Please read this story to the last dot...
THIS IS THE UPDATE
THIS IS HER STORY
''Today is the day I decide to tell my story of how my boyfriend, a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic left me with a twin pregnancy after securing his VISA to the UK.
I met this guy mid-2019, and we started dating. I really fell for this guy, and I thought we were probably ending up together. He told me about his plans to travel outside the country where his elder brother was. When we met, he was a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic,
so he said he didn’t really like the job and was going to look for greener pastures abroad.
In 2022, he told me his visa was out; I was very happy for him, so I asked him about his plans towards me. He did the usual sweet-talking, saying he was never going to forget me, bla bla.
It was during this period I found out I was pregnant. When I told him about the pregnancy, he said he wouldn’t advise me to keep it because he was traveling and also wasn’t ready to be a father; that I should terminate the pregnancy Despite telling him that I could lose my life in the process, he said, and I quote, “If you are afraid of normal removal of the fetus, use pills; that one is not harmful or dangerous.” I just didn’t know what to say again; I just told him I wasn’t ready to lose my life.
Little did I know I was having twins. All through my nine-month journey, this guy never called, even once, or replied to my WhatsApp messages. My pregnancy journey was a hard one; I fell sick all through my nine months, always on drip every time.
It was the grace of God that I was able to scale through. I delivered through Caesarian section, and that operation was a tough one. After giving birth, one of the babies was placed on oxygen because of how difficult the whole process was; I almost lost my life in this process
The day I opened my eyes and was able to hold my children, I did a video with my phone and sent it on WhatsApp to Kola, still he didn’t reply.
So I told my family I was going to block him and delete his number, but my mum told me not to do it. When it was time for us to discharge from the hospital, there was no money; my mum was running helter-skelter just to source for funds, all to no avail.
I was confused, so I texted him on WhatsApp again, told him our current situation, and even snapped the bill, which was 233,000, to him but still, this guy did not reply. I cried my eyes out; someone who just did an operation. My blood pressure became very high again. The doctor came and started encouraging me, saying I should stop thinking that God will help me take care of my children.
After everything we were able to raise 200,000, so the doctor told us to forget the balance. We got discharged, came home, and I started taking care of my kids. He never called me or showed interest in the kids; I named my children myself, did everything myself; he didn’t care or show interest
I called his brother, the one in Nigeria, and told him everything that had happened. He said he was going to call me back, that he needed to speak to his brother and confirm what was happening. After some weeks, I called his line, only to discover I had been blocked even on WhatsApp.
I almost gave up; I didn’t know how I was going to take care of my children alone. My mum’s business was drowning; every week, she would buy baby milk twice, 15,000 per one. She was spending 30,000 for only milk, no diapers yet.
People were buying diapers for us, my friends, well-wishers, and some family members. When my kids were three months old, I introduced them to solid food because we couldn’t afford the milk anymore. God was faithful; some friends and family members came through for me.
Fast forward to March this year my children completed one year; I still sent him an update that it was my children’s birthday. Not like we celebrated it; I just took them to the studio to snap one picture. Kola never replied, although I got used to him not replying. But his attitude was draining me emotionally
Because of constant illness my children were having an elderly woman advise I should take them to their father’s people because twins are like that, raising them is usually not an easy thing
After much deliberation I made up my mind to collect money from a loan app. I collected that money, 50,000, and we headed for Ondo State.
On reaching Ondo town, because that’s where they live, Adeyemi College of Education, I told the security at the gate who we were looking for
They said we should hold on and that they will help us get a ride that will take us to their house. I didn’t know their house because I hadn’t been there. While we were waiting, a car drove towards where we stood, so the security man now stopped the car.
Behold it was his brother that came out of the car. He started shouting, asking why I didn’t call him, what was I doing here? I told him to take us to his parents, and that we came to see his parents. He asked us to enter the car, which we did, thinking he was taking us to his parents
No, he didn’t take us to his parents; rather, he took us elsewhere so that we wouldn’t create a scene. Long story short, he called his brother, and he said he should give my mum his phone. He started telling my mum that we cannot go to his parents’ house to break that kind of news to him, that his dad is hypertensive, his father is going to be shocked; we should please leave that he will handle it himself. It was getting late, and my kids started crying; we weren’t to lodge in a guest house to pass the night; it was a long journey,
The next morning, we left ondo for Auchi few days later he called me on WhatsApp. This guy started raining abuses on me, saying stuff like I took my mum to his place, we embarrassed ourselves, that I was stupid, what was I thinking, that he was going to marry me?
