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Hi Stella and bvs. Please I need your advise on this issue. I live and work in Gambia. I'm a divorced mum of 3.
My elder brother who's married with 4 kids reached out to me recently asking me to lend him 25 million to complete his building.
That when he rents out the unit of flats he will pay me back.
Stella I am confused. I've been saving money for my passive income. I intend coming to Nigeria by December to buy land and build like six unit of flats for rental as well. If I give him this money it will affect my plan. What if he falls to pay me back as promised?
This is someone that has never asked about my welfare and that of my kids . When I newly got divorced I once begged him for money and he stopped picking my calls. For years he didn't reach out.
Only for him to collect my number from our mom when he heard I traveled out, and started acting all nice. Saying he wants us all to be united and become one happy family. Then boom I should lend him millions.
Pls how do I politely tell him no? Or should I give him a benefit of doubt since we are siblings? I'm really confused Stella and my able bvs.
Na dem!!!!
If you want to help him out with some amount, please do but DO NOT LEND HIM A CENT cos it will cause problems and you are not sure he will pay back and with this story you told, it doesn't sound like he is a god person...Please be careful make dem no kpai you on top your own money.....
Tell him politely that you dont have for now and that he should look somewhere else....You will see that he will stop calling you..
And when you get to Naija for your own project, be careful so that he doesn't try to harm you to inherit whatever monies you have...
Hi Stella and bvs. Please I need your advise on this issue. I live and work in Gambia. I'm a divorced mum of 3.
My elder brother who's married with 4 kids reached out to me recently asking me to lend him 25 million to complete his building.
That when he rents out the unit of flats he will pay me back.
Stella I am confused. I've been saving money for my passive income. I intend coming to Nigeria by December to buy land and build like six unit of flats for rental as well. If I give him this money it will affect my plan. What if he falls to pay me back as promised?
This is someone that has never asked about my welfare and that of my kids . When I newly got divorced I once begged him for money and he stopped picking my calls. For years he didn't reach out.
Only for him to collect my number from our mom when he heard I traveled out, and started acting all nice. Saying he wants us all to be united and become one happy family. Then boom I should lend him millions.
Pls how do I politely tell him no? Or should I give him a benefit of doubt since we are siblings? I'm really confused Stella and my able bvs.
Na dem!!!!
If you want to help him out with some amount, please do but DO NOT LEND HIM A CENT cos it will cause problems and you are not sure he will pay back and with this story you told, it doesn't sound like he is a god person...Please be careful make dem no kpai you on top your own money.....
Tell him politely that you dont have for now and that he should look somewhere else....You will see that he will stop calling you..
And when you get to Naija for your own project, be careful so that he doesn't try to harm you to inherit whatever monies you have...
He reaches out to you cos he needs your help. Tell him you wish you could help him, but can't at the moment. Keep your money.
ReplyDeleteMy philosophy is not to lend out any money I can’t afford to lose. So if you can afford to lose 25 mil please lend it to your absent only for the good time brother…
DeletePoster pls disregard my advice far down where I said you can loan him 2m and zero your mind. I just re-read you chronicle, so you asked him for money and he did not give you, then went as far as not picking your calls for years?
DeletePls tell him how things are not as you envisioned, that even you had plans to come home and buy a land to start building in the nearest future but as it is now, you won't be able to do that anymore as you encountered some problems with the authorities over there and it has gulped your savings for settlement of the case..
This because I'm sure you told someone about your house plans and the person told him. They may have mocked him with it.
Something like "siddon there, your sister is planning on building a house soon, you as a man, what do you have?"
They must have told him that as a man, he should build a house before you , a woman
No be only borrow.
DeleteTell him you just invested the little money you have, and only have N180,000.
He will stop calling you.
You will cry and gnash your teeth with had i known if you do the mistake of lending him that money.
ReplyDeleteMoreover, how did he know you are doing well for yourself to have made such a request?
