Hmmmmmmmmm..... This life!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED
My ex husband wants me back but I am already dating someone else, and I don't just know what to do..
My major challenge is I don't want my son to be alone and that is just the reason I want to take him back but I am confused..
What are you confused about? Did you guys talk about and resolve what caused the marriage to crash? Has the offending party apologised? My dear nothing dey outside and it is always beautiful when a couple makes up...If you still like him and wanna give it a try again, then go ahead but dont do it cos of your son....
Dont go back to your husband and still be sleeping with your boyfriend ...
Know what you want, there is nothing to be confused about.......
Wishing you all the best.....
The fact you don't want your son to be alone is not a good reason for you to want to take your ex back. Something must have happened for you guys to go your separate ways.
ReplyDeleteMy sister
ReplyDeleteLet God lead you
This separatiom matter tire person
If your new boufriend has been with you,helpibg you,encouraginh you
Consider well
These men once they see your life is getting back on track
Thry start hovering around
Be careful nne
God bless
You guys need to sit down and get to tell yourselves the truth about,what happened to the marriage breaking down. This reconciliation is it genuine? Or because he's aware,you have a new man? At the end it's your decision.
ReplyDeleteGo back to him ,not many people has such opportunity of one in a million
ReplyDeleteEven if he is a drug addict, an abuser or chronic cheat, she should go back cos this opportunity is one in a million? God abeg o.
Deletethis is one of the reason, many people dont want to go into a serious relationship with baby mama, or a divorce lady........
DeleteWow Wow Wow' Wow.........do you think about the new boyfriend feeling, Am shock....
Deletethis is part of the message "Olodumare" was passing..........
my brother is dating a woman that was married with two handsome boy.
Guys Should my brother be careful?
Since he's remorseful and won't repeat whatever that made u left, why not.give it another chance.
ReplyDeleteWHAT ABOUT THE FEELING OF THE NEW GUY......
DeleteThe both of you should see a marriage counselor.
ReplyDeleteYou two should talk about what caused the divorce in the first place.
Are you both ready for commitment and make sacrifices for each other.
You need to think it through and not mainly because of your child.
I wish you all the best.
You have to know what you really want whether to go back to your ex husband or move on with your boyfriend
ReplyDeleteYour happiness is you number one pority
Why did you leave or why did he kicked you out?
ReplyDeleteHas the issue been solved?
If not, OYO.
Your son will grow up and find his life. You might or might not be in it. (That's the painful reality). Hopefully, your sacrifice will be worth it.
Dear Gentle Poster
ReplyDeleteI don't believe that you don't know what to do instead of you are afraid of the consequences of whichever decision you are going to take between choosing your ex and your now lover....
A. What were the circumstances that led to your divorce or separation?
B. How long have you been divorced or separated before you started dating this new guy?
C. Was it based on irreconcilable differences?
D. Have they been resolved?
E. Has he shown remorse and shown some actions that he is now a better man?
F. Have you learnt your lessons and are you going to be a better woman for him this time around?
Your reason for wanting him back is not strong enough.....A child would not just want a daddy in his life but a man who he can learn how to love a woman better through his lenses.....Your son can know about love through you guys.....So please think this very well and deeply.....
Now you need to ask very deep & important questions, measure his body language and be more observant in his responses to consider if he genuinely wants you back....You have to be assertive and very logically....Also engage the service of a professional counsellor/lawyer or a mature mediator if you are considering reconciling with him......
Above all, pray for God's wisdom to make the right decision...
All the best....
Don't go back to your vomit. There are lot of good men out there. Your ex husband only wants you back because he saw that you are moving on and not because he has changed or he still loves you. Stay with your boyfriend. You will regret going back to your ex.
ReplyDeleteDo you have genuine reasons for going back apart from your son? these exes come back most of the time, if they see that you're doing well without them, not because they love you, think about it thoroughly before you go back, and take it to the Lord in prayer so that you will not regret going back.
ReplyDeleteDon’t go back because of your son. Go back because you want to spend the rest of your years with him
ReplyDeleteYour son will grow and leave you. But u will be in the marriage for life
Choose wisely. Above all
Act like a Lady and think like a Man
Zendaya
It is not about her son, it is about her. She obviously wants to go back forgetting what made them break up in the first place.
ReplyDeletePoster, you mind telling us why you guys broke up in the first place?
If you still love him, why not.
ReplyDeleteBut don't do it because of your son, do it for you.
Secondly, have you guys resolved the ish that coursed your separation??
Poster you need to know that men are confused being. Be sure that what caused the rift before has been resolved. don't do it because of your son but for your happiness and sanity
ReplyDeleteMaybe he has seen that the grass is not greener out there or you are the mumu that can tolerate his excesses. So you need to be careful and be sure he is back for good and with genuine intentions
ReplyDeleteThe cause of the separation need to be weighed, if it was based on domestic violence, please think it thoroughly before going back, because the instinct to still abuse you might still come up again. But if you separated because of something that you feel can be resolved, you can give love another chance , also if you are dating someone else because you need to fill that space not out of love, then it's not worth it. You can reconsider your ex and give him your conditions and shine your eyes this time. Most importantly, pray about it.
ReplyDeletewhat about the new man and his feelings,
ReplyDeleteSDK has said it all. No need for the confusion. There is nothing outside infact the people outside want to come inside but make sure you resolve the root of your separation so it doesn't happen again. Goodluck to you.
ReplyDeleteKeep being confused you hear naso you go enter inside Hot soup wotowoto 😜
ReplyDeleteWhat was the cause of separation initially, you no tell us 🙄
if everybody start thinking of going back to their Ex.....Or this your new guy leave you and go back to his Ex...without you knowing it......think about it
DeleteWhy did you both go your separate ways? Can you now tolerate what you couldn't?
ReplyDeleteYou wear the shoes,so you have the best advice for yourself ❤️
ReplyDeleteWishing you all the best oo
ReplyDeleteI’m confused too because this is way too short with no details. Have you officially divorced and how long ago did you part ways?
ReplyDeleteChildren do have a way of resenting the choices of their parents later in life. Parents have to be careful in some way, especially when their life choices will directly affect their children, because what they thought was good could be used against them if it doesn’t turn out right later in life. If the only reason you are confused is because you are dating someone else then it is not reason enough. Dating is not a relationship status. So, if the cause of the divorce is reconcilable and it is possible to recover from it then go back to your ex husband. However, sit him down and have those hard uncomfortable conversations, not 1, 2, or 3 times but have them as many times as you need to figure out where both your heads are at and if rebuilding is possible. Do these things alone without your child present. Also date each other again and relearn each other. Do not just pack up and go back. Start as though you’ve both just met and see where it leads.
Stella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteHave you guys resolved the main cause of the break-up?
Mao Akuh
Have you resolved the main reason you left him at first
ReplyDeletePlease think through and don't make same mistake again
All the best
Best of luck
ReplyDelete...not enough details to work with! Whatever decision you make on this matter will change the course of your life one way or the other drastically! All the best!
ReplyDelete...Leo Inspired