UNUSUAL REQUEST
My friend keeps telling me that her fiancé is complaining that I don’t check on him. Meanwhile, this same fiancé has my contact, which he got through my friend when we were planning her surprise birthday, and he regularly views my status.
I told her that he can check on me too, but she said she can’t tell him that and doesn’t see anything wrong with me asking him how he’s doing once in a while.
I’m tired of going back and forth with her over this and it's getting me frustrated, so I’ve decided to give them space and block him from viewing my status.
Would that be an overreaction on my part? How should I handle this? Am I wrong not to have been chatting him?
Hmmm chat with him as per what? wetin this man dey find for your hand?Since his complaints to her has become constant that means he badly needs to be in contact with you but wants it to be like you are the one already reaching out to him...This will end up with him toasting you and everything going South if you are not interested....Dont block them but dont have this conversation again, let him block you if he is tired of viewing your status.....If your friends brings it up again, please change the topic, she will get the message.
Why does she wants you to be chatting with her fiance frequently, I don't even chat with my friends all the time.
ReplyDeleteThe only reason you can be friendly with your friend's guy is, if all of you knew each other before they started dating if not respect your self and keep your boundaries.
You can even block him from viewing your status and whenever your friend bring the issue up, tell her you don't have to chat with her man always....make brother look for someone else to be chatting with.
Poster,you're not wrong at all. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteBlock him from seeing your status
ReplyDeletePls listen to Stella advice, it will never end well if u star chatting with him.
ReplyDeleteNo need blocking them, just stick to what you've been doing.
ReplyDeleteYour friend should be worried why her fiance wants you to be checking up on him!
ReplyDeletePlease block him. He is definitely looking for something else.
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DeleteThe friend is a mumu or she and her fiancé are planning evul for this poster. Poster are you rich?
DeleteFan Emmanuel
From what you've described, it seems the guy’s behavior is suspicious, and your friend's response might not align with your expectations of seriousness.
ReplyDeleteNot checking on a friend's fiancé isn't a crime. If you feel the guy's intentions are questionable, trust your instincts and set boundaries. It's important to protect your peace and avoid situations that might lead to misunderstandings or disrespect.
The guy has ulterior motive, be at alert.
ReplyDeleteDo I see a threesome in your future? Cos I don't understand why your friends fiance wants you to constantly keep in touch. Anyways, stranger things have happened. But realize that it is the flame that is to that keeps burning.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteWere you guys mutual friends before he met your female friend? If yes, then that was harsh blocking him abruptly...There is nothing wrong if you reach out to him once in a while but keep the conversation platonic and neat....After all, you are the one having the conversation and you decide how the conversation goes....
If you were former lovers, then just be yourself......Tell your friend that you choose not to contact him and you would appreciate that this conversation does not come up about you reaching out....You can be assertive and create healthy boundaries even in your friendship....
In my opinion, I don't see how you should block him from viewing your status; why not ignore instead of taking notes of how many times he views your status unless you feel ''harassed' by it....
In conclusion, prepare yourself because your friendship is mostly likely to end based on your decisions at the end of the day....
All the best.....
And when you starts chatting with him, this same friend will be the one to complain. Wait, why does he want you to check on him sef?
ReplyDeleteI don't understand! As in, he wants you to constantly check on him. As what? (in stella's voice).
ReplyDeleteYou need to set boundaries. Girlfriends' fiancé is a no-go area. If I read correctly, he views your status too. A case of a disaster waiting to happen soonest.
A relationship comprises two people. A man and a woman. Not a man and two women.
Pls, in order not to be the termed the iceberg that came to rock their titanic, i suggest you give them space and assert why you did that to them. Let your friend know chatting her man is condescending to what they already have.
And while at it, make use of the block button. Don't be coerced into something you may regret later. They might even be testing your loyalty. Before you know it, your chats will find it way to the blue app.
🤣🤣🤣 why is my mind telling me, that lady and her fiance are looking for a possible candidate whenever they want to have thre*some. Be careful poster.
ReplyDeleteBe careful of 3 some?
DeleteMaybe she should just be careful because of the deceitful way they want to get her involved..
But 3 some? Many girls dey involve willingly
I feel so too because why is it a problem not to be chatting with my friend's fiance? Hian.. check on him ko, check on them ni, they never talk wetin dey their mind
Delete@Dante, yes she should be care of thre*some, the deciet and how far they might go to get her. People drug people and have their way you know. She should be careful.
DeleteShe and her fiancé are on Kolos..
ReplyDeleteWhat sort of nonsense is that,. Later she go talk say you snatch her bobo.. warn her not to tell you such rubbish next time, .
What's wrong with people this days sef.. some have brains but cannot think..
Nne na wa o
The guy sees your friend as your family member and thinks if she checks on him that means she has accepted him and so have you
ReplyDeleteIt’s annoying but i don’t think he has any other motive
Open your eyes
DeleteMy university boyfriend back then used to disturb me to lure one of my beautiful friends to his place so that he can have her. I was so in love with him and I didn't want to lose him so I did as he asked. Unfortunately, when the girl came over with me, I think she decoded and never came back.
ReplyDeleteChai, love has dealt with you Anon, some type of love can make us do silly things we are not proud of, that shiit will make you loose your mind 😁. Thank God you didn't end up with such a man.
DeleteUnfortunately???. Asin deep down you wished she gave in??. Tufia
DeleteYou were not inlove but STOOPID!!!
DeleteWhat do you mean by unfortunately?! Pick mees are such dangerous creatures! You lured your friend to be rxped, she decoded it and years later you’re saying unfortunately?!
DeleteYour self esteem is still on the floor, pick it up!
Why do I feel like this guy has a mission, he wants you to get comfortable with calling and chatting then before you know it he will start giving you 101 reasons why your friend is not his kind of girl, and how you're his type.
ReplyDeleteBefore you know what is happening he will ask you out and when you say no, he will then tell your friend that you are the one hitting on him.
My dear better ignore him oh, that's a manipulator right there.
What business do you have with your friend's fiance?
ReplyDeleteStay away from them.
Blue pen support mode activated 👍
ReplyDeleteHmmm, please kindly follow Stella's advice,then be yourself you hear
ReplyDeleteGuyman is interested in you. Run ooo
ReplyDeleteDon't do it. I did it and it scattered our friendship. Turns out the guy asked me out, pressured me until I gave in, my friend found out. He wanted to continue with me but I refused. I ended up relocating and they got back together. I am still seen as a threat to their relationship coz my mom lives in the same area, anytime I visit she warns me to avoid strolling so the guy won't see me, then go and beef his wife coz they are now married.
ReplyDeleteWomen and deflecting of responsibilities. I dnt kno if u’d die if u simply take responsibility of ur actions. Which one is he pressured u until u gave in? So a man can pressure a woman into having a romantic relationship with her? What a wow
DeleteThat's creepy block him jor.
ReplyDeleteI'm much concern about your friend because she will regret this relationship especially if it ends on marriage
ReplyDeleteI don't have any of my friends husband contact, I think I am weird, if there's a need I get it and never stored their contact but I also a decade now there's never a need to get their contact. But both friend and boyfriend are weird plus cut off from them
ReplyDeleteNo be trouble this guy de find for ur hand so?
ReplyDeleteAbeg press big IGNORE BUTTON for en side o.
Imagine dis bros o.
Infact, if na me eh? Make I just chill Sha.
@Bank Alert
Over familiarity. I'm not comfortable with it
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