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BABY MAMA ISSUES
I discovered last week that my husband has gotten his ex pregnant and even went as far as renting a house for her.
This woman was in his life before we met, and he mentioned this to me on several occasions.
I confronted her once after I saw a text she had sent him saying she missed him.
We have two beautiful daughters, and she has a son with him. She is from his tribe, while I am from a different one.
I'm struggling to process all of this.
My fellow blog visitors. I need all the advice I can get. What should I do now.
My mum said I should separate from him...
Your mum has advised you according to her deal breaker in a marriage...what is yours? Would you leave a man if he cheated?is his having a child something you can forgive? Was the pregnancy planned or a mistake that occurred during cheating?Some women will stay and forgive and move on in love..Is he sorry he did it? Is he ready to move forward with you and not her?Check your options and choose the one that gives you peace of mind......
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ReplyDeleteYou met a man IN A RELATIONSHIP and snatched him maybe with pregnancy, now he has simply gone back to the one he loves. You have two daughters, she has a son for him. If he is Igbo, she is also Igbo and HAS A SON, kiss your marriage goodbye. It is possible that this is just karma.
DeleteAnon. 15:50. He was single when I met him. He told me about her during one of our discussions. My two daughters are older than her son. I did not snatch him.from.her
DeletePoster this is really bad...However the person you should blame in all these is your husband....What happened to the vows he made to you one beautiful Saturday....Please don't confront the lady anymore...
ReplyDeleteI wish you listened to him when he told you about this woman. I wish you never married him because he showed and told you who he really is....
You wear the shoes and you know how it hurts, do you want to separate from him or you wanna stay...Decide but know that he will never leave that lady lie lie...Get ready cos baby number 2 is coming....Have a strong plan B, now she has a son, you know men and their sentiments....Start planning your life and your daughters from today...
All the best
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ReplyDeleteI guess he want u both.. Are u really for the polygamy He has forced u into.. ?
ReplyDeleteOr u want to leave to live ur life in peace, free from all the hurts, betrayal, disrespect..
Some times, when men have baby mamas, it only works out with the new lady in their lives if the child's mother is no longer interested in them and decides to move on with her life.
ReplyDeleteThis particular lady sees him as her husband. She has a son with him and has probably decided to have all her kids in one place; hence, her being pregnant again and in the future may decide to have more kids with your husband. Your husband now has two wives. This goes beyond cheating. The ball is in your court.
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DeleteWhich kind of men are these ;no fear of God or love for their body
ReplyDeleteThe kind of men they produce now... Horsebands😏
DeleteMost women will forgive their husband if he cheats but if he has a child outside, especially in this case where she only has girls and the cheatee has a boy, I don’t know ooo.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry honey
ReplyDeleteMadam Oga wants polygamy, Yul Edochie's style but he still respects you small.
ReplyDeleteThe point is, do you mind sharing or not. If you can't sleep well at night because of this, plan yourself well first and then exit the marriage.
But if you no send and don't mind sharing. Omoh rugged am out.
Pls don’t mention cheating and respect in the same sentence.
DeleteWhat you allow;is what will continue.
ReplyDeleteWhat is your deal breaker in marriage?
When someone says they love you;your mental health,emotional balance(amongst others) is their priority and they wouldn't do anything to put you or the above mentioned in harm's way.
Cheating and even going to the extent of having kids isn't just a one time thing,he would still.do.that and more in future.
So you alone know what you need,what you can take or wouldn't;and what your deal breakers are in life and in marriage.
We can only advise you,but the final decision is up to you.
Is cheating a deal breaker to you? If yes,you know what to do.
A child isn't a mistake;it's a calculated project.
@MARTINS
Your husband has no regard for you. What do you want to do??
ReplyDeleteIf you are a woman who wants to marry a single man with a child, make sure the ex is married to another man and that there is no love between them again. If the ex is single you will spend most of your life fighting shadows and she won’t let you enjoy your marriage. Depending on your ethnic group and the man’s family members , some in-laws with gender superiority bias will rub it in that she has his first son and use it to make you miserable.
ReplyDeleteIf you have a good career or business, start mapping out your financial future especially if you don’t want polygamy. He is forcing it on you, prayerfully take your decision. For him to have impregnated her again means it’s not an affair, they may have done a traditional thing and some of your in-laws may be aware. I feel sorry for you. Dealing with a man like this is not easy. He is treacherous & you don’t know where you stand with him. May God help you take the right decision.
This is a terrible situation. How do you still love and care for a man In this situation? how do you both planned for the future with a third party hanging around like this? how do you even still call him your husband and Lord like this? too many questions to ask
ReplyDeleteHow I wished you mentioned your age, your age is also going to play a big role in your decision... Best of luck 🙏🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteVery wicked husband, that is why I don't judge those women that do paternity fraud. Imagine if it was you that was impregnated by another man?
ReplyDeleteJust do whatever works for you o, and make sure you have a provision shop that keeps you busy.
Why did he not marry his ex? Why did he leave her for you and still went back to her again?
ReplyDeleteHe was always mentioning her and even seeing her when you were together, yet you stayed for whatever reason and even went ahead to marry him.. You thought he would later leave her and face only you?
ReplyDeleteMadam pls, follow your mind
Single Ladies, if your man has a stubborn ex, dump him, I say dump him because he will keep cheating on you even if the ex gets married. You won't have peace in that marriage as long as that ex is alive.
What's your marriage with him like; does he live you deeply?
ReplyDeleteIs he sorry that he stepped outside your marriage?
Is there a strong family bond?
Do you feel save in your marriage or threatened? These and more will determine your decisions.
Good luck.🤗💙
Why separating from him? haa, my dear just dey your dey nah, it has happened already just pray to your God to give you your own baby boy too as far as he is taking of you what's your stress just be mindful of what you do now and make sure to settle yourself, have something doing then face your children they are your future don't come and die on top man Abeg he even like you by telling you. what of those that don't even know all of a sudden the man Will just disappear 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry about your ordeal. Your husband is very much in love with his ex and the baby is the proof of their love,for each other. You now have a mate. Honestly the ball is in your court,if you can raise your girls with little or no support,I will suggest,you leave,if not,you continue to manage your home,knowing your husband is with another family. 😌😌😌
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