TIRED OF TALKING AND DATING STAGE
I met a guy who was in the company of a lady at a popular spa in Lagos, five years ago. This guy was engaging me different discussion but i was not comfortable since he came with a lady, i voiced about the lady but he claimed they were just friends. We exchanged contact and he reaches out when he wishes.
At a point the communication was not existing, i was amazed to see his chat some days ago saying he is currently working outside Lagos and he wants us to start dating and so. He requested for some of my pictures, i told him i do not have any to share as this guy is also a facebook friend(i feel he should go check FB for some pictures). He told me to let him know when he can call me, i replied that anytime is okay, i am yet to see his call after a week.
I'm 33, i genuinely want to date an intentional man and get married, i am tired of the cycles of talking stage/dating.
At a point the communication was not existing, i was amazed to see his chat some days ago saying he is currently working outside Lagos and he wants us to start dating and so. He requested for some of my pictures, i told him i do not have any to share as this guy is also a facebook friend(i feel he should go check FB for some pictures). He told me to let him know when he can call me, i replied that anytime is okay, i am yet to see his call after a week.
I'm 33, i genuinely want to date an intentional man and get married, i am tired of the cycles of talking stage/dating.
The guy is not Interested in a relationship....he will start ghosting you after he achives his aim.
If you do not date or talk, you will end up marrying nonsense ...I understand your desperation at 33 but please take it easy so you dont end up marrying a monster or someone who will change your life for the worse....
But wait oh, if you are yet to see his call, what stops you from calling him back? is there a rule that says only the man must call?or that only the man must toast first.....Do you know if he fell sick? call to find out how he is doing..YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE...
5 years ago?!
ReplyDeleteForget that boy and keep it moving.
He's a monitoring Spirit.
What if he was in a relationship then?
DeleteHe is breadcrumbing you...Abort mission...When you meet an intentional man, you will know...It is as clear as day..
DeleteThank you Stella for your advise. In my own experience, I exchanged contact with my husband in October. Guy called once or twice but said I didn’t lead him on, so he gave up. I didn’t remember because I was in a relationship at that time. When I moved out of the relationship, I kept wondering this charming guy I gave my contact to, that never called to woo me. That’s how I contacted him and started the gist it’s been 11 years since then 😀
DeleteNow he remembers you exist🙄. If he was interested in you, or dating you, he would have reached out. He probably just wants to knack you. I'd say avoid him.
ReplyDeleteMe too, poster avoid him, he's not serious.
DeleteYou'll know when he's really serious.
Na knack the guy came back to do poster, it's obvious you are the side one.
DeleteI think you should call him and find out why he hasn't called like he promised..
ReplyDeleteAnd again don't get yourself worked out ooo, cos you're 33years of age..
To me I feel marriage happens in an Organic way..
God will perfect everything that concerns you..🙏🙏
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Your English is improving. Well done and keep it up. However, it is worked up and not worked out. Also, pls remove oooo from your comments henceforth.
DeleteAnon 16.43 you must be the most saddest person in the world. Infact you intelligent Quotient is too low to be engaged in this sort of conversation.Continue on your path. It suits you perfect. Your punctuations are there yet too.
DeleteThe format don cast na. Bad grammar, grabs attention, then suddenly improves
DeleteThe way dogs can recognize fear from afar and attack you is th same way men smell deaperation from afar and either avoid you or key into your deaperation and chop you . Shine your eyes. God does everything beautiful at his own time.
ReplyDeleteLet me read comments today.
ReplyDeleteHe is married period.
ReplyDeleteForget him maybe he is done with the other of his girlfriend and remembered you and decided to try and know if he will taste your cookies jaree na try and luck he come oo 🙄🙄
ReplyDelete"We exchanged contact and he do reach out when he wishes.
ReplyDeleteAt a point the communication was not existing"
You shouldn't have given him an audience. He can never take you seriously because in his eyes you are not not a prize else why would you still be there waiting for him to pick you up after 5good years? To him that means you do not have toasters. He is just being nosy and keeping tabs on your life hence asking for pictures, he will come back again and again to you to raise your hope hoping to hit and bounce or just see if you have finally been snagged by a serious guy. Block him and move on if you know you are not strong enough to ignore him if he comes back again.
Just mirrored his attitude and behaviour back to him. just play along if you can but don't lose guard
ReplyDeleteI think he's married, he called u when he is working outside Lagos. Pls be careful
ReplyDeleteStop waiting in vain. Forget him. Erase him from your memory and move on. He is not the only man on the planet, why are you keeping the door open for him? Please block him and move on. You didn’t even develop a genuine friendship so what is this foolishness. My dear stop wasting your own time!
ReplyDeleteThis man is not the one you're waiting for. As you looking for an intentional man,you too,must be intentional about your priorities. Marriage doesn't solve life's issues.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you're navigating some complex feelings. It's important to recognize your worth and not rush into a relationship without mutual commitment. Patience can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling connection when the right person comes along. Focus on yourself and what you truly want, and the right opportunity will present itself.
ReplyDeleteFor some that started being serious with communication because he relocated from Lagos, don't you think the girl he denied is actually his babe in his former location?
ReplyDeleteHe will do same thing he didn't to the other girl to you. Having you as his girlfriend and still cheating with other girls, afterall, you knew him to be a cheat , yet you agreed to date him.
Did he collect your phone number in the present of the lady that he came to the Spa with?
ReplyDeleteYou can call him, you do not need to wait for him to call. Anybody can call first.
You are still single so, you cannot be tired of dating or talking stage. Communication is super essential so, there is no way that we can totally leave that during talking stage.
We wish you luck
Forget him o
ReplyDeleteRed flag.
ReplyDeleteHe just wan chop your kpekus clean mouth.
He waited for 5years when he has been transferred outside Lagos before reaching out to you. Please run for your life.
ReplyDeleteYou do not call a man to find out why he has not called you back. That’s like accepting his disrespect. I advise you to block him and move on. He is clearly a time waster.
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