I told him I dont want to marry him either. That he should just take care of his children; those kids are innocent; they can’t suffer because of our mistakes. This guy said over his dead body that he told me he doesn’t need children; he insulted me and my family to the extent I started crying
I dropped his call, blocked his number, and deleted it from my phone. I am not interested in marrying Kola or having any relationship with him. I just want him to take responsibility for the kids. Thank you all.''
THIS IS THE UPDATE
THIS IS HER STORY
''Today is the day I decide to tell my story of how my boyfriend, a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic left me with a twin pregnancy after securing his VISA to the UK.
I met this guy mid-2019, and we started dating. I really fell for this guy, and I thought we were probably ending up together. He told me about his plans to travel outside the country where his elder brother was. When we met, he was a lecturer at Auchi polytechnic,
so he said he didn’t really like the job and was going to look for greener pastures abroad.
In 2022, he told me his visa was out; I was very happy for him, so I asked him about his plans towards me. He did the usual sweet-talking, saying he was never going to forget me, bla bla.
It was during this period I found out I was pregnant. When I told him about the pregnancy, he said he wouldn’t advise me to keep it because he was traveling and also wasn’t ready to be a father; that I should terminate the pregnancy Despite telling him that I could lose my life in the process, he said, and I quote, “If you are afraid of normal removal of the fetus, use pills; that one is not harmful or dangerous.” I just didn’t know what to say again; I just told him I wasn’t ready to lose my life.
Little did I know I was having twins. All through my nine-month journey, this guy never called, even once, or replied to my WhatsApp messages. My pregnancy journey was a hard one; I fell sick all through my nine months, always on drip every time.
It was the grace of God that I was able to scale through. I delivered through Caesarian section, and that operation was a tough one. After giving birth, one of the babies was placed on oxygen because of how difficult the whole process was; I almost lost my life in this process
The day I opened my eyes and was able to hold my children, I did a video with my phone and sent it on WhatsApp to Kola, still he didn’t reply.
So I told my family I was going to block him and delete his number, but my mum told me not to do it. When it was time for us to discharge from the hospital, there was no money; my mum was running helter-skelter just to source for funds, all to no avail.
I was confused, so I texted him on WhatsApp again, told him our current situation, and even snapped the bill, which was 233,000, to him but still, this guy did not reply. I cried my eyes out; someone who just did an operation. My blood pressure became very high again. The doctor came and started encouraging me, saying I should stop thinking that God will help me take care of my children.
After everything we were able to raise 200,000, so the doctor told us to forget the balance. We got discharged, came home, and I started taking care of my kids. He never called me or showed interest in the kids; I named my children myself, did everything myself; he didn’t care or show interest
I called his brother, the one in Nigeria, and told him everything that had happened. He said he was going to call me back, that he needed to speak to his brother and confirm what was happening. After some weeks, I called his line, only to discover I had been blocked even on WhatsApp.
I almost gave up; I didn’t know how I was going to take care of my children alone. My mum’s business was drowning; every week, she would buy baby milk twice, 15,000 per one. She was spending 30,000 for only milk, no diapers yet.
People were buying diapers for us, my friends, well-wishers, and some family members. When my kids were three months old, I introduced them to solid food because we couldn’t afford the milk anymore. God was faithful; some friends and family members came through for me.
Fast forward to March this year my children completed one year; I still sent him an update that it was my children’s birthday. Not like we celebrated it; I just took them to the studio to snap one picture. Kola never replied, although I got used to him not replying. But his attitude was draining me emotionally
Because of constant illness my children were having an elderly woman advise I should take them to their father’s people because twins are like that, raising them is usually not an easy thing
After much deliberation I made up my mind to collect money from a loan app. I collected that money, 50,000, and we headed for Ondo State.
