During a recent episode of 'In My Opinion' podcast, he was quoted saying
"We don't put our Dads in retirement homes in Africa so I know where am coming from and I know how we treat our Dads, even if am here(in the UK), we would find a way.
I understand that as the western world, I don't know a lot about the tradition here and for me to speak on it, when you put your Dads in the facilities in the western world, you pay,in Africa, you rather put them in charge of some people and pay them to look after your Dads than to put them in a facility for him to be with other old people, it doesn't work that way".
"We don't put our Dads in retirement homes in Africa so I know where am coming from and I know how we treat our Dads, even if am here(in the UK), we would find a way.
I understand that as the western world, I don't know a lot about the tradition here and for me to speak on it, when you put your Dads in the facilities in the western world, you pay,in Africa, you rather put them in charge of some people and pay them to look after your Dads than to put them in a facility for him to be with other old people, it doesn't work that way".
it doesn't work like that my brother, you be typical Igbo man guy ,but na the same payment you go still do for that age people home anyways follow your mind jaree
ReplyDeleteIt could be same amount yes but the "TLC" quotient isn't anywhere near equal besides he's from Anambra State.
DeleteWe don't do that🥺😣
My paternal grandma, Nne be Anyi is 100+, she's cared for in our family home by 3 different people.
Phyno na Odogwu
#idenna
I feel the same way too,some parents did so well for themselves,wt good houses,why should they be dropped in some facility,tank for my country shia
ReplyDeleteI would live to run a retirement home someday. It gives me joy looking after old folks.
ReplyDeletePlease, I am available whenever you want to start. The love for older adults gives me so much joy. Thank you.
DeleteThought I'm the only one with this ambition
DeleteThis was my thought process too before I came to live in the US. But let me tell you
ReplyDelete1. Not many Americans can even afford those elderly care homes. Some are going for $10,000 a month, and worse if you have no insurance
2. America has a very high life expectancy, with many living well beyond 90. My 78 year old professor had his parents alive. For where their children are aging too and can no longer care for the parents adequately, those homes become beneficial
3. Unfortunately they don't have a great househelp and poor relatives helping- culture as Nigerians do, so they pay through the teeth for caregivers
4. Most of those homes are managed by nurses and home health agencies. So their elderly receive good quality health althcare making them live longer
5. The work ethic and economy is different. In Nigeria we all have a village. A place where you can run to and live rent free and tax free of the worst happens. Americans do not have village homes so if you joke with your job and get laid off, and miss your rent/mortgage, you'll become homeless. It is harsh in that manner. Most young people can't afford to miss work to care for their parents. And funny enough work is taken so seriously whether you are a bus driver or a CEO
6. So many reasons made me empathize with them and their way of life. Cultures are just different, not bad
Yeah, cultures are different but Phyno is evaluating the non-mutual aspect of the care home as a typical Igbo man.
DeleteMy parents are both above 80 and in the US,they still work minimally and not in any care homes,not anytime soon.
From family structure,the grand kids alone have them but there are professional assists because Momsie is stubborn,always hold a walking stick? No. She'll rather flip flop and cause a panic now and then 😂.
These things boil down to how you initially ran your brood.✌️
Xp, it still boils down to "cultural differences".
DeleteIt's a new norm and very good initiative.
ReplyDeleteI don't like that idea too.
ReplyDeleteHow can you put your loved ones away. It doesn't make sense to me.😎😎
That's the Igbo blood in you speaking. Odiro possible.
DeleteHow do you even face town unions anywhere except you are in Asia, saying that your dad or Mom nokwa na care home.😂
#nsogbu
If they have that type of dementia that makes them violent or they keep running off then a good home may work. Outside of that I prefer seniors to age in their homes and if they need help they can get a live in help.
ReplyDeleteSadly, with this japa syndrome, this is going to be the fate of most elderly people in a few years to come. I’ve actually started looking into the good ones around because all my children are abroad building their lives, I don’t keep friends ( even if, they too will be old by then) and some of these men would rather spend their time sleeping with the live-in carer( if the children decide to get one for their mum).
ReplyDeleteI don’t want any carer strangulating me because of a dogband abeg.
I wish more health care workers can open such homes so as to allay the fear of some of us.
Wow, never thought of how japa will affect Nigerians tomorrow. But regardless our poverty rate is still so high that elderly care will remain relatively affordable. If you ever go for home care option in your old age get cameras to avoid that strangulation.
DeleteThat's what's up, we don't put our old parents in home for the elderly.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I think the essence of the home for the elderly is companionship against getting them a caretaker at home so it's not exactly a bad idea.
I dnt Like the ideal ooo
ReplyDeleteMay God gives us the strength to be able and capable to take care of our age ones ooo..🙏
Hello iya Boys
He's wise. That's the way I feel too
ReplyDeleteCorrect guy
ReplyDeleteMy dream has always been to establish and run an old peoples home here in Nigeria. Give them the true feel of home away from home with your(new) friends around to chit chat, play games and enjoy a peaceful and healthy environment.
ReplyDeleteStill haven’t given up. It might take awhile but I will achieve it, Amen 🙏.
My mom in her 80’s live with me. Thank God for my husband, because he was able to accommodate her without any issues. It’s really tough caring for older parents. It really drains life out of you especially when they also have medical issues associated with age. It’s only the grace of God, but definitely no one can take care of your parent better than you….@@@@ Xara🙂🙂🙂🙂
ReplyDeleteMy Mum is close to 80 & live with us. My Mother -in-Love was with us till she passed. As i move around because of job, i move with my Mum. I'm not the only child but we share a serious bond & prefers my house to my siblings. Yes it is some how expensive especially with their medicals but we don't mind. I can say boldly i have been so blessed taking care of these special souls. Pls if you can take good care of them e get why...
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