This broke me in many ways!!!
Veteran Yoruba Nollywood actress, Dupe Jayesimi in an emotional interview has opened up on her inability to conceive and her failed marriage.
She revealed that before she got married, she was pregnant but had a miscarriage, which led to a marital dispute between her and her husband, who would always use a pillow to demarcate their bed.
“When I was pregnant, I was happy. It was later, the doctors observed that the baby was at the back of my womb. It was like I should get swallowed by the ground.
I questioned God, “I shouldn’t lie after so many years. I was 40 years old when it happened.
My mum refused and said I should adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death. So many children that I have taken good care of don’t even look back to check on me. Is it my younger sister’s kid, or name them?
For now, I have no other job than theatre, and it isn’t paying like before. May God not let me suffer in old age. It has been seven years since I worked last.
I did marry when I was pregnant, but weeks after, I had a miscarriage. Whenever my husband and I wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to demarcate the bed. So our body wouldn’t touch.
Two weeks after I left my husband’s house, he had a new wife come in immediately with pregnancy. I cried. I am not an alcohølic person, but because of that, I did turn into a drunkard.
I determined I wasn’t going to marry. I did IVF twice, and it got to a stage where I used to see a drop of blood every evening.
My father told me I shouldn’t fight anyone over their things: property, money and men.
I know how it is to be celebrated by your own kids. I haven’t seen anyone to celebrate me before. I believe that no one will ever die and get dropped on the roadside and they say it’s because she didn’t give birth. If there’s still life there’s always hope”.
Interview with Talk to B podcast with Biola
“When I was pregnant, I was happy. It was later, the doctors observed that the baby was at the back of my womb. It was like I should get swallowed by the ground.
I questioned God, “I shouldn’t lie after so many years. I was 40 years old when it happened.
My mum refused and said I should adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death. So many children that I have taken good care of don’t even look back to check on me. Is it my younger sister’s kid, or name them?
For now, I have no other job than theatre, and it isn’t paying like before. May God not let me suffer in old age. It has been seven years since I worked last.
I did marry when I was pregnant, but weeks after, I had a miscarriage. Whenever my husband and I wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to demarcate the bed. So our body wouldn’t touch.
Two weeks after I left my husband’s house, he had a new wife come in immediately with pregnancy. I cried. I am not an alcohølic person, but because of that, I did turn into a drunkard.
I determined I wasn’t going to marry. I did IVF twice, and it got to a stage where I used to see a drop of blood every evening.
My father told me I shouldn’t fight anyone over their things: property, money and men.
I know how it is to be celebrated by your own kids. I haven’t seen anyone to celebrate me before. I believe that no one will ever die and get dropped on the roadside and they say it’s because she didn’t give birth. If there’s still life there’s always hope”.
Interview with Talk to B podcast with Biola
This is so heart wrenching. I don't know what to say to you ma'am. Than give you a tight hug. 🤗😭
ReplyDeleteShe should have follow her mom advice to adopt a child, she could have adopted a little baby to nurse as her own. I wish her well.
ReplyDeleteI tell you
DeleteAt 60 now, where will she start from?
No, her mum was against her adopting. Stella made a mistake in her transcript. Her mother said that she would not accept any adopted child. Anyways, she shouldn't have listened to her mum and should have gone ahead to adopt. She can still adopt now, it's not too late. At least she will have someone to care for her in old age. At her age she has to face the harsh reality that she won't have a biological child of her own so she should just go ahead and adopt. Maybe not a baby because it's hard work for her age but a child around 5 or 6 years and raise her/ him with love and care.
DeleteHer mom said he'll force feed any child she adopted till the child kpai.
DeleteOne of her siblings is on tiktok ranting about how she made life difficult for them while growing up, no empathy from her so called family, you need to hear them talking about her😭
Exactly my thoughts. A child of 5 to 7 years will do her a lot of good now. May God clear her path and make things easy for her
DeleteIt's still not late, let her cry out , pple will go fund it for her, adopt a 7/8 yrs and start something doing
DeleteIt is better late than never. Do it now. Adopt a baby today. It is not over till we enter the grave.
ReplyDeleteGbamsolutely ☑️✅
DeleteShe should not adopt a baby at 60yrs pls.
DeleteWhich strength will she use to nurse a baby and she doesn't have money to get a nanny. She should adopt a child that is up to 10yrs and above. At least that one will be able to do some things for her around the house and take care of himself/herself to an extent. She won't be packing poopoo and weewee or washing clothes everyday, having sleepless nights and rocking baby to sleep.
I am touch by this, I don't know what to say to console u but I know Jehovah the almighty God and the hearer of prayer, the most compassionate being in the universe is paying attention to u.
ReplyDeleteIt's so heartbreaking
ReplyDeletePeople are going through a lot...
Hugssss ma'am... I don't think it's too late to go the adoption route though with God's guidance.
ReplyDeleteThis is so heartbreaking 😞. If she can adopt now, she should do so now.
