Hmmmm......
PREGNANT WITHOUT CONSENT
Please i want you people to help me Judge this before i inform the owner of the pregnancy...
I am currently pregnant for the first time in my life...I am in my 50's ooooooooooooh......Indeed what God cannot do does not exist...
I married my husband and one of the conditions is that we do not talk, think or even consider adding another child to the number of Children he has.....He is in his 70's and we got married for companionship and i to cover shame and enjoy myself well well cos he is not a billioniare but not poor....
I am shocked to find out that i am pregnant when i had given up and was just enjoying myself......
This news might probably break my marriage but do i care? He has kids that are already gatherign round him and showing him so much love, so this is mine and i will choose this baby over him......
I have a handsome amount of money saved and things acquired...I am not one of those ladies who dont have sense when married, so i can take care of my baby all by myself financially....
I am confused, should i tell him face to face or via whatsapp?If its via whatsapp then i plan to travel out of the Country we live in but if face to face, I will remain but i wont know how to mouth the words.
What do i do?
Having a baby at your age is quite risky but since you want this so badly then please see a doc to explain to you so that you can be prepared for the challenges before and after birthing your baby.
As for your hubby...I think whatsapp woud be better oh.....You will be able to say your mind without interruptions and all
Please tell him face to face. Everything you narrated here, tell him same in a polite and loving way. He's your husband and the father of that child.
ReplyDeleteWhat makes you think he is the father of the baby?
DeleteGetting pregnant at 50 is a HUGE miracle
Madam please take care of yourself and keep that child.
Do not let anyone convince you to abort the baby
Are we sure the husband is the father of the baby? I ask, because, she keeps mentioning "enjoying myself" - which feels like code for infidelity.
DeleteWhy is anyone not seeing a woman who betrayed an agreement she signed of no more child?
DeleteWomen should stop this intentionality of getting pregnant when there's agreement against having one.
© TEEJAY
@Tejay, didn’t you read well? Can’t you see this is an act of god. It wasn’t intentional. She is just pleasantly surprised that she could make a baby at her age. The Baba also married her believing she’s post-menopausal.
DeleteIt's not clear who the father is? If it's your husband then you must have your baby. This is a high risk pregnancy. You better already be on a plane to the west.
ReplyDeleteMadam u r legally married abeg carry go. Congratulations, i wish you a safe delivery. May Allah make it very easy for u.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what, do not take out that precious child.
Madam pls tell your husband, he is a man and an elderly one at that, he will understand you,tell him via any means, Whatsapp or face to face. If he loves you, he will be very happy for u.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Poster. Continue taking care of yourself and your unborn child. Good you are putting yourself and happiness first.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you. I wish you safe delivery.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations 🎉👏 poster. Please tell him face to face. God did miracle for you. He is your husband. You didn't plan it ,but God granted your desire. Thank God you are capable as you wrote you pick your child over him. God will help you carry the pregnancy. Nothing spoil.
ReplyDeletePlease Tell him Face to Face
ReplyDeleteYou never can tell he might be happy ooo
Congratulations Poster
May God Almighty Keep you and your Unborn child healthy...🙏
Hello iya Boys
Congratulations madam. You know, late mothers like you have very high chances to live beyond 100? Yes. There are medical advantages to late motherhood and also spiritual as the soul lingers to nurture and support the little life it created. Medically, there are “repairs” your unborn child send stem cells to take care of, even undiagnosed illnesses. So yes, there is at least one or two advantages to late motherhood, not just the many woe and negative ones.
ReplyDeleteOn your chronicle, make your plans of overseas trip but tell Baba. He might just end up happy for you. You could just wait till later stages before you tell him.
Wow! Such a good news congratulations in advance jaree, just tell him face to face and face any challenges that comes out from it since you are ready for it,but I believe that God who did it for you will still change his mind I believe so no much fear.
ReplyDeleteGood luck 🤞
You have seen a child that will keep you company at old age . Thank God for you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for you poster, congratulations I pray God that did it won't fail you,He will see you through the nine months journey,wishing you a safe delivery.🙏🏽🌹❤️
ReplyDeleteCongratulations.. please tell him and wait for his reaction and take very good care of Ur yourselves and stay away from anything that will stress u
ReplyDeleteIf the child isn't for him, then be ready for the consequences of infidelity. Unless you're sure he's responsible, then you can go ahead and tell him. I won't fail to blame you as well for reneging on the agreement of no child from your husband. You didn't keep to the bargain. This is a breach of trust and a betrayal.
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't accept a condition and then flout it. So selfish of you. At such age, how do you expect a 70yrs old man and 50yrs woman you're to be babysitting a new born?. Just like Stella said, at such age, you need doctor's counselling and all that.
Whatever you do, pls do not abort the baby unless when it's a threat to you and recommended by a competent doctor.
Be ready for the frustrations that will meet your pregnancy. This is my last advice, since you're financially buoyant, leave after telling him and you sense the body language not favorable to you.
© TEEJAY
How did she renegade or fail to keep the promise? Did you not read the chronicle?
DeleteCongratulations to you dear.
ReplyDeleteFace to face talk is best for me. So that you can seen his facial expression.
This is a thing of joy
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ma
You will deliver swiftly like the Hebrew women
This is a good news but also a breach of contract, considering your decision with husband before getting married and even risky considering your age. You need to see a doctor as soon as possible. Please, tell your husband when he’s in a very good mood. You can say it jokingly first and hear his response, if he gets angry, you end the conversation at that moment and tell him via WhatsApp later.
ReplyDeleteIf you’re not worried about violence then tell him in person … that’s how to deliver important news
ReplyDeleteYes, you should tell him, he is the father of the child and your husband. People do change their minds all the time, and the way he felt about children may not be how he feels today. If he is in his 70s, then his children are likely already adults. Please stay positive and take on an uplifting mindset, while you did not marry for love, there is a tone in your chronicle that make it seems like you are at odds with your spouse. Maybe you are overthinking it and allowing negative thoughts to cloud your mind. A child often brings joy to older adults and give them an inspiration of purpose and something to live for. Do not do anything in secrecy, if God has blessed you at this time then do everything with clean hands so no offence will be found in you.
ReplyDeleteMay you have a healthy and successful pregnancy and an uncomplicated delivery. Stay prayerful and positive through the process.
Late pregnancy is very complicated. When I had my last daughter @ 33,it was really traumatic experience for both of us. I didn't lactate. You have to go work with your doctor and tell the father of your child. You also need emotional support not only financial support. God will see you through ma'am. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteI praise God with you.
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