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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
I need help on how to tell my husband that I am no longer interested in the Marriage without raising his suspicion....I married him to spite my ex and we have been married for two years...In this two years I kept praying everyday that my ex would come back to his senses and reach out to me cos we meant the world to each other but he broke us up in anger and relocated abroad....
We have been talking and he came home in December, we made up and we wanna get back together......Please note that we did not have any intimacy, even though i wanted to but he didnt want to touch me until i am free....
I never loved my husband and i have never told him that i love him.....
I got my visa last week and i wont come back to him...I have sold off all my expensive jewelry and have been dashing out my things to my siblings, I told him i would shop for new clothes when coming back and he believes me..I have also been making plans as if i will come back to him...
Do i wait until i travel to break the news or do it before i go?
I am confused but want to do this right..I never should have tried to use him to spite my ex........
My ex and I are soulmates and i have been unhappy for two years......I cant say why we broke up but it was partly my fault and he refused my apologies...He said he needed space to get over me but could not...
So now or after i get to where i am headed?
Dont say anything now oh, he might get violent and not let you go...Tell him when you get there but dont ever bring up your ex, just tell him that you were not happy with him and want to move on........Goodluck but i hope you know what you are doing oh cos this kind of ex that waited two years to come back and wants to remove you from your hubsands hand, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm......
Well follow your heart even if it is misleading you, you will learn!
Poster you know karma is real? Did your husband do anything bad that you chose to pay an innocent man this way?? Omo you will not end well oo, no be curse but na real matters.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Is princess Camilla now not ending well? she even earned a royal title on top. See, the heart wants what it wants.
DeletePoster, whooo! This seed you are sowing will definitely reap corruption. It's so sad that you would trivialise another man's heart and the sacredness of marriage for your selfish gain. That is so wicked.
DeleteWhat if the tables were turned? How would you feel? How would you feel if another woman does this to your brother? How would you feel if another woman does this to your son?
You don't need an advise. What you need is to be confronted with the consequences of what you are about to do, and believe me the consequences will be ugly.
Swears! How mean can you be?! Na wah o.
DeleteAnonymous 16:57, how did you know Camilla ends well? Does having a royal title means the person ends well? Do you know the relationship she has with British people? Do you know what she goes through as the villain? Assumptions is a very dangerous concept.
DeleteDon’t forget that all that glitters is not gold and appearance is very deceptive.
Poster you are wicked. May i never have a sister like you. Please go,and when you get there send your people to return his bride prize and everything he bought during d marriage preparation.
DeleteIt takes a lot of dumbness to really be a woman, you think your ex don't know if you can leave a whole marriage for him, you can also leave him if something better comes along. That is what is affecting most of you guys, you are willing to leave your ex in his vulnerable state and follow someone just because you thought he his doing better. This your ex will use and dumb you like a rag that you are in the next 6 months. Nobody want to be serious with a lady like you. Stella please post this....
Delete@16:57 your heart can desire what it wants, but not at the expense of hurting other that, s just CRUEL since she willingly married him. Let her follow her heart all she wants but karma will eventually catch up with her.
Delete19:21, she is still waxing strong wt her husband after many years, that’s all that matters. Her relationship with which british ppl? Who cares? She is spending their tax payers money and wearing dresses and jewels that most of them can only see in fairy tale books. Atleast i have mentioned few points to show that she is ending well, you on the other hand is claiming that m assuming, oya mention points to prove she isn’t ending well.
DeleteAnon 19.21 How did you know Camikla did not end well too? Assumptions is a very dangerous concept meanwhile your opinion too is based in the same assumption. Na wa o. God help those who just cannot help themselves but play you.
DeleteYour Ex will leave you again and this time, he will insult you to your face. If you can leave your husband because him, then you can leave him for someone else. That’s how the human mind works.
DeleteYou are not a person I want as a friend or relative.
How would you feel if your husband married you to spite his ex? Abd now he wants to get back with her. What you did is soo wrong, ain't gonna sugarcoat it. Sha sha, just pray, your ex won't leave you again, cos if you bring the chronicles here, I will just say ntoor.
ReplyDeleteExactly 👏 Poster put yourself in your dear hubby's shoes, be humane pls. After all you didn't mention he wronged you in anyway. Remember, two years a lot of water has passed under the bridge o, do you know who your ex really is? Think about it 🤔
DeleteStella please don't hide this comment.
ReplyDeleteWoman, you are very stupid.
An ex that couldn't wife you all this while resurfaced after years of your wedding and being in a Man's house and this is what you have to say?
Chineke kpogi oku.