Kindly shed tears to him that you have nothing at the moment and that your home and away is just 1 or 2m..cos i believe for him to make such request might be due to your Ostentatious and notice me lifestyle.
Also be prayerful and watchful.
DOZZYBEST.
DONT GIVE HIM THE MONEY O!!!
DeleteHE WILL NOT REPAY IT!
I TAKE GOD BEG YOU!!!
Did you tell him that you have such amount or he assumed that you have.
ReplyDeletePolitely tell him that you don't have.
Lending money is not same as pay back. It doesn't always end well.
Some ppl are just ridiculous. How can someone really ask another for 25 million loan to complete their building, a divorced mother of three at that. Someone they know is not wealthy. If you feel like lending him something simply for face value, then let it be something minimal, like 500k-1mil. That is what you have and are able to give.
ReplyDeleteNo, he will not pay you back, and God forbid if he should pass away you will never get back the loan, so give only what you can realistically afford to lose and part with in peace.
I tire ooo lend 25 mil to you. He is a scammer.
DeletePlease cry for him tha you don't have and anything he heard or see about you is packaging that you doing that it's not really.
That your earning is not enough for you and your children.
Please if you want go back to Nigeria to build please don't let him know and don't let anyone tell him you came back
Do not give him a dime! He will not pay back or he will pay you back in such pieces that you won’t see anything useful to use ur money to do. Better stick to ur plans and tell him you already invested all ur money into a project.
ReplyDeleteInukwa 25m!
When I hear of siblings acting this way, I feel really really sad. How can you not have your sibling's number?
ReplyDeletePoster, you can send like 2 million and tell him that's all you have to support him. Tel him it not been easy with you over there. When you get to Nigeria, buy a land and be discreet about it.
Your sibling got divorced, you couldn't reach out. Now you want help from that same sibling.
Did you tell your mom about his request? If you did, what did she say?
Do not make the mistake of giving him what he is asking for, he will not pay o.
If she sends rhe 2 million he will be ungrateful, so what's the point
DeleteHow many years of rent will pay back your 25million, even if he has it in mind to pay back your money, he will not be able to pay if he's only looking towards the rental fee. Building a house is not really a very good investment unless you are looking at it as retirement plan. Please don't borrow him what you can't let go. Just give him what you have..
ReplyDeleteThis is serious, please do not lend him, he doesn't sound nice from your explanation. You might not get the money back, money issues with siblings na serious matter ooo..." I be your blood, I be your blood" na im go enter the matter ooo.
ReplyDeletePlease postpone your own building plans for another two years, and continue your savings. The future of your children are in your hands. Think twice and wise.
Poster,you can dash him the money you want. Don't lend money to anyone,most times,it always ends badly,especially with family and friends. Stick to your original plan of building.
ReplyDeleteDon’t do it
ReplyDeleteStop buying love and family
Tell him you don’t have and keep it moving
Meanwhile I don’t think rental business in Nigeria is very profitable on a small scale
Don’t frustrate uourslef
Put your money in treasury bill
With that 25m you will get like 6.7m if you put it this year which is better than chasing tenant up and down
Current rate 27.5% last I checked
For those that will say what of if thr rate goes down later? Well you money is not stuck. If you don’t like the rate for next year, then you can take your money out
Supported. Treasury bill is a good idea.
DeleteDear Poster, First of all how does he know you have the 25 million naira that he is asking & wants to carry out the same plan as yours.....
ReplyDeleteBelieve your guts and intuition...If you give him the money and he doesn't repay because you are "family" what are you going to do?
The repayment cannot be anytime soon as it can take a couple of years to get that money....
His past behaviour is not a consideration for a benefit of doubt...Simply tell him that you have also taken some loan for yourself and your children's education and you are in a tight budget right now plus repayment agreements to follow.
Don't give him any alternative option and don't be tempted to give part of the money because you will receive pressure not just from him but your mother and other siblings will put under pressure as they would believe that you have the money...
