CHRONICLE OF A MARRIED MAN

 Sad post alert....

We lost one of our staff recently. She was pregnant with her third child. The pregnancy went smoothly until the day of delivery, her labour was abnormally long, the doctor suggested that they carry out a CS as she had been in active labour for more than 12hours and the baby was distressed and mother too was getting weak.. 

Her husband and his mum who were with her refused, they told the doctor that she birthed her first and second "by herself" and so, this one should not be an exception.

 The man's mother told him to be patient as some women labour for days. I cringed when I heard that part. As a man, you were comfortable seeing your wife in pains for hours, you even agreed with your mother that she should continue in that pain for days? where is your conscience?

While all this was happening, they didn't tell the family of the wife what the doctor advised. They only told them she was in labour, they should pray for her safe delivery.
At a point they took her to another hospital when the doctor insisted on CS and told them to take her away since they refused to agree. She gave up the ghost in the second hospital. They had to still quickly perform that operation to bring out the child who was gone too. Sad!

The woman's father, on hearing what happened, arrested the man and his mother. They were locked up in the cell for almost one month, until after the woman's burial before they were released.
The two children were taken away from the man.
A man who cannot take a life-saving decision on his own, momma's apron string, is that one capable of taking care of children?

I don't think they will ever allow the children to live with their father. It was a very painful incident.
Men and women, CS is not a death sentence, if the doctor says that is the best option, allow them do it. Borrow money if you don't have, the most important thing at that moment is saving the lives of mother and baby. Safe delivery is when that is achieved, whether through CS or V-birth.
Women, stop mocking your fellow women who delivered via CS, it is a wicked thing to do. CS is a major surgery, it's a 50/50 situation, for a woman to pass through it and come out alive is a big deal, you should commend them instead of mockery. Let's do better as humans pls.
Safe delivery to all pregnant women.