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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HEARTBROKEN
A distance friend posted her brother on his birthday, l liked what l saw and sent her a message. We connected and met once before he got a job out of Abuja and returned last Wednesday. I visited and spent the night, when he left for church this morning, I searched for some information and just discovered that he is just 30 and I will be 36 by July. I'm heartbroken....
So at your age, you didnt ask your distant friend his age, you didnt ask a man his age during talking stage, you didnt bring up the age talk? You had to go all the way to spend the night with him and still did not ask of age...Now after gbenshing you are heartbroken?....In he Nigerian aspect, the age age is too much and he may not be financally ready since he just got a job.......You just go carry kpekus gift am..
Stella 😆😆 this your blue pen is very funny...
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, Why are you heartbroken 💔 for something that has not even started....Is the age difference a deal breaker for you? And why didn't you ask this when getting to know him....
Now that you know, what next? It's left for you to decide to make it a platonic friendship or you bounce to the next man....
Take it easy so you don't get 'madly love' before even knowing the basics..
All the best
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ReplyDelete#free Kpekus. Hope ur Kpekus is not broken too. Please manage the age difference it might turn out fine
ReplyDeleteStella, thank you for posting it as a chronicle. He is a civil engineer, and comfortable, he only got this particular deal and was away for close to two months.
ReplyDeleteYes , l didn't bring up the age thing because he doesn't look it at all. I thought we may be around the same age, he too did not ask. To think l have ended a relationship for the same reason. This relationship and marriage thing is not for me, let me face front
You just net something and slept with them without knowing basic things about them?
DeleteGosh!!!
Age is a thing of the mind dear, ask yourself some personal questions; will I be able to respect and honour this person despite the age? Some people are 15 years older than their husbands and they're living together in peace.
DeleteStella, thank you for posting it as a chronicle. He is a civil engineer, and comfortable, he only got this particular deal and was away for close to two months.
ReplyDeleteYes , l didn't bring up the age thing because he doesn't look it at all. I thought we may be around the same age, he too did not ask. To think l have ended a relationship for the same reason. This relationship and marriage thing is not for me, let me face front
These crop of Nigerian girls, do they have sense at all? No wonder every eke market day we hear of a boyfriend holding a bag with the head of his girl friend inside. Women u have everything to lose in this fornication of a thing, stay away from it!!
ReplyDeleteThey can never ever listen. Leave them. They will get everything they deserve.
DeleteWhat are you on about for God's sake!
Delete16:58 we are on about morality, common sense and logic. Smth as basic as age, she didn’t know, we are not even talking abt his health status, yet she has alrdy opened her legs.
DeletePoster, what if the age you saw is his "football age"? Some people falsify their age to get employment, connection, etc. How are you sure 30 is his real age?
DeleteHave a discussion with him, he might be older or he may not mind the difference.
World people problem
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoyed the gbensh sha?
ReplyDeleteWhat’s the heartbroken matter now? You wannabe a baddie, be a baddie with your full chest, have fun and keep it going. If this one no work, another will work. At 36 you shouldn’t wear your emotions on your sleeves. He went to church and you started snooping around like a teenager for facts you should have asked him face to face on your first date? Babe, suck it up and brace yourself for the wonderful, the good, the bad, but don’t wait for any ugly before you move.
ReplyDeleteNa why e good make man get camera for house,. Searching someone house like a thief.. the guy suppose kick her out for that nonsense alone. Grown up acting like a toddler.
DeleteBTW, Saph, don't think we have forgotten that you still owe us an explanation
Dante, you got me mixed up with someone else and instead of me ignoring you, I decided to play along. My story on this page is one I tell so many times I was sure you were joking the day you asked. Most of my comments here, I always make reference to personal experiences. It’s also possible you misinterpreted my years of abstinence (which I regret) and believed I was a saint.
DeleteAre you satisfied?
Mammi Stella even if they nack the kpekus what is there, no be both of them enjoyed eeh, you dey talk am like person die mcteeww 😚🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteYeye dey smell. This one is kpekus broken. Not heartbroken. Next please.
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the problems with those who fall in love at first sight. People who don't take time to study someone before taking things serious with the person. Na so una go dey face heartbreak up and down. Ndi we must gbensh at first date.
ReplyDeleteYou think is all for love. Desperation for marriage can make some ladies to ' do and undo'. Once you say hi to them, next minute they are all over you till they get what they want.
DeleteStella you made me laugh 🤣
ReplyDeleteYou actually gave Yourself Headache nahhh
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you ask of his Age First
You just go Carry Leg Upstairs..
Him self no na WA for him
He cannot ask questions
Hope una use CD ooo..
Pele Dear...
Hello iya Boys
The guy gift am Super deek too.. which one be she go gift kpekus🙄
ReplyDeleteWhat's so special in kpekus,. Na all kpekus swwt??,. So annoying when dem go hoard am then when you come finally chop, e no swwt,. The guy go come dey disappointed and bounce, cos the wait is not even worth it, babe go come dey vex say him dey leave am after him don get wetin e want.. take time to tell yourself the truth, no one would leave something sweet nah, you think say I go chop swwt kpekus come bounce after one session, no nah.. Achalugo are you not swwt..
