Hmmmm.....
FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN
I am confused and dont know what to do.......I wont go into much details cos one of the persons involved reads this Blog sometimes and this is not how i want them to find out cos it will only make things worse....I am going to tell this Narrative with as little details as possible because of this.
I just found out that my friend is dating our friends husband.....They do not know that i know and I dont know how to handle this cos I am so shocked,seriously shocked!....
It so happened that i saw them arguing from afar and that looked very strange to me cos they hardly talk in my presence andshe always made it known how much she dislikes him.....By the time i got closer to them, there was no sign of argument again.. This happened twice over a period of time and i decided to watch them and my findings are mind blowing and will not just break that marriage but will drag and break everyone alongside......
I dont know if i should tell my friend what her husband and friend are doing or confront my friend and my friend husband....I know for sure that however this turns out, friendships will be broken...
Should i keep quiet and cut all of them off? Note that my accusations have no proof, i only know what i saw and heard but i cant prove it and i will be made to look like a liar.....
Hmmmm this one is tough oooooooooooooooo...I honestly dont know what to advice o let me read comment...
If you wanna tell your friend, i'd advise you do so in Anon mode. If you tell her as a friend, and she decides to stay with him, trust me that's the end of your friendship with her. Do not confront tmthe man or the other friend, it is not your job/place to do so. Avoid them if you can, and I repeat do not confront them.
ReplyDeleteDo unto others as you would like them to do unto you. Tell her anonymously, if nothing else, at least she has been put on notice. All those telling you to mind your business are wicked, selfish and probably involve themselves in illicit relationships.
DeleteYou are right.. Poster go with this..
DeletePoster please don't keep quiet but do it Anonymously, chai! This is heart breaking o, the foolish horseband with a sharp preek couldn't take his madness faraway but to their cartel member, Tueh, even the useless girl couldn't say no too, shame on both of them.
DeleteI agree to this. Na wa ooo. Some friends ehn
DeleteIt's really a dicey one.
ReplyDeleteSince you don't have any proof,I think you shouldn't spill yet to your friend till you find evidence ,so you don't destroy someone's marriage and relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster get proof if you can before telling anyone. Proof is very important.
DeleteDon't confront them so they won't harm you just to cover their secrets? Inform the wife in an annoymous way because women, if you tell them things like this they will let their husband know the person that revealed the secret to them.
ReplyDeleteIf you have evidence, you can show her aswell.
Not all women are so dumb as to reveal the source of their information pls
DeleteI will advise you mind your business,since there's no proof. Words of mouth is not enough for such confrontation. You can send your friend an anonymous messages to look into the affair. Disgusting husband and a devious friend. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletePoster since there is no proof, I will advise you to mind your business and face front .
ReplyDeleteYou cannot do confrontations and make accusations without proof. So, at this stage it is best to keep your mouth shut and mind your business. You can always ask your friend if everything is good on the the home front and leave it at that.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to matters of infidelity, I try to mind my business. I have been witnessing infidelity and its effects since I was a child and folks have a way of sorting out their business on their own. Some decide to leave, some stay, others retaliate with their own infidelity. But everyone finds a way to handle it in their own way. It is better to be prayerful and ask God to take control.
May someone else mind their business when e reach your turn amen@anon 15.16
DeleteMy dear, the only things on my mind are my God, my health, my money, and fulfilling my purpose. The chances of your wish coming true is slim to none.
DeletePoster in Law maxim it says ''He who alleges must bring proof''......If say you know, you could have recorded the conversation or open an anonymous X account and do those 3rd person call out people do e.g if you know your name is Dodo, your husband is Ewa, please know that this lady XXXX is sleeping with your husband e.t.c, tag the necessary accounts to make it viral and delete your account immediately....Since you have no concrete evidence, my advice is to observe from afar and try as much as possible to disassociate yourself with those friends of yours.....
ReplyDeleteIf you had proof, then I would have advised you to forward the message with different number anonymously to give heads up.....You have to be very careful with these people you call friends so they don't unalive you....Be wise as serpent yet gentle as a dove...Don't be a voltron in this case.....Nothing is hidden forever and under the sun.....
Look out for yourself and be careful....
All the best....
Posting it online is embarrassing the wife publicly which will make it worse. Poster, anonymous text message with a newly bought SIM card is the way to go, write in a manner that can't be traced to you and outline your suspicions, advising her to investigate properly and quietly. Break the SIM card immediately you send the message and watch how it plays out.
DeleteMind your business. I also think you are not sure, no go accuse people wrongly. You also sound like you want the man too ("Should i keep quiet and cut all of them off?"). Why e dey pain you?, why do you want to cut them off, you can't stand it that the person you want, being on the side with another. If not wetin concern you, they don't want you to know, they assume you do not know, so you shouldn't know. Just live like you do not know and do your friendship with them, both now and even if it bursts, you don't know still.
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DeleteNa wa!
True not all women h8te adultery.
Most women just form that they do and that all women do too.
Abi na trees men dey do adultery with?
No wonder naija rotten. No accountability everyone looking the other way.tueh
DeleteSick fellow
DeleteTell the wife via an anonymous message but warn her to observe and not confront both parties yet.