On reaching Ondo town, because that’s where they live, Adeyemi College of Education, I told the security at the gate who we were looking for
They said we should hold on and that they will help us get a ride that will take us to their house. I didn’t know their house because I hadn’t been there. While we were waiting, a car drove towards where we stood, so the security man now stopped the car.
Behold it was his brother that came out of the car. He started shouting, asking why I didn’t call him, what was I doing here? I told him to take us to his parents, and that we came to see his parents. He asked us to enter the car, which we did, thinking he was taking us to his parents
No, he didn’t take us to his parents; rather, he took us elsewhere so that we wouldn’t create a scene. Long story short, he called his brother, and he said he should give my mum his phone. He started telling my mum that we cannot go to his parents’ house to break that kind of news to him, that his dad is hypertensive, his father is going to be shocked; we should please leave that he will handle it himself. It was getting late, and my kids started crying; we weren’t to lodge in a guest house to pass the night; it was a long journey,
The next morning, we left ondo for Auchi few days later he called me on WhatsApp. This guy started raining abuses on me, saying stuff like I took my mum to his place, we embarrassed ourselves, that I was stupid, what was I thinking, that he was going to marry me?
I told him I dont want to marry him either. That he should just take care of his children; those kids are innocent; they can’t suffer because of our mistakes. This guy said over his dead body that he told me he doesn’t need children; he insulted me and my family to the extent I started crying
I dropped his call, blocked his number, and deleted it from my phone. I am not interested in marrying Kola or having any relationship with him. I just want him to take responsibility for the kids. Thank you all.''
Thank God,you got help. Unprotected sex with a man,that's not ready is not good.
ReplyDeleteHuman beings E du betta....Using pregnancy to trap any man in this era is a losing game; when it is time for genital meet n greet, use protection abeg...Sometimes I wonder if we forget that HIV, STIs are still abound.....I am glad she was able to get help....Let us all be accountability irrespective of gender...Don't try to be clever by half.....
Delete*be accountable*...not "be accountability".
DeleteI guess is a typographical error.
Congratulations to her and God bless everyone that contributed In one way or the other..
ReplyDeleteAverage Nigerians are good hearted, so generous.May God bless all the givers Amen
ReplyDeleteSo true!
DeleteJust the few bad ones and corrupt politicians, INEC Chairman and Supreme Court Judges giving Nigeria a bad name.
Na waoooo
ReplyDeleteMr kola no try at all oooo
To be sincerely nothing is too small to give her nahhh
Anyway ThankGod help has come for her and The Ejima's are healthy
When them big nah he go come say nah him be papa..
It is well ooo..
Hello iya Boys
This woman is as wicked as Mr Kola. I really pity the sex of reckless adults like these.
DeleteYou are an adult and know the outcome of sex yet you lay with a man without marriage and a steady source of livelihood for yourself, even knowing he had plans to leave the country that didn't have you in it (miss me with the "I'll never forget you" from someone who could have taken you to Ikoyi registry BS- UK is 7 hours away, you knew the deal ) and then you used the result of your sex craving to wreck your mother's retirement plan? Why do birds of a feather cry so much after flocking together?
Please, lock your legs, male and female , to unlock a bright future for yourself. No condom in this world is indebted to you.
This is not a burden God willed for her or the woman Mr Kola is currently romancing for affordable rent. This is something every female in a setting of voluntary romance can and should avoid.
@ Anon 15:23, same you will judge these ladies when they move with already made men that can afford a good lifestyle.
DeleteWhat do you really want? Male gender, una too complain and look for who to blame..
Bee Hill/Gee Coco where did 15:23 make that comment a blame on female gender❓
DeleteREAS AGAIN!
That comment was about moral uprightness for both male and female genders.
Get married or lock up resoectably❗
Deadbeat fathers are sometimes married men, though.
However, the wife and children have legal rights and are known or accepted by the man's family.
Wow! Shame to her run away baby daddy.
ReplyDeleteNigerians are so kind hearted
ReplyDeleteMay God bless them and may the twins be a blessing to her.
Yes, they are very compassionate when the need arises.
DeleteHello Gaby🌹
DeleteDo have a great day
Really kind hearted!
