BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND A SISTER IN LAW
My sister inlaw is just trying me but i will change it for her this year.
She is married to my elder bro. I dont have any problem with her. I try to show her love but looks like she has a mission and I've tolerated her enough.
She doesnt want to have a relationship with me but she want to have with my husband.
She is married to my elder bro. I dont have any problem with her. I try to show her love but looks like she has a mission and I've tolerated her enough.
She doesnt want to have a relationship with me but she want to have with my husband.
Some years backy husband travelled and he went to see my mother. He met my sis inlaw there who also came to spend time with my mom, they exchanged phone numbers. I dont have a problem with that but I found out she and my hubby call each other to gossip about my family. And she also calls him to tell him about any issue she has with her husband my brother.
I travelled to see my mom and she was there too. I tried to be close to her but she was withdrawn and I allowed her. The day I was leaving I asked for her number because I lost it prior to my visit. It happened that my phone was in my bag and my bag was in the car that I was travelling with. So I called out my number to her and told her to flash me, I will save it when I get to the car.
She told me she has flashed and I bid her goodbye and left. When I brought out my phone I found out that she didnt flash, she lied. It dawned on me that she doesnt want communication with me.
She still continue with calls with my hubby. Things that happen in my family that I dont want my hubby to know, he will know through her. They gossip my mother and her husband .
So I secretly deleted her number from my hubby's phone. My niece that is staying with her, I planned with her and she also deleted my hubby number from her phone.
Lasy week hubby was saying it's been long he heard from her and he doesnt know how her number erased from his phone, I just kept quiet. He even said I should help him get her number from my brother.
My brother you dont talk to but you want his wifes number.
Right now i've break the chain of communication with them but if I find out they are talking again. I will report her to her husband .
Right now i've break the chain of communication with them but if I find out they are talking again. I will report her to her husband .
Hmmmmm what kind of yeye friendship are forming?I am glad that you deleted her number.....I wanted to say that you are jealous and angry cos she doesnt wanna be friends with you but i read through again and that gossip between her and your hubby is a no no...Shame on that your husband for stooping low to become a sissy cos of gist.....Before sister in law go snatch your husband say na gossip dem dey......If she contacts your husband again, please make sure you change it for her......Keep us updated please.
I’m wondering why both people married into ur family have found solace in communicating with each other.
ReplyDeleteYou will keep wondering until it happens to you
DeleteBinam, maybe it’s you it will happen to cos that ship sailed a long time ago for me 🙄
DeleteWill their WhatsApp chats erase as well. Call her to order as fast as possible. Imagine
ReplyDeleteThe both of them are shameless. I have no problem if they want to be friends (na dem sabi), but to call and then gossip about your mum and her husband. Trust me, your husband will look for a way to get her number.
ReplyDeleteSome people don’t set boundaries at all. Husband and sister in-law, you better shine your eyes before you hear another story. Also approach your husband and tell hers to warn her.
DeleteFrom gossip e go lead to something else...
ReplyDeletePoster na from clap them dey enter dance....Your concerns are very valid and I would be upset if I were in your shoes....The person you should hold account of is your husband; he is the one living with you and I am puzzled he has to stoop so low in engaging in such annoying act.....
ReplyDeleteThank God for tact in deleting your sister-in-law's line from his phone...Keep postponing on giving him the number....Please be calm, pipe low and be observing....If he happens to get the number again, record their conversation and then confront your husband....Abeg do this part with tact oh.....
Then make sure you send the recording to your brother with at least 1 or 2 witnesses so you can expose their backbiting nature....
All the best.....
You did well. Don't even bother reporting her to her husband, give her a stern warning and be brutal about it.
ReplyDeleteNext, you face your husband and warn him.
She obviously wants your hubby that's why she's avoiding you .
Poster, I support your move.
ReplyDeleteAlso tell your husband that what he is doing is wrong if they resume their communication. How can he want to be close to your brother's wife but wouldn't call your brother.
Why fighting with her what of your husband ?why can't you hold him accountable to you?but you said there are things you don't want your husband to know about your family?I tell you your husband will soon know as nothing is hiding for ever.
ReplyDeleteKeep them on check if they start again just report her to her husband, since the friendship are not equal, then caution your husband too
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients 😙
It is good you have disconnected them from communicating with each other, your husband sef no try. Whenever you discover they are communicating again, before you approach your sister-in-law talk to your husband first.
ReplyDeleteNice one poster. Change it for her.
ReplyDeleteYou did well poster, report her when you notice such yeye friendship again.
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense is this,? If I'm the one I for don change am for them tay Tay no time.. Rubbish
ReplyDeleteIf they reconnect again, then you better change it for them, the guts she has is amazingly bad, keeping communication and gossiping your family, that woman can destroy your marriage if you're not careful. Don't spare your husband too, cause he's her enabler.
ReplyDeleteConfront her in the presence of your brother which is her husband, and also confront your husband too, let the three of them know that you're not comfortable with their friendship, I think she's crushing on your husband or lusting after him, and her guilty conscience doesn't allow her to be close to you or want friendship with you.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, face ur husband, tell him straight up that u dnt like their relationship, it makes u uncomfortable. Tell him that if at all there is anybody he shud befrnd, it shud be the lafy’s husband, not her. So pls u want her out of his life. Then call ur brother n tell him that u r not comfortable wt his wife’s constant communication wt ur hubby pls he shud handle it. U didn’t need to do all this backyard handling cos it’s just a number, eventually they wud reconnect, nip it in the bud.
ReplyDeleteWhich kind yeye Friendship be this one
ReplyDeleteMake she no collect slap and beating o..
You better call her aside and giving her Hot warning ..
Scather scatter nonsense ..
Hello iya Boys
Na from clap dance take dey start. That what happens when you marry a ' boy' instead of ' man'.
ReplyDeleteYou need to confront the both of them, tell your SIL to back off and warn your husband to respect himself since they don't see anything wrong with their weird friendship
ReplyDeleteTell your brother.
ReplyDeleteThat sister in law is the weapon fashioned against your family. Tell your brother to limit what he tells his wife about your mum.
ReplyDeleteThis is the best comment. She should have told her husband about it.
DeletePoster you have settled the issue by deleting their numbers, so what other advice do you need???
ReplyDeleteMay peace be upon you
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you did well
ReplyDeleteIf they reconnect again confront her and your husband.
Which kind yeye friendship den dey form
Ha!
ReplyDeleteI wanted to say that some people are comfortable talking with opposite sex and that might be the case but the gossip thingy is a No no no!
Why bringing your family matter to YOUR husband?
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But nne your husband is an enabler.
Why entertain her In the first place.
If the person involved is your sister, I could have said that she is his inlaw, but your brothers wife? She no get shame.
Her busy body too much.
Don't forget to always give her attitude anytime your part crosses so that she will get the message. And that will be easy to warn her off when the time comes.
You did well poster. So petty of your husband🙄
ReplyDeleteThis is so wrong on all the wrong levels. I pray they don't contact each other again via social media. I'm so irritated
ReplyDeleteWhats even the connection sef, your husband really needs to work on himself because this level of friendship is so belittling.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how you are feeling now..