Hmmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PROBLEM IDENTIFIED; SOLUTION NEEDED
I don't know what is wrong with me .
I don't know what is wrong with me .
I'm married to a very loving and responsible man, but whenever I dream of meeting another man, we'll both be madly in love in that dream, most times men I've never seen before, a total stranger or a celebrity.
Like last night I dreamt of being in love with one cute bobo, we were both crazy about each other and I even introduced him to my mom ,I was so angry anytime I wake up and see it was a dream cos I really enjoyed the dream, another time it was Tuface, he was so in love with me in that dream that I was angry when I woke up..
I wished the dream continues, wetin be my problem sef? Despite having a good man though he's not romantic but he shows me love in his own way.....
I hope no one writes that you have spirit husbands and or need deliverance...... Your hubby being unromantic is what has affected you cos you are a lovergirl...If you tell him about your dreams, will he accuse you of cheating?If not, discuss your dreams with him and also try to tell him to open up more emotionally......This is what being married to an emotionally unavailable man does to you......Be careful so that you dont go gbenshing out of your dreams oh.
Poster are you me? I dreamt where I went on a date with Alex Ekubo and the dream was so sweet and romantic that when I woke up I became angry.. it was even my husband that woke me up for school run and it made me very angry. Some men are joy killer honestly
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Reason I just pity anyone that want to take this gender serious, group of people that don't ever know what they want, acting and thinking like a kid all the time. Which sane person will be doing all those Oyinbo romance in this Tpain era. You don't have any other way to blame you man, you have fabricated romance again. If he his not romantic, you too take up that challenge and show him romance na, must everything be about you people.
DeleteThis is just a fantasy to cover up for the one you lack in your marriage.
DeleteSpiritual husband with a sprinkle of familiar spirit
ReplyDeleteGod bless you, you said it all. Poster pls pray ohhhh
DeleteOh please cut it out. Which spirit husband?? Mtsheww. Stella is so so right. I dream about this sometimes. I’m a lover girl and my husband is not a lover boy. As in..he is not romantic at allll. Plus he’s not emotionally available. I crave for that connection and romance and I find myself dreaming about this. It is importance to marry someone who has the same love language with you. It makes things smoother honestly.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Stella na spirit husband or someone close who is using that to bring division into her marriage. Nne biko, don't fall for any man now unless you husband has made it obvious, he is no longer interested. Do not use your hand to scatter the home you just described. Cast and bind that person/spirit, wella.
ReplyDeleteMadam get busy please. Nobody forced you inside the marriage, he was good for you when you started . What has changed?. Don’t use your hands to spoil what is going on well.
ReplyDeleteOn a second note, you might be sxx starved or you might be used to toxicity that a peaceful home is no longer triggering your xvxvhs. Check yourself.
😅😅 Poster on a lighter note when last did you treat malaria fever? Please visit the doctor to check you oh because your second name should be Josephina 😅😅...
ReplyDeleteJokes aside, If your husband is loving and responsible, why are you so hellbent on the romance aspect? Have you defined what romance means to you to him? Are you also romantic towards him?
Do you both understand your love languages and how you both take and receive love? I think you should have that conversation with him and thank God, we are in the month of love ironically......
Those dreams you are having are just fragments of your imagination, daydreaming, fantasizing the idea of men which you rightly said that you don't know....That is not reality, dear Poster....Forget Hollywood movies, Mills and Booms books and social media shenanigans...They are not real....
Your dreams are the reflection of the void you are experiencing but you can't throw away the 80% of something good & solid to chase around a flittering 20%.....
Starting from today, teach your husband how to love you and you want to be loved and please be patient because it won't be easy for him to unlearn somethings but hey both of you are on a journey and with time, you would understand yourselves deeply....Open up to him on how you feel, both of you should be curious about having deeper and honest conversations & connections......
Just him another shot again...
All the best...
Simple answer-he’s not fulfilling her love language. This where efforts take place.
DeleteMost times, you tend to dream about what you think or imagine. You desire that lovey dovey affection and care from you husband and because you probably ain't getting what you reminisce on, you dream about it. Sha don't tell your husband about your dreams, just let him know you need him to be more romantic and if it means you having to put him through how you expect him to treat you or what you enjoy if he does , kindly let him know.
ReplyDeleteThank you jare.
DeleteLol..u better respect yourself and face Ur marriage..
ReplyDeleteYou will use ur hand to destroy ur home! Continue dreaming of fine men!
ReplyDeleteIs it on purpose
DeletePoster be careful and pray against spirit husband
ReplyDeleteGo.and make l*ve to your husband for one week.
DeleteHere comes trouble
ReplyDeleteSo your dream is far from your reality? Hahahaha
ReplyDeleteI feel it spiritual husband o 🤣 🤣 . Whenever I see any fine guy that's not my husband in the dream, I always kabash against it seriously. 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't have a problem. Na ideal mind .
DeletePoster you sound like a shallow mind.
ReplyDeleteDon't use that mentality and cause problem for yourself or family. Guess you have what keeps you busy during the day??
I'm sure it's just a mere fantasy that later replays in the dream.
Are you a Christian?? Sometimes I will wonder if some Christians know why they are called Christians.
Those telling you is a spirit husband should help you tell him to send you money.. Rubbish.
