Hmmmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
I am in love with an older man and he wants to marry me and i am ready cos the feeling is mutual but we have a problem....HE IS MY MUMS EX when they were young and my dads friend when they were young....
My dad does not know that he was my mums lover and he met my mum through him...They told him they were besties when my lover introduced my mum to my dad..
He is a frequent face in my home and that is how the love grew......My parents are doing well financially and so is my man......I am also doing very well with my Job and i do not live in Nigeria.
He told me the whole story and also says my mum might not agree cos they were lovers.....He is no longer married and has kids who are older than i am and want to see him happy....His kids are my friends and i look up to them..They know i am dating their dad and dont mind.....
How do i tell me mum and convince her? My dad is cool and down to earth and i dont see a problem with this but i am scared this might unearth something that will break up both families......What do you guys think?should i break up cos of my mum or fight for my love..I am 32 years old.
Your mum will not be happy seeing her daughter dating her ex or marrying him....its a woman thing and she wont be happy....I dont know how this will turn out but it feels like it will backfire and break up the unity between the two families, please think this out very well before you make a wrong move...
What kind of strange web connection is this, the older man is going for the kill, chop mama, chop pikin, probably don chop your papa money too, well I am not surprised these things only happen in the abroad.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster
DeleteCan you leave your mom alone with your dad and not get worried?
Will you be okay with your mom coming over when you’ve given birth,knowing that old firewood Dey catch?
Do you have the store to look the other way when her text enters his phone or he calls her?
Are comfortable knowing that your mom will have ideas in her head regarding your sex life because she knew his moves and will wonder if he has improved or not?
Are you okay with keeping your good and calm dad in this web ?
Does this man really really love you?
If he did,if he valued you, he won’t enter your family and bruise your fathers ego like this.
A mature man who values you would make things easy for you
He would’ve answered this for you.
You are here asking “strangers” because he is sitting back and watching how this plays out
You are on your own……
This is the first of many
Tell that man to handle this
Stop sleeping with him
Ask your mom casually about him and how they ended
Find out if this is revenge or vengeance.
His children have nothing to lose
Your father will just be a fool in this whole mess when it comes out.
Don’t do it
Do it if you must
Does this man love you
Will he stand by you for you and with you
Why is he not looking for answers
Why are you the one worried about this
You are his baby
Why is he not shielding you from this
As e be sef the chopping fit be continued during ...
DeleteNa wa.
Now I understand why our thinking is different from this people, I mean as a man, I will not even go near my friends ex, not to talk of my father's ex even if she's Alakija. You want to marry your mother's ex because he his comfortable.
DeleteHmmmm!! Old 🔥 wood dey catch fire 🔥
DeleteBecareful
Hmmmmmm this generation is finished walahi
DeleteAbort mission sharp sharp, did you need to even still ask us? Why do we like making things complicated for ourselves? You are ducking the same man who likely ducked your mum years back? Ayama, abeg find someone else.
Delete@19:33
DeleteSaw what you did there.
Ordinarily, we would be tempted to say this chronicle was sent in by "our" to spite or mis-portray.
But the comparatively short time spent visiting this blog, and based on what real life has shown, the chronicle is real. Thankfully, none raised a doubt about it.
Devil really came to your mum's house.
Deletedetach and run in Alexa's voice
Mao Akuh
Out of the 4,103,612,213 men in this world, the only person you saw to date was your Dad's childhood friend who happens to also be your mother's ex.
ReplyDeleteCheers 🥂
You see am?
DeleteAfter we go dey complain about Dante saying na only "our" feelings matter.
Abeg, I hope you enjoyed your stay in Lagos during the conference?
Too bad!
DeleteLike!!!!! Such disgusting act.
DeleteThat man is of no good. How could he be comfortable getting married to a lady he knew the mother intimately?
DeleteHe doesnt have respect and regard for his friend. He wants to ruin and scatter this family for his own selfish interest.
