Nigerian Netizens are on her page, dragging her word for word and telling her the dead Doctor cannot defend himself....She is replying every commenter who is against her, deleting comments and blocking.....
She also used the Domestic Violence hashtag and says she has videos and photos...
she should ignore them and focus on her kids. People will always have something to say, let God be the judge between her and the dead doctor.
ReplyDeleteI pray she will. But it seems they have carried threats to her mobile phone too now. That will be unsettling to anyone, in the middle of recovering from trauma. My thoughts and prayers are with their kids
DeleteDoes she appear as who suffered any traumatising experience or is traumatised?
Delete@17:46 Shame on you. Do you know her personally? Leave her alone and get a life.
DeleteI don’t know what has happened in their marriage but holding your ex and your kids ransom at guh point is not cool in any way. What did he want to achieve with that?.
ReplyDeleteClearly he was a sociopath. Being a doctor does not change it. He was the one lying about $15000 child support to his friends to paint his ex as a gold digging demon. Yet court records show a significantly smaller amount. Holding a gun to innocent children including a special needs child.
DeleteYou have seen all the bank records and the final order of court?
DeleteHowever, the any gun hostage attack, if real, is not justified at all.
Always quick to judge and ever ready to take sides...
ReplyDeleteThis lady will release more oo. I just wish someone will advise the guys family to release a generic statement asking for privacy at this time, so that Nigerians can rest
ReplyDeleteWas that type statement not what her father should have released at first?
DeleteI have a question, for those that say the guy spent a lot on legal fees . Did this lady not also spend on legal fees?. Did her lawyer represent her for free?
ReplyDeleteCan someone answer this anons question please
DeleteShe should just ignore them if she can..and focus on herself and kids
ReplyDeleteIgnore this kind of damning accusations!!!!!! Lai lai!!!
DeleteI believe you nne
ReplyDeleteMay God heal you and your kids 🤗🤗
Heya ,poor thing .May GOD give you the strength to fight trolls and dragers.
ReplyDeleteNa person wey die carry last.
ReplyDeleteWho go defend you like this now?
Onye ga ekwulugi onugi?💔
She should just ignore them and face her family while she finds closure. Netizens are too quick to judge especially if f the case is against their gender.
ReplyDeleteAll netizens are of one gender?
DeleteThere is record on this blog that both male and female judged her, and her still judging her.
She should just leave SM for now let her Focus on Herself and kids o..
ReplyDeleteHello iya Boys
She should continue! If the guy was really violent, he would have killed her, before killing himself! This woman is a 😈 demon! A human being just died! As many of you supporting this wickedness! May a man or woman finish you and your siblings and come online to disgrace you all after your death! Bloggers should even stop posting her; because if you don't report this matter in a ethical manner; it could lead to invitation of curses into your bloodline! There are some details that should be left alone! be warned!!!
ReplyDeleteGet lost!!! She should keep quiet and watch people spew lies against her bcos someone died abi? Let her talk, bring out more evidence she has.
DeleteYou this anon again. So, holding a gun to his family is not evil enough for you. You’ll rather he killed them. Your heart needs cleansing
DeleteNobody is supporting any wickedness and may all your curses return back to you in millions fold.
DeleteBecause he killed himself made him a victim bag? The two of them are the only real people that knew what happened in their marriage, people are just stating their opinions.
@ see ehn radarada soul! The curse is for all of you and the woman still coming to social media! As the man's family is going through so much suffering! Have you not heard of the bitter herbs curse, in the old testament! If truly she is innocent 😇; then she and her father will go scot free and all of you supporting her! If she really cursed Ikenna pain! Because now, he is dead and cannot defend himself! Then all of you supporting her; to come out and show evidence; the guy's spirit will come for her and all of you! Na me talk am!
DeleteThe guy held them at gun point; he didn't kill them! So is very obvious !
Stella, whose side are you on? I don’t understand nor do l appreciate your need to approve comments of curses being hyped on a woman and her innocent kids. This is wrong on so many levels, you have some toxic people on your blog.
DeleteAnon 16:11, all your curses are on you and your generations, do you actually know what happened between two of them, it is clearly shown that you lack wisdom, what if the man was the one at fault, don't you think you're cursing yourself and your generations like that?
DeleteIn anything before you talk, ask for forgiveness because you were not there, you stated your own opinions, others stated their own and you are frustrated and cursing yourself thinking you're cursing people because of it, get lost.
