Who married someone from a different tribe and is still trying to fit in? OR did you fit in already ?how did you do it`Or are you dating someone from a different tribe but seeing already the troubles with matching both tribes? Do you think you can cope?
Lets gist!
As for me eh, in the beginning I could not cope with a lot and it was both ways.....There were complaint with my tables manners and how i held forck and knife,my hubby supported me and did not allow anyone override or insult and gradually every was fine both ways.........Its not always easy whether in relationship or Marriage.
Different tribes but very similar culture. We're good.
ReplyDeleteOwala no see anything write because no man fit cope with your character 😆😆😆
DeleteDidinrin girl
Anon 20.40 there is a man for every woman & vice versa. But MS. Aboki Beloved na better person wey dey talk her mind
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I’m married to a different tribe and totally different culture. Fit in immediately because the family members that I’m directly involved with are either very educated, very exposed and enlightened and also very open minded. So no issues at all
ReplyDeleteI am idoma married to a yoruba man sincerely it was not easy at all. I am not open when it comes to trying new food and the idea of eating or cooking with iru was a challenge but my husband was and is still okay with me cooking with okpehe.
ReplyDeleteI'm igbo but you see that locust beans I so much love it I even use to buy it sometimes just to eat it
DeleteI am a Yoruba man, married to a Yoruba woman. Different culture but we fit in immediately...
DeleteWe muuve
Even as a Yoruba lady, i rarely cook with iru and I don't like okpehe.
DeleteI married a different tribe and I don't have any issues whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteI am married to a different tribe and it took me time to fit in.
ReplyDeleteI am an Ibo lady married to an Urhobo man and it went so smoothly his family had no problems with me. They are educated and enlightened individuals including my father in-law that man was God sent to me always calling and checking up on me even when I was not even married that time to his son. He will call and be singing to me oh if I remember him I always have a smile on my face. My husband likes our soups especially ukazi soup and he taught me how to eat banga soup 🤣We love each other and we are good.
ReplyDeleteI think 💬 the key is if the family is enlightened, because sometimes even with education, some are still backward in their way of life. I'm an Edo lady, married to an Ijebu guy! His mom is still a problem, always insisting on practicing outdated customs regarding wives! If not for her husband and his sisters who keep insisting that some of those practices are quite unfair.....if not.
DeleteNkiru, are you sure you are Igbo? Because no proud daughter of Igboland will spell Igbo as 'Ibo'.
DeleteAnon@ 18:18 na wah for you ooo. Ibo or Igbo thank God I commented based on the topic above. So far you understand what I wrote we are good to go. Thanks for the correction anyway I don hear.😍
DeleteEdo married to an Edo man..
ReplyDeleteSo glad I did.. Same culture, tribe, language and religion..
Kai! No wonder.
DeleteI'm dealing with an Indian guy 😍😍lover😍😍can't wait for him to be back so we can get into it properly 😍😍😍his sucking game is heavenly😍😍😍😍and it seems his gotten a hint of what i might like 😍😍😍omo...we can hardly wait for the main dish!1😍😍😍😍
ReplyDeleteSo you think that’s all to it. Mo ma sorry fun e o
DeleteWhat a positive post. It really was nice reading all the uplifting comments about cross cultural and inter tribe unions. People can get along if they really put their minds to it and respect is vitally important in any union. All the best to you all, continued love, joy and support.
ReplyDeleteAs i never marry,my mum is igbo while my dad is ishan the only time they had issue was when my dad said ukwa(breadfruit)is forbidden in ishan so my mum should not cook it in his house but my mum still cook am then when my dads brothers caught a rabbit my mum said they should not cook it in her house cuz they forbid it in her village.we just make fire downstairs use am do pepper soup chop
ReplyDeleteStill trying to fit in thou.
ReplyDeleteJust as Eka stated up there, when you've educated and exposed in-laws you won't have issues.
I am married to a different tribe. No issues whatsoever. Our meals are almost similar.
