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This post is inspired by BV Tyler says ''in Northern Nigerian culture, there's a traditional practice where women bring household items to their husband's house as part of their marriage rites?It's customary for women to acquire these items before moving to their husband's house.
And these items are furniture sets, comprising of bed frame, wardrobe, mirror stand and couch, Electronics like television and deep freezer Appliances like generator, washing machine etc
Kitchen utensils are not left out as well and very expensive ones at that.
Their bride price is not much as well, sometimes even #50 can get you a beautiful wife.
This custom has been a long-standing tradition in Northern Nigeria, and till date it's still in practice and It doesn't even matter whether you're rich or poor
Kitchen utensils are not left out as well and very expensive ones at that.
Their bride price is not much as well, sometimes even #50 can get you a beautiful wife.
This custom has been a long-standing tradition in Northern Nigeria, and till date it's still in practice and It doesn't even matter whether you're rich or poor
In my place the groom side buys everything the bride needs to take to her husband's house and the bride price is now 10thousand naira
ReplyDeleteAre you for real? 10k for bride price.
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The bride price is not fixed in my tribe, aside that, there are some other money must be paid as well like owo baba gbo, owo iya gbo,cwo omo 'le, owo iyawo le etc, it must be noted that some families return the dowrt stating they're not selling their daughters. There are some other items that must be provided on the trad marriage day by the groom, a box filled with different types of clothes materials, is one if them which is strictly for the bride. The husband is the one to buy what is needed in the house.
ReplyDeleteWe do that return of dowry in my family ( my dad and brother did)
DeleteIn my place the bride's family especially Mom, buys what she takes to her husband's house. Everything she'll need. But during the marriage process, the groom is expected to buy a box full of wrappers for wifey and also clothe his inlaws on the day of the marriage.
ReplyDeleteIn addition to the furnitures and kitchen utensils,she has to bring foodstuffs like groundnut, palm oil,fry some snacks for entertainment,rice,a friend of mine is getting married and she has been saving for this,e no easy ooo,while my side,its the man that brings,
ReplyDeleteThe groom buys everything including her box and cloths. The Bride price is paid and may be returned by the Brides parents. The Onus is on the man.
ReplyDeleteIn my place the groom buys everything except food stuff, that one is sorted by the bride's mum. Then the bride price could just be 10naira. But of course there are other pay pay pay here and there
ReplyDeleteThe groom buys,. The groom this,. The groom dat.. ontop woman wey no won submit.. after amassing 2 billion body counts and getting A1 in bad character..
ReplyDeleteUna go marry unaselfs o
Forget Boss Dante,our Ada bought everything by herself during her marriage. Many efulefu out there. 🙄🙄🙄
DeleteShey na una come get good character? With una bad behavior, putting some1 through ridiculous tests, demanding nature, unrealistic expectations and dysfunctional self. I can go on and on.
DeletePersonally, I think no woman should have to date more than 3-5 men in her life time.
Una toxic traits too much, poor leadership skills, immaturity, many guys brain don go oo, na management many of una be.
Many guys can't provide for themselves sef, story for another day
Thank God I am out of the market
The groom buys everything including the bride's clothes and every item on the marriage list.. Bride price depends on the bride's family.. As for household items, the wife can choose to buy kitchen stuffs that ll make her comfortable in her new home
ReplyDeleteAs for buying furnitures, it's not part of our culture
Almost everything in my kitchen was gotten for me by my mum, my store is still full with the things she got.
ReplyDeleteWe call it "idu' in my place
Gifty
Almost everything in my kitchen was gotten for me by my mum, my store is still full with the things she got.
ReplyDeleteWe call it "idu' in my place
Gifty
Northern Nigerian men are really enjoying.
ReplyDeleteIn my place, if it's possible for them to cut the grooms finger and add to the list. They will do it. You will fear list.The bridegroom takes nothing to her husbands house except during white wedding, her parents will buy things according to their ability for her. In all, our ladies who are working indirectly support their spouses in providing things in the list.
The bride.
DeleteThat's why they get married every Saturday. It's only in the north you will see a jobless man getting married with the hope that the wife will bring him "kayan daki". The man will just rent an empty room and expect the woman to fill it up with house items. Na real wa.
DeleteYes, here in Igbo land the woman buys most of the house hold items she takes to her husband house, not really compulsory thou cos I remember my older sister didn't go with any because of distance. Depending on financial status from the lady family, some buy car, house to wish her Marita bliss.
ReplyDeleteWell times have really changed. When I got married 20 years ago. Husband bought everything. But during our first and last daughters wedding,they sponsored everything. And I knew that those marriages was dead on arrival. A king will not mind whatever the price is,for his Queen. Men are egotistical beings,so it won't bother them. In my place in Delta state. The groom provides all,if you're not capable,then you're not ready.
ReplyDeleteOh dear. So sorry about your daughters' marriages.
DeleteNot my daughters. My older and younger siblings.
DeleteNorthern culture it is. They do acquire all sorts.
ReplyDeleteFirst set of 8 boxes I saw in 1996 was my hausa bestie, getting ready for marriage.
We were undergraduates then,so imagine.
My side for Anambra state, you're supposed to do white wedding then the next ceremony is IDU ÚNÓ.
The bride's family buys all sorts, some include C of O for land,car, diamond or gold jewelries, a pregnant or very healthy she-goat is a must with plenty ite óna.
Note that these items come from every single unit in the umunna.
Okekes will buy 6 rubber buckets.
Okafors mattress and bed frame.
Okonkwos buy deep freezer or pots.
Okoyes buy a small bag of hair brushes. Some buy bunch of brooms.
All depending on their capacity and relationship with your parents.
Or if you refused to marry their family friend they recommended,they'll give you one night gown. Kikiki.