This is why it's not good to lie. You will keep covering up for the lies you told earlier. Your mother would have told your father the truth about the friend from the beginning which would had prevented this drama from coming up now...
Anon 17:24, the Chronicle just tire person.
DeleteYeah, the conference was great. At least, we have rested small before the hustle and bustle begins.
Hope you're good too? Have a great, great day.
Your Mum's ex. Jeez! Chronicles these days be vexing me. Why date your Mum's ex in the first place? I mean it's not like you just found out. If he doesn't have sense, biko you should na.
ReplyDeleteWhich sense? Poster if you have a sister, ask her very well, your sugar daddy might be the love of her life or ex too. Mtchew!
DeleteWow.. Whats with him and ur family?
ReplyDeleteAfter dating ur mom without marrying her, he went for her daughter.. Ur lover is evil and should be avoided, he's not a good person at all and ur dad may not like it too.. U are supposed to be a daughter to him not a lover..
Very messy situation 😙
DeleteVery evil hearted man. Slept with mother and child. Don't be decieved poster, there is no iota of love from that man for you. Which responsible man looks at the daughter of his close friend lustfully not to talk of someone who has slept with the wife of that close friend. My sister please borrow sense, if na old papa you want look for the one that is not your father's friend. What manner of disrespect is that? Who knows he might still be sleeping with your mother for him to be a regular visitor in your house.
DeleteA responsible man whose close friend marries his ex will distance himself a little out of respect for his friend
Because tell.me what are they always discussing when he comes around with him and your mum having to see each other at least once in awhile?
Dating your mother's ex lover shows how foolish you are.
ReplyDeleteYour chronicle is disgusting!
Sluttychic.
I just feel like giving her a slap eziokwu
DeleteMtshewww
Very very and annoying too.
DeleteThe man is a pervert!!! ..and the poster *disgusts* me. Man wey chop your mama wan chop you? Tweh!!!
DeleteDisgusting * 💯. Gosh. No dignity and good conscience...
DeleteThe man may even end up being your biological father cos your mum may have never stopped fucking him if they are still acting beasties to your dad
DeleteYour dad may even know the whole gist and still pretend, the world is bent, lots of perverts everywhere
"the love grew" abi he groomed you? A man who saw you as a baby is able to sleep with you? Eweee🤮🤮. You have been dating him? Torh...both of you are meant for each other then. What a perfect fit! Please go ahead. Whatever it unearths, I am sure both of you can chest it. Una get mind o.
ReplyDeletePlease break up the relationship because of your family's sake. You will still love.
ReplyDeleteAbeg bounce. You guys know no boundaries these days any guy that profess marriage you just fall yakata. Like how will you think of gbenshing a guy that has done your mum?!!! Is there no respect, shame or fear?!! Abeg bounce if you like marry who your papa papa gbensh . Goshh
ReplyDeletePlease abort mission!!! Not sure this relationship is worth the potential issues it will generate if disclosed.
ReplyDeleteNawaoooo,the other day,it was sisters,now mother and daughter.....So you don't find anything wrong with what your mom and dad's friend did to him...what if they still remained friends with benefits.
ReplyDeleteNow you are dating your mum's friends with benefits after lying to your father...oga oooo
Do you,abi how them dey talk am now....
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Gbenshed woman and continued with her as family friend?
DeleteGbbennshing daughter under her nose?
What if there was FOB?
Well, polite questioning is a sign of good culture.
You have no self respect. Have men finished in the country you live in?
ReplyDeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Nice to have you back. It has been a while
DeleteThis one brought u out 😂
DeleteI find this difficult to believe but if it is through you need to talk to your first before your Dad but I doubt she will want to tell you the real truth if her answer is no so you don't see her as a cheat.
ReplyDeleteHmmm Poster Eleyi gidi gan....This is not just about your mom and dad, this web is so intertwined with a lot of intrigues dating back to probably before you were born and you might be re-opening some wounds on both of your dad and mom's side.....