DOZZYBEST.
Yeye woman way go concentrate build her home. Ashawo dey her eyes.
DeleteThis woman is evil, nothing anyone can tell me.After two years,u now realize u don't love ur husband.Ekwensu.
DeleteI expected to see that Slap emoji on ur face. Poster you nur well sha. This looks like it won't end well. I don't think so. Maybe your case dey different. Gaskiya you need help
DeleteI pray that Almighty God will give your husband the best wife he deserves. You are a very mean human being and a user. Do not forget that whatever you sow, you will reap. I am not judging you and I don’t have any advice for people like you.
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteAnon sometimes men do it too,they did to my friend this one no be here say so..
DeleteBut poster remember that you about to hurt someone's heart and emotional feelings after all the expenses he made on your head Plus the the love decision
So think twice
I wash my hands in innocency 🙏🙏
When the man out of the hurt and betrayal becomes someone he wasn't, everyone will start castigating him forgetting that monsters aren't born but created.
DeleteAs for the poster, carry go. There's nothing to be said to you
Amen!!!!
DeleteYou are an extremely evil woman and may God punish you. That ex you want to leave a man that didn't hurt you for is the one God is going to use to punish you
ReplyDeleteAmen. Foolish people like her are what makes some men hard hearted, very evil thing to do! You won’t escape karma
DeleteAmen
DeleteAmennnn, very mean woman
DeleteAmen
DeleteAmen!!
DeleteYour ex is back to finish you kpatakpata. Stick to your husband. He loves you better than your ex. If your ex loves you in the first place, he wouldn't have left you for so long, he would have forgiven you since and wouldn't have allowed another man wife you. He will show you shege my dear
ReplyDeleteFrankly speaking, in all fairness there is none in these. How sad we it be if it is the other way round? Why not put yourself in his shoes to see how it feels to waste all that time, feelings and emotions, investment (if any) he must have got for you. I wish he had his way not to allow you ever contact your ex again.
ReplyDeleteYou’re a wicked woman and I pray your ex disappoints you in the most devastating way possible.
ReplyDeleteHow can you toil with someone’s emotions like this ? If you’re not mean spirited i pity you .
Your eye go clear .
Dear Poster, From your write-up, you have been the one reaching out to your Ex and I see a lot of zero efforts from his end as you want to reconcile with him so bad without really addressing the issue that made you guys break up....He broke up out of anger?! Tor....Has he resolved the anger issues?....As they say, the heart wants what it wants....
ReplyDelete1. You should consider your husband's wellbeing as he is under the impression that his marriage is intact but you are the first to break the vow....You don't have to roll in the sheets before you cheat, you have already cheated...
2. You know your husband's temperament and emotions; there are pros and cons to telling him before or after you leave....
Advantages of before you leave: it is more honest and direct and avoids a more dramatic confrontation after you've left...
Disadvantages: He may be violent towards you, scatter your travel plans or stop you from leaving.....
Telling Him after you leave might make you feel safe...Disadvantages: You will be seen as a coward and callous and he would not process the breakup well......
Either way you do it, he is going to feel hurt, betrayed, and resentful towards you........ My advice is to tell him on time and choose your words carefully - Be clear, show some empathy, no false hope but be firm in your conversion...... Avoid blaming him at any point in your conversation and own your fcukups and be responsible......In all, consider your safety because your husband might not take it very well....
I would have said you try therapy or professional counselling with your husband but your mind is made up going by your write-up....
I can't imagine how your husband would feel but I wish him all the best....
All the best and safe travels on your trip to your EX....
You are very wicked
ReplyDeleteIn this life, fear women!
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do, free your innocent husband to pick up the pieces of his life and move on.
ReplyDeleteSha tag me when you post an update in 6months. I will be here to read and laugh.
Six months is long self,1month make she update us.
DeleteNot even 6 months, in weeks
DeleteAny man wey no fear women don die already..This is wickedness of the highest degree but I want to read comments and see how women will support this evil and go as far as tell this poster how to go about her malicious plan.
ReplyDeleteWe are not like u!
DeleteNow I know everyone might judge you but I understand exactly how you feel. You are doing your husband a favour by leaving him if after 2years you don’t love him.The barest minimum from the person you love always feels better than the biggest or maximum effort from a person you don’t love.
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DeleteYes, she is doing him a favor by leaving him but what happens to all the money he suffered to gather for her marriage process? You know he might not be a wealthy guy that such expenses would mean nothing to.
DeleteYou people should free the poster joor! Let her follow her heart! Una know wetin men dey use women eye dey see everyday? Na the one wey women do Dem go dey shout up and down!
