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GIVEAWAY GONE WRONG
Happy new year to you all. I just want to bring this here to know how best I can handle this person. I sent a woman to help me gift 13 less privileged persons that is obvious that the person really needs it ; people they don't have any means of income, people whom you can see at a glance that they will definitely not likely to have anything to eat on Christmas day.
I mentioned women with little children ,elderly moms and dad's that you can see from their appearance that they can't afford anything to eat on Christmas day. Young men too. And I also wanted evidence as well.
She said she will do it. She went on to tell me I should gift 26 people instead of 13 as it'll reach more people I thought I was dealing with a reasonable person.
She now went on to start gifting security man in the bank that gave birth to more children than he needed to ,started gifting women on her street selling yam and boli to help support their business because she said she didn't just want to gift people that were too lazy to work or didn't want to work.
My heart sank because it has turned to her own unction, agenda and conviction rather than mine. Who is she to determine that? My aim was to put food on the table of people that really needed it not a business support program.
If I wanted to do that I would've told her that. My family experienced Christmas without food on the day so when I had the opportunity through the almighty God to put food on the table of people I instructed her to she turned it to her own agenda .
It hurts me because 26 people and their family would've been fed on the day from me but someone else diverted their funds to others due to their own agenda.
Today is the 2nd of January, she still hasn't gifted it all out funds that was to be gifted before 25th. She's been sending me messages I haven't replied because I needed to seek how to respond to her . She said she has transferred some money this wasn't the plan, the plan was to gift it in cash to people on the streets not her people she wants to support with someone else's money.
The only person out of the 4 she did a video that I'm happy with was a blind woman. the other's were people with petty businesses on her street.she decided on her own to support, i know how important Christmas food is to us hence my intention to make sure I put a smile in the belly of people who can't afford to eat on the day but someone else has now turned it to something else.i was hurt to the extent that I cried this morning.
I was an instrument of answered prayer for Christmas rice to some families but someone else thought otherwise. There is God ooo .Am I wrong for feeling like this or is she right ?
She is definitely wrong and i am sure she told them she is the one doing the giveaway...Please Instruct her to refund the money to your account and get someone else to help you gift less priveledged families, thats not too diffuclt...This lady wants to take the remaining money for herself.....Collect your money back and block her on whatsapp...Anyone who is not sincere with money is a dangerous person to be in contact with.....
She did bad.
ReplyDeleteSomeone gave my hubby monies to share for people last year, till today, they would come and thank my hubby for putting food on their table on Christmas day.
Even though the person might mean good but the person lacks integrity, my type would kindly decline this errand. The reason is because I believe in charity beginning at home, maybe likewise the person. I can't go to offer help to someone elsewhere I don't know while there is someone I know in my street who needs same help.
ReplyDeleteSomeone with integrity would have declined to go for the errand or tried to convince you and you agree first.
Exactly! Imagine searching the nook and cranny of Nigeria for people in dire need. She could've just asked her to go to the core north na
DeleteShooter, she didnt need to go to the core north dear, forget social media propaganda, have u seen the core south south? Those towns that live on water? Have u seen their living conditions? They also need the help.
DeleteThe Ijaws yea? They have a settlement somewhere in Lagos too, can't rem the name. Sad sad stuff!
DeleteTrue o
DeleteAre you out of the country cos that's the only reasonable excuse for not doing the giveaway yourself
ReplyDeleteShooter Gyal
There are some things rich folks can’t do for themselves…unless you want to get mobbed
DeleteDear Poster Happy New Year 🕛🎊 to you....Sorry about what happened as everything didn't go as planned....You have every right to feel that way being that you trusted this person to carry out this task for you....
ReplyDeleteThe truth is this was a God given vision and not everyone would understand it the way you received the message...I would have preferred you carried this out yourself as this is your 1st time or collaborated with the welfare unit of your church or NGO around you to help....
Money really brings out the true nature in people...The woman is clearly wrong and not to be trusted with things concerning money...
This year is another opportunity to plan better for the next giveaway and do so strategically better still start planning now....
Even though it didn't go as planned, please pray for those who have received the blessings and May God bless the works of your hand (Amen)....
As per the remaining funds with her, let her return the remaining money to you and get a genuine orphanage or charity organisation to give the money; it's never too late to bless people..
All the best
Thank you Stella ,everyone and you phoenix I always look forward to your comments. I won't ask for the money back .I will just let it go . Giving through church and NGOs is really not my thing as I know they divert funds to themselves first and give a pittance to those that need it . I prefer this way as I'm certain I will reach at least 80% of those that really need it. I had a beloved one that supported me in doing it to my satisfaction in the past but she's now of blessed memory . Like you suggested I need to plan it better by God's grace . Pls if anyone has any reasonable idea on how best to achieve this I'll be grateful. She didn't do it for free o I also gave her money. It is well.
