CONFUSED
Dear Stella...
I am a lady of 30 years trusting God for a serious relationship. I am an introvert. Tunde slid into my Dm on Instagram. He liked my pics and he requested my WhatsApp contact luckily we both reside in the same city, Ibadan. He said he wanted to meet me physically. I told him I work in the office during the week and that we should meet on Saturday because I don't go to work during the weekend.
He said he is a solar and electrical engineer. He can always leave his office anytime unlike me. I persuaded him to wait till the weekend.
On a Friday evening, I chose a restaurant in my area because being a first date I need to be security conscious. He said he can't come to my area because he will be coming from a far distance. He suggested an area that is not too far from my area. I disagreed with him and he ended the conversation with nice meeting you.
On Saturday morning, I messaged him that I had agreed to go to his preferred location and that he should select a spot(restaurant/ Public space ) where we would meet. I told him I wouldn't be able to come on Saturday again because we couldn't plan ahead and that I would make it on Sunday, the next day when he had chosen the spot where we would meet.
He responded with no problem. My younger brother said I should not have agreed to his preferred location. I told my brother that I wanted to be considerate because he was coming from a far distance.
Sunday came, but Tunde never reached out to me to go on a date with him. I decided not to reach out to him so it wouldn't look as if I was chasing him.
My brother said Tunde was no longer interested and that I should move on. Should I reach out to him to ask him why he didn't fix our date as planned or I should move on and trust God for another suitor?
Suitor? You were already looking forward to marriage with this one that cannot even come and look for you? Please listen to your brother....Such dates this days eh, its either you lose your life, your heart or your money..Please be careful.
He ended the converstion with "nice meeting you". The next day, you reached out to him to tell him ok, let's meet up at your own place of preference, after saying no. He didn't show. Now you want to reach out to him again to ask him why he didn't show. DON'T. Ah Ah! Do not act desperate, abeg.
ReplyDeleteGirl, He’s just not into you anymore. No more reaching out. If the friendship is meant to be, paths will cross again. Take your learnings and move on.
DeleteSmells of desperation.
DeletePls leave him alone. He is not serious.
ReplyDeleteDon't be desperate. It will come. Just be yourself and be a little more open. Hang out with friends more.
What if something came up urgently? Or even if he had an accident.. Reaching out to ask about ur date is not desperate until it is constantly..
ReplyDeleteI think u should call to check up on him first before u conclude..
There is nothing wrong with the location he choose as long as u know the area and place.. .. Which is not his location, he may also be scared of u too..
Ma’am he said nice meeting you when she proposed a different location. He didn’t try to negotiate. He simply moved on. She then ran back to start asking jamb questions
DeletePoster stop breaking your brothers heart as his heart is breaking watching this guy toy with you
Lovely comment. Your poor brother continues to try to remind you who you are, but seems desperation clouds your mind. Please be patient and do not fall into the hands of users. Thank you and wish you all the best, may God grant you what your heart wishes, according to His plans for you.
DeleteGod bless us all.
My own problem na Tunde. Wetin our name do una ?
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHahaha+ Femi, wale 🤣
DeleteJust ignore the Tunde guy. He isn't serious. He may be an impostor
ReplyDeleteYou’re so desperate it’s reeking ! Listen to your brother oo.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean by a suitor ? So you’ve already planned a wedding and marriage In your head ? Goodness , you women repel me with your desperation for marriage.
Jeez! Breathe girl .
A guy can’t even be bothered to come to you in the same state and you’re still pinning for him like a love struck dog . Breathe !!
God na wa oh!!! You even added suitor!! What a wow....This your desperation ehn na waya....
DeletePlease forget him. Do not reach out to him again. Delete his number as well.
ReplyDeleteGentle poster your younger brother is right! Why are you the one planning around these dates and then going to his initial request....You are making it too easy for him that you have made him to feel he can walk all over you......A serious man should work to earn your attention, be intentional about meeting you....
ReplyDeleteAny man that is interested in you will go all out to have a date with you.....Nice girl no dey work at all....You are already bending to meet all his requests just because you are hoping to get a ring....Baby girl, you are a Queen!
Forget about this guy please!! From the conversation, you should sense if he is a serious person....
All the best and please stop bending your rules because you want to please people or a goody two shoes.....