@ 11:41 are you that slow or daft? If the guy was really violent? Look at the rubbish you are spewing out of your rotten mouth. I’m tired of how some of you think. This is clearly a case of DV that has been going on for God knows how long. For a court to give whole custody to a parent means something. A fucking coward that realized it was over for him. You hold your children at gun point for what? If he really loved his children, he would have paid what the court ordered him to, kept his receipts and hoped for when the kids turned 18 for him to reach out to them. Violence is never the answer!!!!! The way this girl is being bashed online just irks me. Yes, her father had every right to speak up. That’s how you guys tarnish people for no reason. From the boys camp, people were claiming they were not married until her dad posted their wedding ivs. Enough of this bullshit. His camp should have respected him by laying him to rest, rather than coming online to spew bullshit. I’m pained, I don’t even know this people. How much is the alleged money he was supposed to be paying for a MD in the U.S?????
DeleteShe should stay off social media and arrange her life
ReplyDeleteI will always tell people, after evaluating who you want to marry, take time out to make inquiries about your would be in- laws, it saves to do so
ReplyDeleteSo, she deserves to be held at gun point because her father is se&ually irresponsible?
DeleteSo she deserves to not get financial support from the father of her special needs child. Because her father is se&ually immature?
Or, so his nobody should marry his siblings or have dealings with them because their brother holds people with g@ns for up to 3 hours?.
Please make your analysis make sense
Can you anonymous 13:05 in all honesty marry from this man you mentioned family?
DeleteAnon 13:05, correct. Everyone needs to avoid marrying that doctor’s siblings. To avoid getting held hostage with a gun & possible murder-suicide. Apparently they do not have good conflict resolution skills and do not want to provide for the children they brought into this world.
Delete15:02
DeleteShould people also avoid the woman's siblings (or better put, Mr. Van Lare's daughters) in marriage too?
Until you experience emotional, mental or physical abuse. You won't understand.
ReplyDeleteWhen most men have been trained to think they are superior to women and we are like objects.
Before you think yourself head of a home, are you mentally stable, do you seek wisdom to do the right thing always, are you financially
Stable, are you a good person, are you kind, emphatic, God fearing, full of love and kindness? The list goes on.
But most men think they can be at their worst with no efforts and still be regarded as a head. My dear that's not how it works.
For you to be a good mother you have to be caring, patient, full of love and kindness, hard working, avaliable, full of wisdom.
Until most men realise that real men/ leaders have qualities and if you don't have those qualities you shouldn't be heading a home.
How can a father pose a threat to his own kids? Who does that. Anyways when we are in an era where fathers now rape their own daughters, what do you expect. Women will have to fight for survival.
Be the man are we're created to be and you see women being the women they were created to be
Leave the men alone and stay your fathers' house!!! Is not by force to marry! If you can't cope with men's superiority behaviour; better stay in your father's house! Marriage is not by force! Leave people's children alone!!!
DeleteOf course men are trained to be superior, what stops a woman being trained to be superior too? Always claiming the weaker sex but also claiming what a man can do, a woman can do better. The gaslighting I’ve seen among modern women should be studied up to phd level 😀
DeleteSee all this long epistle is for nothing! See if you women can't move on peacefully until you kill a man first! Then Nigerian men will start killing you people inside marriage!
DeleteAs a woman! I have planned my life! My life is consecrated to God! 3 things, I will never fight over! 1) A man and care over his children; because is my children! I will move on peacefully!
2) Inheritance! My wealth is in Christ Jesus!!!
3) To live in a country illegally!!! Any country I have lived in , is God's privilege!!!
Leave people's sons alone; if they are not serving your interests! Let them be; because the men now will first kill you women before they kill themselves! If you guys continue !!! Nigeria men and men across the world now know how evil Nigeria women are! Them nor dey marry una again! Most of my male paddys now oyibo girls and even carribean ladies them marry! As Jamaican women bad reach! They are now better than Nigerian women!Leave our brothers alone! Them nor want stress! Now soft life them need!
Marry your fathers! The idiot up there saying men sleep with their daughters! I guess you father slept with you ; or your brothers are sleeping with their daughters! You all are now a global disgrace because of your greed and poverty upbringing say now Nigerian men una go kill because of soft life wey una fathers nor fit provide for una!!!
Women from soft backgrounds don't fight men over soft life! Na amotekun background now dey kill men inside marriage!!!
Nigeria men please look well before entangling yourselves with Nigerian jezebels.
Oga I have been married for more than a decade. It's you all weak men that leave in denial. When a woman tries to be all she can be, it's still you weak men that will try your possible best to drag her down. You want her to dim her light so she doesn't outshine you.
DeleteThank God modern women understand that marriage is not all of it.
I rather be single than be a wife to a useless and wicked man.
Thank God I was well brought up to know a quality man and not all these weak men everywhere..
Superior man that can't lead a home, that can't train a child, that can't protect his family is that one among Superior too...
Anon 12:29, don't mind those dunce under your comment. Dem no well at all.
