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DIRE SITUATION
My jobless husband will eat and even leave the plates for his me to come back from work to pack, abuse me and treat me like trash. Several times I've tried to get help but he has issues with whoever I bring.
I'm worn out, I'm fed up, it's getting to me and I want to leave too but the issue here is that I own our house.
I'm worn out, I'm fed up, it's getting to me and I want to leave too but the issue here is that I own our house.
I'm planning on just selling off the house in a coded way, without his knowledge, and relocate secretly. I've tried to talk this out with him, without success. I just thank God I did not add his name to the property's documents when love was still shacking me. Any other advice for me, I'm drained?
If you do sell the house, please make sure you leave Nigeria, even if it is to cotonou, please go there.....I am so sorry about what you are going through..
Dear Poster, I wish you all the best in your decision and future endeavours
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on this. Your sanity matters.
ReplyDeleteThis is troublesome, so sorry for the way the man has been behaving.
ReplyDeleteIt might be because you spoon fed him when the love was still shacking you like tomorrow no dey.
I will suggest you pray before taking any further steps.
DOZZYBEST.
Or the man feels she is mistreating him now he is jobless.
DeleteDid they marry with him being jobless from that day?
I thought they say men treat women that bring something to the table right 🤔 A bad person will always be a bad person.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
And they will keep saying a woman can't feed a man without complaining but they don't talk about their character during that period of time
DeleteNK laundry, very few women can be feeders of men without complaining.
DeleteHe's very unreasonable man.. Stop doing anything for him.
ReplyDeleteStop cooking and cleaning after him... Kpele, please leave for ur mental health
Do exactly what you said or get some policemen to throw him out of your house.
ReplyDeleteGod forbid bad husband.
Some men cannot take it when their wife is doing better than them. Thread carefully Poster, Nigeria favour men more.
ReplyDeleteYou don’t have to sell ur house. If u are done with the marriage, let him know, file for a divorce and ask him to leave!
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteEka it is like ur living and dealing wt oyinbo has started affecting the way u reason, u now think like them. Is it African man’s ego u wud bruise like this? U think she can just tell him that she is done and he wud move out? Lol. Then she shud just write her will and get prepared. Ordinary bf/gf relationship they can’t take rejection, then this one will divorce him and tell him to move out.
DeleteOp pls sell that house and move on to another area. If u dnt sell the house pls dnt ever stay there again, for ur own safety.
You don't have to sell the house because of him. Tell him to leave that you're done with the marriage. Rent out your house and Japa. Don't sell your house because of him pls. It's not hard to kick him out.
ReplyDeleteEhugs to you poster🤗🤗
ReplyDeletePlease do what will make you happy.
Was he jobless when you got married? I think frustration is dealing with the both of you. You guys need an objective counselor. Your marriage is redeemable if you both are willing.
ReplyDeleteIf you are a Nigerian and living in Nigeria, please look for another vacant house to buy ready before you sell you house. Then sell and buy.
ReplyDeleteTake this advice seriously.
Do not cut your nose to spite your face - you may find out that you may never be able to own a house of the same value as the one you own now.
Mr. Mann
This is it.
DeleteGet a close friend or family member to talk some sense to him, and please don't ever tell him out of frustration that you will sell the house "else the end might be tragic," especially if he is desperate.
ReplyDeleteYou are not telling the real story.
ReplyDeleteYou know it.
DeleteHehehehe
You have really tried to make the marriage work and it's futile. Your decision is valid.
ReplyDeleteThis movie comes to mind, Make or Break.
ReplyDeleteSell your house for what poster? If you are truly done with him, simply tell him to leave your house for you🤷🏻♀️ get people to throw him out and file for divorce
ReplyDeleteWhy is household chores always a burden to wives who provide 100% of family finance or the major part of it.
ReplyDeleteBut husbands who provide 100% of family finance are expected to scrub in on household chores.
Why is it that a man who works Y and earns X can put all his X in his family with no story heard.
But his female colleague who works the same Y and earns X have plenty stories to tell if any or most of her X goes into her family.
Would there have been ease in Poster's home if the man was doing the dishes/household chores
Or is it that the real issue is his joblessness he is not doing anything about.
How many women appreciate their husbands who provide all and still do as much household chores as them. How many of do not put up the "woman drama" for such husbands.
And as a Bv asked, though not an excuse, has this man been always jobless and like this from the start of the relationship. If yes, can we not plead that he is on a bed made by the poster for him because of something the Poster is gaining or has gained from him but cannot tell?
Only questions were asked. No behaviour is supported or advocated.
Firstly, why are you afraid of commenting with your ID
DeleteSecondly I hope you are not one of the lazy Nigerian men that have put their responsibility upon their wives and made Naija bet their office and be claiming lords of lords in their homes
Finally, by moving forward, let it sink into your life that God made a woman a helper , a companion and not a provider rather He made a man the provider. Let me hang on here
Do Whatever Makes You Happy
ReplyDeleteYour Sanity Matters ooo..
Do Not Sell Your House o..
It is well with You..
Pele Dear🫂🫂
Hello iya Boys
Don't sell your house because of him, if you're done with the marriage, let him know, or better still he should go out and find something to do with his life and bring something to the table.
ReplyDeleteYou people are the one that always enable irresponsible men in the name of love, assuming you didn't start what you can't end, it wouldn't have generated to this.
In everything you do, be very careful of him so that he will not kpai you, because broke men are always desperate.
You don't have to sell your house dear
ReplyDeleteKick him out like Funke Akindele did to her ex hubby
Pack his load outside and send him on his merry way, after all men have been kicking women out since 19kpiridim
And what do women say when that is done?
DeleteLoL
Poster,please don"t sell your house find a way to save the union if he is willing to change but if not, you can call it quits. This life no easy at all.
ReplyDeleteThere is no Mrs Independent in marriage.Women take note even if your salary one billion dollars.
Chi loving
How long has he been like this?
ReplyDeleteWas he like this when he had a job
Statistics have shown that majority of men don't value a woman that is the man of the house (sole provider). Men are meant to lead while we submit. When the reverse is the case, it affects their ego, things always fall apart and they revert to aggression theory.
ReplyDeleteMadam you cannot change him. Don't go an kill yourself
Submit?
DeleteDo women still want to live a life of marital submission?
Praying for God's knowledge and wisdom upon you on this matter 🙏
ReplyDeleteThis is what a lot of women are going through. May God help us
ReplyDeletePoster, i am a man. Please, in the name of God i beg of you never you sell your house because of your lazy ass husband. Without him in the know. Move out of the house with your children to a rented apartment and get a good house agent to rent out your building.
ReplyDeletePlease don't sell that house oo , except after that you relocate abi you Japa if not, pack out as someone has said up there and rent beacause you will still need this house in the later days please, check well and rethink before you act or take your decisions
ReplyDeleteSorry for the he goat misbehaves
It is well with you dear Poster. But a quick one, has he always been like this? What went wrong
ReplyDeleteI pray you get divine directions on what to do
Please poster don't sell your house because of your husband, pretend you have sold the house, get a law firm to help you with the paperwork. Then you move out to a rented apartment until you know your next move. Please be very careful
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