good
I think you should ask her very well what happened
Please don’t collect the bag and if you must don’t use it again. Just burn it. Don’t trust anyone again. They tell us to nurture our female friendships but how easy is it to do so in a world where the heart of man is desperately wicked
ReplyDeleteNa why Dem dey show her shege for relationship..her character is very bad. Please discard her right away
ReplyDeleteShe’s your friend
ReplyDeleteForget the bag for a moment and find out what happened to her for this 6months
Why is she just returning the bag after six months?
ReplyDeleteKindly dash her the bag if she doesn't give any reasonable reason.
Why is she just returning the bag after six months?
ReplyDeleteKindly dash her the bag if she doesn't give any reasonable reason.
What could have happened that made the bag look rough? Did she fight with someone when she went out? Did you ask her what made the bag look like that? Was she using the bag everyday? But that can't be what spoilt the bag na? Or did she use it in the rain?
ReplyDeleteShe likely was using the bag upandan for the six months. Could be someone else even borrowed it off her and she too was waiting for her. Who knows🤷🏽♀️
DeleteSome people are not same with handling things
DeleteIf her own things look rough, it might just be how she is
Also poster maybe you should show us this bag and let’s judge the roughness cause some of you neat people can also be overly bothered
People get mind oooooo,how do you stop picking your friend call because of bag? Chai! Poster so sorry about that,just dash her the bag,she has used her own hands to destroy the friendship.
ReplyDeleteWhat a friend? 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeleteI get why you’re upset and hurt in a way, and you have every right to be. It’s not just about the bag, but the disregard behind it. Friendship thrives on trust and respect, and she’s shown you neither - hers are clearly blurred. The bag is just the symptom - the real issue is her disregard for your kindness. Six months of silence, dodging calls, and returning it damaged? With the effrontery of cynical laughter? That wasn’t forgetfulness or guilt; it was indifference to what she felt she was entitled to.
You don’t need to make a scene, just quietly reposition her in your life. Let her keep the bag, but don’t let her keep the same access to you - it’s the price of a lesson well learned. And next time, don’t lend what you can’t afford to lose. Boundaries aren’t rudeness; they’re self-respect. Some friendships expire or fade away, and that’s okay - growth means learning when to close the door to what drains your peace of mind.
Dash her the bag & never allow her to have your things except if na dash
ReplyDeleteThe Most Complex B
You said she is your friend then have a heart to heart conversation with her and let her know how you feel about this.
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