Please be polite but firm and direct when you are declining his request....
All the best....
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ReplyDeleteDON’T LEND HIM ANY MONEY OHHHH. I have been called all sorts of names because I asked someone older than me to pay back the money they borrowed. This is your older brother, what will happen if he can’t or won’t pay you back. They will ask you to forgive and forget for the sake of peace and family unity.
ReplyDeleteAs a principle I don’t lend anyone money. I give them what I can afford without any expectation that they will pay back. Perhaps you can consider this option as well. Las las make he go bank if na loan he dey find. Sha be careful when you’re back in naija
If I were you, I will give him what I have but will never lend him anything penny. Be wise!
ReplyDeletePoster, if you give him what you have, he will come back again after some time to ask for what you have.
DeleteMy advice is; DON’T GIVE HIM ANYTHING else you will regret it, build your own empire with your children because some family members only want their siblings to pay for the love they can give or receive. Tell him you are presently looking for money yourself to sort some things and please stop telling your mother about your finances because she will guilt trip you to giving or borrowing your siblings money that they don’t intend to pay back.
Poster if you make this mistake you’ll regret it definitely. Please don’t try it, tell him you don’t have at most borrow him 1m. Don’t joke with your future oo
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Please don't lend him any money, he will not pay you back. And if you want to build, it is not compulsory you build in your village, you can always buy land somewhere else and build or buy outrightly.
ReplyDeletePlease don't lend him any money, he will not pay you back. And if you want to build, it is not compulsory you build in your village, you can always buy land somewhere else and build or buy outrightly.
ReplyDeleteDont lend him a penny, if he had been a good brother you can still borrow him a quarter with the mind that he might refund or not.
ReplyDeletewhen you start your project I hope you will be available to monitor it because this your brother can't be trusted.
All the best.
You live far away from home,how did he get to know you have that kind of money.Please be careful the kind of information you give people whether family or not.
ReplyDeleteILL suggest you call him and tell him you can't lend him the whole amount but the little you can afford you'd give him.Just gift him any amount you know you can let go off so whether he pays back or not wont bother you
They don’t know
DeleteThey just throw it out and see if you blink
By not saying she doesn’t have she had given him the info he needed
There’s a way you respond when you have but don’t want to give
Scammers know how to figure this out
Most likely their mother. She probably confide in her. Talking from experience. Mothers sometimes do that.
DeleteThat money is too huge to borrow anyone. I do not care who they are. Why does he think you own such an amount to lend though? in my opinion, use it for yourself as there is a 50:50 chance he may not pay you back and besides you are also thinking of starting a project of your own. Choose you first and he is too greedy to ask for such a loan from you unless you have it in excess. He may even wish you dead when the time comes to pay. I do not subscribe to lending people such an amount.
ReplyDeleteIt’s your tomorrow giving you signal today
ReplyDeleteYou came here because you are worried and unsure
If you give him this money kiss your relationship with him and that your building project goodbye
Give him 500,000 or 1m tell him that all you have
If you don’t want to die untimely don’t mention the house you want to build and the money you have to anybody,even your mom ,don’t
Come back do your thing when you want to and tell them later
What does he want to rent that he will gather 25million at once to give you
Think oh
Your last statement is so true. Poster all the comments have said no . If you don't heed this advice na you saka you go cry like newborn
DeleteDon't give him more than what you can afford not let go off. You also have your own project which is what you should focus on. Also renting doesn't mean he would recover all the money and give to you, it's just a little percent he would make from rent and that doesn't cover for the entire loan
ReplyDeleteWhy are you confused? Don't give hime a dime, infact stop picking his calls. Remind him you are a single mum, where does he expect you to get that kind of money from?
ReplyDeleteGbam please follow Stella advice nothing to add
ReplyDeleteYour mother will be saying loan him
ReplyDeleteThey seem to always want to help dead beat sons
Don’t listen
This! Women enabling their badly behaved sons!