ReplyDeleteSee them
DeleteI hope you are ready to accept that your ex has a wife over there but pretending and he will deal with you. That your ex is a terrible person, why will he unmarried you cos of the useless story he is saying.
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart but I hope you will not do two zero. Which will be worst for you. Fo not tell him now till you get there before he will harm you or stop you from travelling. Remember that bride pride must be returned to your husband before you can be with your ex. Someday your ex will make statement about this.
I pray that your ex treats you exactly the way you want to treat your husband.
ReplyDeleteI hope you know most men don’t trust a woman they got this way.
These days, the worst i wish people, is to meet themselves in someone else. Madam, u r no exception, i pray u meet a version of urself in someone else. Amen!
ReplyDeletePlease am single, kindly connect me to your ex husband
ReplyDeletePoster read this, your husband deserves someone who will love and take care of him.
DeleteSo you got married to a whole human being, took vows, got your families all involved in your revenge came? You are one determinedly selfish person to play with the emotions of others like that.
ReplyDeleteI swear, how did she do this one sef , knowing too well that it won't last nawaoo 😳😳huh!
DeletePoster, if this is not wickedness, then tell me what is?
ReplyDeleteWe should tell you how to hurt an innocent man that did you no wrong? Marriage is now kalo kalo, tumbo tumbo to some of you.
I have nothing else to say to you order than I pray that the Lord should compensate your husband and help him get through this like you were never in his life.
That you ex will only bring you out from your marriage, then he will just flush you like the tissue that you are.. this is the definition of wickedness and you will definitely reap the fruit of it..
ReplyDeletePoster just do what pleases you and let the poor guy get someone that truely loves him. Everyone has a soul mate. If you leave your husband,he will get someone that will appreciate him more
ReplyDeleteAll the best
Poster it's not fair. Do as you would be done by. That's a very mean way to treat your husband.
ReplyDeleteWawu
ReplyDeleteYou have mind and you do not have any conscience at all
You got married to someone just to spit your ex
Haba how cruel
We cannot tie you down to marry him by force, you have concluded alraedy so do what you want
Am sure he had other ladies who loved him for real but he chose you instead now you choose to do this to him
Keep asking God for forgiveness
You are not even scared
Wow, I fear you
Please give me your husband's contact.hes a good man and he deserves a woman who will love him and treat him like a king!
ReplyDeleteThe funny thing is, even if you get his number, will he love you the way he loved the poster? People don't seem to appreciate those who truly care about them.
DeleteChai, Poster, if you must leave your husband, do it right. He deserves compensation. Hope fully your ex will live up to your expectations.
ReplyDeleteWhen you hear fear My gender na em be dis. What a wicked thing to do poster. This Man head go catch YOU Mark it.
ReplyDeleteWhy hurt an innocent man. Karma is real. Do you think that the ex you are going to meet is better than your hubby. The grass is not greener on the other side. Don't make a mistake that you will end up regretting.
ReplyDeleteUhhm hope it all end well ,good luck ,that is human being for you .Human being heart , very wicked who can know it
ReplyDeleteReading your post as a married woman, I can’t help but wonder - what if a man had written this? Dante, Teejay, Pinky - where are you? This post needs your take.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I won’t sugarcoat this - what you’ve done is painful, not just for your husband, but also for yourself. You stepped into a marriage knowing your heart wasn’t fully in it, and now you’re seeking a way out that doesn’t make you the villain. But deep down, you know there’s no clean way to leave a story built on half-truths.
Your husband may not have been your soulmate, but he is a person - a man who built his life around what he thought was love, only to soon find out it was a temporary shelter for you. That’s a painful reality. And while you might want to soften the blow by leaving quietly, avoiding confrontation will only add another layer of hurt. If you truly want to do the right thing, be honest with him. He deserves that much. You deserve that much - to own your game.
And about your ex - be careful. Just because something feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s still right. A past love can seem like home, especially when you orchestrated unhappiness where you are, but nostalgia has a way of blurring the truth. If you truly saw him as your soulmate, why did you let him go in the first place? Why did he allow you to stay in a marriage you now call loveless? These are questions worth asking yourself before you take another leap.
Love that begins at the expense of someone else’s heartbreak often carries the weight of that pain. Right now, you think you’re running toward happiness, but if you don’t face your own patterns, you might just be running in circles - repeating old mistakes under a new name and calling it rebranding yourself.
The only way forward is through honesty. Not just with your husband, but with yourself. Stop seeing this as a story where you are the only one who matters - because everyone in it has something to lose.
