Hmmmmm.....
ADVICE NEEDED
I need you peoples input.My dad threatened me with Weapons, that he will K#ll me.
I want to call the Police for him, this is not the first time that he’s doing it.
He forcefully removed my Mosquito Net and pulled a Machete and Pestle on me.
I want to report him and have him write an Undertaking. I need Advice urgently.
I am a Female.....
Whether he writes an undertaking or not, if he wants to kpai you, he will do it..
Are you stubborn? Do you break the rules around the house a lot? How old are you and why are you still staying at home?
Are you dependent on him for money?
Are you stubborn? Do you break the rules around the house a lot? How old are you and why are you still staying at home?
Are you dependent on him for money?
Hmmmmmm i was very stubborn and my dad used to beat me a lot...
I NEVER CRIED FOR ONCE so he resorted to using cutlass to scare me (Note that most Isoko men always resort to picking p the cutlass when angry)
He would flog me with cutlass and even threaten to kill me cos my stubborness drove him crazy...I was too fearless..
Eventually he got tired and i got busy.......Please do the same and leave Police out of it cos it might make the situation more serious..if you feel your life is in danger, then leave his house for him!
He would flog me with cutlass and even threaten to kill me cos my stubborness drove him crazy...I was too fearless..
Eventually he got tired and i got busy.......Please do the same and leave Police out of it cos it might make the situation more serious..if you feel your life is in danger, then leave his house for him!
Calling the police on him won't change anything. Move out if you can, before he goes ahead with his threat.
ReplyDeleteNigerian police WILL ALWAYS support your parents against you so your best bet is to either obey him, if appropriate, live on your own or move in with a relative or friend. But your story is incomplete, what pushed your dad to such extremes? Is he like that with other people? You should have given context to your story because this is extremely unusual especially for a female child. What’s going on in your home?
DeleteDon't leave to a guy's house..
DeleteIf u a relative close by, why no go there to, so he can calm down.. Don't call police on him
Poster why don't you put my light to your chronicle, it's very difficult to advise you properly with this little story..Well, if you are an adult please find a way to move out, again if you are the stubborn type, change biko, it hurts parents to see their child misbehaving.
DeleteWhat did you do that made him react that way?
DeleteCheck yourself and change for GOOD.
Honour your parents that you days will be long. DO away with bad behaviour and obey him, when you stop disobeying, find out if he will react with using cutlass again. Leaving the house without addressing the issue of disobedient is useless.
You go born your own pikin one day too.
Mao Akuh
@poster, if you are a minor, report to police, adult relative and women/children ministry in your state. If you are an adult, LEAVE and then report to police. Either way, there is no cultural justification for threat to life with a weapon.
ReplyDeleteWhat did you do to warrant your father threatening you with cutlass? Give us the full story.
ReplyDeleteHehe, Isoko toh loh pia🤣🤣🤣🤣. Stella so your dad did that too? My dad did that with my immediate elder brother so much I was so scared.
ReplyDeletePoster, follow Stella's advice.
We plenty for here like dis?
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#theIsokoMan
Poster if you’re of age and still lives with him leave his house for your own good
ReplyDeleteMadam, you don't sound like a teenager or a child
ReplyDeletePlease, leave that house immediately.
JUST LEAVE.
Poster I dunno how old you are? What about your mom? If you are of age and working, please go and rent your own place....
ReplyDeleteFor him to have threatened you twice, he might carry out his threats.....Undertaking or restraining order will not work as the abuser will always flout it and might do the unimaginable......Please rent your apartment and don't let him know....
Your life first!
All the best
A lot of people are going through mental health challenges but because they are in denial, they don't consider seeking help. They don't even get the self awareness that they are acting like violent mad people.
ReplyDeleteSo many things we read online are just not reasonable reactions, even if we consider extreme provocation from youthful exuberance (na small piking dry worry am syndrome)
Well if you love tour family unit and your erratic father, the way I love my mum and her extremely provocative stance on issues, then be the bigger person and chop the infantalisation of adults childrwn,that naija parents to do. Especially if you are not independent.
But as you said it's not the first time, please make plans yo distance yourself and love from afar.
Absence makes the heart go fonder innit?
You sound like a young adult, proving stubborn and disobedient.
ReplyDeleteNo parents will threaten to kill their child without provocation.
I will suggest that you calm down and if you are not what I wrote in my first paragraph, please leave the house for now, maybe your dad is going through somethings that gets him infuriated.
You didn't state what transpired between you both.
ReplyDeleteBut if you can, please leave the house.
File a report at the police station and ignore all useless threats and advise you will likely receive from the police officers themselves about reporting your own father.
ReplyDeleteBut in doing this, make sure you carry your self far away from him and his abuse. If you have underaged siblings who are also experiencing this it’s best you get an NGO involved.
You won k!ll the old man,. Baba vex let you know say him go k!ll you before you k!LL am..
ReplyDeleteYou come here dey ask rubbish question..
Leave the house since you feel too big and no one can talk to you.. you won dey under person roof dey form I can do anything I want.. mtcheew
Dante!
DeleteTrue, being female or male is no license or victimhood badge.
Two captains cannot be in the same home.
She needs to learn that now as she shape up in or ship out of the home.
Even American parents tell their children to obey or move out. This is added before it is presented that this matter is a Nigerian father or man issue.
Exactly.
DeleteImagine disobeying your dad and forming better pikin. Check yourself and stop provoking the man.