ReplyDeleteI'm Igbo married to ibibio, honestly there was no issue at all,my in-laws are wonderful people
ReplyDeleteI am married from tiv married to Yoruba. At was hell the first time. First my in-laws were very condescending despite exposed, well travelled and well educated. As an easy going soul that I am. I tried to manage and tolerate them. My husband is the last born and doesn't have a mind of his own. Hmmm is it when they speak their language to abuse me.... Their bro was to marry a Yoruba chic, medical doctor and me was just nysc returnee, so I wasn't close to what the family wanted for their son . When I gave birth to my son, they couldn't help but fall in-law with him cos he is so cute and healthy. Gradually, they started accepting me into their family. Not easy , in all of this, I just kept it to myself without sharing with my own family. I will not advise intertribal relationship or marriage to anyone.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry sis but look on the brighter side, it's good now😁
DeleteSo happy you had a cute healthy boy. Seems like he is a giver of joy to all. Find ways of enriching your own life. Slowly upgrade yourself for your own satisfaction and forget about them and the past. When you have a fulfilling and purposeful life people with small minds won’t matter. You sound young so time is in your side. Create your own empire and see all that you can become right before your very eyes.
DeleteI am a Yoruba lady married to a Yoruba man Ekiti man precisely. God has been good to us 😊
ReplyDeleteAh... Ekiti parapo! 🤗
DeleteMore like Èkìtì kété.
DeleteMy father is Akure while my mum is Owerri, they actually love each other, but at my own matured age, I just found out that my mum is just the problem with my father marrying the 3rd wife, my mum was 2nd didn't meet the 1st. And my mum keep on creating enmities between all of us. And there is no complete acceptance of the children from both tribe ( it is a salient truth)
ReplyDeleteYour father is FROM Akure. Your mother is FROM Owerri.
DeleteThe other ones, I'm sure someone will help you correct.
Me, I'm already tired.
I married from another tribe and fit in immediately, me that can fit in anywhere😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteI'm from Akwaibom but married to an Igbo man.... everything is going smoothly just the language barrier.
ReplyDeleteI am married to my tribe, yet I still experience some problems due to the fact that I grew up in the south south region
ReplyDeleteThank God for a supportive husband..
I marri
ReplyDeleteEd an italian..no issues
I recently tried inter tribal relationship o, e no easy to dey speak oyibo every time. I loved him sha.
ReplyDeleteI am Yoruba man married to Yoruba. I can also marry an Igbo without ado
ReplyDeleteI am a Yoruba lady married to an Anambra Man,
ReplyDeleteMy in-loves are wonderful people,
The love is mutual,
I am very selective when it comes to food ( My late Mum was so disciplined with what we eat,
Growing up,
it was basically Mum's food, older Siblings's food , what I can cook, Snacks and occasional Party food, so I didn't get to enjoy our people's food).
Although,We are Yorubas ( Lagosians in particular)
We never, Never cooked with" iru" in my house,
I still can't stand the smell till date.
I got married and I met with the Almighty "Ogiri" 😁 and "Okpehe",
I adopted "Okephe", but you see that Almighty "Ogiri", We are still trying to blend.
Thank GOD for
My wonderful mother- in-love🙇,
She no get problem at all👌,
She understands and try as much as possible to make sure that there are meals without "Ogiri" at home whenever we travel home.
It been years,
and GOD has been faithful.
In all,
My advice,
Marry a Man that is a Man,
Marry someone that can stand for you,
Marry a man that can protect you,
The Yorubas have an adage that says "Bi oni'gba ba se pe igba e, ni awon eyan maa ba pe" meaning that
"it is the importance / Value that one placed on what belongs to them ,that defines
the value or importance other will placed on it.
Ire OOOO.
You summed it all perfectly. Your mother in love sounds like my mother in love. Those ones will go out of their way to make sure you are totally at home in their homes. My regards to her.
DeleteMy Husband " Cross River" to Marry me.
ReplyDeleteWonderful Isoko Man( Side eyes@ Stella)
Different Family Backgrounds/ Beliefs.
Wonderful Almost 25years with Him.
Has it been all Rosy NO But I will never Trade my life with him.
I have Experienced " The Good,the Not so Good with Him.
My In-laws, Mind your Business Kind of people,Our Brother,Your Husband saw something he Loves in You,So Both of You Deal with yourselves Whether Good or Bad .
I Love my Life!!!!
I am a Satisfied Wife and Mother!!!!