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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DESPERATE FOR A HUSBAND
I am in my 40's, the prettiest of us all but never had a toaster come to tell me he wants to marry me..my body is tired from sleeping around looking for a husband so that my sisters can quickly marry before the men loose interest....
African tradition is killing me....
Even if i run away abroad, as long as i dont marry,my sisters will be trapped and hate me for life...They dont talk to me anymore as it stands......
I want to get someone just to marry and dont mind divorcing if it doesnt work out but truthfully i seek a soul mate and i want to know if i can confidently ask a man to marry me and have no consenquences later?I need encouragement to do this...
Can i do it? Has anyone here ever chatted up a man for marriage before and they got married? Please help and dont talk me down, this may be someones story as well..... Jeweluch please be gentle with your response.I love you
Thank you...
Errrrrrm my response is always gentle nah......
This tradition thing is not funny oh...what state does this? ah ah!!
Please if you see someone you like, go for him, if he says no, try someone else but please close your legs and stop trying to use gbenshing to find husband..
I wish you the best my dear.....
Wiait wait wait...why did you say that you are a sacrificial lamb?
Aww baby I feel you. It is well with you. God of eleventh hour will answer your prayer . Before this month next yr you will marry and you will be pregnant as well. So shall it be in Jesus name amen. Don't be scared to propose.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid tradition is this bikonu? Poster keep praying to God he will surely come through for you. And pls stop being desperate because most men tend to take advantage of desperate ladies thereby defrauding them physically, emotionally and financially. Keep praying to God using Psalms 51,91,121,27,and 35. Wake up in the middle of the night and pour out your heart to God. Tell him to remove the demonic masks covering your beauty thereby making men not to desire you for marriage. Most single advanced ladies faces are being covered in the spiritual realm that's why no matter what they do for a man to wife them it doesn't materialized. Keep praying and never give up,your testimony is around the corner. When we're tired and all human efforts failed us then that's when we should turn to God bcos he will never fail his children
Delete@Poster, pls pray with the psalms, posted by First daughter.
DeleteYou are praying the word. And watch your revelations/dreams. God will reveal to you, if you are consistent with the prayer.
Where are you from and which tradition is that? I would like to know. Our last born(woman) is married with two kids while the one that senior me directly hasn't married.
ReplyDeleteMy younger brother too is married with two kids while I'm not. So I feel this isn't an Igbo tradition, for I know Igbo families too that have done same.
Pls you shouldn't block them. So if you're destined not to get married, that's how you will also deny them too marriage.
Pls your siblings should marry and I don't think anything will happen. Probably that belief came so that younger ones will give respect and regard to the elder ones. Pls don't block them.
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Pay him! In this economy if you come with money and make your terms and offer and you do your research and discover the man is decent without a criminal record or known mental health problems, just pay him and let the time run out where it would be okay to divorce and there you have it. If you are doing this simply to secure your younger sisters and as an act of sacrifice for them just enter the business marriage route if you have the financial means to do so.
ReplyDeleteIf you don't see money to do a business marriage then do one of those remote marriages where the husband never comes home and lives in a distant place or one of those polygamy marriages. If none of these appeal to you then you will likely have to do some kind of dry fasting and throw yourself on the mercy of God for a solution, you have to be very specific in this because the solution could be that God takes your life, as this could be the easiest and quickest fix, so know exactly what you are asking for and speak specifically for what you need.
Exactly, pay someone and tell your family the person relocated abroad and it will be your turn in a year or 2, with time, tell them he absconded. Only do bride price. If you can locate an undercover gay even better. Don’t wait till Xmas, people are relaxed and attentive that period. Groom a male friend to assist you. Don’t stress yourself too much, don’t let the world stress you either.
DeleteNne, you are a wicked person. I see no reason why they can't go ahead make you and your tradition go sidon. ...if tomorrow they marry before you, you will not also speak with them. Abeg bye
ReplyDelete@15:16, that is so mean. Why can't we be nice in responding to peoples stories? You haven't walked in her shoes so you don't know. It is wrong to minimize somone's pain or challenge.