DeleteI didn't even bother reading this long crap..
ReplyDeleteAlways playing victims after feeling they were smart by making stup!d decisions...
Almost all Nigerian men have faced this with Nigerian women, you'll advise them on something, they'll not listen, and go ahead to make their nonsense 'smart' decision after taking advice from fellow 'smart' amotex online, then the matter go cast, them go come dey play victims..
I blame the Nigerian people that always enable these toxic behaviours, donating large sum of monies without proper investigation, this is why any women can just l!e, play victim, tag a man ev!l and wicked, and then she'll be rewarded for it..
Now, if you don't know this lady planned this pregnancy thinking she can use it to hold that guy, then I can't help you.. someone that was (probably) taking fertility drugs or other stuff hence the twins.. just like that chronicles here some years ago of that lady that was living in the boys quarter of a man who doesn't have kids and she got pregnant with triplets, but no gree talk truth say she planned the pregnancy and was taking fertility drugs.. because she see rich man.. Ole..
This one, she thinks she's smart, because Baba don get visa, she thinks she can tie him with the pregnancy so he go carry am Japa..
Best in doing stup!d things..
Everyday I will come here and say asking an ex for money when in a relationship is disastrous and ev!l, but na their self!sh colleague own them go instead agree, and insult me, shebi na this thing now just end a very progressive relationship recently.. she still dey there dey play vict!m now.. mtcheew
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Delete@Dante, the men too, should try not to get trapped by using condoms...or some form of protection.,.dont you think accountability and responsibility should go both ways???
DeleteThe only one running from accountability here is the girl.
DeleteThe guy has been accountable from the get go.
I have said it here countless times.. having sex is consensual, so it giving birth..
It's not like there are not many ways to avoid getting pregnant..
When a woman doesn't want the child, no one can tell her to keep it, it becomes her body and you can't tell her what to do, but when the guy doesn't, she would think she can force, bully or guilt trip him to.. shouldn't his decision be respected the same way your decision would be too?
Abi na only woman feelings and plans matter? Whether they guy is ready or not, whether he wants it or not, so far the woman wants it, he must agree, and also if she doesn't want it, he must agree too..
Please na small thing dey trigger me lately, no come ask me this kind annoying question again..
Don't come and be talking like the only way to avoid getting pregnant is by having protected sex.. how many of you here have not had raw sex? Only people who haven't really had sexx are the ones that maybe haven't had unprotected sexxx, so long you have had good amount of sexx, unprotected sexx would happen.. so why are you not all pregnant?
Having sexx is one part..
Getting pregnant is another part..
Agreement to have sex isn't agreement to have babies, if not hook up girls and ahewos would be coming with pregnancy to give clients now,. Stop thinking you're too smart,. That's why I don't support some certain kinda of giveaways, e.g single mothers (baby mamas), not widows.. if you want to give a single parent then include single fathers too, if you want to give widows then include widowers too, if you want to give the girl child, wetin do male child? Balance ship up,. Men are humans,. Is not only when you need us that you'll remember men exist.. these are what enables all these nonsense behaviours.. as Una like sub stories and men bashing..
This girl right here is a deadbeat mother..
Don't mind this woman, another st__id one has just done this exact same thing to trap a man into marriage.
DeleteOga has told her this pregnancy is barely one month, we have been using protection, this one is a mistake, I am not ready for this, I do not want a child, my mental health is not in the right place.
Desperado has decided to keep baby with or without the Oga's accepting it.
Tomorrow now desperado will start crying to the world saying what a deadbeat man, irresponsible man, a cheater etc.
Women give yourselves wisdoms, it take TWO to make a child, if the other party is not interested please do the needful.
And before you say I cannot commit abortion, you should have thought of that before fornicating.
All I see now when I look at her is what a desperado, meanwhile Oga is now depressed since he heard this news.
So you are encouraging abortion
DeleteUsing ahewo and hook up girls as an example to explain why agreement to have sex is not agreement to have babies is laughable. Who in their right senses have sex with those kind of people without condoms? You should be the one to stop thinking you are smart.