DeleteMy late mom enabled her entitled badly behaved daughter. Some parents are very wicked.
DeleteOffer to lend him an amount you are sure you can afford to forfeit in case he doesn't pay you back. No matter how small the amount is, tell him that that is what you have.
ReplyDeleteIf he collet's it, give him and see how it goes. If he rejects it because it's too small, no problem. At least you offered to help.
Don’t give him anything o….I know of a story like this and it affected the kids of this siblings the man that collected the money lied to his kids that his kids thinks the other brother was the one that collected the money….it was bank statement that settled this thing. But the relationship was never the same.
ReplyDeleteDON’T GIVE HIM A DIME
I hardly comment on SDK however, I will today... MY SISTER, DO NOT DO IT!!! DO NOT OOOOOOH. YOU GO CRY, YOU GO REGRET. NOBODY I MEAN NO NOBODY GO HELP YOU. The ball is in your court. Goodluck!!!
ReplyDeleteJust borrow him 25,000 see if he'll pay you back .
ReplyDeleteLol 25 k kwa?; hahahaha
DeleteDon't lend out money you can't afford to lose, that's my principle..there's no guarantee he will pay back and the money is a lot, I'm sure you won't want to lose such..it's better you let him know you don't have..that was how I made the mistake of borrowing a family member a substantial amount of money..he promised to pay back in 2 months..a year and a half later he had not paid back anything, when I asked he became rude and entitled but I was persistent and eventually got my money after a lot of back and forth..today the relationship is no longer the same,he has been carrying face..if I had told him I didn't have sebi the relationship would have remained cordial..sometimes family members are the most difficult people to borrow money, if they don't pay back you can't get your money without destroying the relationship.. DON'T DO IT!
ReplyDeleteDon't lend him any money. This is how I lent my elder sister 1000 euros and the other one 500 euros. Guess what they told me? They thought it was a gift. Once I told them I never said it was a gift and they should pay me by May, one said I shouldn't give her a deadline on when she should pay and the other one blocked me. Three of my own blood sister ganged up on me because of this issue. The insults, the nerve, the mocking...yes mocking, my immediate elder sister said no one will pay me back my money. My dear I have learnt my lesson. I will rather be called wicked than be seen as a fool. Even if you have, say you don't have. Don't discuss money or plans with anyone especially your blood if you know them, not even your mother. I was like you. I live abroad, Europe and they never called, even have a group chat where I'm not included. They talk sh*t about me, when I didn't have and I would call no one would pick but all of a sudden once they learned I was working, from either my elder sister or mum they started calling me only to ask for money later on. I blame myself for giving because I thought I could trust them since we are family but they've showed me that I can never give them the benefit of doubt again. It may seem wicked but even if they have to do a life saving surgery I will not give a dime. Never again will they see even a cent from me.
ReplyDeleteSame mistake I made lending to family..I saw shege trying to get my money..over 1.2m in my jobless state..last last relationship scattered before he paid back..never again! Poster don't give him a dime! How can someone think a person can lend him a whole 25m?..He should go to the bank for a loan, you're not a bank..if you lend him that money just kiss your money goodbye.. moreover which year will he gather rent of 25m?..do not give him a dime and don't let anyone know you have that kind of money..a word is enough for the wise
DeleteGbam. You don’t need that kind of siblings around you. Your parents didn’t do a good job bringing that bond together growing up. That’s how I feel this nonsense happens. Build your own community and don’t even give a damn about what they say about you. People will always talk. It doesn’t change your bank account or add peace into your life. Pray for healing, forgive them and if you have kids, a good husband, those are your family. Raise them well, love and pour into your kids and not those ungrateful sisters. Forgive them when you’re ready and Also pray for God to fill any void in your heart because only God can do this, and no human being. That way, you won’t have to beg for nobody’s love. Blessings. 💕
DeleteAre you joking? How many flats will he rent out to pay you back the 25 million? It will take him 20 years to pay back that money if at all he intends to pay back.