DeleteShe won't talk to her sisters if they get married before her??? Maybe you are capable of doing that, that's why you came in so strong on this.
I have two sisters, all of them married before me. And i didn't see anything wrong with that. It was never an issue. Everyone has their path. God has a path for everyone. Some will marry, some will not, some will have children some will not. How is it her problem with someone's path???
If we understand this we will have less problems.
Comprehension is far from you. Read the Chronicles again and this time, slowly. It's obvious you're one of the few that tag chronicles posters as wicked without justification most times and days.
DeleteWhere did she say she’s the one stopping them
DeleteBe reading well
Very wicked. Encourage your sisters to marry please. Church will surely wed them until whenever your village people are ready to collect bride price.
DeleteAnon 16:18, if she had no hand in it then why will her sisters stop talking to her???. It’s obvious she is in support of said tradition
DeleteTo me I feel your people or if is a tradition they should allow your Younger Ones to go ahead and get married.. you never can tell how Glorious Doors will Open for you..
ReplyDeleteYou never can tell dear Poster..
I have never seen were is written that older one must get married before younger one..
Nah who marriage come for first make she marry ooo..
Why won't you get married, you will nahh nothing wey God no fit do..
Believe in Him
Trust in him
Depend on him
Surround your yourself with God's word and stop sleeping Around ooooo.
Go out , make new friends
It is well with You
May You heart Desires be granted 🙏🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
40s and asking this type of questions
ReplyDeleteCome on now. Be bold
What has waiting for them to ask you done fir you. Ask your sisters to bring someone for you and keep it moving
Firstly, you have to tell them you don’t mind your sisters getting married before u. Tradition or not, this has been happening and heaven didn’t fall.
ReplyDeleteWho knows, this may just open up ur windows of marital blessings.
I can assure you she did already
DeletePay someone to pretend to marry you. So that for your folks will think you are married and they will allow your younger ones to marry. Make a deal with someone trustworthy and after a year or two divorce. Let them sign a prenup.
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you poster. Don't know about such tradition. We are also five girls,the second and third got married with grown up kids before our first daughter. You need liberation from such tradition.
ReplyDeleteIt's mental slavery that is the problem of their family
DeleteSay no to tradition that keeps women bound. At your age you are still bowing to evil. Continue. You want to marry and divorce. My prayers for you is that you will come out alive
ReplyDeleteSay no to tradition that keeps women bound. At your age you are still bowing to evil. Continue. You want to marry and divorce. My prayers for you is that you will come out alive
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how your sisters are feeling. Maybe you should get a contract marriage.
ReplyDeleteThis is not even a Nigerian culture madam but your tribe. Why say African culture. This is barbaric, period! May I ask what would happen if your sisters decide to marry? Will the gods strike them down? I can't believe some people still hold on to things like this in 2024. Thank God you don't have a sibling like me, I will shun the culture and get married at the registry. When my mum is ready for the bride price, she can holla me. But I won't sit put and wait for any elder sister.
ReplyDeleteSame way you people believe in a God in the skies.
DeleteI never see this kind tradition before oo. In Nigeria? I only saw this in the Bible when Jacob wanted to marry Rachel and the father refused that he must marry Leah first
ReplyDeleteIt's not always easy for first daughters and first son. My own case is that my my younger brother is about to get married. We are three boys 2nd boy don marry. And I am the first
What will I do. I will wait for my time
This your tradition strong
Annon come and marry me. I promise you won't regret it.
DeleteAnon wed Anon..what will the hastag be?
DeleteTradition strong how? Will someone die if the younger ones marries first? What is strong about people obeying unnecessary laws?
