STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDEDHubby earns N1Mmillion in this economy and he's not really interested in relocating, we live in north central state where nothing much is there for me to explore in terms of work, so I'm a stay at home mum, though I don't lack anything, how do I make him see reason why we have to relocate abroad? N1Millon is nothing in this economy!!!!
What makes you think abroad is the solution? Do you know how it is to relocate with a family? IT IS DIFFUCLT and the man may never find his feet..most people that make it need to leave their families and relocate first...would you want that?some may even go and not return to their wives becos they remarry to find their feet....leave him to make that move and dont force him else you may regret it::You are complaining for selfish reasons, open provision store in front of the house for now, interact more with people to busy yourself and let him think
What makes you think abroad is the solution? Do you know how it is to relocate with a family? IT IS DIFFUCLT and the man may never find his feet..most people that make it need to leave their families and relocate first...would you want that?some may even go and not return to their wives becos they remarry to find their feet....leave him to make that move and dont force him else you may regret it::You are complaining for selfish reasons, open provision store in front of the house for now, interact more with people to busy yourself and let him think
See your ungrateful mouth like 1mil is nothing in this economy. I know families earning 50k a month in this economy so shut up. You think abroad is heaven where you get there everything is bliss. Just leave that man alone and go earn 1mil by yourself if e easy .mchew
ReplyDeleteAnd she's does nothing oh.
DeleteLoool Stella what's with you and this provision shop 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteAbroad isn't heaven one must have a proper plan. Don't do things because others are doing it.
I was about writing the same thing. She seems to have seen that somewhere and it has unfortunately etched itself on her mind. Hahahahaha 🤣 🤣 🤣 I laughed out loud when I got to that part. At this point, you could asked Stella for her name and she will reply with provision shop. Hahahahaha 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteThe grass is not always greener in the other side
DeleteI tire!
DeleteShe and Fan Emmanuel have been cracking my ribs with this talk. 🤣🤣🤣
The way Stella is advising people to open provision store😂 shop rent will soon increase
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
Hahahahaha
Delete😂😂
DeletePoster please start the relocation process in your own. 1 m can’t guarantee good standard of living anymore. Can you change your car? Pay prime school fees?. Please start the process your husband will come around
Delete@Stella 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you and opening provision stall near your house.....
ReplyDeletePoster while I understand your japa option based on how Nigeria has turned out, I am more concerned about you and rightly said, 1 million is 'not enough' however I see you are comfortable with your status quo; because your husband earns a lot does not mean you won't have something going on in your life...You can't depend solely on husband's income because Life can happen to anyone...
To japa you need skills or you think you will eventually japa without bringing some income on the table...My advice is get something doing, develop a skill or get a job, don't depend on your husband for everything...Focus more in building your family with your husband..
All the best
It's the nerve of some women for me.🥺
ReplyDeleteShe's got nerves and idleness.
DeleteWomen!
ReplyDeleteI pity this innocent husband of yours.
Is it that we don't have sensible and reasonable women again? Must he do your bidding of relocating? What's so special? Because he earns 1m he should do big things that's how you all live miserably and above your means.the young man is doing fine and living content fully with a grateful mind but too sad he has a foolish wife that he is yet to find out.
Get out! Foolish women are the burden of men.
Don't mind her! Is about purchasing power! What 1m will do for you monthly in Nigeria! $10,000 will not do it in America! I have lived across continents! If you live in the silicon valley earning 250k per annum! Only rent of 2 bedroom in San fran is about 5200 with utilities, before other expenses o!
DeleteI have lived in the most expensive cities in the world!
I am taking about London, New York and San Francisco! And other cities in the Middle East!
Do you know where I live now? A river side apartment in one region in Nigeria @ working remotely!
I took time out to come and cool my head in Nigeria!
I still work globally!
My dear take Stella's advise and make yourself useful!
I am a woman! Make una nor dey carry dream wey una family nor fit accomplish put for man head! The man is earning one million! Focus on building and nurturing your family! Abroad life! Now state go train your children! Telling them they can be any gender! Thank God for your husband's earning power in current day Nigeria.