DeleteI agree with you anon 12.29 but the abusers are on a roll using the internet to support each other. I know a man who beat up his wife in front of me on many occasions. One day, years later he said she was fabricating her allegations to claim their house in the divorce. He even told her to report him to the police if she
Deletewas telling the truth.
There is no sisterhood, it’s when women say ‘not all men’ that we embolden the abusive men. Men and women are not wired the same abeg. Men do not love in the same way as women. Maybe accepting this fact will allow women to prepare themselves for marriage with certain expectations outside the fairytale. If you talk, they will call you a feminist and ‘pick me’s’ will join them to bash you.
On so many platforms, women are being socialised to not ask for child maintenance. Just move on, they say. We are responsible for a man chasing us, love bombing, pretending and not picking up on invisible red flags.
Oga 12:53 I am a woman! The problem with Nigerian women is that you all assume a lot! If I be man! I nor go even near una!
DeleteMoreover now suffer head women full this blog! Stella dey groom una as tiger! but she is in husband's house tending him and family; but grooming you people to continue disgracing unaself online!
My own is leave Nigeria men alone! Make una father mould men for una! Let not enter house!
This pick me woman that came to comment under my post. I forgive you for saying maybe my father slept with me. My father is a man that no man in your generation can be.
DeleteI see things are are reported on the news, so I know what useless fathers are doing.
If you can walk away from your children and leave them in the hands of a man you can't live with any longer. Then you are a useless mother, another woman will maltreatment your children with the useless man you left. Idiot of a woman coming here to run your mouth. No responsible man will marry a weakling like you. Stay there and provide a man with soft life, lack of love offspring like you.
Men should take responsibility of the honour bestowed on them and stop being irresponsible men that demand for what they didn't earn.
It's really sad this man killed himself, this woman didnt kill him. Posing a threat to your children is a no no. Whatever made him to take his own life must have been something he couldn't live with. And for him not to kill his ex shows she wasn't too bad after all because some men will kill the woman first and themselves too like the 2 idiots up there.
Continue being a doormat with no value, no man will still pick you like this.
Aon 2:07. God will punish you for saying my father slept with me. So saying things that are now happening in the society means it happened to you. No man in your generation will be half the man my father was.
DeleteTalking about being your life being consecrated in God being talking about how men will start killing women first. You are disgrace to womanhood. No man will still pick even after devaluing yourself to be a toy to men. You think submission is about allowing men be hooligans.
This man killed himself not the woman. For the man not to kill his ex that means she wasn't that bad after all. Most men will kill the woman first before themselves it's been happening almost everyday, no need reminding you all the gender based violence happening and we know that of men against women is higher with a great margin though it's not a completion.
You are the idiot. Pick me worthless woman.
Allow a man you can't live with train your children the woman he will bring in will maltreatment them. Efulafu woman. You will be single because no reasonable man will want to marry a doormat like you.
Go be be giving a man soft life. You will die in manual labour if this is your mindset. You think God doesn't see your evil heart, no wonder you will die lonely. Coming here talking about God like you know God. Useless woman of a useless generation. I curse you for calling my father, may his spirit hunt you for the rest of your life.
I wrote something in general, not even about the Dr. That died because we do not know what the truth is and I know he was human, someone's son, father brother friend and all. All I made comment about was him posing a threat to his children which seems like the only information that looks true. And you are here running your mouth.
Is like you guys just learnt the world pick me! Nobody is on your guys level! A high value woman! Does not bring her family matter to the internet! When we started travelling across continents! Them never born some of una ! Oniranu radarada generations of poverty bloodlines; looking for men to leech on!!!
DeleteLeave Nigeria men alone and let fathers provide husband for una!!! Nobody really cares whatever you guys say on here!if una like ; make una cry from here to Jericho ! Na una saka!!!make una go mortuary go collect child support wey go kill of una!!!
High value man that thinks he has arrived just because he travelled out of Nigeria by a means we do north know. You think you are better than people living in Nigeria.
DeleteIf you think it's easier to make it in Nigeria where minimum wage cannot not cut it. Come back and run it.
Mkpi that thinks traveling out makes you a high value man. No responsible hardworking woman will pick a man like you. It's only women in your category that will pick you.
When I was advancing in my career and education you were busy trying to settle in an unknown place.
Man of little mind, leaving Nigeria is now an achievement. The highest you will ever get ewu.
"Be the man are we're created to be and you see women being the women they were created to be"
DeleteDoes this not sound like an alibi? A woman is not "being a woman she is created to be" because her husband is not "be the man"
Why would such a woman who knows her destiny pair with a man who is lost? If the woman too is not lost or has no where going to and waiting for directions? Why would a woman who missed her way to a lost man fight with him rather than quickly moving on and cutting all strings leading to a continuing fight with such a lost man.
Why do most Nigerian women who know so much always go with lost Nigerian men?
A Nigerian woman says " I am not because my husband did not or is not". Why?