DeleteIt's not just to marry but ensure that you marry well
ReplyDeleteIn your 40s, why are you wishing to marry now and end up divorcing? Haaa, marriage is a serious something, better to marry late and marry well
Please, if your younger ones wants to marry, allow them, that can even open your own Marital door, it's not too late to marry, God does not come late oh, His timing and calendar is different from ours.
Wish I wish i can get in touch with you dear Poster
God will do it
You will marry well
You will not marry just for marrying sake
Your marriage shall fulfill the purpose of God and it will be glorious
You will not be put to shame in Jesus name
EHugs
I don’t understand. What does ur religion say about it? Like what does ur bible say? I am a Muslim, and i know that any tradition that goes against the provisions of the Qur’an, automatically has to be done away with. So i’m assuming you are a muslim, cos this can’t happen. If u r a Christian, pls disregard what anybody has to say, pick ur bible and check what it says regarding this kind of situations, if it gives u the go ahead, jst tell them, they can go ahead and nobody should wait for you, if they decide to wait, they are highly on their own.
ReplyDeletePls don’t pay anybody to marry you. I wish you the very best of luck.
*i’m assuming you are not a muslim
DeleteGood
DeleteHmm...I know it's customarily expected for the older ones to settle down b4 the younger ones but this poster has seriously exaggerated it. There is no such tradition that will put embargo on marriage because one's older sister is single. In this 2024? Not 1, not 2 but 4 younger siblings are putting their lives on hold for you?
ReplyDeleteSorry, I do not buy this story.
Ms Saphire, do you know about the tradition of every Nigerian family? I have heard this balderdash is extant in the eastern part of Nigeria.
DeleteAnony 17:50 you lied, there's nothing like that in the eastern part of Nigeria. Like Ms Saphire said, the Poster exaggerated it. She doesn't want her younger ones to marry before her, simple.
DeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteLook for deliverance prayers online and pray.
Also on the other hand, go to Dunamis international Gospel Center, or Mfm. To clear all the angles.
The tradition maybe the ones holding you down from getting married. Pls clear all angles and trust God
You didn't tell us if there is any consequency that will befall you or your family if your younger ones marries before you.
ReplyDeleteIt has been from time immemorial. It's just a way to not be a laughing stock to the family for never getting married as, there's this notion that some ladies been satisfied with themselves will never permit a man over them maritally.
DeleteJust as it has been from time immemorial that it's not good for a woman to woo a man, but today, many women are doing it. It has been like that from time immemorial that women are not supposed to be the breadwinner, but today you will find women who do it confidently. If posters sisters are ready to marry, they will do so without minding what that tradition says, so long as the manmade rules doesn't come will repercussion in the life of the family, repercussions like 'going blind if such a thing happens, death or other deadly sickness .
DeleteFunnily, it could be a mere human being that made these rules with his family and others decided to copy and now they have made it a law in their land.
It's a way to avoid being laughed at as you said, but do you know that people will laugh more if the other girls end up not being married because they were waiting for their sister to marry before them?
DeleteAs they are prolonging things now that their men are ready to settle down, a time may come when the men may move to the next available girl and finding another man maybe difficult for them and this definitely will make it more laughable than when it's just one person that is not married.
How does it even make sense to obey this type of tradition? We obey traditions that adds value to our lives and that of the community, not this type of tradition .
Oh dear poster, I really feel for you.. This heartbreaking to read, may God give u ur own husband.. This is so unfair..
ReplyDeleteU can pay someone to marry u just to free ur sisters and divorce him if it's not working out..
May God help you with this your situation.
ReplyDeleteGod will see you through
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of blizzard tradition is that? Doesn't make sense at all.
ReplyDeleteIgbo tradition
DeleteBiko, I am Igbo and I have never seen this happen
DeleteMay God come through for you and your family. This your tradition is somehow.
ReplyDeleteYes it happened to me, I paid him for the fake marriage.
ReplyDeleteDivorced after 2 years as agree.
Problem is that now he has fallen in love.
Meanwhile I have met my own soulmate.
Life if complicated.
Poster money can buy anything, just make money.