Some buy one hen. You must buy something. It's traditional.
Ceremony starts at 4pm. They arrive your new home with a Datsun truck filled with your items or a Hiace bus depending on quantity. Then display every item.
No African time.
However,item 7 depends on your Dad's capacity. They chop and drink till wheel barrow come to carry some home. 😂
I'm still using the items I was given but the she goat don die since🐐
Na her white white grandchildren dey now.
I’m a Hausa girl from Kano state, yes Stella some of what you said is true but not all, #50 cannot get you a beautiful bride.
ReplyDeleteThe bride goes to the husband’s house with everything needed to set up a home, from furniture, to electronics, to kitchen items. Everything. Then she goes with food stuff, that is enough to feed the household for one year, but after that the husband starts buying.
However, after that initial set up, our women are not expected to contribute anything to the household, even if she is working and earning, the man solely takes responsibility for the house. I should mention that, he provides the house, it could be his building or he leases it, he would sha give her an empty house to set up.
The issue of women being the bread winners in their household is alien to us, or when we hear that the woman is contributing to pay rent or pay school fees, honestly, our men do not ever do that. Of course there would be bad eggs, but they are few, and even those ones, cannot come out openly and say it, because it is shameful.
Then the issue of paying the bride price, the amount is determined yearly by the shariah, it goes with the value of gold, the determination of the amount is done together with the formula that is to be paid as Zakat (Obligatory Charity on muslims, when ones wealth reaches a certain amount), therefore, it cannot be #50, the minimum amount to be paid as bride price is determined yearly, however, one can pay more depending on one’s affordability, but it is always discouraged to give a very big amount as bride price.
Thank u for sharing.
DeleteJust seeing this post and I must say I've never seen an Hausa man paying #50 for bride price..
The women brings everything thing that makes a home while some men pay upto 200k for his dowry then boxes with wrappers..
This is the absolute truth
DeleteAnon 17:45 I can tell you are knowledgeable about this with how detailed your explanation is. Weldone.
You saved me the stress of typing.
I am not a northerner but I have lived all my life in the north, I know a lot about the Hausa traditions
Yes Sharon, thank you for saying it, i forgot to include it in my write up. The man will bring boxes of clothes, with everything the woman needs to be wearing in his house. From clothes to veils, abayas, perfumes, shoes, bags, make up, body cream, soap, etc, think of everything a woman wud be wearing, and he buys them in dozens depending on his financial capabilities. I think most men try hard in that aspect, the minimum number of items in the boxes would be half a dozen each. And by clothes i mean ankara, the various types: super hollandais, hollandais, julius holland, all sorts of ankara sha, then laces, voiles, brocade etc.
DeleteThank you Pritypao, hope my people are treating you well. Remain blessed.
DeleteThis is exactly how it is done in the north, especially the hausas. The bride brings funiture, cooking utensils and even foodstuffs that can last them for months before going to the market. In fact you need to see tge truck that will carry these things full to the brim, even briom sef.
ReplyDeleteBut in my place, the groom will buy everuthing o. The bride's family might decide to buy ihe id'ulo if they can afford it.
Mind you, the northern bride is allowed to do anything she likes with her properties. She might wake up one day and decide to sell any of them and she is allowed to go with them if shes divorced.
In Edo the bride is expected to bring her kitchen utensils only..
ReplyDeleteThe man is given a list that consist all the items and money to bring..
This list includes..
2bags of rice
25 liters of red and vegetables oil..
Big basins of dry fish,mellow, ground nut..
Crates of drinks..
Money for father, mother, sisters, brothers, women and men,
Dowry..
Set of boxes with clothes..
Their men will pay as low as 50 naira while they(women) buy the furniture and kitchen utensils. That's why their men don't rate them and can easily replace them.
ReplyDelete@Slim, i’m the northern girl that dropped comment up there. Before u comment on people’s culture, make sure you read up or do ur findings, always talk from a place of authority rather than what you just assume. Men no longer rating women is not zone specific, there is a general denigration of morals and how marriages are handled through out the country.
DeleteFor instance, Yul that misbehaved and easily replaced beautiful May, is he a northerner? Did he pay #50 as her bride price? Maje that misbehaved and so easily impregnated another woman, thereby replacing Toke Makinwa is he a northerner too, who paid #50 as bride price? Abi FFK that keeps changing women so easily, is he also a northerner?
My point is, it doesn’t matter who does or brings what in a marriage, marriage wey go scatter go scatter. Man wey go respect u go respect you. Haven’t we read about marriages that scattered from the part of country where the list given to the groom is almost unrealistic? That should tell you one thing, it doesn’t matter what a man spends to marry you, after the marriage, it is how decent both of you are, as individuals, that would determine the longevity of the marriage.
@20:58
DeleteYour first comment and this are very enlightening.
Some comments here are always laughter or smiles evoking.
In my place, the brides parents sends her off with every kind of kitchen Utensils she will be needing including lots of food stuffs.
ReplyDeleteThe groom is expected to already have a good livable home to start life.
Our bride's price is not more than 100naira.
Na wa oh...with all the narrative about Grooms doing everything, small time now, women will be saying men and women are equals! How? Groom na burden abeg!
ReplyDeleteGo and ask urself if it’s not ur gender that still made such tradition
DeleteMarriage is a funny very nearly phony arrangement when done as usual.
DeleteOnly the unusual marriage between an unusual male and unusual female that removes the burden of marriage off a groom and husband .
A wise man should seek for accept FULL equality of husband and wife.
But women are generally wiser and do not want such FULL equality in marriage- we read their campaign against it here every other day.
Na people wey get married like ten years ago get luck pass
ReplyDeleteThinking 🤔.. , will ask my father all these, let me doors first 😜
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