DeleteSo sorry poster. The best way is just to reach out to the people directly. Bethesda school for the blind have an account number, some orphanages have account numbers as well. So you send this money directly to the account without any 3rd party, sure you will be happier this way. Me I do my giving myself though it's stressful as per logistics palava, paying it into thier account is easier and gives peace of mind. Pele poster. I suggest you can do it this way
DeleteYou have every right to feel the way you do. That's betrayal and it hurts. Let her refund the remaining part of the money back to you and make sure you let her know how disappointed you are in her.
ReplyDeleteGod sees your heart and knows you meant well. God bless you.
Exactly!
DeleteGod sees his or her heart and will reward him abundantly 🙏
Please next time do it yourself
ReplyDeleteI just tire
DeleteI guess she is abroad, reason she did it via second party.
DeleteDon’t stress, poster. The Lord sees your heart and will reward you abundantly.
I had a similar experience.
While walking to my mum’s house, I was on a call with an old friend abroad. There’s this family living near us that we occasionally help with clothes and food. As I walked, their little kids excitedly ran up to me. I paused the call briefly to tell them I’d visit their house after my call.
The friend overheard and got curious about them. I switched to a video call, showed him the kids, their house, and their situation. He seemed moved and said he wanted to bless them with ₦50k. I was overjoyed and prayed for him immediately.
I suggested he transfer the money so I could withdraw it via POS and give it to the family so that they can pray for him via video call. He agreed, but by the time I finished my errands, neither the money nor his call came through.
I followed up, and he claimed network issues were preventing the transfer. Since I had just received my salary, I decided to cover it and told him to keep trying. I gave the family the money, and they prayed for him as promised, even my mum joined in the prayers.
In the end, the friend never reimbursed me. He kept avoiding me, acting busy, until I eventually let it go. That marked the end of our friendship.
It still stings, especially when the family keeps asking about him and praying for him, but I trust that God will repay me in His own way.
You have a good heart. God will bless you massively soonest.
DeleteThat was not nice of the friend.
JustAmy
DeleteSad as your story is, how does it relate to what poster is saying.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
First of all, you should have stood firm on the original number of ppl you wanted to gift. You knew your budget abd what you could afford with ease and at the capacity you wanted to.
ReplyDeleteSome ppl are like that, it’s just their personality trait, they do not follow instructions and once money is in their hands they takeover as they desire. You can either specifically choose the ppl yourself, make the time to do the gifting yourself, or ask her to send the remaining funds and never do something like that again with her. Whether or not you choose to address your displeasure is totally up to you, but there will be another Christmas in 12 months, there will be another opportunity to do this just as you want it to be done.
OP, I must commend your for your altruism. However, I believe you should have handled it this way. You should have gotten her to compile for you the names backed with video evidence of people to help and their situation. Then you could have gone ahead to vet them yourself and also initiated monies to be sent them.
ReplyDeleteYou gave her room to use her judgement. And she used her discretion. Technically, she didn't go against your intentions as such. She just didn't give the people you felt needed it more.
Perhaps your instructions weren't clear enough. Communication is very key. What people hear and what they understand are two very different things.
Don't be so hard on yourself. What matters is that people were helped and your intentions were genuine.
The remaining money with her, tell her not to disburse anymore but rather, she should send you names and situations of possible recipients so you vet yourself and approve.
I believe you have been relating with this person before and she showed you some measure of financial accountability that's why you put this is her hand. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
She is not trustworthy, tell her to send the remaining money to you.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless your good heart.
Poster, just as Stella said ask for your money. Tell her to stop. Be subtle.Don't show annoyance she may not refund
ReplyDeleteAsk her how far? Then Tell her you have other plans. After which you will tell her to refund. Bare your mind on what you observed.This should be face to face. If she has idea that you are not happy ,she will keep the remaining money while claiming she has shared all
Be tactful. May God bless your heart
Hmmm.
DeleteI doubt if this person will refund.
God bless the giver
Christmas is over. Take that as a lesson because of next time. Let her finish what she started. Whoever that receives the money will surely pray for you.
ReplyDeletePoster, your reward will not be lost. God knows your heart and your intentions. So don't feel so bad.
ReplyDeleteThe Lady you sent isn't trust worthy, but God knows.
Next time go through NGO's as some have suggested or direct contact with recipients you may pick.
This way you will have control who you are giving to.
God bless you.
It may be a bit difficult to get all the monies from her. You can ask her to stop and send the balance as another idea just came to you.