ReplyDeleteI can swear that he doesn’t intend to pay back soon, he will take it as his share that is due to him from his sister being ‘abroad’
You should have told him at once that you don’t have it. Go back and tell him that you tried to see if you can borrow from your friends but you were unable to. If you have 1 million or 2 million, dash him and save yourself the stress
Do not give him any cash, take up your project, that's the most important thing right now.
ReplyDeleteMy sis my sis. My Sis. Don't give him o... me I. loa my brother 2m now my bother, and the wife and children don't gree me again bec I ask o. Is my mother that inform him ab the business I wanted to startl tell your mother not to tel him about your project again let peace rain.
ReplyDelete😄 why do you like to get out brain worked up? Loa, gree, bec, ab
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DeleteDon’t lend him any money because he won’t pay back,maybe he heard you are doing well now and want to get his own again seems you discuss your plan of building house with someone and he want to play the smart/nice one by asking for such huge amount of money,He won’t pay back and if problem arise people will tell you to let it go his family.give him 2million to add to his building and tell him you are struggling over there,stop discussing certain stuff with people and if you start your own project be discreet about it
ReplyDeletePoster if you do,this could lead to your death,25millions no be small money na, don't try it, loans are very hard to pay back,just look for excuse and give him,and keep your financial story from your mum.how did your brother knows you have such money?
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, in the name of God and of your three beautiful children i beg of you do not give him a dime. Don't you know that if you do. It means you give out your children's inheritance to a wicked blood brother. To be realistic with you, your life will go for it cos he will be unable to refund you and your children will be miserable which will not be their portion. Again, as one of the BV mentioned above don't let either your mum or any of your siblings know of your project plans. My late Dad always say that ''Never you displease yourself to please others". Ire o.
ReplyDeleteAnd in future, the man and his wife and children will claim that the house was solely built by them, excluding you because you have no proof. Even if you have proof, they'll still claim that they paid back the money in cash to you Poster. Similar scenario is playing out amidst my distant relatives.
DeletePoster DO NOT LEND MONEY TO ANYONE. SECONDLY, I WILL.ADVICE YOU TO SHELVE THE IDEA OF COMING TO BUY LAND TO BUILD IN NIGERIA UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE. GO FOR TREAURY BILL AS ADVICED BY SOME.BVS. BUT ABOVE ALL PRAY FOR GOD TO GUIDE YOU. THE BUILDING YOU WANT TO PUT UP IN NIGERIA. WHO WILL SUPERVISE IT FOR YOU?
ReplyDeleteBuying land and building in naija is not even worth it at this point. Especially in this current economy. Nahhh
DeleteIs As Simple As ABC nahhh
ReplyDeleteJust Remaind him That You Suppose Know Say I be Single Mother Nahh
Where does he Expert You To Get Such Amount Of Money From..
Hello iya Boys
Na wetin dey cause family feud be this. Under no circumstances should you borrow him any money ooo. You won't see it at all
ReplyDeleteLend, not borrow
DeleteIf you give him 1m he will say you have more where it's coming from. Pls be wise is all i will say.
ReplyDeleteFor your Children sake don't lend him the Money
ReplyDeleteThis is so funny. Always put yourself first my dear . Let’s say you even want to be a kind sis, you sef complete your own building, when you collect rent, magically make the rent to turn into 25million and give him. Na wa.
ReplyDeleteMy friend did masters here in Canada for a year and went back. She gave her older brother her savings to help her hold . For when she comes back. $6k gone on women and perfume. Guess what, their parents told her to forgive that they will pay her back. Till today one kobo she never see
Please get grip sis!!! Never loan money from your future investment portfolio to anyone!!! You can loan or gift him money from excess savings but never from your investment nest!! You owe your future and your children that dream property you are yet to execute no let village people confuse you with emotional blackmail .
