Hmmmm.......
HEARTBROKEN WIFE
I'm heartbreaken and Cried countless times.....
Asked God why me ???The husband I am married to going to 3yeears of marriage with a child recently told me that he never loved me that he married me because he saw that I was a good person...
He said that he still loves the ex girlfriend and can't leave her That the reason he didn't marry her was that he knows that marriage won't work between them.
NOTE THEY ARE STILL DATING TILL NOW
Hmmm..... well, at least he is truthful with you and you know what to expect....She might become his baby mama and you will not be surprised about this...
I wanna ask you if you honestly did not know about her before you married him? Or you thought that you would marry him and win his love?
My dear face your life inside that Marriage.....face your pikin and if you have a provision store, keep your busy with it.........
May we never cross paths with our enemies in disguise
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DeleteAmen!ooo My dear sister Eka your child,which kind life be this sef bikonu,may we never end up with someone that was send to destroy us. My God chai😳
DeleteYou see what he told her no be joke oo na pure truth
Dear poster just love your daughter,yourself and keep praying to God abeg.
Amen
DeleteAmen oo.
DeletePoster, don't sweat. Take this to the bank, he doesn't love her aswell. He's enjoying seeing you frustrated, while using her as a tool. If you went through church counselling before marriage then it's time you take him back there.
Amen
DeleteAmen oooo. Enemy within. This one follow for House hold enemy. God abeg
DeleteAMEN ooooo
DeleteAmin Jesu🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
He doesn't sound like he's gonna leave her, and focus on loving you. I mean he has already said that he never loved youu, but loves but his ex girlfriend. So what do you wanna do, stay or take a walk?
ReplyDeleteChai Poster I am so sorry about the callous update from your husband..I don't understand how people behave, why punish someone and become so selfish and callous that you don't care about the person's feelings...
DeletePoster he just gave you an open cheque..Do you wanna stay or end the marriage; the ball is in your court...I wish you wisdom to make up your mind...
All the best
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DeletePoster, he spoke his mind. Prepare yourself financially and then leave with your child. Leave him to stay with his her girlfriend. Move on with your life. Your God sent man will find you and love you right.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry about the situation, but please whatever you do, pls. do not have another child with him for now. And make sure you have a source of income.
ReplyDeleteShe can have all her children for him and face her life and children.
DeleteOr she should just leave.. She will still find happiness..
DeleteForever is too long to live unhappy..
She should have all her children for a man dat doesn't love her?Pls poster don't make any mistake of getting preg for this guy again I beg u with God.U might be thinking if u get preg for him the second time he will change.Na lie o he won't.
DeleteThis kind man deserves to be given another man's child to take care of till old age .
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteEquation balanced!
Poster sorry about this but let him go abeg you will get over it. Don't let anyone steal your joy please.
DeleteRevenge Paternity fraud has too many consequences beyond the control of the avenger.
DeleteWhat if -
The child is precocious and an income earner or scholarship beneficiary from cradle/childhood. Will the "Dad" be barred from benefiting or will the scholarship benefits be thrown away to punish the Dad?
The child and "Dad" bond well. Will the mother instigate acrimony between them? Maybe all children whose mothers sowed h8tred between them and their "Dads" need to do DNA testing.
Plenty other "what ifs" dey.
A treasury of them have been listed once on this blog.
But these two good ones are enough today to reset the thinking of all the revenge paternity advocates on this blog.
Above all, revenge paternity fraud proves the lie in the claim by women that pregnancy/successful child birth are challenges and a woman's biggest contributions to any marriage or a man's life. Which sane woman puts herself through the challenges and rigours of pregnancy (as women trenchantly paint it) just to punish a man?
#SimplitisticThotsBirthSimplisticSolutions
If this is not wickedness, I don't know what to think of it.
ReplyDeleteWhat does he mean that, he married you because you're a good person, he should have just married his ex and try and make their marriage work instead of bringing another person into his selfishness.
Please, if your mental health can't take it, it's better you leave the marriage because he would always rub it in your face that he never loved you and before you know it he would start resenting you and verbal abuse would follow.
It is well with you.
Poster, remove the "IF" and do this.
DeleteWould you rather live a life of endless pain and fear of the unknown?If I were you,I would leave the marriage and hope God blesses me with the one who would truly love me.everyone deserves a lifetime of happiness and love.
ReplyDeleteThe ball is totally in your court.
my friend' s ex wife told him something similar before divorcing him..
ReplyDeleteshe told him she married him because he is a good person.. she never loved him..
This was after many years of marriage..
My guy have since moved on.