ReplyDeleteAre you sure this man is not on a mission to tick off smashing both mom and daughter? Are you sure he is not using you to score a cheap points on some games played years ago? I don't find that man responsible at all....
Baby Girl use your tongue to count your teeth....You are better off with a 100% drama free man...
All the best if you decide to go ahead to marry him or moving on to someone else...
Omo Smallie!!! You are truly a let down....How could you even consider marrying him? Mon Dieu, Eledumare Oba Ogo, Ya Allah!!! Why at the mention of marriage, you will suspend all common sense, logical reasoning on certain things....
DeleteChai God! And you guys go don dey gbensh already oh....O Chim Chim, let me run out of here before my imaginations drive me crazy.....
Off all men in this whole wide world, na your mum's ex you see??
ReplyDeleteYou need serious deliverance.🤢🤮
Please leave him and date someone else. Not worth it
ReplyDeleteAre you not repulsed by the fact that he might have been “eyeing you since you were a kid?”.
ReplyDeleteI love the man sha. Na him dey enjoy this life
Lol
DeleteSDK yard people and mouth. Hahahaha.
Hope this love can weather the storm of him raising little kids allover again.
ReplyDeleteWait oo, you sef you no dey fear say your mama fit gbensh am when she comes for omugwo?.
Did you think he might be with you cos he is still in love with your mum and you’re the next best thing?.
Till your mom comes for omogwu and starts sleeping with your husband. what gave you such mind sef, your moms ex
ReplyDeleteThe choice is between your family and your love life and when all is said and done, the only thing that remains is family. Think about it properly o, id say break up and look for another man. This one is way too complicated. Your dad will find out your mom was collecting prick from her supposed besty while she was dating him. Maybe one of you is even his child, lmao. You’ll be shocked cos as I’m seeing it, your dad go do dna o if this matter cast finish.
ReplyDeleteWhat is she is even his child?
DeleteAnother big question?
DeleteSerious question o. Una gas do dna for that una house
DeleteTrue oooo, I did not even reason it, one of the children fit belong to the man, because poster's mum's ways don't look pure.
DeletePlease leave that old man. Dont destroy your family’s peace because of love that’s not even sure. Until you start to live with someone, you can never tell who they truly are. Na so man scarce these days? You want to marry a man that was nacking your mom while she was dating your dad?yam pepper scatter scatter is on the way
ReplyDeleteShout
ReplyDeleteI'm a chosen!
I'm a chosen !!
I'm a chosen !!!
This confusion, who are you?
...and watch your confusion disappear.
You may even be the man pikin. Just move on and let sleeping dogs lies o. You already have that feeling that it may open up can of worms
ReplyDeleteYou, your mom, and your dad's friend all have your faults. Your dad is the only one I feel sorry for because he is the only innocent person in all of this.
ReplyDeleteLet's start with your mom.
I honestly do not care about how she would feel when she finds out because she started all of this, and now the chicken has come home to roost. If she had done away with her lover and kept him away from your dad, her home, and her life, you wouldn't be in this situation. She played a dangerous game keeping such a man in your lives. The mean side of me I never knew existed right till right now wants her to find out so badly and get her recompense. She would be heartbroken, but she laid her bed, so...
The man I believe should be avoided, and if he has a conscience and an iota of shame, should let your family be. He cheated with your mom and now secretly dates the daughter. If he has nothing to prove, why didn't he come out straight to the family to indicate his interest in you? Him knowing you have no idea of his relationship with your mom but still went ahead to be friends with your dad and even went further to court you behind your mom's back is so bold and sly of him. Why didn't he reveal all that to you from the onset?
I am surprised you are not even mad at him for disclosing such a depressing secret now. Look at how everything has blown over, and it's a little too late. It's so unpleasant to the ears that you are having a romantic relationship with such a man. Even if you don't marry him, shouldn't you be disgusted on behalf of your dad and yourself? Why are you so chilled about everything? Your concerns are also misplaced.
