Do you know/believe that too much attention and choking can kill love? Do you believe in giving your partner space in the house?What is your view on sharing different bedrooms at home?
You wont believe this but having your own space at home and away from your space is very healthy....It has nothing to do with them loving you less but has everything to do with not losing yourself inside the union.....
Some of you will not agree to this mindset but if you spend all day together, it doesnt make love better, it chokes, it suffocates and it str#ngles love....
Lets gist!
What God has joined together, let no bedroom put asunder, so no!
ReplyDeleteYes oooo Ekalicious 👍👍👍
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Stella. I disagree with you.
ReplyDeleteYou work, your spouse works.
Most likely, you both spend the day apart.
Then when both of you are back in the evening or night, you still go to your separate rooms.
I can’t even imagine such arrangement.
It stifles deep intimacy and true connection in my opinion
Before I and my husband got married, he drummed it into my ear that we would never have separate bed rooms.
Infact, if I go to another room to sleep, he would wake me up and ‘command’ me to go to our room
Funny thing is when he wants to keep malice he goes to sleep in the guest room😂😂😂. Then I come and remind him of our agreement and he comes back.
My point is, couples should have their own lives and not stifle each other. Sleeping on the same bed doesn’t mean your stifle each other. You can still give your spouse healthy space and preserve your intimacy
Selah
Mma Nwachukwu
Very compelling stance
DeleteI love having my me time. And I love the idea of having separate bedrooms.
ReplyDeleteNot happening! My mum warned me against it. Married for 40yrs and they slept in the same room. Beautiful marriage they had!
ReplyDeleteMe? I'm towing that path.
I hate separate bedrooms for couples, what of gist, intimacy and cuddling, they won't enjoy all these things to the fullest, if they have separate bedrooms.
ReplyDeleteI will never agree to couple having separate bedrooms with any man, because I like to cuddle a lot, infact I can leave a man because of that.
Ummmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI am here to read and learn
No, no no
ReplyDeleteOne body, One soul One spirit🤭One matrimonial bed.
Team separate
ReplyDeleteTeam seperate bedroom,And I am loving it.I did the one bedroom thingy for more than a decade(I was team one bedroom).Trust me when I say I am loving my own space,my own bed,my me time,my reflection time and i wouldn't wanna go back to sharing a room.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was growing up I knew one couple who had their own bedrooms. In my young years I thought it was the oddest thing, but growing up and hearing my mom complain about eyebags because of my dad’s loud and incessant snoring keeping her up at nights for decades, I realize that having a room for yourself may make the difference between peace and misery.
ReplyDeleteSome folks like to sleep at different temperatures from their spouse and regulating that in a single bedroom could mean war. I can never sleep with air conditioning and must be covered up no matter how hot it is so there is that issue too. Some folks are super light sleepers. There are many reasons why sharing a room may not work for a particular couple. And everyone who I know who was cheated on was sharing a bed, so sleeping next to each other is not going to save anyone from being cheated on. So do whatever makes you happy and at peace.
I remember a program that I watched of a married couple who lived in separate houses, a few streets apart because they just did not do well living together. They saw each other everyday and the kids could come and go at the different homes as they liked.
I don't see anything wrong with this concept. It's healthy in my opinion. And while at it, let's add separate bathrooms to the set up. Some things should remain a mystery to prolong desirability in the union.
ReplyDeleteNow, are we going to bed in separate rooms every night? No. The idea is to protect your individual privacy. There is nothing wrong with carving out a place of reprieve for yourself. My parents had their own rooms,but my dad's room served as his study. He would sometimes pass rhe night there, but he and my mother found time to be a couple- hell, they birthed 9 of us, so I'm guessing their love/sex life wasn't lacking. They're going on 56 years of marriage. I have been married for nine years now and when we were building our home, my only ask was my own space and bathroom and I have that. We hardly spend nights apart, but there ARE those times when I crave my own space, especially after a couple's tiff. To each his own, but I wouldn't have it any other way