ReplyDeleteDon't lend him any money, whether small or big, he will not return it and it will cause trouble between two of you, tell him you don't have, if you can afford to give him a chicken feed without expecting anything in return, fine, if you can't, face front.
ReplyDelete25M is too much to borrow someone, especially a brother that wasn't there for you when you needed him.
If you want to start your project, or after starting it, don't let him know, and if he eventually finds out, tell him you also took a loan.
I repeat, don't ever borrow him any money, so that you won't regret it, your enemy might even lose her life because of it, be very careful, he's not a good brother from your narration.
Stella, you are a wise woman
ReplyDeleteYour advice is on point.
I have nothing to add
Goodluck dear Poster
DON’T LEND HIM THAT MONEY.HE SHOULD GO TO THE BANK ..Lend him the money at your own detriment.What even gave him the impression that you have stagnant 35m lying around??It will only end in premium tears if you do…Talu
ReplyDeleteHow did he know that you have up to that amount? How did he know that you could afford it. Simply tell him that you don't have. That you have just a little savings of 4million and it's to be used for a project there in Gambia
ReplyDeleteChange your line so that nobody can reach you with it. When you eventually meet them in Nigeria, tell them your phone got bad and you lost all contacts
ReplyDeleteDon't even meet with him one on one. He can poison you
DeletePoster, do not try it!
ReplyDeleteWhy is your brother asking you for such amount of money, because you stay in obodo oyibo or you told him that you have such amount? Money knows how to spoil good relationships, once you give him this money and you talk to him on something he is not doing well,. He will say is because you lend him small mo ey that you want to insult him.
ReplyDeleteSpeak to him calmly that you are a mother of three with alot of debts to pay over there, that is by the mercy of Gos that you are able to feed your three children. Let him know that you don't have money and stop showing that you have money.
Tell him that you can see how you will be able to rise something little but the 25m is not available. He want to lend 25m from you when you are not a bank. You will.nevwr see this money, when you want ro build please do not do that in the village, buy houses in town and rent it out, he should go to rank for such huge amount.
Which Obodo Oyibo. Gambia wey dey our backyard here! Gambia is a small African country near Senegal.
DeleteDon't give him kobo. He wants to steal your money.
ReplyDeletePoster pls don't lend him 25m. You can tell him things are not rosy for you over there and that you can only afford 2milion. Then just dash him the 2 million in your mind cos he will not return it.. Tell him to consider borrowing the rest from bank or elsewhere...
ReplyDeleteAs for your own building, why don't you just save enough and buy a house of your choice outrightly?
This is because you may not be able to monitor the construction of your house from the scratch to finishi as a result of your work over there and you may ask a relative to monitor it for you , then your absentee brother will know you are building a house.
Remember, this your brother should never know about your house.
Another option is to contract it out to a construction or Real estate company to build for you, I don't know if it works well but I hear people talk about it.
Pls be careful wlhen you come home, if possible, don't meet with him one on one. Don't even let him know when you are around and warn your mum not to tell him. He can arrange your kidnapping and collect that 25m as ransom.
Lastly, keep your plans to yourself
Keep your financial status to yourself
Trust no one, even your mum may be telling him stuff about you innocently
Let me repeat this, that brother of yours can plan your kidnap and collect that 25m from you as ransom. Keep your plans to yourself henceforth, including your mum. Don't let them know when you will visit the country. Just enter as a surprise and don't let your brother know. Warn your mum pls.
ReplyDeletePoster, all the commenters have told you it’s a bad idea to loan anyone, such a huge amount, I add that he is a very wicked sibling. He may kill you or render you incapable of remembering that you loaned him the amount. Relatives kill for much less than that. Even if he was nice to you after your divorce, it is still a wicked thing to expect an undocumented loan that amount from a non financial institution.