DeleteYou say it is not every time people have protected sex so whose fault is that? Is it not the fault of both the man and woman? They both know what their act could lead to but they still went on anyways because the man was hoping the woman will continue to take pills that would affect her fertility later on in the future or carry out an abortion.
YES I AM, ABORT THE CHILD AND LEAVE WITH YOUR SELF ESTEEM.
DeleteINSTEAD OF FORCING PREGNANCY ON A MAN THAT HAS TOLD YOU CLEARLY HE IS NOT INTERESTED.
WOMEN STOP BEEN SO DESPERATE.
The guy should continue having unprotected sex in the UK and go tell the judge why he won't pay child support because he is not ready
DeleteDante please pardon my language but your comment is STUPID!
DeleteYou know what they say about EMPTY VESSELS? You are like one, you make A LOT OF NOISE with your very long, irrational word❗
It takes 2 people of the opposite genders to make a baby. Therefore, both Kola and his baby mama are accountable and responsible for the resulting pregnancy and babies.
OH my goodness. God thank you for coming through for her.
ReplyDeleteAt least, its on record now that you tried.Babe,u don't know what u get o.
ReplyDeleteFor my area eh, we no de encourage that kind pregnancy but if it happens, d guy can't collect d kid(s) o.
Thank God for d help for d netizens. Start bizz or manage d money well. E go better for u n ur kids.
Later in life ,if d guy marry n can't have kids ,na den en go remember say somebody bin born for ram. (Just sharp Cutlass keep one side for him.)
The guy even told her from the beginning that he'll be traveling soon, some women and falling in love eh...
DeleteSp**m is not water, and to raise 2 kids in this period is not akamu o.
Use the money wisely, try and multiply it for the well-being of their future.
Mao Akuh
Mao Akuh, the guy had been sleeping with her long before he told her about his planned relocation to the UK. They were in a relationship.
DeleteHe obviously treated her poorly because he would marry a Brit citizen to get his papers.
His harvest of evil is awaiting him there. 🎯
God bless her Angel
ReplyDeleteOne day he will come looking for them,God please keep and protect those children 🙏
ReplyDeleteDid Jerry Rawlings' father look for him? Has Sanwo Olu sent DNA to the one claiming him in Delta to test? Have you not heard of parents refusing to see the children they gave up from adoption or had from affairs? Why would you as a female put yourself in such a debased and demeaning position of a reproductive serviette?
DeleteIt is better for women to take their lives seriously instead of wasting decades toiling for a five minute acknowledgement that may never happen or only after you are gone. Who will leave anything for children he isn't proud of? Even if he has no others, will he be proud of children whose upbringing is far below his social standing and who will be embarrassing him due to their deprived upbringing and circumstances of their birth when his wife is alive to inherit and the causes he supported in life can carry on his legacy. BUILD YOUR OWN!!!
There are millions of unclaimed children roaming the world who's fathers have raised their own children and completely forgotten them. Some come from abroad looking for men who never looked for them only to find out that those men are only interested in the foreign currency they can send to feed their actual children and wife or how their actual children can cross over for a green card at the cost of these lost souls. Many of those children have had to cut contact after the financial and emotional abuse was no longer deniable or manageable. Those children remain roaming, now even more broken than before.
Anon 15:37, with your intelligent write up, you confirmed the truth: Men are users and selfish. It's the reason you will not see women grooming young girls to order like before, it's a huge waste for entitled men that know it all like you.
DeleteEnjoy and keep sounding warning to women. It's what you are good at.
One of those abandoned children grew up...looked for his dad and SENT HIM TO AN EARLY JOURNEY TO MEET HIS ANCESTORS.
DeleteMen messing society up with their third-Johnny Walker! 🤦🏾♀️
Wicked heartless Man
ReplyDeleteYou don't want kids but you are having unprotected s3x
This should serve as a lesson to young ladies out there... Say No to premarital sex...
Wow!Thank God for all your helpers....I can't imagine all you must have been through....it is well!
ReplyDeleteHmmm thank God help came for her, but in as much as I blame the man for abandoning her, the fault isn't entirely his, remember yesterday chronicle? The man told her she shouldn't keep it and she went ahead to keep the baby meaning she's ready to shoulder the responsibility alone, besides the timing of her pregnancy is suspicious.
