This is the Narration of how the scales fell off a mans eyes after he was sent a list totalling almost N4 million for the things he needed to settle on the bride price list.....He ended it.
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A Princess adola on X posted...
''There’s this guy on my platform that met a lady here in Nigeria, he’s in Uk. You know how it’s difficult trusting or committing to a long distance relationship these days but against all odds this man was committed to this lady, they’re both in love and when he asked for my advice I told him to go all for it. Yesterday he reached out to me and was not happy with the bride price list her people gave him. A list of 3.5m
What? We spoke at length and it was not a palatable discussion, I tried to calm him down but his pain was that the woman he wants to marry is also in support of her people saying things are very expensive in Nigeria.
Why would anyone ask for all these just to marry a woman? Won’t the man end up treating her like he likes? You basically sold your child. It’s very ridiculous and I hope women learn from this.
This man has plans of taking her abroad and even paying her school fees abroad. Can’t you even think of that bigger picture? Now you have lost a good man cos of greed. Uncle said he’s no longer interested. Ladies pls learn to talk to your parents when they ask your husbands for ridiculous bride price.
Now she’s not even aware the guy is no longer interested, yesterday he told me he would block her and go cry and when he’s fine he would move on with his life.
I wish the lady had a better understanding family and also wished she would’ve stood up for herself considering the guy has plans of taking you abroad. I feel really bad for her.''
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ReplyDeleteI am coming back to read list chineke 🙆🏾🙆🏾
Total 3.5 m but they said is negotiable nah habah 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteJesus na your hand I dey oo who knows how mine go be sef 🤔
He was not serious
DeleteComing from uk and canceling wedding for less than $1700 doesn’t add up
That negotiable you see there is a scam, they can never deduct up to 100k from that list.
DeleteHe didn't want to do the wedding in the first place. This just gave him a reason. I don't imagine that 4m will be too much for someone who is based in the UK.
ReplyDeleteHe could have discussed his concerns with his woman instead of going cold and planning to call it off.
That said, the girl should have spoken to her people. Some of these things can actually be reviewed downwards. As e be so, she go repeat another year for house due to her people greed.
Huh!!! You are so funny, because he is based abroad automatically he is rich abi, because they picked money on the ground over there.
Delete"For someone in the UK" like KC leaves the treasury open for them to pick pounds foc!
DeleteDid you read where he said the girl was in support of the list? #4m for just bride price is too much. who is to pay for the traditional and civil weddings? Do you who his salary as a worker in UK? Make him use all his savings just for marriage
DeleteThat’s exactly the problem. You think because he is in the UK, he has money to throw around? Do you have an idea how hard it is to make money abroad? It says clearly that he tried to talk to her and she sided with her family, meaning he tried to negotiate.
DeleteKai! These torches and pitchforks you all came at me with. I didn't at anytime insinuate that because he is from the UK then he should be taken advantage of.
DeleteYou people think money is easy in the UK bah. Do you no how the guy makes his money or the debt he has.
DeleteI agree with the fact that he should have discussed his concerns instead of calling off the whole thing.
DeleteThe list is negotiable and obviously isn't cast in stone.
You are right
DeleteIf you don’t have $1700 for bride list why are you coming to marry
What kind of poverty
The list is expensive.
DeleteIncluding pants and boxers? That's a whole new level of greed and embarrassment.
Its the hand work of those so called village elders. They are the problem, they fix list as if you have offended them. The funny part is that most of their children are married out of wedlock. Her parents should have striked out their own listed items before sending it, to make it easier for him. Now no marriage. Poor her. I pray he makes a rethink.
ReplyDeleteWisdom! That’s what my parents did. They told my in-laws to take care of the village people only. I’m an only child and I have been married for 23 years.
DeleteStruck out. English with tears
DeleteHahahahahahaha 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteIs this not Too Much
Nah Wetin Nahhhh
Nawawaweawawa...
Make them marry their daughter ooo..
Hello iya Boys
This is ridiculous!
ReplyDeleteHe should negotiate with them.
ReplyDeleteThat negotiation thing doesn't work.
DeleteI met my father in law for negotiation and he said nothing can be removed.
I paid for all and they still brought another list, I still paid for everything.
So forget the negotiation part, na scam.
