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PROBLEMATIC FAMILY MEMBERS
My mother has five daughters, and my father married my stepmother when my mother was pregnant with our second daughter. My stepmother has three sons and three daughters. We are all grown now. I am the first still single. Three of my younger sisters are married with children.
From the moment my stepmother came into our lives, she has been antagonistic towards us, leading to a strained relationship between my father and us. This is a story for another time. Currently, my stepbrothers are threatening to evict my mother from my father’s house.
My father owns a five-bedroom house.
My mother occupies one room, while my father occupies another. My stepmother and her children take up the remaining three rooms. There are days when they deliberately block access to my mother’s room, and it sometimes takes outside intervention before they allow her access.
My stepbrothers want her to either move into my father’s room or leave the house entirely, with no clear idea of where she would go. If we hire a househelp to assist my mother, my stepmother’s children will force her to leave. Despite interventions from the villagers, the first son of my stepmother insists that my father’s house belongs to him and that he has the final say on all matters concerning it.
Can I take legal action in this situation? What other alternatives do we have? My mother, who is 65 years old, has been moving from one of her children’s houses to another for the past year. How long can she continue living like this?
If you take legal action and win so you will agree for your mum to move back in there with them? you want her to die?Your mum is still quote young....Look for another solution like renting somewhere for her---Her life is not safe there....
My dear rent house for your mum to avoid had i known,
ReplyDeleteIs your dad still alive??
From the wrute up, the father is still very much alive, and I wonder why he is not doing anything to curtail the son's gragra.
DeletePoster, for the safety of your mother, you and your siblings should rent her a house far away frim your step-siblings and their troublesome mother.
You see polygamy? I wash leg & hand commot
ReplyDeleteExactly 💯.
DeletePoster.
What’s all this nonsense talk? Rent a house for your mother! What kind of useless girls does she have??
ReplyDeleteIdiot you’re the useless one omoale
DeleteYou and your other siblings should contribute money and use it to rent an apartment for your mom.
ReplyDeleteTake her out of that village to town.
And why is your father not saying anything concerning this Matter?
So sorry, poster. This is close to my story. Only that my mother is no more with my father. They antagonize all the house help until they left. And they kept leaving. My step mother and her children are still in the house. My father is now late . We don't see eye to eye again.
ReplyDeleteIf you have the resources, rent a place for her. That's what I did in a different town.. It can be just one neat room,self contained. I am paying someone to look after her.
I understand it can be draining. I am having hbp due to family worries and financial demands. In your case, you are lucky you are not alone like me. You all can put heads together on this. Its very tasking though.
May God see you through
It's well
DeleteHow can you guys leave your mummy in such a toxic environment? Please rent a house for her. Do you know how long family squabble lasts in court? Or how much you have to pay lawyers?
ReplyDeletePlease your mum should stay away from the house. It is painful but doable. Her life will be safer that way. Let her leave the house for them. Their next step could be removing her permanently by all means possible.
ReplyDeleteRent an apartment for your mum, and when God blesses you and your siblings, you can build even if it's a bungalow for her. All things being equal, your mum still has a good 30yrs on her. Make it count..dont send her to the lion"s den anymore.
ReplyDelete"is he the first to marry a scond wife?"
ReplyDelete"Polygamy us part of African culture yen yen yen"
Make una come see oooo. The weakling of a man is still alive and cant even put his house in order, shame!!!
@Poster, you and your siblings should come together and rent a place no matter how small for your mum.
The man is a simp.
DeleteIt is only when a simp's action affects a woman that other women see him in his true clolours.
When a simp is called out here, women are the first to rush to his defence where a woman is involved under the alibi that he "loves" the woman.
Clearly the man "loves" the second wife more than the Poster's mother.
Any man who allows a woman to control him/his life to his detriment or peace of mind/household is a simp. It is that simple.
Do not let your mother move back to the house. Do not take any legal action. This life is self-sustaining and God will not let your mother suffer. You may be thinking is your father’s house and your mother has every right to be there, nevertheless, do not let your mum move back to that house, it is too hostile and toxic.
ReplyDeleteTrue life story:
My uncle (Dad’s half brother, same father) hire someone to poison my father in late 1979, he died and he buried him without us going to the village or knowing where his grave was. We were very little and our eldest was 10 years old and our last born was 3 months old. He took away all my father’s properties, everything including his house in the village and chased my mum away.
I can’t even describe all that we went through whilst we were growing up with him and his Jezebel wife. You can run your imagination wide and you will not be far from the truth. We literally went through hell and back, including dark juju.