Anon 20:10, easy dey lie o. Na wa. Who sent you to live in London? Even in Nigeria, can she afford Lekki rent?. Not to talk of VI and ikoyi???.
DeleteHaaaa
I say again, easy dey lie oo
It's like na to open provision shop dey reign now o 😂😂🤣
ReplyDeleteAbi
DeleteFela
ReplyDeleteWhen trouble sleep iyanga go wake am, wetin e dey find.
Palava e dey find, palava e go get yo.
Some Have, Some have not. Hubby makes 1Milli, Madam how much are you contributing ? No too stress the Man abeg !
ReplyDeleteThis comment rubbed me off the wrong way.
ReplyDeleteIf you are so keen on getting something doing, you can learn a skill and get a job online/remotely. It truly pays. I've been working remotely for the past 9 months and it's the best decision I've ever made.
Please don't put a lot of pressure on your husband, so he doesn't end up doing something he might regret.
Anon pls enlighten me on how to work remotely . We need sources of income
DeleteMe too am interested house of janey teach us oo🙄😘
DeleteMadam please follow mami Stella's advice, you married husband wey dey earn money that's why it gives you mouth to talk about relocating, your own better sef enjoy
Please dear, which skill helped you to land a remote job.Help a sister Please 🙏
DeleteSorry for the late reply. I work as a scriptwriter and earn money on Upwork.
DeleteWhat you need to do is learn a skill, and then you can earn in hard currency. The good thing about this is that, because the exchange rate is so high, no matter how little you earn, it’s still far better than what you would earn in naira.
Is it because he is earning 1 m, you think 1m can be enough to relocate?
ReplyDeleteHave you gotten a job for him abroad?
It's like the North Central that you live is not making you know what's up
N1m per month? You say it's nothing? And some people's monthly salary is 50k. Poster na wah for you oh.
ReplyDeleteHave you talked to him about it?
ReplyDeleteYou can start the process of relocation,If you're so keen about it. Our family friend started a course in care giving job and after certification. She also helped her husband to get a job. The husband who was reluctant to go,joined her. Relocation is a lot of process not a walk in the park.
ReplyDeleteThank you for advising reasonably. 1 million is nothing for someone already used to some standard of living. I know a couple that were earning more than a million and with time, they couldn’t afford what they were used to: traveling yearly, top schools for the kids, filling the Gen, and maintaining the cars, eating a balanced diet and still saving on top. They cut their losses and left. They are doing very very well in the country they relocated to.
DeleteNigerians have a culture of suffering and smiling, managing until your back breaks. There’s nothing wrong in dreaming for a better situation than what you have. Richest man still dey hustle o. There’s nothing wrong with how you feel poster. Start the process, who knows maybe one day he would see reason and you would have been almost done with the process by that time. Good luck.
PS: try to start earning or saving
Is like Stella likes that provisions store business too much🤣🤣
ReplyDeletemadam poster calm down and follow Stella advice.
Yes you need to start from somewhere. Just have a grocery store around you and get busy to kill boredom
ReplyDeleteIn this economy, one million is still something, some people are not even earning up to quarter of it and they're coping, not everybody that relocates will make it, abroad isn't automatical paradise, some people are living large here and living like slaves after relocation.
ReplyDeleteEven if he wants to relocate, let him relocate at his own will, don't force him, so that he will prepare for anything that comes his way.
As for your own, you can be selling stuff online, or be doing remote job, if you have the skills.
If money dey shebi I for go open Provision Shop 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤸🤸🤸
ReplyDeleteFather Biko bless me with Provision.shop oooo...🤣🤣🤣🤣
Abeg iya Boys done finish work I don't know what to say again🤣🤣
Hello iya Boys
Like you always have something (reasonable) to say before. 🙄🙄
DeleteAnon 17:20 🤣😂
DeleteMy dear relocation is not easy especially with your family. If you now have little ones; just be keeping money for childcare.
