Hmmmm....
TIRED
Now I'm 43. You think I'd leave him alone? Now the reason I'm ranting is, he just won't leave his estranged wife alone. Divorce her properly by accepting her brideprice, no. The woman even has a partner whom she flaunts, but my man will be trying to cause problems for them and telling me the man will not raise his kids.
He tries to impress her, sends her money without her asking, sends gifts to her office, yes I do see alerts for items that are not mine when I snoop. I'm tired.
Anytime his kids come visiting, he won't drop them off, he will want the woman to come and pick them up and he would delay her by discussing unimportant things.
I think she is enjoying the attention coz why can't she block him? The kids are grown and no need to use kids as an excuse to be exchanging meaningless calls. I don't want to lose out, I will deal with this man.
Deal with him that what? You decided to stay all these years even with the redflags..
Should i sell it out for you?Your man and his estranged wife are still in love
Ok.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, sorry you are going through this. The man still loves his wife, please leave him alone and find someone else. It’s been 9 years with you but he hasn’t gotten over her. Don’t waste any more time. Pele.
DeleteThank God in all of this u didn’t mention that she keeps chasing him, u clearly said he is the one putting all the efforts, so why do u want her to be the one to block him? Why won’t he block her if at all you mean anything to him.
ReplyDeleteU said you are tired?? No my sister you are not tired, continue fighting this lost battle, the Lord is ur strength. When you are genuinely tired, you know what to do, dem no dey tell man.
Clearly, the man has achieved everything he wants in life. He was once married, he has kids, who according to u are alrdy adults n u? Menopause is already knocking on ur door, n u still ‘don’t want to lose out’ so please continue holding on my sister. Inugo?
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Delete"dem no dey tell man."
Tell Woman, you meant to say abi?
Lol
Man always know what to do in cases like these without being told. Just as her man knows what he is doing.
Lollll.
How can the Lord be her strength. the devil is highly extremely her strength.
DeleteYou just used imagination wound yourself.
ReplyDeleteWomen don't feel accomplished until they are married, but they won't accept it.
7 solid years with a married man who is still in love with his wife.
I don't know between you and his wife's boyfriend who enjoys more living in a fool's paradise.
Poster you decided to be in their drama for 7 years and you seem to enjoy the drama going on with his 'estranged wife' and family...So after this rant, what is the way forward for you? What are your plans?
ReplyDeleteHe has shown you what's up but you rather snoop his life and forget to live your life on your own terms...He does not want to marry you and he is not convinced enough...
Rather than waiting for that train at the bus station, pick up yourself, stop being a spectator and take charge of yourself
All the best...Wake up and smell the coffee ☕☕
Stella is right, just make sure you gather enough mula.
ReplyDeleteNo need to deal with him, you are surpose to deal with yourself by wasting your time with some one that is not serious with you..
ReplyDeleteYou are mad, at 43 years you still don't have sense.
ReplyDeleteYou deserve all that is happening to your non existent love life, you will people will see a walking red flag, foolishly walk into it and start yarni g dust much later.
Ewu
Gifty
Truly a big fool at forty . Kai
DeleteSee you see 60 years if you keep waiting for that man. You are his play mate. You can't keep waiting for someone whose heart and emotions belongs to someone else.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how much you love him, love yourself more. At 43 you can still have time to salvage a life for yourself before it is too late. You didn’t say if you were already a mother or wanted to have a child of your own. Neither did you mention if you were ever married. Please excuse any assumptions that I make.
ReplyDeleteYou need to ask him where your relationship is headed. Although I am not big on ultimatums, I would say give him one. If you don’t see what you want to see within the timeframe then take drastic action. You are probably fearful about leaving and meeting nobody else and end up single. If you are decisive about your life and put yourself out there you will meet someone else. Imagine if this man was to die tomorrow, you would be completely on your own and you will have to find a way to go on with your life, there would be no choice in that, so if you move on just do the same, tell yourself that you have choice and need a better reality. Now, if you’re with him for financial reasons and cannot leave then your situation is more complicated.
Set rules that you live by and don’t let life just happen to you. Even if you have always been an easy breezy carefree person, it is time to buckle up. Thankfully you are 43 and not 53, so use the time you have wisely. You are your own responsibility, nobody will ever put you first if you don’t put yourself first. That man’s ex-wife may even be ahead of you in the people of importance in his life, based on your description of things. So, I repeat, put yourself first and get your life in order, there is still time to plant a new seed.
The man still loves his wife and he wasted 7 years of your life.
ReplyDeleteNo he didn't..
DeleteShe did
He still loves her and is hoping for a reconciliation.
ReplyDeleteMchteeeew!!!!x200
ReplyDeleteTrust me, you deserve better
ReplyDeleteand
Been single is one of that 'better'
No bi man dey write and send some of these chronicles to shame women?
ReplyDeleteIf not, wetin be did, wetin be dis?
This chronicle only makes sense is if ....
Make person no talk.
You didn’t lie na man . I’ve left a comment like this before
DeleteI think it’s his fault they are separated so think deep before marrying this man. And why in God’s name will u expect a woman to block the father of her kids that is very much in their life?
