STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SHADOW FROM THE PAST
When I was younger,I met a young man who proposed to me,I didn’t know him well, he came to my parents they refused,he left.
He tried to keep in touch but I distanced myself. He found me on Facebook and reached out but i blocked him.
Fast forward 7 years later I’m in a new city,I have a good friend,she liked me and told me we started our friendship. 2 years later she met a guy she wants me to meet,turns out it’s Kingsley the guy from the past.
It’s scary
It’s weird,what are the odds but we are here,this point…
He remembers me
I don’t know if he wants to say it to my friend or not
I don’t want him to..
I don’t know if I should tell my friend
I love her,I don’t want to lose her friendship, she’s my soul sister
Should I be quiet?
Should I just pull away from her friendship?
This man has asked her to take us out to dinner but I am going to decline
However this shouldn’t control my life
I’m angry ,I am confused,
I didn’t sleep with him at any point
We kissed once,So it wasn’t a s#xual relationship
I have not spoken to him in years and there was no communication whatsoever till he showed up in my friends life
What do I do?
SHADOW FROM THE PAST
When I was younger,I met a young man who proposed to me,I didn’t know him well, he came to my parents they refused,he left.
He tried to keep in touch but I distanced myself. He found me on Facebook and reached out but i blocked him.
Fast forward 7 years later I’m in a new city,I have a good friend,she liked me and told me we started our friendship. 2 years later she met a guy she wants me to meet,turns out it’s Kingsley the guy from the past.
It’s scary
It’s weird,what are the odds but we are here,this point…
He remembers me
I don’t know if he wants to say it to my friend or not
I don’t want him to..
I don’t know if I should tell my friend
I love her,I don’t want to lose her friendship, she’s my soul sister
Should I be quiet?
Should I just pull away from her friendship?
This man has asked her to take us out to dinner but I am going to decline
However this shouldn’t control my life
I’m angry ,I am confused,
I didn’t sleep with him at any point
We kissed once,So it wasn’t a s#xual relationship
I have not spoken to him in years and there was no communication whatsoever till he showed up in my friends life
What do I do?
Hmmmmm...........
This is serious..... You have to tell her cosif you dont,hewill and he may say a story that you cant explain yourself out of......If she likes him and they date or get married, both you and him will not be comfortabe with each other and she may be forced to choose....And you know who she will choose...
Cant you pretend that you dont remember him? becuase telling her doesnt proof you are a good friend oh, it might be misinterpreted as jealousy
You all will be fine.
ReplyDeleteDOZZYBEST.
Are you sure this guy is not trying to get close to you through your friend? Be careful
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
He is
DeleteThe whole thing is creepy, poster tell your friend and pray, the coincidence is too much
I don't get why you don't want to tell her, and you sound scared if he tells her. Are you holding back some info???
ReplyDeleteTell her but I’d advise that you have no ill feelings towards their relationship since this is not a situation of ur friend knowingly going after ur ex (we can’t even refer to him as ur ex sef) or ur ex going after ur friend.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, please relax and don't overthink things....Have your girls hang out and congratulate her and let her know that you knew the guy before, that was a long time but there was nothing serious between you guys... And you plead her understanding as to why you will decline the joint date offer and this is your own way of showing her the respect she deserves....Reassure her that you will continue to be supportive even if the relationship blossoms to marriage with him.....
ReplyDeletePlease don't have any private conversations with this Kingsley...He may want to reminisce on the brief moments you both shared but just nip it in the bud......
You have to realize that this might cause a strain or you may lose your friendship except she is very emotionally matured to understand your point of view and decisions....I will advise you to still be honest with her, she is your friend...
Allow her to process everything and if the Universe agrees, you guys can go on with your friendship...
All the best
The guy asked her parents for permission to marry her is kinda serious
DeleteSis pls did u at a point date the young man, if not why are u bothered or are u sure u are not blaming itself for not accepting him back then, seeing him now maybe looking better and cleaner.
ReplyDeleteBiko that energy you exerted then over ghosting and blocking him shld still be there, treat him like just a friend, tell ur friend u know him from way back but u guys did not have anything serious, or better still keep mute and act like you don't remember him period
Better forget telling your friend anything,you don't know him ,you don't tell anyone,let past remain in the past for your own good and mental health.
ReplyDeleteDo you like him now
ReplyDeleteYour next move depends on whether you like him or not
If you like him then tell your friend
Cause if he still likes you she might be about to marry someone else’s husband
It sounds bad but trust me you’ll be saving her a ton of heart ache if he just follows you. Marrying someone that’s in love with someone else is a terrible place to be and the fact that he hasn’t acknowledged he knows you makes me think he still likes you
Good luck
Just tell her
ReplyDeleteTell her na , shey you said she is your soul sister ? Tor . Tell her abeg any outcome you chest am . Simple .
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tell her but make sure you say it just the way it happened. Do not add or remove anything from it. If she like she should believe you or not. don't forget to put your phone on record when you are talking with her, tell her you don't want to attend that dinner with him. Make sure you don't put up any attitude when the guy is around, should in case she decided to be with him.
ReplyDeleteIf you both ever meet, just be yourself and never pretend you cannot remember him again.
There is no need for confusion or anger. Attend the dinner, act as if you don't know him, If he brings up the issue, just laugh and say that was in the past and that you feel he and your friend are better off together, If the man wishes to tell your friend later, let him go ahead but let it not come from you first, don't allow anyone use you to settle issues in their relationship or blame you if the relationship crash. You don't want him for yourself, allow them to enjoy their relationship and get married if they wish.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if it's the air in the country you people are too scared !! Tell her and rest pls!!
ReplyDeletePoster tell your friend about everything. She is your soul sister,she deserve to know the truth.
ReplyDeleteThere is more to this story than u r letting out. Either u had more wt him, or u r having more wt her now. I don’t see how u didnt immediately tell her in his presence at ur first meeting that u guys knew each other from way back. If she asks for more details after the meeting fine, if she doesnt, it’s all fine. But the way u r worried like something is going to be let out, is something that i can’t comprehend.
ReplyDeleteDo you have female friends. If you do you should understand how something like this can become an issue
DeleteIf I don’t like the guy, I won’t tell my friend
The ick factor might make her leave him and there’s no need for that