CHRONICLE OF A MARRIED MAN

 Ladies, it is advisable to do long distance relationship only if you are an entrepreneur that can set up anywhere or your organization has a branch in your man's location.

I say ladies because men rarely quit their jobs to join a woman in another location, except abroad..... *smiles*.

You will see a woman that was doing well financially before marriage quit her job after marriage and joins her husband in his location. Shortly after, while still searching for a job or planning to set up a business, she gets pregnant, suspends other plans and has her child. Before she balances mentally and physically to search for a job or start the business, another pregnancy has entered, then another and another (probably).

By this time, some years have passed, the lady has lost the zeal to search for a paid job, she is not proud of her looks anymore, she has forgotten many things about her line of career, the fear of how to cope with the kids if she gets a job is there too. Then most times, her age had advanced, making it difficult for her to get a good job.

Then in some cases, she gets a low job like private teaching job or selling petty things in front of the house or inside the house. The revenue from these sources is barely noticeable.
Marriage is now shaking because husband is frustrated with the heavy bills that threaten to sink his bank account. He pours out his frustration on his wife who is equally not happy.

This is the point where some marriages break or domestic violence is more pronounced (if the man had been gifting her small small slaps before).
To avoid the above (as I don't have solution to it if you are experiencing it already), sister, don't join him until you have made arrangements for a business over there or you have secured a job over there. Another option, though difficult is to avoid getting pregnant after joining him in his location until you secure a job or start a business.

Though some women stop working during pregnancy especially if it is a difficult one but in an organization where you had working been for long, they would understand and not stress you.

Just try to have something to fall back on even if you stop going to work.
You can skip my unsolicited advice if your man is an odogwu who can shoulder all but note that some odogwus are stingy and you may actually be a poor woman while married to a rich husband.