The problem is that your eyes still dey outside. That's the reason for the dreams. You still admire other men that's why your subconsciousness causes things like that to happen in the dream and there is something you so desire in a man that you have not experienced in your marriage. You and hubby should work this out if he's a good listener. If he's not a good listener, he will never understand your plight.
ReplyDeleteHave you complained to him about being unromantic? Complain again and tell him about the dreams.
Another thing is that both of you are not romantically compatible. His definition of love is not thesame as yours and he may never understand why you feel he's not doing enough despite his genuine effort to make you happy and make the home peaceful for you.
Poster, I beg you, cherish what you have. He's trying in his own way, encourage him na.
ReplyDeleteTake him out on a date and show him how you want to be loved. Even if na ice-cream and pizza una chop, it will be remarkably. Please put a stop to this deliberately and pray for your home too.
Stella it is spiritual husband ho to the ha..... Madam for u to be having this kind of dream it means you have been lusting and imagining intimacy with and character of ur choice u create in ur mind, u imagine high level romance but not with ur hubby in mind, which have created an open door for spiritual husband to give you this negative dreams, you are loving those dreams right? Wait till those characters start knacking you to satisfaction, before you say jack problems here and there.
ReplyDeleteI hate those dreams and start firing prayers before it degenerates to what you cannot handle.
You seems to marry the available man not the man of your dream or the one you love, you need to stay put and hold on to whatever reason that made you choose your husband.
ReplyDeleteThis is why it's dangerous to advice women to pay little or no attention to loving their intending pattern, "just go for him if he loves you" doesn't work for many
Felicity
Look, babe, there’s nothing wrong with you. Absolutely nothing. You’re not broken, possessed, or ungrateful - you’re just human. And humans crave excitement, passion, and a little bit of madness in love. Like Stella pointed out, it is more of what is missing in your marriage - that lover-girl adventurous excitements.
ReplyDeleteThese dreams? They’re not accidents. They’re a part of your mind wishfully waving a little red flag, saying, Hey girl, I miss the thrill. I miss the butterflies. I miss feeling like the centre of someone’s world. And that doesn’t mean you don’t love your husband. It just means that stability and responsibility, as beautiful as they are, don’t always come packaged with that intoxicating, sweep-you-off-your-feet kind of love. Perhaps you compromised or sacrificed that part of your life to be in this marriage?
So you meet these men in your dreams - strangers, celebrities, cute bobos - and for those few hours, your soul gets to dance in a different kind of romance. The kind that’s wild, unpredictable, alive. And then you wake up and reality feels a little meh. That’s the part that stings and hurts, right? The return to normal.
Poster, your dreams are a mirror, not a prophecy. They’re showing you what you want more of, not who you’re supposed to be with. And instead of feeling guilty or confused, use that knowledge. Because you can have passion and security. You can bring the excitement from your dreams into your real life. But you have to stop waiting for your husband to read your mind.
If he’s not naturally romantic, guide him. Show him. Be playful. Introduce surprises. Romance isn’t something you wait for, it’s something you create - especially if you are with a partner who doesn’t know any better. And sometimes, you have to be the one to start the fire - not waiting for the fire to erupt.
So no, you don’t have a “problem.” Let no one lie to you about any "spiritual" something something. You have a wake-up call. Now, what are you going to do with it? You are married already, so initiate it. Except if your husband isn't that flexible and adaptable, then it might be a concern.
Exactly!
DeleteNothing is wrong with you poster. It’s just that you crave romance which your husband isn’t giving you. It also doesn’t mean you don’t love your husband or that your eye is outside (except you know your eye is truly outside).
If your husband is not adaptable to being romantic even after you try to initiate, then I really don’t know what to tell you cos I dey the same shoes.
Im sorry but I had to laugh. Those things you do in the dream with 2 face and co, why not practice it with your husband physically. I'm sure he would learn and accept it
ReplyDeletePoster, truly your eyes still dey outside. You didnt enjoy life when you were single?
ReplyDeleteYou need to caution yourself now before it goes out of hand, so you don't use your lustful dreams to spoil your marriage.
Again, ensure you pray before going to bed. If for any reason you dream such, rebuke and conceal the dream.
Respect your marriage.
Darling poster
ReplyDeleteYou don't have a problem
You are in good health
You have a loving husband
You have a loving home
You have a roof over your head
LOL.. You don't have a problem please
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Dear poster try to deal with this before it gets outta hand, if you feel your husband isnt meeting up certain demands, you talk to him about it. Na small small cheating the take start ohh
ReplyDeleteDear poster try to deal with this before it gets outta hand, if you feel your husband isnt meeting up certain demands, you talk to him about it. Na small small cheating the take start ohh
ReplyDeleteLife is more spiritual than physical. What you don't want us to tell her is what the problem is.
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Pray to overcome it.ls not a good thing.
ReplyDeleteU no get problem ni. U no see who u go date na Tuface. Annie calabar winch never reach you. U chest never reach. Better love you husband and stay faithful.
ReplyDeleteSpiritual husband with annointed familiar spirit is working on your case because you ,don't let those who are dead spiritually tells you nothing is wrong with you ,you are in need of help otherwise that you good husband will soon send you out of the house.Solution tell him your problem and seek help, remember devil comes to steal ,kill and destroy
ReplyDeleteLol. It's totally normal. I have those dreams once in a while.
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