God's speed beautiful. The survival guilt trauma is real. Go off the socials. 🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteToh!!!! I didn’t even have a problem with the men that were all out to get this woman because a man chose to unalive himself to avoid child support and not that the woman killed him oh, it’s the women who follow these men to bash a fellow woman that may just be an innocent person that I blame. I was just looking at all of u! Now y’all want to change mouth!!!! Shame on you all!!!! Shame!
ReplyDeleteshame on u too
DeleteEka don’t mind the association of long suffering women. Bashing a woman because she tried to financially protect her children. The ex was getting medical licenses from different states to avoid providing for his children. Yet people are making him a saint because he did not kill his ex & children before killing himself.
DeleteThis lady does not disappoint at any time reform omo gutter. You can always see from her comments on this blog.
DeleteWho are you @15.20? Leave Eka alone, she is entitled to her opinion. She always stands up for what’s right, not a weakling like most of you.
DeleteThe guy would have taken her along!
ReplyDeleteThat was his stupidity!!! Don't worry the men you people are frustrating will take you guys down first! Before they kill themselves!!!
One demon spotted, I pray that anytime you want to carry this your threats on another person's daughter, may God strike you de*d before that time, marriage is not by force, if it's no longer working, everybody should go their separate ways.
DeleteThat's why you will die single and have no child to take care of you, so you don't kill someone's child.
DeleteIs it not better to die single and make heaven than have a demon like you @ 14:55 as partner! Dying single is luxury for people with trust fund! No vultures and hawks like una type to frustrate them to their grave!!!
DeleteAs far as I am concern. This guy fucked up to have killed himself. Period
ReplyDeleteSome of these ppl online are absolutely disgusting. How can you go on someone page to rain abuse, ppl whose lives you know not one thing about. This worship of people with status as though they are some demigods, and infallible. I swear some will find themselves in hell for idolatry and will not know that this worship of humans is a form of idolatry, stop idolizing ppl because they have status, money, high education, beauty or whatever else you all sit around idolizing them for.
ReplyDeleteWould they have wasted time to rain abuse if he was a person of modest means and who worked a low level job and chose to end his life. Mtsscchhwww
Only God, the Deceased, Wife, nanny knows what truly happen.
ReplyDeleteNah who die Lose
Be safe, Everyone
Thank you for this
DeleteOnly God truly knows all.
DeleteAs Nigerians, it may even be said that the man and the woman do not really know what happened to them. But let us not expand the matter.
The Nanny knows nothing. She only witnessed events that happened in her presence.
It was on this blog a woman sought advice after her husband's CCTV recordings outed her as being the aggressor within 4 months of landing in the UK to join her husband. Clearly she went prepared to destroy the man who was better prepared for her based on knowledge of her and the UK system heavy reliance on "evidence" whether trapped or provoked or not.
Truly! Only God knows.
DeleteBut I do know tht in cases like this, most other men would have taken her and the kids before ending his own life. Thank God that isn’t the story, at least his conscience was still alive
Soon she will be advised to add cheating to the call out.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteMoreover who even knows whether she and her Nanny killed the guy! Now claimed that the guy killed himself!
ReplyDeleteAny man reading my comment on here and you are based abroad! Please stop marrying Nigerian women! Moreover if you are already in this kind evil situation! Pick your passport and relocate to another country! If she decides that you will never see the children! Goodluck to them! Walk 🚶♂️ away with your life!!!
One thing I will give American investigators is that they are damn good. They don’t sleep and they are highly competent, particularly those that work in big cities. Majority of the time they will nab those who commit homicide, so going off that, she did not.
Delete@16:48
DeleteYou first comment is not an impossibility.
It is known to have happened from time immemorial.
Your counsel is worth listening to.
Marriage and the children of a marriage belongs to the wife/mother.
After marriage, the only thing a man has absolutely is the right to decide where to spend his eternity in accordance with his religious beliefs/convictions.
My wonder is why mothers do not teach their sons this simple cardinal truth of life before their sons go into marriage. Is it out of fear that their sons will not marry? And is this the reason for the almost eternal patent or latent squabble between mother-in-laws and daughters-in-laws? Mothers let their sons into fire of marriage unprepared, and hang on the sidelines to protect them? They refuse to teach so that their sons would not know that their fathers were not always at fault as they brainwashed their sons against their fathers?
May God help all in marriage and wise up those on the queue for marriage.
People will always talk.you are married, people will gossip and even judge you in the process, you refuse getting married, people will still judge you, you lost your husband in a marriage, you will be judge, you find your self in an abusive home, you still be judge.so its best you do that pleasing unto God and live your life,the most important of it all,is to find happiness and peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteStella… for accuracy sake, they were not married, so she wasn’t his wife
ReplyDelete