Please dissolve everything.
It's high time he moved away from your family. The damage he has done is already enough.
Some girls no get sense. It's like you wohwoh and you get low self esteem
ReplyDeleteHow did the relationship even start? Na wa o
ReplyDeleteDon't you dare try such nonsense!
ReplyDeleteA man that dated your mother wants to marry you? I'm not sure you are thinking right.
You look up to his children? As what? Your role model?
Your dad is cool and down to earth? Maybe you should reveal the little secret of how your "lover" was his wife's ex and see how cool and down to earth he is.
Small pikin still dey worry you. This is not love but infatuation. Infact, that is wicked.
Respect your mom and let go of that thing you have for that man!
Mum wey no respect herself and her husband (Poster's father)?
DeleteKarma was a word frequently used here.
Which kind turn turn Around be this self
ReplyDeleteThis person you suppose dey call am daddy daddy na waooo for you
Your Mum Ex 😳😳 chaiii
Na wao for you oooo..
The man self no get shame Chaiii...
Hello iya Boys
So because of love, you’d rather break your mums heart and leave your dad distraught because you found love in your parents age mate and they share some connection? Love is not everything but you need to have some sense abeg.
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteOrisirisi people dey this blog sha
Please, where are you people from?
This is not part of "we found love in hopeless places".
ReplyDeleteDo you want to be a weapon fashioned against yourself?
Or Did you lack fatherly love growing up?
It says a lot about the character of a man who dated your mum,watched her marry,gave birth and then watched you grow..then want to sleep with you,further dated you and even thinking of marrying you!!
Where is your pride as a lady? Don't you have class?
Where is your self esteem?
Trust me that marriage won't last,no be curse ooo,just pure facts!
Imagine your mum coming for Omugwo,and reconciling with him;and Okafor's law happen,that means the rest is history..Chop pikin;Chop Mama things!!
Wisdom truly isnt a flower that grows in every garden,but at least you can be an exemption and end this situationship today!!
@MARTINS
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ReplyDeleteMartins she might even be the man's daughter , I'm so ashamed of the poster its even painful that she is in the abroad like are you not enlightened to be in this web.
DeleteMake una dey get abomination DNA nah even it's just a strain na wa
Dating your mother's x, what kind of disgusting chronicle be this now? I mean how u take even develop feelings for someone you are suppose to see as uncle? Jesus Christ,this world should just end, nonsense 😏🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeleteAbort mission! It's crazy, your mum's ex kwa🤭
ReplyDeleteThat man doesn’t love you
ReplyDeleteHe probably has a fetish or is on a revenge mission and you’ll regret marrying him.
You are very young and will get another guy
Your family isn’t worth loosing cos they are the ones that’ll stay when the chips are down.
BE WISE
Men, you can be anything but never be weak. The only loser here is your father. His so called 'friend' succeeded in sleeping with his wife and will now marry his daughter. Let me recap. Your father's friend would have succeeded at sleeping with his friend's wife and the daughter from that woman. Who knows if your fiance is in fact your biological father. Men, do your findings before you marry any woman or else, sorry is your case.
ReplyDeleteYour mom's ex of all the men in the world hmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteWetin be dis again. So at 32 years you are still this dense
ReplyDeleteSo you want to marry your mum's ex. What a wawu. God Abey ooo
You're dating your mom ex, and that one isn't enough, you still want to marry him, that old man is a shameless agbaya, hope he's not using you to count scores?
ReplyDeleteWhat sort of unhealthy ties does that man have with your family. Something is not right abeg. Let him go. It will break your family.
ReplyDeleteYour mum's ex, please take a walk.
ReplyDeleteThere will definitely be issues.
