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UNBELIEVABLY DIRTY SPOUSE

I am married and have been for 2 years now. Married with a kid. I can say I know a thing or two about marriage because I have had my share of up and downs in it. It is normal that issues and challenges arise in marriage. But with patience and understanding, most can be handled.
There is a particular issue however that has exhausted my patience staying married.

How do you handle a dirty spouse? I mean a wife so dirty that it has become a thing people mock you for? Nothing I will say here is outrageous. It is what I have lived with since I got married. Simply put, my wife has exceedingly poor hygiene. She has an aversion to any form of neatness.

How do you as a husband handle a wife who constantly leaves the toilet messed up? A wife who goes to the toilet without bothering to flush? She leaves the mess like that and through the day whenever she is pressed, returns to the same toilet, uses it with the mess still there and simply closes it when she is done?

Initially I was not paying attention until I started noticing a persistent
odor in our bedroom. I would wonder where it was coming from until I would check the toilet bowl to see faeces that had been left covered for hours and already swelling up. I would simply just flush it without calling her attention to it. But the issue kept repeating itself until I had to start calling her attention to it. Most times she would deny being responsible for the mess and I would start asking myself if I had made use of the toilet and forgot to flush. It was just I and her in the home then. We hadn’t had kids yet. The incident would not happen for a few days and then she would revert to doing the same thing.

Now if there was something I took extra care for even as a single man, it was how neat my toilet gets to be. So sharing a home with a spouse who didn’t share the same level of cleanliness was not what I could handle. To avoid confrontation, I simply resorted to using the guest bathroom. With time, after the birth of our first child, I moved into the guest bedroom and I have remained there.
The odor that comes from the master bathroom made our shared bedroom inhabitable for me. Sometimes, when I notice that the pungent odor from her toilet had also permeated to the living room, I would go to her bathroom and sure enough, she had left poo unflushed in the toilet.
It is either that or she had urinated and left it unflushed for hours.

Things got to a head when I was giving her head last year and grime that I don’t know how long she had allowed to gather in the folds of her labia, got into my mouth. It turned me off from ever giving her head again. On another occasion, while trying to go at it from the back, a strong odor hit me and I looked down and saw bits of fecal matter down there. I lost whatever er#ction I had and walked to
the living room. It was that day I genuinely began questioning the sanity of my wife.

When my mom came for omoguo and went to our bathroom to bath my wife, I witnessed as my mom had to hold her nose, grab a tile brush and made effort to clean the bathroom floor. The odor was that bad. My mom had been having issues with my staying out late and anytime we spoke on the phone, she would berate me for it. I would only tell her she would not understand. When she came and saw how unkempt the home was, she drew me aside and asked me if I had another
woman outside. I told her no. She then said no man can stay with a woman this dirty.

For that reason, anytime my mom comes around she prefers going to stay at my younger brothers place. My younger brothers wife used to come to our place to help my wife clean hoping that my wife gets the message. But it doesn’t take an hour or two later before my wife starts messing the whole place up again. The kitchen, the living room, everywhere. We are talking about cooking and throwing waste right there on the kitchen floor even when there is a waste basket or leaving plates unwashed for days.

Pampers or fecal stains from the child’s poo all over the living room or bedroom. I have on three occasions employed cleaners who quit in short time because they couldn’t keep up.
In all these, I have tried speaking to her gently but she becomes defensive and always has an excuse to offer. How do you tie wrapper from morning to late evening without taking your bath? Staying on the phone browsing and following celebrity gossip all day? Leaving the whole home a mess? As much as it appears as if I do not help out, I do but it only appeared as if I was enforcing her behavior
so I stopped.

Needless to say, our s#x life is practically non-existent at the moment. I have simplylost attraction to my wife.
Recently, I travelled on business and had to go to the bank. In the banking hall, while waiting for my transaction to process, I got chatting with this very attractive bank staff. We exchanged numbers. I did not think anything of it and had no plans to call her until she called that Friday asking that we hung out. I was bored in my hotel room and I obliged her. She drove over and we went out. I will not
say what happened was not intentional. This lady was oozing feminine grace.
She was a great conversationalist and was quite knowledgeable. We ended up at her place and for the first time in a long while, I felt what it was like to be with a woman again. She was everything I yearned for and had missed.
I ended up staying at her place for two more days.
I returned to my location but we have kept in touch. I will not say I am growing emotions for her but she has travelled to come see me twice since then. Driving for over 3 hours in her car. She knows I am married but she doesn’t care.

Do I plan to leave my home for her? No. But I find myself yearning for her presence, her scent, her touch and sense of organization. I find myself yearning for a woman who knows her own. I know what I am doing is wrong. But how long can I handle a home where everywhere seems to shock you because of how messed up the home is?

How do you live with an adult that struggles to clean up after herself? How do you stay intimate with such a woman? It is inexcusable what I did. It is eating me up but I find it embarrassing having to keep telling a wife that neatness is not a thing to be played with.

Three days back, the lady I got involved with pointedly told me she would not mind being a second wife(we are both less than 40). She was serious about it. I have told her not to bring up that talk again but it got me thinking. It did not have to get to this point where another woman has to even become an option. A woman should not be so carefree about the conduciveness of her home to the point where the husband is exposed.

I have cheated and it is eating me up. But with each passing day, my resolve not to take things a step further with the banker is weakening. Considering that the situation in my home is not likely to change at anytime.

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Please dont Joke with this, your wife has pychiatric problems oh....You can marry second wife if you want but your wife needs to be evaluated....The kids are also not safe with her for now.......Gosh this Chronicle has traumaitised me badly meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen!!!