I wish you well. But it’s unsettling to think you spent months wearing a mask, all while scheming to dismantle someone else’s happiness, all while planning your next move. I hope, for your sake and his, that this next step is built on truth, not just escape. What a cruel human.
Advise briefly and move on. You sef too like talk. Ethically, your comment cannot be longer than the chronicle na. Hian!
DeletePoster, keep in mind that your ex is not the same person you left two years ago, just as you have also changed. If you reconnect, you may find that the reality of being together isn’t as fantastic as you imagined. There’s no guarantee he will marry you, and you risk complicating your life over gbenshing fantasies. Think carefully, is it worth breaking your husband for?
ReplyDeleteThis path may not lead where you hope.
Ex was looking for reason to relocate without ties and he used one small argument 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Babe still Dey play dumb Dey reach out and chase Ex. Your Ex’s relocation might be tied to the person that took him over there. Your eyes go clear soon. Soulmate 🤨😒😏🙄🙄🙄
DeleteThis is so unfair. Why marry him when you knew your heart was not for him, why!!!. Why do this to another human being, why deceive him, if the table were turn, wouldn't you have cursed him out? I pray he finds joy, peace and also meet someone who values him.
ReplyDeleteSome, if not most women above 35yrs, married who was available not who they loved - the loved man/men jilted them prior to the marriage. Some men also married for beauty or money and jilted those who genuinely loved them but lacked beauty or finance. I have learnt not to judge anyone - do what makes you happy cos life is short. However, be ready for the repercussions of some bad decisions taken😁😁
ReplyDeleteThis would be very wicked of you. I just hope you don't regret it
ReplyDeleteReconnecting with your ex might not be right cos this man never cared about your feelings and left you for two years.He felt you loved him more and wouldn't be able to find another.
ReplyDeleteOftentimes,it's best we settle for men who love us unconditionally and give us peace.i tell you,he will never want to hurt you intentionally.if this man you are married to presently gives you peace and makes you happy,I advice you remain with him, with time, the love will grow.Going back to same ex who left you over a disagreement years ago, will he be mature enough to be with you when the challenges in marriages come?
I beg you pray, you must hear from God before taking a decision.The devil uses situations like this to destroy the lives of those who allow sin around their lives.
What did I just read?? 😡you are a wicked woman!! I pray your husband get connected to someone that will love him dearly,and I hope your ex trash you up beyond repair.
ReplyDeletePoster, go ahead and relocate to your Ex. Mark it today, you will cry but there would be nobody to console you.
ReplyDeleteSha, connect your husband to me .
Ur ex won't trust you for breaking ur husband's heart and might leave u again for someone else
ReplyDeleteDid she even reason that one 🙄 he may later use it against her in the future
DeleteHa! You’re evil! Your ex doesn’t love you if he did he would have forgiven you and not allow you to marry another Man! Whatever you sow you shall reap a hundred fold! You too shall be left the same way you’re leaving an innocent Man!
ReplyDeleteThe heart of humans. 🤔😌🙄
ReplyDeletePoster abeg, I carry God beg you, send us update after 2 years.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I have a feeling that you'd regret this decision in the future? It is well
ReplyDeletePOSTER!
ReplyDeleteHOLD YPUR TWO EARS O!
Your ex left you for another woman abroad, it didn't work out and he came back to stupid you.
Word 🙌🏽
DeleteWhat will happen to all the money he spent in marrying you. You are you abroad ex had better gather money to pay him back from all he spent during your marriage process so he won't start all over gathering resources for his next marriage and doing this will make your curse to be lesser. It's better you leave now, the earlier the better. The man needs someone who will love him not someone that is managing him.
ReplyDeleteLol, assuming your ex was not abroad you won't know that you are soulmates o.
Madam.. do what your heart has chosen to do.. It is you and your God that has matter to settle!! You know yourself and what you want!! This is your story:Wrote it your way:don't give the pen to another person!! Tell him from a distance and most importantly, be very sure of your new journey:I wish you well!!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteDon't even stress it. There's no action without a consequence. Just prepare yourself to reap the fruit of the seed you have sown. When the time comes, you will gain clarity and Karma as they call it, is about to teach you one of life's greatest lessons. I wish your soon to be ex-husband the grace to handle this, and I hope he finds his own person. This is not a way to treat a man or woman, but I can't judge you. Please do your husband the honor of telling him in the most considerate way possible and be prepared for his reaction. I did something slightly similar, and I wish I had not done it. It has been God's grace and mercy holding me together. I wish you well!