Well, no responsible is by force, one just has to use their minds.......This huge finaincial and emotional responsibility of fist borns is a Nigerian thing....
Thursday, December 05, 2024
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Firstborn here😁. I think it depends on the family you come from. The responsibilty on me isn't heavy. We chip in where our power reach.
ReplyDeleteYou're right Candy
DeleteIt depends on the family you come from
If na before, e dey somehow but now.. omoh, first born sef dey try hustle their way out
ReplyDeleteThe responsibilities is tiring o,but I have learnt not to do pass my power. I can't please everyone
ReplyDeleteYes, their responsibilities are big as well as their gains. My elder brother collected my father's only house and was claiming first born, first born. None of us kukuma get time for him and the house.
ReplyDeleteAs a first daughter, I am also almost like a first born. The financial responsibility, I believe, in a lot of cases is also self imposed. You just keep doing and doing, plus the one they asked u and the one they didn’t because you just feel like the responsibility falls on you.
ReplyDeleteThen the emotional responsibility nko, anything that happens in the family, I’m the first person my parent will call to tell. Sickness oh, death oh etc, honestly, it can be quite overwhelming.
This resonates with me as a first daughter , always looking after everyone and their children but it is never enough. Once I missed a family event contribution on purpose and they decided to share my own souvenirs amongst themselves. I have reduced my involvement and I am trying to stop it totally.
DeleteNigerian parents tend to put huge responsibilities on first born and this is not good at all. A man that married two wives once said to his first born that he is the one that will take care of his younger ones as in sponsor them to school. The younger ones both from the second wife are 11 in number.
ReplyDeleteNot all Nigerian parents
DeleteIt's very intense abeg..
ReplyDeleteU have forgive easy when offended.
You have to always be the bigger person..
When donating, yours is always the highest.. If u are not doing well financially, small children will so disrespect u..
U have to always be the one organizing the family..
Ok bring ur share everyone claims they don't have after we all agreed...
Abeg e plenty, I don tire
Our first born is the General Overseer.
DeleteShe's not the richest but she's the superglue holding everybody.
Our parents too report to her.
She also fixes prayers and fasting, infact her alarm never misses on birthdays and doctor appointments,even you that has appointment may nearly forget but she's quick to remind you.
Get you the best hands from her field and follow up your treatment. 👌
Oshi na azú afú úzó.
She tear eye wella. No jokes.
Appreciate the gift you have in her,may you never know her value,she is your mother and is nurturing you all
DeleteBeing the first child can be a bit overwhelming, but one needs to apply sense
ReplyDeleteit is not easy as you become the second mother. You would answer to all and sundry. Try to have a little money too. it would help make the work easy a bit
ReplyDeleteI'm the first born.
ReplyDeleteThe responsibility and expectations are high.
I decided not to do more than myself anymore because the more you do the more they believe you have enough
They no believe say life is hard and difficult to get by
I have decided to concentrate more and to invest more in my kids.
Last last, we go all dey alright
My dear you go just do as your strength reach nah, e no easy but God dey help anyways
ReplyDeleteI be last born o..
ReplyDeleteBut nah who get go bring..
Hello iya Boys
I no dey bring money but from January I'll be in. Chai🙆😁
DeleteNa me dey see everybody cloth.
Do all the artwork..
Bake every every.
Chop all the kudi.🤸💃
*sew
DeleteI don't know,if it's by default. My first daughter is very different from her siblings. Hardworking,responsible and very determined. I am super proud of the young woman,she's becoming. I know it's not only by mine training but God's in involved.
ReplyDeleteIt's overwhelming at times, but I do the ones I can .
ReplyDeleteAm the last born ohh, but our first born try for us when we lost our mother.
ReplyDeleteI'm the first born. Initially, it felt it would be a bit hard, but thank GOD, my siblings are doing well now. No one is depending on anyone
ReplyDeleteWell, I am neither a first child nor a first daughter...but in some cases, these responsibilities are rather self imposed. The just feel compelled to give and give.
ReplyDeleteUsing my mum as an example, being the first child and first daughter, she just feels it's her duty to take care of everybody even when nobody asks...Just saying
I see her getting restless most of the times, thinking of what to do for this sibling, that sibling and their kids...
wow!!!