Poster you see how easy it is for men to move on
DeleteSo sorry madam......Insensitive man, madam please do what is best for your mental health.
ReplyDeleteStop crying beautiful and begin to think and see clearly what you want to do with the information,he gave you. 🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteSome levels of honesty should be left in the mind and never spoken. Nobody wants to know they were second best or just to fill a gap, in your case he has no emotional connection with you.. There was no reason for him to disturb your spirit with this information. Even going as far as telling you that they will never leave. What kind of mental torture this man is seeking to put on you?
ReplyDeleteWhile he does not sound like he plans on throwing you out or divorcing you at the moment, his allegiance will be to his one true love; So stock and pile and secure something for yourself just in case there is a day that they plan to serve you breakfast. Many did not get a warning, as painful as it is you have been warned. Be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. And you are within your rights to divorce if you so desire. However, be strategic in everything that you do and be selfish and self serving in a loving and dutiful way that does not appear to be selfish and self serving. You were deceived and deception calls for acting always with awareness.
May the divine comforter locate you and give you peace.
Poster the ball is now in your court, it's either you stay or move on.
ReplyDeletePlease do whatever will make you happy.
Yes o. I had the same experience minus the loved ex part. Mine told me after three kids. And no, there was no sign before the wedding that he didn't love me. Once he was ready, he told me, figuring with three kids I would stay and accept anything. I told him I was done too. I don't stay where I am not wanted. But then he didn't want to let me go 🤷 I waited and observed for two years, saw my mental health was in danger and did the needful. Poster, the ball is in your court. Yours may have a good ending. But prepare for either option. May God guide you.
DeleteMadam, forget those words he just trying to form words to justify his wickedness. Believe Mr he just want to eat his cake and have it back. Don't enable such behavior if you can leave the marriage
ReplyDeleteIf you choose to stay, just know that you have a co-wife. Since you're a good person, stay and suffer emotionally, until she go get belle. And the girl has no sense. Man bypassed her to marry someone, she's still in the mix peppering the wife. Hahhahahhaa. She may just find herself as a bitter and single old maid at last.
ReplyDeleteOh dear
ReplyDeleteAt least he told you the truth
Seek counselling fast and take this to God in prayers
The Lord give you wisdom to deal with this
Or you can say well we are married now so let’s make the best of it
ReplyDeleteMe I'm aware I no even send him papa, he's now acting as if he did me a favor to marry me his whole family doesn't like me especially he's mother she's using him to fight me u need to see proper maltreatment lol I just de laugh sometimes I de ask myself how manage e happen, the only reason the father likes me it's because I'm the only one that has children none of his daughters have put to bed so having a grandchild gave him little prestige still respect them o they're all looking for the slightest opportunity to send me out he does nothing for me though rich I had inform my brother I want to return back to school to study and start lecturing from there I plan my exit I didn't tell my family anything! My brother has shown commitment to sponsor me till phd currently on my masters I'm even pregnant with my second child so I go lock up knowing fully well I don born finish na to make money be the goal so aunty try to engage urself wishing you the best
ReplyDeleteYou too, all the best
DeleteSo hurtful. Marriages these days. I'm so clueless, and I don't know what to advise
ReplyDeleteGod I hate Nigerian men. God will specifically judge Nigerian men separately. The emotional torture they put us true is beyond comprehension. Most naija men don’t know how to take care of a woman. They’re just providers. Never emotionally available. Women raising boys, please bond well with your male children, for the sake of your daughters who will marry a Nigerian man. Show them and teach them how to love, respect and treat a woman. Teach them the way of the lord. It’s very important. Show them how to help in the home and of course a provider.( they usually take after dad in that aspect) I strongly believe this will go a long way even if the man is not 💯 in the home. The way naija women complain about their husbands is just so alarming. Only few are good and when you look at the mother, she is most time loving, welcoming and friendly. Parents teach your daughters self worth and not so dependent on a man emotionally. Life should not evolve only around husband. Let’s do better please. If not? It’ll be a vicious cycle and unhappy homes. I’m in this similar situation and it’s not funny at all. There’s a complete disconnect, I stopped making efforts because I’m drained from being the only one trying. It’s exhausting!!! I have let go and I’m focusing on me and just the kids. What I need now is a nanny and I’ll be good to go!
ReplyDeletePoster may God give you the wisdom to make the right decision. It's well.
ReplyDeletePoster, it's well with you,the ball is in your court,if he respect and treat you well just hold on
ReplyDeleteO my God this is my story but I face my business and my daughter today God has blessed and favour my business in million and lands he now want us to start a new life that he love the way I do tin. No. No No am enjoying my life with my daughter.
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