ReplyDeleteI believe in that area you are at, there must be things you can get busy. If you don't have space for provision store like Stella suggested, you can start online business.
If you want to travel abroad with your family, travel when you're financially stable and ready.
It is not about the fine fine pictures taken in fine fine backgrounds; you must be ready ready.
1m a month = 120 m in a year, plus allowances here and there. If channeled well, its very good in this economy.
ReplyDeleteMadam, have you thanked God for this. Thank Him and you will see why you are blessed.
Well said 💯
DeleteWhat sort of mathematical formula did you use to arrive at 120m in a year?
Delete1 mill a month = 12 million a year...12 months in a year...therefore 1 x 12 = 12 million not 120m, well except of course, it is a typo...
Delete12million
DeleteDearest poster, relocation may not be the answer. If he doesn't want, pls leave it alone..
ReplyDeleteMay God have mercy on you.
ReplyDeleteOnly a woman suffering from bankruptcy of ideas can sit down and type this tripe. You want your husband to move? Why should he? So he can carry a liability like you along? You didn't see work to do. Business nko? Or that's too beneath you?
ReplyDeleteI don't blame you. Na your husband dey tolerate you.
We will soon have a provision store on this blog. Poster, have you tried to do something apart from getting a job in order to support your man?
ReplyDeleteI think you also need to make more effort concerning the relocation since your man isn't so keen about it, maybe that could help change his mind or you both would reach a middle ground.
For every one good story of ppl who japa and are making it, there are probably 2 or 3 bad ones that nobody ever talk about. You are situated in a safer state where you stated nothing much is happening. Your husband earns an exceptionally good income compared to most of the population. Yet, you would prefer to go into someone else’s country to be a third or fifth class citizen instead of you living in the honour that you have where you are. Didn’t you read about the anti immigration sentiments growing in some of these places, the high cost of living and even economic recessions some of them are going through. Not to mention the mental health problems some immigrants experience.
ReplyDeleteDo not let boredom cause you to create stress in your household. Even volunteering your time is always an option. Being of service and building your community is always in style. Learn a trade, go back to school. There are ways to use your time that are all positive and doesn’t involve creating problems in your marriage. If your husband is. It in agreement then leave him alone. Build love and togetherness in your marriage not stress and division. Nigeria is not hell and these outside countries are not heaven.
Isn’t in*
DeleteThose that are complaining that women do not bash their gender when they do wrong see it now how this poster is being bashed. Poster is not supported now o.
ReplyDeleteWhat wrong did she do that you’re all bashing her?. Do you people not like rich people this much? Na wa
DeletePoster,you can go into distribution of pampers or go into baby things business.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you relocate before marriage on your own if that is your objective,housewife busy doing nothing
ReplyDeletePeople like you are the reason scammers are smiling to the bank daily.
ReplyDeleteFollow Stella's advice, don't be ungrateful.
ReplyDelete1 million is very good..and from where you are staying, cost of living might be low..be careful what you wish for
ReplyDeleteMadam poster......abroad is not easy ooo, be warn!!
ReplyDeletePoster the same data you are using to complain about your husband is the same one others are using to make money. There are so many free courses on youtube for you to watch so you can learn remote work/ But your own na japa. You have no clue! Japa means no house help, obeying the rules, doing whatever you can for survival in the early days. Do you have children? That one na another wahala. Making sure you live in a good catchment area so they can go to good schools. You cannot beat them anyhow, shout at them etc without the school notifying the authorities. On top of that you have to monitor them socially and academically to make sure they don;t fall into a bad crowd and the trap of the police. Think well o and don;t be a foolish woman.
ReplyDeleteContinue to persuade him
ReplyDeleteBut also what opportunities have you found for relocating
What’s your career? Is it one that allows you to easily relocate. Depending on you guys, 1M may indeed not be much
Yes, open provision store add cold room business to it. Be his helpmeet!
ReplyDeleteMake the most out of your environment and even this economy. Thank God your hubby is doing well