ReplyDeletePlease waka pass if my comment didn't sit well,but I think the lady is to be blamed too,
In your own case, your boyfriend asked you to keep it but later abandoned you and the baby?
DeleteAnon lol
DeleteGame Mistress come and pack your shade
Delete09:45, don't mind her. If hypocrisy was a person, it would be her.
DeleteShe has shared her story here many times. How her man asked her to abort the pregnancy but she was scared of losing her life and so she kept it, against his wish. The man now abandoned her with the baby from birth till now. She even said he would lift the girl's pics from her page on her birthday and post it and wish her a happy birthday, meanwhile he doesn't know how the girl eats or how much her school fees is.
Lols, anon ,09:04 🤣😂😂 na me tell my life history like this? He asked me to abort? Lmao 🤣🤣🤣. Anyway,I would have answered you all if you all weren't cowards hiding behind anonymous. Anyway,I took the best decision by keeping it and you can't see me blaming anyone or sulking up and down, I took full responsibility of my actions and I'm enjoying it cos I'll surely reap the reward.
DeleteThank God for the blessings
ReplyDeleteAnd may the twins be a blessing to her 🙏
Nigerians are empathetic
ReplyDeleteSuch a sad story, I am glad she got help
ReplyDeleteThis is an eye opener too...
Good help came
ReplyDeleteEnsure you put the money into good use and next time wait till you are married before you give him the cookies. A second time won't be a mistake
Glad she got the help she so desperately needs.
ReplyDeleteThe economy isn't smiling at all.
Nigerians are kind people after all
ReplyDeleteIt's important to always ask a man if in a relationship, "how he feels about children?".
ReplyDelete1. It was obvious the man's priority was securing a visa and travelling out. He made this known to the lady; she should have thought otherwise before having unprotected sex with him.
2. The Pregnancy looks planned by the lady; she should have had a source of income as backup plan should if the guy fails to accept his responsibilities.
3. The harm has been done. She should focus on raising the kids and hope for better future prospect. God no go shame her.
4. Its certain the man has plans to marry an 'abroadian' and didn't want anything to thwart his plans. For someone who is waiting for Visa, he should have thought of using protective measures. Condom is free for crying out aloud in most govt health facility. In some pharmacies, Planned Parenthood Federation (PPFN) has subsidized the price of these things. So, I cannot understand the reason for his lousy mistake.
Women should get it into their thick skull that the burden of Family planning even as a single lady rest on them. A man doesn't think with his head when his urges are at war.
I wish her the best in life. Twins are blessings!
God bless you for saying the truth jare. Nigerians and sentiments
DeleteSo apt 👌💯
DeleteIt must be noted that the individuals in question have displayed a high level of irresponsibility. They have demonstrated a lack of readiness for parenthood by not utilizing protection.
DeleteFurthermore, the male party in question was engaging in unprotected relations while making plans to travel. His aversion to using condoms is concerning. Similarly, the female party failed to protect herself. This practice of not always using protection and/or abstinence has led to the unfortunate spread of sexually transmitted diseases and the birthing of children into the world under adverse circumstances like the present case in point.
In addition to their irresponsible behaviour, the male individual exhibits qualities of callousness and cruelty. It is incomprehensible to witness one's offspring endure suffering without offering any form of assistance. Marriage is not a prerequisite; however, acknowledging and providing care, concern, and affection for one's children, whether planned or not, is a basic expectation.
The public exposure of his actions on the internet should elicit a sense of remorse and reflection. If there were a person defined by shamelessness, it would be him.
The lady knew that he won't marry her from the beginning.
DeleteMao Akuh
Here we go again, pregnancy story and the abandonment that follows. Ladies wise up. You know the guy plans of traveling out, which you are aware of the process going on already, please tell me what you got pregnant for. The guy never told you he wants or ready to settle down, you as an adult got pregnant, decided to keep it and now crying. Nigerians thank you for helping her, be ready to hear another story from another person soon.
ReplyDeleteThank God you got help and may God bless the people that contributed to this
ReplyDeleteEnsure you put the money in good use
Ladies should learn to run from unprotected s**x
A very annoying and irritating story.