ReplyDeleteBV Sylvia
This Matter Strong ooo
ReplyDeleteFather Takeaway every unfriendly Friend ooo..
Abeg I will come back to Read Comments..👍👍
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My dear don’t say anything. The way things work, because you know now, matter go caste soon. Just reduce your communication towards everyone involved for the sake of your sanity. When the matter finally caste in your presence, act surprised also. Do not say shiiiiiii. Do not tell anyone about your findings.
ReplyDeleteGoodluck 🙌🏽
You have no proof, and even if you did, it isn't in your place.
ReplyDeletePlease don't get involved, and ensure you stop investigating/nosing around so that you will not be held accountable by having knowledge of the act.
In other words, mind your real business, work, life!
Eshu
DeleteIt's a complicated.
ReplyDeleteYour friend might know or suspect her husband is cheating but what she doesn't know is with whom?
**Cheating is a deliberate act.
My christian mind demands that I talk/confront my friend(the supposed cheater) about her alleged actions.
If they don't stop their illicit affairs, I'll cut all of them off.
I can't be a bearer of bad news.
Sooner or later the wife will find out when she's ready on her own.
*My 2cents*
This is confusing. Tell your friend whose husband is cheating that you had a dream and saw her husband with someone you are not sure of. Tell her to pray,.
ReplyDeleteConfront your friend who is cheating with the friends husband, and tell her its a no no. Tell her to stop. You will have to use tact and wisdom. You need to distance yourself from her. Because show me your friends and i will tell you who you are.
As for the husband, ask him point blank why he is cheating on his wife with your friend. If you can. Weigh the options and take a stand.
Before you do this speak to the wife first, because they may want to spoil you before the wife.
Whatever you do be careful.
You may want to get evidence. The friend having affairs with your friends hubby can kill.
Stay away from her. Cut her off.
Sha dey careful make dem no kpai you in your quest of being a good friend
DeleteYou have no business confronting the husband. It's a dicey situation especially since you said you do not have any proof.
ReplyDeleteIt would have been easier if there is a proof to show so if you want to help or save her marriage you can try getting a proof so you can use style to drop hints for the wife your friend.
Avoid the man so he does not tell lies against you
You can spill and marriage will still be intact after initial gbasgbos.
ReplyDeleteAnd you can only spill when you have an evidence to show.
Two advice to choose from:
*Mind your business
*Gather evidence and spill with your full chest.
The one I want you to do, anonymously spill as e dey hot and bring updates cos that's why we buy data😏
This is a delicate issue,why not ask your friend that's dating your other friend hubby first, there's nothing hidden under the sun,your friend will definitely find out.
ReplyDeleteThis is a delicate issue,why not ask your friend that's dating your other friend hubby first, there's nothing hidden under the sun,your friend will definitely find out.
ReplyDeleteJust the whistle blower thing. You Know what it involves. Send your friend an anonymous text. This is to clear your self from the shit that might happen later. All the best
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ReplyDelete"I wont go into much details cos one of the persons involved reads this Blog sometimes and this is not how i want them to find out cos it will only make things worse....I am going to tell this Narrative with as little details as possible because of this."
Poster, do this; lie like this; dream like that..... When Poster don already finish work?
Hehehehehe. Women and stylish reporting garnished with "no bi my mouth you go hear am o".
Poster you don try. You don do your work. Dem go see am here. If dem no stop afta this voice note via SDK mail, nobodi go hold you responsible. Rest. Focus on your man if you get or go find your own if you want.
You no get evidence but you sure. How?
What if the so called disliked person is interceding for her friend hence the argument(s) you witnessed.? Just asking o.
Anyways, no go explain taya without proof O after you don finish work here o!
By the way, before I forget, I be man. Lol.
Certain things are better left the way they are. If you want to tell your friend the husband is cheating, do it anonymously without traces to you. Because it if she knows through you, no matter in which direction it goes, it must definitely get to you negatively. Never, confront the two suspected cheaters, they fit change am for you.
ReplyDeleteIf not, kukuma mind you business, they don't want you to know and you don't know.
I don’t need proof to tell my good friends anything
ReplyDeleteIt depends on how they view you and your relationship with them. If I say I saw it then that’s what happened
Question is why do you want to tell. Is your friend the kind that wants to know?
Remember too if she catches a disease how will you feel
Just tell your friend that you saw her husband with a strange woman in your dream and ask her to be very prayerful and watchful. If she is smart she will will be observant and in no time the truth will come out
ReplyDeleteI hate nonsense and betrayal. Tell your friend what you observe, some women sef. No shame again.
ReplyDeleteI’ve done this before and it backfired. Women especially those who are in love and trust their husbands so much, will make you look jealous and will gang up against you. In due time, your friend will find out that her husband is cheating. Just leave it
ReplyDeleteAnonymously tell her IF you are sure of the situation. A good friend loves at all times. Even a TYPED NOTE left where only your friend will find it may work. Use SM anon account to DM once confirmed BUT never confront the cheaters, anyone who can sleep with your friend or spouse can murder to cover evidence. Why do I feel one of these “mind your business posts” is from one of the involved parties? I sincerely hope I’m wrong but be safe while doing the right thing. Such folks are so dangerous they can even kill the wife. David started with adultery and capped the sin with murder, in the Bible.
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