ReplyDeleteAt 43,u still don't understand that man is not into u..how else do u want him to show you that u are nothing but a s#x object to him..
ReplyDeleteSome people are naturally slow. It’s not her fault. Wicked men prey on their weakness
DeleteYour last statement,'I will deal with this man's is what I am still analyzing,as you read my comment.
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteAfterall all these years I deserve some type of compensation if he won't marry me. Suing him for it and making him pay. Or I go to Oron and swear for him.
Delete20:57 you're a lost cause. Pity!
DeletePls stay there, you still have more time eh.
ReplyDeleteWhat do mean by you will deal with the man? Sha don't go and kill somebody because of your stupidity 😡
ReplyDeleteYou saw all these red flags and decide to stay probably because of money, poster you are the problem here.
I pray that the man will never marry you.
ReplyDeleteNonsense, at at 36 you started dating married man with Children till you clock 43 without fear of God and without sense.
Let me hear someone borrow you sense here.
Age is truly not wisdom.🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteThis man is clearly hoping for a reconciliation from his wife and you are there expecting more from him
ReplyDelete7 whole years
Please find your way out of that situationship
Even as I man, I feel like insulting you.
ReplyDeleteI hate people who do not love themselves enough to flee when they are being taken advantage of. You be mumu. Great!
How can you be dating someone since when you were 36 until now that you are 43?
This one is clearly a Fool at 40!!
ReplyDeleteSee the way you allowed this Man playing you like say na goat you be.
Man dey live the best life of his life with everything he ever wished for.
Permanent Side chick doing Every wifely duties.
Grown kids with love of his life playing chess games with the poster as their card.😁😁😁🤣🤣
Chim ooo! If Nzuzuu na person.😭😭
Awwwwn, Sweetheart, you already lost out. Can't you see? If your question about why the ex isn't blocking him genuine, then I will tell you. We are women and we glow differently when we are wanted, sought after, wooed, tripped over, have hearts of men round our little finger. Yeah, it makes her glow, feel and look sexy, and much more attractive to other men she wants. To be very honest with you, she is doing the right thing in her selfish interest. Unfortunately, you are getting the very flip side because this relationship will drain, drain and drain you till you cut yourself free. That guy will only notice you when you are gone and he's lost both sides cos I am 💯 that woman isn't coming back to him. She will bag a better man with her ex husband's help since he can't stop grovelling over her makes her more desirable and attractive.
ReplyDeleteI am not even sure you want this kind of man. He has become used to disrespecting you and it won't change even after marriage. But you are a mature woman and I believe you know what you want. You want him? Cut him loose and let him find you.
Omo I no fit talk because I am in the same boat. I never reach 40 but as I see this chronicle I need to wake up. Someone please give me a resetting slap.
ReplyDeleteYou need serious blow and body slam slap is not enough
DeleteAt 43, you don't want to lose out.
ReplyDeleteYou have already lose out
Man just want a fuckmate and you have willing given yourself. So keep at it don't fret
ReplyDeleteA fool at 36yrs and now a bigger fool you’re at 43yrs! Annoying senseless chronicle like the poster herself.
ReplyDeleteGo and warm eba since you don’t want to warm your brain.
Fucking annoying my goodness!
DeleteHmm Ma’am pls leave that man and try to look else where forgive him pls he’s still very much into his estranged wife
ReplyDeletePoster if you don't have a child pls try and have one or two with him cos you might not get a man who has money and wants to get serious with you and make babies with you.
ReplyDeleteAlso, if you don't have a good job, collect money from him and establish a business to take care of yourself and your child. You can leave him if you like but just have a child or two and also a business.
Like!! She should make babies ffs and stop lusting after a taken man. That should be her priority and not thinking of ways to deal with him. This chronicle is so annoying gosh!
DeleteThe man has a wife and grown up children, Auntie, wetin you get? Better flee before your time pass patapata . 7 years of free wifeing duties.
ReplyDeleteMumu at 40 mumu for ever ,the man deserve a cup
ReplyDeleteDumb 43 yr old bitch. Can't you see this man is still in love with his ex wife and here you are foolishly waiting for a marriage that will never happen. You better look at the grey hairs on your head and vahjayjay and wake the fuck up! Go get kids and move on. Rubbish
ReplyDeleteI swear this is me. Mogbe! The difference is my own is properly divorced. He does not talk with his ex wife much o but he stalks her with his real account on 1G, FB, and calls his kids too ask about their mama. He likes all and any 📸 of her. If she don't sleep at home, he will threaten not to send money. We have been off and on for 4 yias now. Am 37 and the dating pool is getting smaller. He still talks marriage but no seriousness. I feel I have to push and push for anything to happen.
ReplyDeleteNa these kind men fit una
DeleteSometimes age makes us put up with the worst characters. It is well.
ReplyDeleteThere's no excuse for stupidity. Blame it on lack of self worth
DeleteYou have served him for 7 years, you want to serve 7 plus years more? You be J*s*ph?
ReplyDeleteYou really need to re-read this bold handwriting on the wall and do the needful. Don't try to do anything funny to the family o. Just move on abeg! Better life awaits you.
Iberiberism. He clearly doesn't want you, you can't borrow yourself sense
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