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I am so mad at myself. I hardly like men and have been in few relationships. I ensure that I focus on my life, God and career, and that's what I intended to do for the next few months.
All of a sudden this amazing man who is everything I want came into my life and we started a talking stage. Now I crave his attention. It's soooo annoying.
He hasn't spoken to me in 24hrs and I am so jittery and pained.
My God. Why did I let him in?. And yes, I have texted him without getting a response from him.
I don't want to double text so that I don't seem desperate. Why do I want his attention so much. I have been fine for years without a man to call my own. I am so mad at myself. I can hardly focus on anything.....
Mad at yourself for liking and wanting a man? na wah oh......Stop guilt tripping yourself and relax, have fun and be human...Soon now you will start wishing he should marry you....My dear, you are only human...calm down!!!..if he doesnt text or call you, focus on something else
My dear, you are human. You have texted him, no response from him. Please do not call or text him. If he decides to text or call you, refrain from asking him "why haven't I heard from you?" Just have a normal conversation with him. If he doesn't, then byeee to him.
ReplyDeleteGbam @refrain from asking him "why haven't I heard from you?
DeletePoster, remove that part Candy said don't ask him why he hasn't called you. Love and relationship is not a game. You should ask any questions bothering you then you can know if that's a partner you want for yourself from their response or silence. Please do not withhold questions. Don't let anybody give him that power over you that, you have to walk on eggshells around them.
Delete**Don't give any man that power over you when you would have to walk on eggshells around them**
DeleteTake it easy on yourself dear, and you need to be sensitive. Know your boundaries to avoid see finish
ReplyDeleteIt's onvious d void and desire has always been there, though suppressed.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong in feeling for him d way you do. If it turns out it didn't go as expected, move on and still open your heart to another.
And try control your feelings and get busy biko. Your constant chatting or calls might weary him out too. You both need to study each other and take things slow and steady.
Poster, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. And trust me when i say i truly understand your feelings.
ReplyDeleteFor me, I admit my feelings, infact, i feel good that i feel this way about someone and it shows that my head àbí heart is still correct.😀.
Even though it hurts, i don't discard the feelings, mosttimes i just pray and tell myself that i will be fine.
Please take it one at a time. These days, almost everyone seems to be tired of relationships either from past hurt or what we see online.
When he returns your call, please tell him your expectations and basically, just find out if he is someone you want to be with and if not, kindly take your leave. God will help you.
What does rule no 5 say?
ReplyDeleteThe deeper the love, the deeper the pain and hurt will be.
Watch it lady.
I see you pursuing him when the reverse should be the case.
Your heart break, computer will not be able to count it.
Talking stage and you are head over heels. Give it time to marinate, so you'd known if he's amazing for real or a front. You don't jump into a river with both legs unless you've been there before. Test it before removing clothes.
ReplyDelete"I hardly like men and have been in few relationships."
ReplyDeleteLGBTQ don fall in love. Hahahahahaha 😂
She's been liberated
DeletePoster what you feel is normal, considering you haven't felt that in a long time. My focus is to distract you while waiting for his reply. But not a good move waiting for his text arrival. So, download all these in soft copy.
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Get a hobby, go volunteer, take a class, learn a new skill, when you have other things going on you will have less time to be sitting waiting by the phone.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Sister pull back small. The road you're taking you will hurt yourself. And it's looking like an attachment and some sort of unhealthy bonding.
ReplyDeleteGive him space and watch if he'll check on you or better still don't send a message that will require an immediate response.
Caution is good,so you don't appear too desperate. I am very old fashioned,I like to be chased and courted.
ReplyDeletePoster Congratulations and I know those sweet butterflies in your belly..... I understand that feeling but take it easy.....You need to pause and observe more about who this man is, his character and attitude and his actions....Texting you alone is not all about the dating...Has he taken you on dates? Please don't allow him take you on a rollercoaster of dates but make him timely like twice in a week........
ReplyDeleteIf he is silent for 24 hours, you should do same; it's called MIRRORING...Don't be so quick to reach out to him so you don't give desperate vibes...Don't become too available so he does not take you for granted.....Act like a high valued lady; emit your feminine energy and act like you don't need him....Trust me men love the chase than the other way round....
All the best Queen and Chillax!!
Stop loving him like ur depend on him, u will look desperate and become a joke to him..
ReplyDeleteI hate falling in love helplessly 😢
I understand you perfectly well, my sister.
ReplyDeleteThat feelings of after keeping yourself for years and just wanted to be a human for once and you fall for the wrong guy.😢
Don't beat yourself up, retrieve your steps and work on your emotions and face your life.
We move.😍💙😎
Nne mind yourself to avoid deeper pain,hurt and mistake it happens to me ooo don't love too much please for the last time don't love e get why, mind yourself and your feelings biko
ReplyDeleteThis is the stage you should give it time and take things slow as it happens. Don't rush things.
ReplyDeleteLove has always been so beautiful when you're with the right person, however, you need to let it grow and flourish on both sides without over doing things. Bottomline is that you should get busy with other things too as you move along.
I wish you all the best.
He's got you exactly where he wants you. You'll be needing a heart of steel to play this game with him. Good luck.
ReplyDelete😃😃😃aunty calm down,maybe he even belong to another person don't kill yourself on top of man matter,everybody is busy
ReplyDeleteLearn French at Alliance Francais during the weekend or on Dualingo if budget is tight. Never love a man more than he loves you. Never forget this rule.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't get a response? Chat up someone else in your friend-zone. You are catching feelings and loosing control? Accept another date and hangout. He seems to be enjoying you grovelling over him? Check your friend-zone and nak someone. Your eye go clear and the charm go weak.
ReplyDeleteSorry you're in love girlie, unfortunately you can't tell the heart who to love.
ReplyDeleteLove is beautiful when you're with the right person, just give him time he'll communicate with you soonest lover girl...😘😘
Everybody don turn to Love Doctor - giving advice they can't adhere to.
ReplyDeleteWhat he's doing is intentional & he will hurt you real hard. Please get busy & get hold of your emotion.
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Get busy oo. If not the heart beat go strong well well.
ReplyDeleteCheck if they don go juju man for you lmaoo
Calm down babes
ReplyDeleteAnd Focus on something else...
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Dear poster, don’t be mad at yourself. But face the truth. Men love only who doesn’t love them. Nothing wrong in being affectionate with your words but let your attention remain distant , so that he would be the one to invite to come closer. Please don’t text again and please no nagging. Try and control yourself. I promise, you can do it. I would be 40 next month and would also be getting married for the second time in December. In my first marriage, I was too available and manipulated things so that the marriage to happen quickly . When it got so bad, I forgave myself, forgave my ex and left. Men are hunters. You have already caught his attention. Allow him to chase you cos if you continue being too available the dynamics of the relationship may change to something that’s no longer sweet and you may not be able to leave by then. Have you slept with him yet? If not, good. If so, still good. But if you haven’t slept with him, then make sure, that you don’t start forming sweety, baby, etc immediately after. Carry your pants and go home and sleep. If you sleep over, wake up early and go home. Don’t start cooking and cleaning. Allow him to lead and then you follow. Just be calm. If my man would end up marrying a divorced mum with 2 children, then know that you’re good to go. All men are not scum. They are just hunters. They don’t respect desperate women. And a man won’t love you, if he doesn’t respect you. Cos respect is everything to a man. Just control your feelings and watch things happen. All the best🤗
ReplyDeleteLol. I know someone that is exactly like you. I pray she experiences something like this soon. It will be interesting to watch. Don't flog yourself for something that is natural darling
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