Fast forward 2024:
I don’t know how God did it but we are all consultants in our field (3 medical doctors, 2 nurses, 1 social worker and more. All living abroad, all over the world including 1 in UK, 4 in USA, 1 Australia and another 1 in New Zealand.
This uncle has been ill for the past 17 years, urinating and pooing on himself, he sold everything and died this year. (Still in the morgue). There is no money to bury him. Guess who they are trying to get in touch with?
Why am I telling you this?
Stella said the other day that “God made her weak so HE can fight for her” that is exactly what God wants us to do. He sometimes makes us extremely vulnerable so HE teaches us how to rely on HIM alone.
Trust God on this one, HE will not disappoint you.
My chief, I am loyal. And this story eh, NSPPD.
DeleteWhat a beautiful story. Please tell me your mum is still alive.
DeleteThank God for the Light at the end of the Tunnel.
DeleteThis is a very simple case, you and your siblings should contribute money rent an apartment for her. That house must be really toxic for her. Polygamous and wahala.
ReplyDeleteThis issues won't stop soon , no kinsmen in your village, no community head, no uncles who can put a stop to this act. Please let your mum stay far from them.
ReplyDeleteWhat are you even asking
ReplyDeleteSo your mother stayed in that compound when you girls were younger and you all. have grown up and even married and you girls can't fix a good apartment for your mother. What's all this. My dear leave this One room talk and rent a better place for your mother. That's all.
Why would you want her to be in such a place? Please let her go live elsewhere for her peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteUse that legal fee to get your mum a nice two bedroom flat somewhere safe with functional facilities if your father is no more. You people need to learn to handle issues with class and avoid see finish and unnecessary animosity. Bad blood and strife of such nature has a way of limiting your access to answered prayers and causing blockades in your prosperity. You are the first born and should earn some respect. I know what I am saying cos I am a first born and have half siblings that has absolutely no choice than to accord me utmost respect at any given time. This respect is extended to anyone that is remotely affiliated to me and I never fought for it.
ReplyDeleteJust be successful.
Nne, why did you have to start your chronicle with details of you and your siblings marital status? I know how you feel, but your marital status has no effect on the situation at hand.
Her marital status has an effect. She is single and probably lives alone for now, so why can't her mom stay with her till they find a resolution?
DeleteHer mum should stay with her even when her male friends might want to come visiting? Holidaying at her place is permissible, living with her permanently till she finds a man is not a good idea to me , I don't know about you.
DeleteThose boys,time for their their dad's burial now they will ask the females to contribute for the burial but when it's time to share their fathers property they won't remember that the females are their dad's children.
They should come and learn from Fidel's family. Fidel has share of her dad's property and they did it peacefully, everybody is happy in the end.
Those guys, so they can't go and build their own house? Tufiakwa for them.
Poster I understand you perfectly well,to me I will advise you guys let them have the house,rent an apartment for your mum far from them,I just wish I can share the story of my mum, I'm not good at writing.house even your dad won't live there for ever,why fighting?
ReplyDeleteVery sad situation. And your dad is just quiet in all of this? He's the one who allowed it because how can the son be claiming property while your dad is still alive? Pathetic find somewhere for her to live. Peace of mind over everything
ReplyDeletePoster
ReplyDeleteBuild a house for your mom whether it is a bungalow, build it. Start small. Haba. If you have the means, do it.
Look for house to rent far from your step mother house for your mother to stay and also make sure you employ people to be staying with her.
ReplyDeleteTake him to court
ReplyDeleteHe wants to use style and keep the house for himself
Two things can happen at same time
You can find a place for your mother and still fight for her coownership of the house to be establisedv
If they want her out she should not leave empty handed. Take them to court and let it be that they pay your mother whatever her value of the house is. I wouldn’t want my mum living there because I don’t trust ppl especially how often elderly ppl are abused.
ReplyDeleteHumans and their love for fighting over property and inheritances. This is absolutely disgusting and your father set up a freaking horrible situation. Plus he lacks the ability to control his household and should kick his sons out house. They should be going off into the world to seek their own prosperity instead of becoming nuisances to a senior woman. Your father is spineless and selfish for not ensuring that your mother had her own home and his second wife the same.
Polygamy requires the women to have their own homes so peace can reign. I am not an advocate for this practice and sees it as being completely one sided, but I get that many ppl are fine with it. What a freaking disaster for that woman who should be enjoying peace and tranquillity in her golden years. May God keep and protect her!
Please take legal action if you can. We can't keep letting these people have their way. Who says a woman who didn't bear a male child is not supposed to have a share in her husband's property?
ReplyDeleteTake legal action , even if you win, you can decide what to do with the house, your mum must not live there but claim what's rightfully your mum's share. This has to stop. They keep doing these things because nobody is taking legal action against them.