This is her version of what happened...
"I saw Eniola Badmus 2 or 3 days ago and we wanted to continue our quarrel like you said this you said that ,and she told a person there Laide actually told me I am childless; that I don't have a child.
Eniola what did I do? I only said start a family and the other lady said yes; it's still the same thing, it's more or less of saying she is childless.
No; that's not what I meant, I just meant start a family; I don't mean go marry. Get your kids. For me I feel I am just being honest, most times people take my word for something else.
So what I mean; its not necessarily marry, at least have your own"
- interview with Seun oleketuyi
No; that's not what I meant, I just meant start a family; I don't mean go marry. Get your kids. For me I feel I am just being honest, most times people take my word for something else.
So what I mean; its not necessarily marry, at least have your own"
- interview with Seun oleketuyi
Gosh,what a stupid thing to say,to your friend in the presence of another person. 🙄🙄🤨
ReplyDeleteNonsense advice o & she's bragging ontop. Imagine!
DeleteShe knows her age, she knows her body, she knows she's unmarried; abeg leave her alone. What you did was wrong. There are certain things you don't point out to people, they wear the shoes, they know where it pinches them.
ReplyDeleteUnsolicited advice
ReplyDeleteWhy should you even say such whether you feel your intentions are genuine...That's not fair and you should apologize to her...
ReplyDeleteThat's not nice Laide
ReplyDeleteMind ur business with ur unsolicited advice..
ReplyDeleteI first saw the pictures as Eniola Alao and Bisola Ayeola. Mehnnn, this garri don dey de too much oo.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha. Go and see an Optician ASAP
DeleteLesson learnt- stop giving unsolicited advice to friends because what you say might be taken out of context even though only you can know whether you mean well or not. I have close friends who are nearly 50 and no husband or child. I thread carefully when we are discussing or gossiping about general matters or celebrities. They do not celebrate my children and I chose to ignore them. In fact I have recently cut my husband off totally from them because I noticed other friends did the same to them. I only talk to them when its convenient because I honestly get drained when we talk. They always find something wrong in other people's lives but nothing with them but when you disagree, they think you are showing off.
ReplyDeleteSounds like my story but be careful around them
DeletePls like you said it drains you, gradually cut them off, focus on your family, let your husband, children and any good friend be your friend, they will never be happy with or for you as long as they don't have what you have, it takes a very very Godly person to be happy for you when you have what they yearn for.
DeleteLol story of my life. 1 just bought a babe and she won't let us hear word, na d same bitter soul that year o!
DeleteJust shield your happiness from them
Anon 16:37 you just bought what?
DeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are nit close then cause I see no reason why "start a family" should cause a rift between me and my person.
This! People have become too sensitive.
Deleteit will cause a rift with the person that desires it, but it is not within their power to do it.... it's like mocking them in their area of weakness.... like saying to the woman who has been trying to conceive... go and have kids will she not be offended with that friend.... if you say it to your person who has been trying to achieve it, they may not tell you, but they will be very careful to stay away from you and will probably not share anything personal around that area, in case you use it to mock them....
DeleteEss and Aboki it simply shows the kind of people you two are. So you don't know there are lines you don't cross even tho two can be close? SMH
Delete14:19, I don't walk on egg shells around MY friends. We have real conversations about real issues and no one takes offence.
Delete14:19, this is not the kind of real issues I want to be talking to my friends about. Just because I’m married and have kids doesn’t mean I should be telling you to do same. We will talk about issues u have with dating and issues that actually bother us not just saying that kind of thing that was said above
DeleteIf e pain you, abeg go born to shame me. Simple
DeleteSenseless statement. Open humiliation and mockery. I hope she gave it back to you because everyone can be crazy.
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything wrong with the advice if they are truly friends. People are just too sensitive abeg.
ReplyDeleteThat was not an advice. That was a subtle insult especially as it was said in the presence of a third party. So insensitive. Who doesn't want to start family?? Is it easy as the spoken word?
DeleteI missed the third party part, my bad.
DeleteLaide just apologize to her, it's obvious you hurt her bad... someone you called 'your friend' 🙄
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt is well oooo..
Hello iya Boys
The "advice" would not have been this bad if she had done it privately with her, without a third party, then the language used matters too.
ReplyDeleteShe should have gone like "babe, I'm really concerned for you, I'm thinking it would be a good idea if you try and have a child since you are capable of raising one, you don't have to wait for marriage considering we women's biological clock, what do you think?"
And it should have been just the two of them.
Exactly.
DeleteThey go don talk tayaaaa. Tinubu money no let am hear, now she will start working towards it
DeleteYou are wise Elsa
DeleteLaide Biko apologize to her, that's not a good thing to say to your friend, if it's easy like that, everybody will be with husband and children.
ReplyDeleteI don't know this Laide person from a hole in the wall but that conversation was not for the public. Why did you even come out and make this public statement, which feels like adding fuel to the fire instead of bringing peace. Laide, you need a new brain and a new tongue.
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteCome be like she really want to "humble" her so bad. Now we all know. Totally not a good thing Madam Laide
What an insensitive thing to say to someone you called a friend. You even have to tell the public what you said to her. Nne na wa for some people o.
ReplyDeleteIt's not in laide's place to say those things
ReplyDeleteHave learned in a hard way, never share your source of happiness with toxic people you will end up crying. Keep your happiness to yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe annoying thing is, they think bcos you're not married, you're not trying. I've been trying for 3 years and it's much more difficult for the doctor to diagnose when you don't have a consistent partner to try with, when people who live together even have unexplained infertility. Even my doctor got annoyed and stopped treatment over a year ago. Why? He gave me dates i couldn't meet up cos "Mr. Supposed trying partner" wasn't fully committed and missed most of the dates. I carried doctor along on next visit , seeking clarification whether the drugs won't have side effect when i don't meet the dates recommended. He flared up and said i wasn't taking my life serious. My own life oh! And yes, i believe he was somewhat judgy of my unmarried status. I left the previous one for the same reason. How does someone explain these challenges to evil friends like Laide? Cos you can't be easily be diagnosed as having fertility issues when you don't have partner isn't fully committed. And na them go still judge you and gossip about you, if you open up about your challenges. And i no get money for IVF, which itself only works by miracle.
ReplyDeleteCut her off Eniola. That was really insensitive. If she can say that in your presence, imagine what she says behind your back.
I'm currently lining my life on my own terms and enjoying it. Even married ones are blinded by my inner glow and jealous. I dare anybody to come straight like Laide did. Sharp blocking awaits them.