Actress Doris Simeon Details How She Tried To Get Back Her Son From Her EX And His EX

US Based Nollywood actress and business woman Doris Simon, sat down for an interview and discussed all that she went through trying to get back her son from EX Husband Dnaiel Ademinokan and Colleague Stella Damasus...

She says....

“I am sure a lot of people know my story about me and my ex taking my son. The day the whole thing happened was when he said he was going to his mom's place and I was calling he wasn’t picking my calls and then all of a sudden you are in Abuja. I tried; a lot of people will feel that I don’t talk because I don’t come out to talk. I don’t I am not that kind of person. I know what I have gone through, when I try to talk and then cry.

People are pitying me; I hate pity. And I just stopped, I just decided to be on my own and pray and hope for you know a better way to handle the issue and fiam! They are in the US, took my son without my consent, he was just four years old or three years old then I think, when they came to the US. He was three when I mothered my child last. So, I didn’t know, I think it was somebody that told me about it. I was not in the know that he took my child to the US because it was without my consent. I didn’t know when they left Abuja it was just rumor flying up and down, then I started calling. He was three when he was taken to Abuja, by the time they got to the US he was already four. I was looking for them for like a year, I was calling but he would not pick and when he picks, he will say I will call you back. I am busy and maybe for another 2,3-5 months I won’t get through.

Finally, when I got through, he said it was work, I didn’t know I was going to travel this and that and then I said okay, finally I get to talk to you. My son was still little then, he was gisting me oh my daddy bought a big car, when am I coming, he is waiting for me. I said I will be there soon baby. And then I waited, at least he would let me know. And then I started all the court processing because of all the lies. I was on this court case for like 4-5 years going back and forth every day. Sometimes I wake up early in the morning and drive down to customary court on the island and then at the end of all the court case with all the this that they brought in they gave him custody while saying because he lives in America. That’s how bad our government can be. The child I gave birth to in Nigeria because he is having a better life in America.
They now said he has to be bringing him on holidays because he is schooling there, they can’t say he should pull him out of school, he should be bringing him down to Nigeria on holidays and then at least twice or three times in a year and all those things I was tired of all the back and forth, I was frustrated. I was depressed but I can never show that because I know where I come from. I know how my parents had taught us to be strong no matter what you are going through in life. So, I just forgot about it and said to myself you know what? If I die today, this child will live his life. So, I dust all of my steez, all of my demur and got back to work. Somebody said this thing to me ‘use your success to revenge, when you succeed that is a fight for you. When you are successful you are living fine no man will ever say it is because I am in her life that is why she is like this.’

It’s not that it didn’t hurt me that I couldn’t mother my child, he is 16 now. I still don’t get to know my child very well but I thank God that I am here. So, I just decided one day, you know its just me here let me go down there and see how it is. I don’t mind starting all over again. 

So, at first, I went to London 2018, I wanted to do my normal travelling tours and then maybe go back to Nigeria. I went to London I thought should I stay in London it is not too far to US but I bought my ticket for London and then I said let me go to US and see maybe I will probably stay there if it doesn’t maybe I will just come back to London and start my life all over again.

I came, before I came, I had called him that I am coming to see him, to see my son and all those things he said all sorts. I didn’t say anything because I had made up my mind. and when I got here, I saw him at the same time he was a little bit drawn back. When I saw him, he was 12 or 11 then? We went out to eat and he was just smiling, happy and nervous at the same time and I asked him, what is wrong? You want to talk to me and he said ''I am just happy; I don’t want this day to go'' that is the word that made me stay finally. I said ''you know what I am not going anywhere, I am here with you I am here for you'' that was what finally made me stay in 2018. 

We were staying in different states in the US, because New York was not far from Maryland. I wanted to go start all over in Pennsylvania because I have lived there before in 2014. So, when I visited him and he said that word I decided to stay in Maryland because it will be easier for me to see him. That was how we started the co-parenting because in his mind he thought I was there to fight him because of what happened in the years back. When I heard that they were in Atlanta he didn’t tell me anything, I just went for a movie premier and somebody told me am I here to see my son. I was not aware they moved from New York to Atlanta. I wasn’t allowed to see him; they were not picking my calls. They were threatening ''I will make sure you do not see the boy''.

That is why you will see me talking like I don’t care; I have decided in my heart that I will never take life seriously because by doing that you are killing yourself little by little. Make yourself happy, forget talks here and there I know its not easy. You will get into your closet when you are alone in your house and all then cry and say God why why why why, for how long do you want to say that for and yet you will still sleep and wakeup and continue saying God why. For you to sleep and wakeup it means that God gave you another opportunity. I heard the rumors that my ex took my son because I am always on set, this set that I go to, I go with my nanny, ever since I had my son even if I want to go outside of Lagos to shoot, I go with him but if I shoot in Lagos, I don’t ever stay outside I make sure I go back home.
In our marriage I was the one pushing him that they should go out and have fun, have friends. I didn’t even know anything in fact when this whole thing started, one journalist called me and was asking is it true? About the affairs. The only thing that hurt was that they didn’t let me mother my child. That is the only thing that hurt”

Source: Biola Bayo interview