Back to the topic jare..
This is good for you, recently I have asked 2 ladies I was gisting with their ages and they refused to say,. You think say you wise, you refused talking about the age thing because you don't want to disclose yours, and even if you did, you for still lie about your age..
You better just enjoy the nackin while it lasts , then go back and focus on your life, don't try to hold that boy for a serious relationship,. Give him freedom to enjoy his prime, the same way you enjoyed yours .
You lucky say you dey enjoy young man for free, person wey you suppose dey pay as per sugar mommy wey you be🙄..
Na this kind things babes dey talk say "imagine fvcking an old man that don't give you money",. For this case, na you be the old man..
Have a blessed week 🙏🏾
Bitter truths they hate with passion.
DeleteWhat is this 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteDante you’re toooo funny!😂
DeleteLol Dante 🤣i have no words
DeleteDante ooo na bazooka you carry come
DeleteShe didn't just give her kpekus. Both of them enjoy themselves period
ReplyDeleteLeave the age matter, let's ask the important question everyone wants to know: 'How was the Fire'? Did he tumble and spread you like freshly laundered bed sheet?? Let's talk
ReplyDeletePls carry on joh
ReplyDeleteThe age difference is not too much
I didn't see where she mentioned that they did "the do". But how do you just meet someone and the next thing na to off clothes. Like, how? Nawa o! You weren't even AFRAID of this your distance friend's brother, if he's a ritualist or organ harvester.
ReplyDeleteThe things people amazes me a lot.
Must she mention it. What do you expect when you keep goat and yam in the same room??
Delete17:34 can stay and not sleep together na
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣Stella your mouth no good oh instead of comforting her you are adding to her agony .In Nigeria it can't work ,dust yourself and go on you have giving free kpekus ,life goes on
ReplyDeleteA fool at 36
ReplyDeleteWomen just dey fall hands any how, reason sensible men will use them play finish because they get them cheap. When it's time for them to get married they will start looking for their fellow sensible women.
ReplyDeleteYou just met , you don already rush go sleep for his house to show him you are a wife material or what???
Desperate chic, give yourself some respect before you start crying out loud.. Has he told you that he wants to marry you?? Why are you heartbroken?? Because he don see you finish, if not I wonder why you felt so. Don't tell me it's only because of age.
Still don't get the reason,why you're heartbroken? Age or the relocation?
ReplyDeletePoster,I don't see anything wrong with the age,the question is,do you both love each other or your just there for fun,my coursemate got married to our lecturer,and they are happily married,the guy is my coursemate while the woman is the lecturer.it all started like a joke.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteYou're not heartbroken - you’re embarrassed. There’s a big difference. You’re disappointed, maybe even feeling foolish, but let’s be honest: blaming him for your heartbreak is unfair when he was honest, and you were the one who misjudged the situation. What you're really frustrated with is yourself.
You assumed instead of asking, snooped instead of communicating, and now you’re sulking instead of taking responsibility. The truth doesn’t align with your expectations, and that stings. If age were truly a dealbreaker, why didn’t you verify it sooner? When something matters to you, you ask the right questions early, positioning your fears, boundaries, and deal breakers appropriately. That’s what intentionality looks like.
This isn’t the end of the world, even if your reaction makes it seem that way. What’s clear is that this situation mattered to you - perhaps more than you realised. But the problem isn’t the age gap; it’s your tendency to rush in emotionally without clarity. This isn’t about him. It’s about your pattern of impulsive investment. No judgment - we’ve all been there.
You ended a previous relationship for the same reason, yet you walked into this one blindfolded. What exactly do you want? Until you’re sure, be intentional, ask the right questions early, and don’t let emotions pull you into unnecessary pain. Stop seeking sympathy for a choice you made. You gambled and lost - own it. Life doesn’t just happen to you. Learn, grow, and do better next time.
Thank you dear Ebony Oge, I appreciate this so much.
DeleteShe’s heartbroken
DeleteShe planned the wedding already and now this revelation is stopping her
Sis this is not that deal breaker you think it is
Your friend knows your age so she probably told him already anyway
It is well, it's not the guy's fault, it's yours,you did not inquire from him and your friend before spending the night with him....Just move on with your life, it's not the end of the world....... Josaria
ReplyDeleteThe way you started it seemed like you wanted to have a one night stand. Which one conf be heartbreak inside this matter
ReplyDeleteSome of you carry this age thing for head like yam basket. The bigger question is why are so many church ppl having premarital sex. Why would you want to be involved with a hypocrite regardless of their age. He get up gone to church but pounded you out the night before, please. Same way he can ignore his religious vows is the same way he can ignore his marriage vows. Integrity matters!
ReplyDeleteYou see this relationship basics ladies pls be wise about it ,ask for age ,genotype, Sti and others. So that you ll know where you stand on time at 30s there are some things you need to know,if age is a must for you ask every guy you meet on the go.
ReplyDeleteIt's just like an AS person not to ask for genotype when she meets someone new.