ReplyDeleteRegrettably I blew more than that on my extended family over 30 years. They do not talk to me as at today. I graduated before all my siblings although I was the middle child & have always been a merciful person. My family USED me. Now in my 50s, unable to hustle like before, i cannot but wish there was SM given all the advice I see online. With hindsight, I paid for their friendship, to have folks to call family, my mom being the worst enabler of the financial & emotional abuse. If I wasn’t a Christian I would despise them for using me as an ATM, so much that even when we were contributing for my mom’s funeral, they still levied me more than everyone else till I refused it. The thought of being around them for my mom’s funeral plus her contribution to the manipulation & abuse kept me away from attending. I sent them money since it’s not as if they care about me more than a $ATM , never knowing unconditional love by family in the true sense of it. Macaroni posted something about his generosity costing him N500m! Some doubted him, I don’t, I spent about that amount, adjusted for inflation over 35 years. Cut off financial abusers, they will gaslight you & say “how much did you really spent, forgetting that an average of even $5k/year over 25 years adds up! They minimize your sacrificial giving! The worst is that since I cut my sister off, she has gone spiritual on me! The person whose rent, kids school fees I paid for many years, set up a clothing boutique for years ago, who never held a real job since she graduated belittles all I did, badmouthing me to whoever cares to listen. Building her entire lifestyle & those of, her kids & husband on my hard work & income, she took offence when I had enough! It’s not about being poor, it’s about contentment not entitlement.
Tell him things are challenging, it’s a fact because the global economy is not great. Ask him to help you financially. Most givers never ask for help thereby perpetuating the cycle of financial & emotional abuse. They bear the emotional burden of excusing the lack of growth of Takers who never prepare themselves to become givers. Close to 60, my sisters HAVE NEVER given me N5000 or $4 my entire life! The thought alone makes me sick. My elder sister & her hubby own many houses. They just do not think they should give me or my children anything, even Garri of $10 they have never sent to us. She once got upset that I did not give her son money when they attended a family event. I have given to her grandkids, daughter (who stopped calling when I refused to welcome her shopping list) but nobody gives me anything, they took, & took & took till they nearly drained my soul. Oprah started the “favorite things” list because as a giver & a generous billionaire, few people gifted her anything. Those who did made her feel human, even special. I hope nobody encounters the monsters that I grew up with, that used me all my life. In the 3rd quarter of my life, I am grateful that I’m far from my abusers. I learnt, 25 years after the fact, that my younger sister never completed her degree, she was to retake mathematics but never did, my late mom was most likely in on it. How does a twenty something with 3 kids in 🇳🇬 of 25+ years ago expect to live an upper middle class life in expensive Lagos off my back?😳 It is the wickedness of many extended families in 🇳🇬. Send 500,000 Naira, invest towards old age. “The night cometh when no man can work”. They will not be there for you when you need them, like when you got divorced. ✌🏾
Are you that desperate for your brother’s love and acceptance? Because that’s the only logical reason here. This man does not care about you! Remove emotions from your eyes and see how selfish he is. He does NOT care about you. But tor, na you get your money so you can do whatever you want with it. We won’t be the one crying and dealing with the consequences.
ReplyDeletePlease give him that money.
ReplyDeleteE be like say you dey slow and dull upstairs one kind.
Somebody who didn't reach out to you when you divorced. Who never asked if you or the children had garri to drink. Once they see things are picking up for you, they slither out like serpents in the bush?
Which century do you think that 25m will come back to you.
Wait, like you actually believe you will be paid back?
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Sloooooow like Ogbono.
And by the way. Family is not who shared the same surname, family is who is there for you.
Energy for Energy.
Why do many Nigerians have the bad habit of begging or asking others for money? Demand money from your corruptly elected officials & political jobbers, they stole your money. This habit of always asking for money because you think a relative has more is very common in our culture. Just because you think your relative has more than you doesn’t mean they do or you should wreck them with wicked demands.
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