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Hello Stella,

Trust work is good.
I am writing this chronicle on behalf of my younger sister.
We are four kids, I am the first, the Ada of the family, with an only sister who would be 28 years old by May. I literally carry every of my siblings matter on my head like gala. Lol

Let me give a brief description of my sister. She is beautiful, intelligent, an extrovert, likes to party, travels a lot and in fact very adventurous. She is witty, has a long of circle of friends who adores her, exact opposite of me. Funny enough, she likes book too, she ended up with 2.1 in mass communication at University of Lagos, further did her masters and came out with distinction. Babe has a great job and we are super proud of her.

Now back to my chronicles, her relationship life is what we don't understand, my sister is so high standard, which is fair enough, but the challenge here is before she starts a relationship, the relationship has ended.The reason isn't clear to us. when asked, you hear things like, he can't hold a conversation, he is very domineering, he is archaic.

Finally, my sister started dating, as in serious relationship we were all excited, she would call and we will talk about it, my sister seemed happy and we were all happy with the new development in her life.

We are Edos and the man let's call him Mr A is from the west, he is based in Canada , they were former colleagues before he relocated. Their love blossomed, and the guy demanded for an introduction, which was late 2023, he said he wanted them to get married 2025. His reasons were he wanted to finalize his papers over there, before they get married. Stella, we were so excited. 

Finally! aunty don gree say she go marry this one. Fast-forward to the introduction day, she picked him up from the airport and took him straight to our house. My Dad as usual, asked for his intentions and he said he wants to marry my sister, and he accepted the wine. She also visited his parents too, and they all accepted her.

Mr A is from a pentecostal background, while we are Catholics. He also an only Son .His father is a pastor, and his mom is all those educated women who is deep rooted into their culture and values. My sister and his mom both studied the same course, she is a journalist, hence the excitement from her. She received her wholeheartedly and gave her wrappers as a sign of her acceptance. I have never seen him, because I am married and I stay in the east, I was briefed every step of the way. I even asked for his number, but I later changed my mind and didn't reach him as advised by my hubby.

The relationship continued normally and her birthday last year May, they went on vacation to Doha. She lied about the trip to my Dad and said it was a business trip, my papa wouldn't agree to such arrangement. I was so excited and thought he was gonna propose on her birthday May . She came in, a week before her birthday. Asked her how it was going, and she said they went for a dinner date, that he got a call from his best friend that his mother just passed on, died of cancer, and that ruined their dinner date. That her man was in tears all through. Hmmm! I sensed something fishy but I was like let me not doubt it. The vacation ended and my sister came back to Nigeria. He went back to his base.

Now Stella, February before the vacation, my sister told me she started noticing how cold he was towards her, when they have issues, she must always be the one to reach out first, always busy. She said his Mom usually calls to pray for her and gist with her. One certain Sunday, she called and asked which church she attended and my sister said, she just returned from mass and she said something really funny which didn't sit well with her, but shoved it. 

My sister had earlier told me that she had the discussion with him and that she will convert after marriage.
Fast forward to September last year, I called my mom and we discussing about me and when I would visit Lagos, because my parents stay in Lagos. I told them that since my sister was getting married next year (2025) I would be In Lagos. jokingly tho, that was how my mom was like which marriage and that there was no marriage, In fact they have broken up, that I should call my sister and ask her about it.

I called my sister, she then opened up to me, that shey I know before the Doha trip that he was already acting funny, that it was a big issue in their house his mom said he didn't want her because she is not from the west and that she is Catholic. He said he kept pushing the relationship to see if he would be able to convince them. Hence, he didn't want to tell her and continued stringing her along. My sister said she didn't have the slightest idea until about August before the break up ,when he told her he was going to send some money to her, and that he wants her to use the money to buy gifts for both their parents. He suggested my sister buys hamper, blender for his mum and go deliver it herself.

My sister said she bought different collections of fruit in a basket and blender as instructed and called his mom, she wanted to do a surprise visit, but his mom kept postponing and due to the fact that she bought perishable items, she just decided to go on her own accord. She even called his sister too, who kept giving excuses that the mom was busy and all.

She booked uber straight to their house and met the mom at home, gave the hamper to his mom and immediately the woman saw she started yelling, saying 'I really don't know what you want from me' like don't you get the memo. My sister said she was so embarrassed, this guy didn't even tell her, that the mom doesn't want him to marry her. Prior to that she was still checking up on her via calls.
My sister already got the memo, called him to hear his opinion, only to get the shock of her life, that they have been a back and forth over the relationship in their house and his mum insisted that he can't marry her, all this started February even before the trip.

My sister then asked what he wanted, he then said that, he would fight for them to get married, but she should have it at the back of her mind, that the marriage isn't going to be rosy at first, and maybe when the kids start coming his mom's attitude towards her will change. They initially had an agreement to conceive after a year of the marriage. My sister broke up and said she can't put up with that, he is the only son and she will not be the reason why they will not be in good terms. He still chats her up once in a while to know her stand.

Stella please what do you think about this, do you think she should continue and let's see the outcome.
She is family oriented, she is saying she would be heartbroken, not having this mother in law - daughter relationship.

I would also send her the link let her read. Please update me, when you post.
Thank you for your time, you are doing a great job here.
I hope I didn't bore y'all with my long story.
Thank you.

Hmmmmm...Thank you for  the compliment on my work.

Please the mother should go and sit down..her dare her try to order her sons life cos he is the only son? Please marry let her marry that man if he wants her..When they are tired, they will settle with you...Tell your sister not to let that woman win....Let her go on ahead....