Mao Akuh
Even police will say it's family matter. How old are you? Are you financially dependent on him? If your answers are yes then please calm your nerves down and do what is expected of you
ReplyDeleteWhat happened bayi, you have conceal your misdeeds and only talked about the reactions. Can you stop doing what would get him damn angry to make him pick weapons to scare you. Yes, he might just be scaring you. Deal.this from.the root. Stop the wrongs you are doing and take it from there.
ReplyDeleteI'll keep saying that you people should stop sending uncompleted stories here. Why didn't you tell us what you did to warrant your father's action so we can advise and correct you where you get it wrong. Your father isn't mad to be threatening you.
ReplyDeleteTell us your crime(s) so we can know how best to advise. Even if you go to the station, the police will still ask you what did you do to him?
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Maybe e don dey nack one police officer nah.. nah why e say e won arrest.. this one get money to spend for station?
DeleteYour story is not complete so how do we advise you, anyways flee oo he will definitely do that. If nothing happen much maybe you guys keep her mental health in check 🙄
ReplyDeletePoster, you are not safe. Once there is a threat to life you must leave his residence. Yes, report it to ensure that there is a record, but do not expect to report it and that he will be happy afterwards, his anger will intensify and if you are in the same environment he probably will come for you. Tell others about this, do not keep it a secret. Please reach out to someone and get away from there. It is one thing for an angry parent to tell you that you are annoying, won't listen or whatever else, it's a completely different thing to threaten life and even bring out weapons.
ReplyDeleteYour presence represent a source which he can use to express his anger and frustration with his own life. Please leave and don't look back. Stay away from him. Locate a charity, NGO or the children's and women's affairs ministry and ask for help. Telling other family members is good, but they always want to encourage the child to apologise and be "good" and act as though things will get better because an apology has been said. Please seek to get out and utilize the help in the country. For the sake of your safety and well-being leave that place. May God guide, protect and keep you safe as you try to find safety and peace. Stay prayerful and connected to God..
I think first thing is you move out of the house if you can. Anything that has to do with violence and cutlass ,I no dey
ReplyDeleteOmg, u want to call police on ur father, lol..
ReplyDeleteMany of us went through this exact same thing from our parents and we survival, u will too..
Stop being stubborn, u must be doing something wrong to warrant this his reactions.. Be a good child please..
While no reason justify such action, what is d problem?
ReplyDeleteWhat led to this?
Meanwhile, you shouldn't still be living in the same roof with him.
Your father cannot threathen to kill you if you didn't do any thing,you're a stubborn child, you've provoked and disrespected your father so much,try and change your bad character.
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteMao Akuh
Have your Dad's mental health checked. No parent threatens their children like that except on rare cases.
ReplyDeleteHave him checked amd then, i think you can move out and be with friends for a while.
And also you can report him to his brothers or sisters and let them talk to him.
Try and have your own place.
ReplyDeleteStella thank you for speaking yet another truth to these bvs, that would just come here and lie coz the bitter women association will just begin to throw punches at the same men, they go extra mile to get hooked to.
ReplyDeleteWhere are the team of abuse is Abuse? and that a man who can beat his child can rape?
Stella's testimony is just the true reflection of a caring father wanting to see his daughter in the format that would make him proud, and am sure, such treat he never meant from from his heart , must have stirred something in her, to have reach this level today.
See how she never mention her contribution to what made her father acting the way he is? That is the same way many of you come here, instead of you saying it the way it is, to get true advice here.
Provoking the old man in this APC regime unnecessarily.
DeleteMao Akuh
Pls it’s not easy to move out
ReplyDeleteWhere will the person go
You may not have done anything to him but police will probably not help much
She may not have done anything Ke, have you seen or heard of stubborn children or even adult. Someone will be under his or parents roof and still be obedient, she wants to rub potty on her dads face. No sane parents will react this way without a reason please.
DeleteLet her stoop to conquer.
DeleteHer short chronicle tells one or all of at least 3 stories.
She's stubborn.
Her father is stubborn
One or both of them have challenge of liking the other or living together or ...
Whatever the case, after her father's home, is her matrimonial home IF she wants to be married. Would she go on there with her mindset of calling the Police?
Please, violence is not being encouraged but something triggered the father. Note how she evaded that but remember her gender. Such triggering part of her character is likely to trigger another person who lives with her.
17:52 how do you know her father is sane
DeleteI will advise you to leave his house to avoid story that touches the hearts.
ReplyDeleteReport to your relatives na?
ReplyDeletePoster I think you should pray for your Father and Fast About This Situation..
ReplyDeleteYou can get him whatever he likes, Sit Daddy down and talk to him if there's anything wrong you have done.. ask for Forgiveness.. Play with daddy jaree, whine him small joor..nah your papa nah..
May God Almighty Be with you🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
Please stop whatever you're doing that's bringing that level of provocation in him,even mad people don't go after one except you provoke them,or you move out.
ReplyDeleteI think I know what happened... you've got to be strategic till you leave the house. My Dad pulled a pestle and axe on me those days because I was always defending my Mum whom he oppressed till death, now he's calling me everyday trying to make up.
ReplyDeleteHe hates that you are audacious and strong willed, and hey, because you possess strong character like HIM.. he will do it if he sees the chance, so mellow down so you don't die untimely. It's not worth it.
I am the Poster.
ReplyDeleteI will write a well detailed Chronicle Later.
Thank you Stella for posting.
It’s how Nigerians normalize or justify a felonious action of threatening assault with a deadly weapon for me😳 No wonder we see disturbing headlines daily on those who actually carry out such threats. For the records, there is NO justification for threatening to assault or kill your child with a deadly weapon in hand, none. The day Nigeria actually works, many who say they want a working country will not like it. A dad like this may go to jail. Period.
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