Chukwu aju 😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteA man who was like a father to you with his kids as your friends. I’m sure he’s comfortable if not your brain will not turn to potty, his children also don’t care cos they don’t love him as long as he meets their needs. You’re trading your family for a short lived happiness for self gratification. Since you’re foolish you’ll reap more foolish rewards soon.
ReplyDeleteThis is an Ikegwuru situation.
ReplyDeleteIt seems when people move abroad and has freedom they loose their brain,you want to be eating the same prick,olosi
ReplyDeleteYou re not even angry with him that while your mum is married to your dad they might be gbenshing behind your dad.
ReplyDeleteI can only say tufiakwa at 32 this is what you want to saddle your life with, they even lied to your dad the type of treatment I will give him he will not step his foot in our house again , but girl I want to ask are you OK.
Send that man to the jungle a popular twitter user will always say FLING ,pls FLING him to the jungle mtcheww .
Nonsense backstabbing human being that slithers to a family like a serpent looking for whom to swallow
All the men in the world, billions and billions of them and the one you want is the one who used to boink your mother, and for all we know may even be your father. You better go get DNA test to make sure he ain't your daddy. Some of you love too much excitement in your lives and it is always the wrong kind of excitement. Mtsscchhww.
ReplyDeletePoster, will you be cool with this if you're in your mum's shoes? Even if you'll be, it's nauseating please.
ReplyDeleteDon't disrespect your Mum. This is not right.
I don't want to type the other question I have in mind. Stop it, please.
You want to marry your ex. He is your dad's friend, I swear the man must have a very good d*ck. There is nothing there,expect the d*ck, So d*ck when don dig your mama go still dig you.
ReplyDeleteIt means you can sleep with your father, God forbid bad child,bad blood. Your father is just the victim here.
Poster when all is said & done, the decision is yours to take but know this, a man that was sleeping with his friends wife & came back for his daughter is actually on a mission to destroy your family. How will you feel, if your father finds out that his friend has slept with his wife & his daughter, do you want to kill your father? How come you don't see anything wrong with sleeping with a man that has slept with your mother, how did you keep yourself for him to tell you such a thing... This man is on a mission to destroy your family, don't allow him use you biko!
ReplyDeleteSome of u have no shame at all. Tufiakwa!!! We are still talking about sister’s exes, this one carry mama ex come 🤮
ReplyDeleteNo pride, no self-worth, no self-respect. Just a vessel walking around aimlessly willing to accept dyck from any corner no matter where it has been. Born with their brain in their anus.
DeletePoster, how old is this man.
ReplyDeleteThe way it is going so, hmmn, he go chop grand-daughter in your father's household o.
Lol. E be like
DeleteWhat does God say about it? Cos every other person’s opinion doesnt matter here. If according to ur religion it is ok, then fine go ahead with it and shun everyone, they wud adjust. I’m a muslim, and according to my religion i cannot marry any man that has slept with my mom, so this wud be a no go area for me, but since i dnt know ur religion, i cannot give a blanket advice. So if u r a muslim, that’s it, if not, check ur bible and find what it says about such relationships and go wt it. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteGood onè
DeleteIn the bible, any man that might have slept with your mother should either be your biological father or step father and in any of the said cases, it is a big no. Bible and Christianity forbids pre- marital sex which is the only scenario beyond the two above.
DeleteHow would you want to sleep with a man that has been intimate with your mother? That relationship is dead on arrival! You better go find a man around your age!
ReplyDeleteKaren
Why would you even sleep with a man your own mother was intimate with? At 32 years you should have sense na. If the reverse was the case, would you be okay if your daughter decides to marry your ex?
ReplyDeletePerson wey still dey gensh your mama... how you take mumu like this!!!!
ReplyDeleteIf they lied to your dad about their relationship all these years it mean they still continued even after he married her.
I think he groomed you for this.. borrow yourself brain for the sake of your father
Na wa ooooooo
ReplyDeleteYour Mama's ex
At 32yrs, you are so desperate that it is your mum former boyfriend is whom you are shacking with. So disgusting to say the least..
