Sad post alert....
We lost one of our staff recently. She was pregnant with her third child. The pregnancy went smoothly until the day of delivery, her labour was abnormally long, the doctor suggested that they carry out a CS as she had been in active labour for more than 12hours and the baby was distressed and mother too was getting weak..
Her husband and his mum who were with her refused, they told the doctor that she birthed her first and second "by herself" and so, this one should not be an exception.
The man's mother told him to be patient as some women labour for days. I cringed when I heard that part. As a man, you were comfortable seeing your wife in pains for hours, you even agreed with your mother that she should continue in that pain for days? where is your conscience?
While all this was happening, they didn't tell the family of the wife what the doctor advised. They only told them she was in labour, they should pray for her safe delivery.At a point they took her to another hospital when the doctor insisted on CS and told them to take her away since they refused to agree. She gave up the ghost in the second hospital. They had to still quickly perform that operation to bring out the child who was gone too. Sad!
The woman's father, on hearing what happened, arrested the man and his mother. They were locked up in the cell for almost one month, until after the woman's burial before they were released.
The two children were taken away from the man.
A man who cannot take a life-saving decision on his own, momma's apron string, is that one capable of taking care of children?
I don't think they will ever allow the children to live with their father. It was a very painful incident.
Men and women, CS is not a death sentence, if the doctor says that is the best option, allow them do it. Borrow money if you don't have, the most important thing at that moment is saving the lives of mother and baby. Safe delivery is when that is achieved, whether through CS or V-birth.
Women, stop mocking your fellow women who delivered via CS, it is a wicked thing to do. CS is a major surgery, it's a 50/50 situation, for a woman to pass through it and come out alive is a big deal, you should commend them instead of mockery. Let's do better as humans pls.
Safe delivery to all pregnant women.
May her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteWomen, please think for yourself at every critical point, you can even sign whatever paper in the operating room.
If need be, please, call your family members or friends, tell them the situation of things, don't allow others make decisions for you at the detriment of your life....
No Two/Third/fourth pregnancies are the same.
Exactly the woman in labour can actually sign off for the CS, she does not need her husband's consent unless it has been certified that the woman does not have the mental capacity to do so....Oh my God! This is a needless death...May her soul rest in peace.....The hospital also failed her as well...Which doctor will allow such thing when it is a case of life and death.......
DeleteI am so angry
Very senseless and needless death! Now the two children are without mother and father!
DeleteI still understand why the MIL was at the delivery ward
When I wanted to birth my baby months ago, I immediately sent for my sister to take my daughters away, so I could be settled to concentrate on the birth process
This is so sad.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace. Amen
Just Negodu!
ReplyDeleteAnother avoidable death!
Mtchewwwwwww 😡
May GOD rest her soul 🕊️
Hmmm. May her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThat’s how they were telling my wife to push a 12 pound baby for hours at a hospital in the abroad. I just pitied the Nigerian obgyn if not na lawsuit straight. In this your case, it is dereliction of duty to have continued to wait for consent from whoever if the patients life is in danger. You save the patient first and answer questions later.
ReplyDeleteThank you...The woman's father should have also arrested the doctor in the 1st hospital...Like who does that....Why not save the woman first who is your patient...So much for swearing the hippocrate's oath
DeleteI remember a distant male cousin whose wife and sister were making mockery of them selves about this cs issue.
ReplyDeleteHis sister gave birth through C's and the wife was mocking her about it. When it was time for the wife to put to bed, the doctor advised that CS is the only option but his wife and her family refused. Long story short, she latter died trying to force herself to birth d v way
Jesus....
DeleteJesus Christ!
DeleteI did not expect what I read at the end of this your story slim shady.
Any way wey woman take born no mean ooo the most important thing be say mother and baby dey alive..
ReplyDeleteMay Her Soul Rest well...🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
Ehya may her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, women should put themselves first before anything.
I remembered one woman in my villa that was always using cs birth to insult her daughter in law. Telling her "lazy girl that cannot even push out baby" that one will start crying. Mtcheew.
If I was the woman, I'd tell the doctor to go ahead with the cs and ignore the hubby and his mother. Wicked people.
Very wicked indeed! Someone said the same thing about me but e no concern me. It's me the children are calling mummy, not her.
DeleteOh my God 🙆😭😭
ReplyDeleteThis is a very very sad news.
Very sad 😢😢
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace
What kind of wicked and heartless mother and son is this? Godforbid
ReplyDeleteOmo, it is well with some people
DeleteThank God for God, I was in this situation almost 10 years ago but my mom said she will sign since my husband was enroute to the hospital and when my husband came, the doctor told him that the baby was distressed and was losing breath and my mom had to sign, he was asking if my mom’s signature was okay that he could also add his own😂😂😂😂, we laugh about it now but it wasn’t funny then. May her soul find rest.
ReplyDeleteVery sad,I had my son via CS,my baby daddy's siblings were all angry why I couldn't deliver myself and had to make them spend money is not as if they were the ones paying o,thankGod my son's grand father came through for us and my late bro also helped offset the bills,it is well.
ReplyDeleteOmo! This is so sad. Women, pls sign whatever form by yourself. Save your life first.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, the woman may be too weak to sign anything or know what is going on
DeleteThank you Oyin, you've said it all.
Delete@Otobong, the woman is the first person that will be told of the CS, so she has the right to sign if her husband refused to sign, it's her life.
I hate to hear something like this 😡😡😡
ReplyDeleteGod forbid I wait or rely on anybody be it husband or brother or MIL or even my father to advice me on how to give birth to my child. Sebi na my eye go close. Seriously on a personal note, i never force hubby to prepare for my child birth, i jejely keep my money ready incase. Even my sisters use to wonder what kind of person am I?
ReplyDeleteYou are someone who understands human nature very well.
DeleteI too am wondering why the deceased could not answer for herself what she wanted done. Was she under these two ppl’s control so much she could not make any decision for herself regarding her own body. Money should never be a consideration in a life or death matter especially in the case of a mother with young children. The two other children will have to grow up without a mum for no reason.
This is not only a sad read but also an annoying one. Ah Ah! Which kain wicked family be that 😫😠😠. Her death was very avoidable.
ReplyDeleteMay her soul rest in peace 🕊️
So sad, what did i just read?
ReplyDeleteRest in peace to her
ReplyDeleteIn 20fkn24 this shyt is still happening? Horseband with no damn sense in his head. Some folks need to go back to school and get some basic biology lessons. They probably think babies are sitting on a slide and when it's time for giving birth the baby just slides down and comes out easy peasy. Mtssccchww. All babies are babies whether they are born through the tunnel or CS. There is nothing unique about children who are born v@ginally that anyone would put someone's life at risk for this option.
ReplyDeleteWhy could the woman not make a decision for herself if she was still lucid? If the patient is lucid and conscious they should be the one to decide what they wish to do. The only time a spouse needs to make a decision on behalf of the other is if they are unconscious or incoherent/lacking cognition. This deferring to a husband or parent needs to stop when an adult patient is fully conscious to make their own choice! The father should investigate the first hospital too. That family is going through such pain because of something that was completely avoidable.
Such an avoidable death 😔. Tat husband and mother are wicked.😡
ReplyDeleteThis story has really hurt me. I can't believe this nonsense is still happening in 2024. I don't think they should be taking consent from the father. It's the woman's body. She should be the one giving consent
ReplyDeletePlease women mocking other cos CS is wrong. They infact should be arrested. With all the stress of pregnancy you want use wetin justify the pain.
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