Your first Line 👍👍👍
DeleteIf you cannot do it Yourself
ReplyDeleteKindly Look For A Trust Person to do it...
I still prefer you do your Thing ..
Some people cannot be Trusted when it's comes to Money..
Haba she no do well the Fact You even Paid her to do The Job.. some human are Some how shaa
Nah So some People dey Mizz Luck ooo..
God Bless You Richly 🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
Human beings are of different kinds of characters
DeletePoster,the deed has been done. Move on and don't use her again. Thank her,for her effort.
ReplyDeleteI live in the same compound with this guy, his supposed wife and their baby. The baby cries because the mother isn't lactating enough to feed her and all this is thanks to poor nutrition. They don't feed well. This is where it gets interesting: the guy has refused to work and the wife isn't doing anything either. She plaits hair for people about she hardly gets customers. Times are hard.
ReplyDeleteThis is where it gets interesting: this guy has refused to work. He says he is a yahoo boy. This is an old man in his early 40s. We got him jobs but he turned them down, saying he can't stoop so low to work for people. This is someone who cooks with firewood oh. When his wife gave birth last year, she was detained at the hospital because he couldn't pay the bills. He took the bill to different houses in our area soliciting for funds. He also took loans. He paid the bills and they spent the rest of the money cooking aromatic meals. The wife is a great cook. When she cooks, she sets the whole place on fire with aroma. After spending the money, they went back to square one. They couldn't even pay back the loans they took because they don't work. The guy's mum pays his rent.
If I was the one you gave this money to share for people who can't afford food for Christmas, I'd rather die than give this couple anything from it. They are lazy and have refused to work. She encourages him in his yahoo dealings, hoping that he will cash out soon.
People doing petty trading live from hand to mouth. They don't make enough to support themselves. You shouldn't feel bad that she gave such people money.
There are other people
DeleteAnother vdm sighs
ReplyDeleteI live in the same compound with this guy, his supposed wife and their baby. The baby cries because the mother isn't lactating enough to feed her and all this is thanks to poor nutrition. They don't feed well. This is where it gets interesting: the guy has refused to work and the wife isn't doing anything either. She plaits hair for people about she hardly gets customers. Times are hard.
ReplyDeleteThis is where it gets interesting: this guy has refused to work. He says he is a yahoo boy. This is an old man in his early 40s. We got him jobs but he turned them down, saying he can't stoop so low to work for people. This is someone who cooks with firewood oh. When his wife gave birth last year, she was detained at the hospital because he couldn't pay the bills. He took the bill to different houses in our area soliciting for funds. He also took loans. He paid the bills and they spent the rest of the money cooking aromatic meals. The wife is a great cook. When she cooks, she sets the whole place on fire with aroma. After spending the money, they went back to square one. They couldn't even pay back the loans they took because they don't work. The guy's mum pays his rent.
If I was the one you gave this money to share for people who can't afford food for Christmas, I'd rather die than give this couple anything from it. They are lazy and have refused to work. She encourages him in his yahoo dealings, hoping that he will cash out soon.
People doing petty trading live from hand to mouth. They don't make enough to support themselves. You shouldn't feel bad that she gave such people money.
She wrong because that was not what you sent her to do
ReplyDeleteFor me poster, I prefer you go through your church or family church as the case may be.
ReplyDeleteLike in my church, we give to very poor members, orphans and struggling students.
Asked that she returns the balance money.
My relative is on this table
ReplyDeleteI named the people. She still split and shared with “people that need it more”
As much as I understand her motive, it doesn’t encourage one to do things with that person.
You know the sender also gives this person money to do the work. Why jeopardize that relationship by doing something else
Another day poster will use someone else and this person will wonder why
I don't think she meant any harm. However,.if you're not comfortable with her anymore, ask her to refund the money back to you.
ReplyDeleteShe meant every harm. Respect people's wishes.
DeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
When people give you money to do something, do it. Integrity is everything. The distance between where you are and where you want to be can be through the gift of men. Who knows , if she carried out this task, Poster would have blessed her mightily. It doesn't take anything to do it, it is her vision and her money. If it is yours, do as you like. You may not like why Poster wanted it that way but do it for her that way. That is her vision. That is her dream.
ReplyDeleteHow hard is it to just do it?
Some of you invite closed doors to yourself through lack of wisdom.
Everything is not deliverance sessions, some it is learning how to be an honorable woman or man.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
the epidemic of insecure people who want to feel important, noticed and validated can be a factor , her local community seeing her as a benefactor
ReplyDeletethe epidemic of insecure people who want to feel important, noticed and validated can be a factor , her local community seeing her as a benefactor
ReplyDeletefollowing your instructions may not get her that adulation as benefactor
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