ReplyDeleteShameless man and Shameless poster..
ReplyDeleteAbort mission please
What kind of entanglement is this ??? Men don finish ?????????
ReplyDeleteYour mum's ex.......?? How can a lady open legs for a man that has slept with her....?? There are things that are sacred in my opinion.
ReplyDeletePls sis end this relationship because to me it's not a healthy one. It will always bring bad memories.
Sebi the other day one female BV in her 50s said she is abroad to assist her daughter on maternity duties and was also assisting her on matrimonial conjugation.
ReplyDeleteWhen we say that a person is not necessarily good or better because the person is a man or woman some of us argue contra.
I don't know why you entangled yourself in this type of relationship in the first place .we already know it's a recipe for disaster..it's not supposed to end up in marriage. Abort mission
ReplyDeleteA man your father calls and sees as best friend / brother, has already slept with his wife and lied about it, then proceeded to package your mom (after he was Don with her ) for your father, claiming nothing ever happened between them, and still remained your dad's friend and a regular visitor in your parents house. supposedly "maintaining d friendship all these years", saw you birthed, watched you grow and now sleeping with you, (his best friend's daughter ooo) behind his best friend/brother'sback, to the extent wants to wife you? Are you OK? Why can't you see Dis man for who he truly is?
ReplyDeleteIt might have started when you were younger, but at 32 , shouldn't you have known better?
Obviously you aint gonna leave him.
So goodluck with whatever decision you take.
Nah wah
Hmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmmm your mum is still gbeshing her ex lover ,your boyfriend the man deserve an award still gbeshing you habe na three sum remain girl you have no shame
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣 why are you sucking a phallus the same age as your dad’s? Are men finished?! You’re 32 ffs!! How do you sleep with this man knowing he’s slept with your mother before? Way before you born? Are you mentally ok? This chronicle is so upsetting!
ReplyDeleteThis is too complicated poster, why do you even want to marry your mum's ex? And you are just 32 yrs , why are you in a hurry?
ReplyDeletePlease break up with him if you can.
Poster maybe what you and I need, is a switch of Lovers? you and I connect coz I can see you are all just about love but fell for the wrong person. so am I, but also fell for the wrong person too.
ReplyDeleteAm also an older person of 51, fell for a single mother of 30, providing care, love and faithfulness, but all I get in return is disrespect, lies and unfaithfulness that I latter discovered I could be in the number 5 of the people she dates. I think she deserves a man like the one you date now, and I could do nice with one like you who is only out for pure love, but with the most wrong person who happened to have dated your mum of all people.
You did wrong but I don't want to condemn you, coz I know the feeling of hopelessly in love with the wrong person.
Let's reach out to Stella.
It’s payback time for him my dear. Don’t let him use you to hurt your family. Your dad took your mum from him, now he wants to pay them both back through you. He knows they’ll never agree to your relationship with him but knowing you both were/are together will hurt your parents in ways unimaginable. It will also reveal to your dad that your mum and him were lovers. Don’t ruin your family by being his pun. Keep your mother’s little secret! You are young, you’ll find someone else, don’t worry! Love shouldn’t be this difficult.
ReplyDeleteSpeak to your mother first!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, e be like say na ur real papa you wan marry abi? Id*ot!
ReplyDeleteYou have been senseless from day 1 and that man knows it otherwise a sensible girl won't even date him not to talk of marriage and believe it or not he must definitely marry another after you
ReplyDeleteWell, I know a lady whose husband was allegedly her widowed mother's ex. It was even alleged that he was the biological father of one of the children the mother had when mother's husband (lady's own father) died.
ReplyDeleteSome tatafos in the village said mama dey occasionally nack son-in-law when she goes for omugo. Anyways, those in the triangle didn't mind.
At some point mama stopped nacking the son-in-law.
My advice to poster? Please, run.