ReplyDeleteA know one that thinks she is smart.
Just done the exact same thing.
Foolish woman who will still cry.
Why will you keep the child of a man who cried in grief when you told him the news.
My gender have some shame please.
Why would you be sleeping with someone you are not married to? Without that step, no need to contemplate an abortion.
DeleteA very annoying and irritating story.
ReplyDeleteA know one that thinks she is smart.
Just done the exact same thing.
Foolish woman who will still cry.
Why will you keep the child of a man who cried in grief when you told him the news.
My gender have some shame please.
Thank God because I felt so pained reading her story. I have also sent in my token
ReplyDeleteThe deed has been done and the lady needs support at this point to raise the kids but she should have thought it through before getting pregnant because it's obvious she quickly got pregnant when the guy told her about his Visa and she asked him about his plans for her. She honestly thought it will end in her favour but life happened. They are both to blame for not making right decisions. The guy knew his ultimate plan was to travel abroad and he was careless enough to get a lady pregnant. The lady too didn't think about the consequences before planning to get pregnant.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless her helpers
ReplyDeleteRegardless, both of them made the child and both of them should share responsibility. Since she is the present parent, the other parent (the man) should pay child support. True, he does not owe her marriage, relationship or emotional support, but he does owe his children. It is immoral to abandon your seed...
ReplyDeleteThat said, young ones listen very carefully. Flee fornication. Sex is not love, neither is it commitment. Wait until marriage as God who created love/sex commanded us to. It is for our own good. Guard your future selfishly in that manner. Especially women, you are the one that will bear the burden of pregnancy, child birth, child upbringing, societal stigmatization, abandonment and future/career blockage. Men most times will not, so don't listen to their sweet tales. Don't be accepting big gifts and monetary gifts cos that is how the devil lures you to give sex in exchange. It is possible to live celibately and God provides the grace. 🙏🏾
I hope someone listens.
DeleteThank God she got help, raising a child isn't easy not to talk of two children. Nigerians are compassionate people, God bless everyone that contributed.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless the twins and their mother. As for that man may uk not favor him amen
ReplyDeleteSome men are nice oh, if na me and we f__k and you carry belle without my consent.
ReplyDeleteI tell you I no want, you no gree. The day you born and call me for money, na to come collect my pikin from your hand make my mama raise with enough money.
No time for gold diggers, shameless users etc.
Gravesend woman, come and collect your snub.
Glad this lady got help, but pls, young women listen. If you get pregnant without marriage, you run a risk of being a single parent. Even with a spouse it is hard for women, talkless of without. The devil is wicked. He will lie to you and make you pay for your sins. From fornication, he will try to lure you to abortion. Abortion is murder. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. If a man loves you, let him do the needful and marry you first. Avoid his house, avoid sleeping with him. Stand your ground.
ReplyDeleteNote that if you born for him, he is under no legal, cultural or even religious obligation to marry you. His obligation is only to the child. He can freely move on, marry another woman and parent your kid from his new home, which could be difficult. And once he marries, his primary obligation will be to his new family. Even though Abraham had a baby mother, it was his wife Sarah that was recognized in the promise. Guard your future, and may God be with us all 🙏🏾
God bless you for speaking this truth.
DeleteWhat is she doing currently?
ReplyDeleteHow much is that money will go to Grandma who's business collapsed because you mortgaged her retirement because of 5 minutes of pleasure?
How many of these kind of stories will we hear in the next 5 years? How many will learn?
There is nothing to learn here, In Africa, all we do is blame the girl, no child support penalty on the guy.
DeleteThe truth is we will keep hearing these kind of stories till time immemorial. Because of the current reality:
1. Let's keep liars and deceivers aside,
Guys are not ready to settle down. Even the ones at 35- 40 are not ready
2. Economy is harsh, so sustaining self is all guys think.
3. No Guy wants to date without premarital sex, so marriage is not a priority
4. Dating can not work, how many can practice protected sex? we should scrap it totally.
So that's it
They won't listen ,this kind story and help makes others to do the same thing, sex is not compulsory ,it is willingful and consensual ,don't do it when you don't want to take responsibility over your actions
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for her.. it's good to speak out
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