If this story is true, the guy is not ready for marriage. He was supposed to discuss this with his fiance. If she is a sensible one, she will tell him how to negotiate with her people and talk to her parents as well. It is both of you as a couple "against" the world. Marriage is a lot of dialogue and compromise. You will have to deal with each other's families... but regardless, better a broken engagement than a broken marriage. He is an adult and has made his choice...
ReplyDeleteThat said, that culture of lists should be scrapped
Some people have comprehension problem. Go and read it again
DeleteOmo the list is listing
ReplyDeleteNa Akwa Ibom bride price list be this hut it's too much nau. Nevertheless, the man csn negotiate
ReplyDeleteWhy should he negotiate? Why?
DeleteMarriage list should be open to negotiation. The list is outrageous biko... If 3.5mil is for bride price alone how mich will he spend for the occasion, white wedding and probably court wedding....
DeleteWahala
ReplyDeleteThe list too much
Shocking list hoha
ReplyDeleteHungry family. It's good the man called it off and he shouldn't consider taking her back.
ReplyDeleteThe list is too much,yes! But he should have negotiated with them than cancelling the marriage. Then to the father of the girl, you have a duty to make sure things that are not necessary are cancelled cos things are hard and this village elders no send oo las las na your daughter no go marry
ReplyDeleteThe list is too much,yes! But he should have negotiated with them than cancelling the marriage. Then to the father of the girl, you have a duty to make sure things that are not necessary are cancelled cos things are hard and this village elders no send oo las las na your daughter no go marry
ReplyDeleteEverything on that list is negotiable and truly, prices have skyrocketed in the market. With smart negotiation, that list can be reduced in half.
ReplyDeleteGoodness, the list is less than 2000£. It is not expensive, even in the current economic climate. He could have spoken to the father and reduced the price or changed up some things. He could have had a man to man. If he really wanted her then he could fulfill the list and get her a simple cubic zirconia ring and do a civil wedding. There are ways to maneuver any situation. And he could have laid out these terms even draw up a legal document before releasing any funds. Would he have called it off if she was one of Dangote’s or Otedola’s daughter, he would have happily paid ten times more. He gave up without even trying, guy wasn’t ready for marriage he was just testing the waters.
ReplyDeleteStella, marrying on promises is not good. Yes, he could have said he would help with school, maybe all he meant is to help her fill out the student loan application. Many were promised to be taken abroad but did not make it either. We have had a few chronicles of such. Perhaps the dowry was intentionally set to weed out time wasters🤷🏽♀️
Dangote or Otedola has connection that can help expand his business and financial status but it is clear that the lady in question is a daughter of nobody and both she and her parents can't even afford that 3.5M.
DeleteSince the marriage is transactional, let's think the business way. No one will like to waste that amount on liability that has only p€say offer.
The list is expensive but I agree with you that he never ready for marriage. He needs to learn how to manage situations and not run away from them...
Delete17:59, I am not sure about what liability you are talking about. Most of the men who go back home to seek wives and bring abroad typically tend to end up with wives who eventually earn a higher income than they do. This is especially the case for those who specialize in marrying nurses. Yup, there is an entire segment of abroad men seeking out nurses specifically because of their earning potential.
DeleteThe men who earn six figures and more or those earning high five figures are more likely to marry locally and not too keen on travelling to find a wife, although some do. For these ones this list would pose no pressure to fulfill. One of the causes of turbulence in a marriage for those who travelled for a wife is the income disparity that eventually occurs when the woman starts earning more. The woman wants her autonomy and the man start feeling out of control because she is not the docile village girl he hoped for. Of course, there are always exceptions. But these village women tend to be driven and ambitious and eventually do quite well for themselves financially after settling into the new society. They are hardly ever a liability.
I'm from akwaibom and the list my dad gave my sister's suitor no reach this one abeg🙄🙄 some of this village elders don't even have daughters or sons that got married properly o..some just carry belle, go live with the man... anyways the girls dad still has the final say and not some woskaatia elder....coz if d girl decides to get pregnant, u see all this things on the list, it will be greatly slashed.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for outrageous bride price
ReplyDeleteThe young man is never ready to get married
ReplyDeleteHe should have managed the situation well instead of cancelling the marriage
That "negotiable" na scam. It happened to me.
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