Apt.....👍
DeleteChronicles on a nonexistent date kwa. God abeg oo
ReplyDeletePlease don’t reach out to him. A good man or a man who truly respects a woman will inconvenience himself so that the woman is comfortable. Also, he should understand that as the society is very insecure for women, it is only normal that you want to take extra precautions especially for a first time date. Enjoy your life and stop worrying and a suitor. I married at 29 and had my first child at 42, naturally after I was told I no longer have ovarian reserve. A very good friend married last year to an American pilot and their my son is a month older than hers. No need to rush anything in this life.
ReplyDeletePoster, you just reek of desperation! See you already calling the so called Tunde a suitor. Men smell this kind your desperation from afar. Calm down.
ReplyDeleteForget this one mbok !
ReplyDeleteI will suggest you do not reach out to him again.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I am meeting up with someone, I always like to be considerate as well as working with day, time and location that is convenient for both parties involved and always an open space.
Try meet people halfway as long as your personal safety and security isn't compromised
Nne Abeg forget about him oooo
ReplyDeleteHe's not serious jawee
If he's really interesting in you he will come to the Main Restaurant that you book for..
Abeg leave am
Your own ordained Man will come in Jesus name AMEN 🙏🙏🙏
Hello iya Boys
Hmmm...move on. And if he resurfaces again, friend-zone him. Every girl needs a thriving friend-zone. You don't sound like one who has that. Because you don't have it, you will be desperate and call every guy that says hello a suitor. 30 is the right time to start recruiting candidates and screening them for marriage. You are a price. Act like one.
ReplyDeleteI love your messages...u are different!!
DeleteTunde is a player, please forget Tunde and move, Tunde has moved on already...
ReplyDeleteDesperate chic
ReplyDeleteLadies learn to ignore men
ReplyDeleteNot arrogantly or proudly but just let them be
Without much words ignore them
What exactly are you going back to ask this guy now?
What are you reaching out for now?
Haaaa
What’s with all these pressure for Pete’s sake
Listen to your brother. Delete Tunde from your memory.
ReplyDeleteLuv, the nice meeting you comment was his way of telling you that he was no longer interested. Let Tunde be, you don’t know him from a hole in the wall and he is already showing you face. Being security conscious is the ultimate and you have every right to look out for yourself first. We have all seen all the horrible stories online, if you go bend and lose your life ppl would blame you and say how you are another careless and desperate woman. Never feel any shame to put your safety first!
ReplyDeleteThe moment he rejected your proposed meeting place, you should know he wasn't serious. A serious man will go extra miles to see the woman he wants.
ReplyDeleteYou had to even agree to his terms and he ignored you. Please forget him and move on. You'd meet your own man soon🤗🤗
Suitor now now, na so u desperate reach. Just wan fall cheap for fall wey you no know?😏 Na waaaa🚶🚶🚶 suitor ko husband ni😏
ReplyDeleteLeave Tunde alone and face front, he's no longer interested, he even seems like a player.
ReplyDeleteYou people that keep saying how and why girls send nudes, this here is an example.
ReplyDeleteWhen you’re so desperate and you jam someone that knows how to twist and turn you until you’re begging on your knees ehnn, you’ll even steal your mama money give am, submit your whole salary sef.
Poster , please have some self respect
Funny enough Tunde was one of the guys I can say was real crazy about me, washed my pants and cried well well for me . hehehehe
ReplyDeleteWhen you set your standard and he doesn't meet it, keep it moving. He set his standard, and you didn't come close, and he stuck with it. Learn from that guy!
ReplyDeletePls delete his no so you won't be tempted to call him. And on relationship matters, listen to your brother. Girl 30 is not 50 nah. Relax and get d best. Everyone destiny is different. Stop looking at d clock
ReplyDeletePoster is acting like they've been telling her that she is hard on men that's why she isn't married at her age.
ReplyDeleteYou can see that almost every comment points to the fact that Tunde doesn't really care about you. Even your brother confirmed it. So please, let him be. There's no point reaching out to him.
May your own man find you soon in Jesus name.
Please leave him oooo. Una never even start, problem everywhere..
ReplyDeleteDon’t cheapen yourself for a man. If he doesn’t chase you then you are not valuable. Please move on
ReplyDeleteYou want to meet Tunde at his preferred location despite all the news making rounds in Nigeria? Aren’t you scared for your life? Pity your family members and respect yourself. You better thank God for protecting you. Selah
ReplyDeleteSimilar to a Tunde i am presently chatting with, also an engineer. he wants to visit me in Abuja and insists it must be in my house...What annoys me is that when i categorically said he cant come to my house, he said "then i am not coming since you don't want to see me". Mumu
ReplyDeleteSis, just wait for the one, Tunde isnt it.