ReplyDeleteMy fellow women if you reach a certain age adopt or birth yours
ReplyDeleteI keep saying this
Please I am pleading
Many women are crying this cry this woman is just bold enough to admit publicly
You won’t be young forever
Secondly have a source of income,have a source of income
I can’t overemphasize this
The world is wicked to poor women
I tell you this
The world will reject you ten times over if you are old poor and have nobody
Save towards tomorrow
God help us
I wish people will gather to celebrate this woman shaa
One day
Old and poor are the two absolutely worst states to be in. If she has not worked in seven years how will she care for the day to day needs of a child which can be quite expensive? Many ppl are saying she should do it now, but it doesn’t seem like she has much to even care for herself.
DeleteI wish the truth about ivf was put out there. It is not a cure all and the failures are much greater than the successes. I was told about 20 years ago that it only had a 25% success rate. These doctors should not take on ppl who they know have a slim to none chance and let them put them self into bankruptcy and destitution knowing their eggs/sperm are not healthy or they physically cannot carry to term.
It is well with you ma🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, I'm here thinking of terminating my pregnancy
ReplyDeleteHmmm, dis life 😓
Pls don't.
DeleteYou can give the child up for adoption.
I beg you please don’t. See me dey cry for babies for me and my sister
DeleteIt is Well
ReplyDeleteI read somewhere else that her mother refused her adopting, that she'll kill the child. It's really sad
ReplyDeleteMust have been some old world cultural beliefs. Ppl need to have the courage and will to break out of the clutches of cultural holds. Even if they had shun her she would not be moaning this loneliness and poverty. Obeying her mother and killing her soul. You can love your parents and still defiantly claim your life. How many are still under the stranglehold of parents and slowly fading away. They better go claim their life and get their slice of joy.
DeleteStop crying mama, it's not too late to adopt sha.
ReplyDeleteMay the good lord give you strength to stand.
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you Ma, may God come through for you E Hugs 🤗
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ReplyDeleteMy Friend did Surrogate and Had Twins Boys she just showed me their pic yesterday, She lives in America
She did surrogate here in Nigeria.
Story Plenty l will like send Her Story to iya Boys ..
It is well with you Ma
Hello iya Boys
She should have adopted a child whether her mom liked it or not, not every mother's advices are to be followed, by now she will have someone to love and love her in return.
ReplyDeleteWhen I told my elder sister I was going to adopt, she kicked against it and wanted me to try surrogacy. I told her I will not want to go through that stress. They dont want me to adopt. The want me to be taking care of their children for them. I have sense oo and will not allow rubbish. They are married, glory be to God. I will use my money to take care of myself and enjoy.
ReplyDeleteYou better go for adoption now you are still young and stop wasting your money on other people’s children. As soon as you have the legal documents, write a will naming the child the beneficiary of your estate in case of your death.
DeleteDon't mind them. They are selfish. Adopt a child and face your child. If anything happens now, they wont release their children to be with you.
DeleteThis is heartbreaking.
ReplyDeleteI wish she had adopted earlier but then it is still not late I guess.
It is well with her.
Thou it seems late but God does not come late, He will definitely come through for everyone looking unto Him for children
ReplyDeleteYou will have a reward
This is heartbreaking,it is well with you.
ReplyDeleteOh Lord... Hmnnnn
ReplyDeleteMay God continue to be with you 🤗
It is not too late ro adopt.
ReplyDeleteYour story is so touching and heartbreaking ma'am. Try and adopt if you still have the capacity to take good care of the child. It's not too late, just let it be a lil bit grown child and not a toddler or baby. God will help you
ReplyDeleteOne of her siblings is on tiktok ranting, it's obvious her family doesn't like her even her own mother, she said she's moved far from her mother, something I'm planning to do too so I can have peace of mind
ReplyDeletePlease do babe is you can, the only thing keeping me from doing same is money ,my peace of mind matters.
DeleteTraining other people's children does not mean they are your children, Some people dont have heart of gratitude. Ma, go to any orphanage home and adopt a kid close to 10 years. I pray God gives you a good man with children that will love and cherish you.
ReplyDeleteHow i wish i will connect with this woman. I truly love her in movies. I will treat her like my mother.
ReplyDeleteAnd you think she will trust a total stranger like you?
DeleteIf she needs a foster child , she has nieces and nephews
This is too much 😭
ReplyDeletema'am please you can still do the adoption now, it's not late.🤗🤗
It's is painful to read. God please bless every woman who desire a child. Fill their quiver with children amen.
ReplyDeleteThis is heartbreaking 💔💔
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you ma'am 🥰
Amen shaaa
DeleteHmmm..Too many drama..
ReplyDeleteShe failed to healed to her mum's words.
No Pinky
DeleteStella made a mistake in the narration
Her mother didn’t advise her to adopt
She rather told her that if she dares adopt a child, she the mother will force-feed the child to death!
It was supposed to read…
“My mum refused and said that I should NOT adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death”
Anon, she will never forgive her mum, so sad.
DeletePinky , it is heed
Shebi you are doing Masters now? Nawah o