MIDGET PROPOSAL
Dear Stella,
I am a working class lady of 30years. I have been trusting God for marital settlement. There was a guy I met on WhatsApp(Jide) He approached me but I turned him down because I felt he was from a polygamous family.
I was in my mid 20s then. I was scared he might practiced a polygamous marriage like his father. My wish has always been to have a peaceful monagamous family.
For Jide not to feel rejected, I introduced him to my friend and they are happily married. I have not been getting serious suitors except Playboys. I have fasted and prayed and I don't know if God hears me again.
I seriously wish to start my own family.
I later met Dapo. Dapo approached me but my serious concern about Dapo is that he is a midget. He has the stature of the popular actors Aki and pawpaw. I am on a big side.
For Jide not to feel rejected, I introduced him to my friend and they are happily married. I have not been getting serious suitors except Playboys. I have fasted and prayed and I don't know if God hears me again.
I seriously wish to start my own family.
I later met Dapo. Dapo approached me but my serious concern about Dapo is that he is a midget. He has the stature of the popular actors Aki and pawpaw. I am on a big side.
I am a huge and chubby lady. Dapo is a civil servant. He has been disturbing me for the past one year. But I am not physically attracted to him. He has a good character although he has his flaws. I friend zoned him. It is not like I am looking for the most handsome guy in the world but I want a man that looks masculine physically with good character, which is seriously giving me concern.
Should I go for Dapo or I should keep trusting God to bring another suitor. My family are on my neck for marriage. I care less but I sincerely wish to start my own family.
Should I go for Dapo or I should keep trusting God to bring another suitor. My family are on my neck for marriage. I care less but I sincerely wish to start my own family.
I hope you will not hate the child if he or she looks like those two short actors?Or is it the midget type that has muscles?You are huge and chubby? how will he cilimb you?My dear no matter how desparate you are, do not marry below what you want oh, na so so chronicles you go dey send.....
Woman go for someone that you can respect as your husband.
ReplyDeleteDOZZYBEST.
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DeleteWait for the man you want; they aplenty.
Please, set free Dapo in any other gentle way you can create so that he may end up being "happily married" like Jide.
Case closed.
QED
Don’t go for Dapo and stop living in regret
ReplyDeleteFind someone you like
Poster if you are not physically attracted to him? Why force it? Tell him you are not interested...Keep praying and look deeply into the character of the men before you accept their proposal...
ReplyDeleteYour own is coming
All the best
Stella you are blessed that is the best answer for her .Aunty how you hear no need for regret tomorrow just Waka front leave akin and pawpaw man alone
ReplyDeleteAbi o..don't even try it.
DeleteDon't feel compelled to marry or accept someone you are not physically attracted to.
ReplyDeleteUnderstand that physical attraction is one of the pre-marital relationship principles.
I have nothing against Dapo's physical size, as you characterized it; after all, he did not make himself; he is unique.
Getting married is one thing, but remaining married is another.
Na wa. you are so desperate cos your family is on your neck. Are you marrying for them?
ReplyDeleteJust 30 and you are already feeling this way.
You better relax and settle for someone that you will be proud of and respect.
Sluttychic.
Pls stop the desperation and keep waiting on God. Stop pressuring yourself and do not allow anyone's pressure get to you anymore.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is suppose to be a lifetime commitment. Marry someone you will be proud of, someone you won't be ashamed to introduce as your husband.
Stop checking your age and stop rhe Comparison. Forget the past and look forward
Firstly let me correct ur mindset.. The fact that someone is from polygamous home doesn't mean they will also practice it, some of them saw what their mom went through and vow never to to practice it..
ReplyDeleteI tried it and I saw shege. They may not marry anyone else but would be promiscuous
DeleteMrs Sharon, it is mostly girls from polygamous homes that detest polygamy. The men mostly, end up doing wat their dad did, somehow it becomes a cycle. I am from a polygamous home myself, being a woman, i avoid polygamy with everything in me, but my brother in his very early 40s already has 2 wives. A family frnd who also comes from polygamous home once told me, the only thing standing btw him and polygamy is money.
DeleteI want to believe that, but.....I wonder if most men who are unrepentant cheaters came from households where the father was also a cheater. I would love to hear from cheaters on this.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Stella go kill person one dey with her bluntness advise.
ReplyDeleteHow will he climb you? Stella, them go buy ladder na. LMFAO 😅😂🤣🤣🤣
Ladder kwa😂😃🤣
DeleteOmo Stella is not feeling fine o, she said how will he climb you😁
Hahahaha 🤣
Delete😂🤣😹
DeletePoster please,leave Dapo alone. And keep praying to God,to bless you with your soul mate. 🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteSo you don't know what you want?
ReplyDeletekedu Ife liputalu alighali ifea??
Mmadu atokwanu oo!🥺
Poster, I understand your concerns. But before you can someone midget pls do well to check their height first in centimeter. Some people can be short but may not fall in the baseline of midget. I had similar experience some years back, came across a man who was short but not a midget. I checked his height even without his knowing, i pinched the wall where his head was resting. I eventually took a walk and not because of his height but his temper. Make him no con use knife kee me for my mama🙄
ReplyDeleteSmbody said the person is a midget, u r here modifying her story telling her he may not be, cos urs wasn’t, did u meet thesame prsns? She knows what she saw na, sm1 that is already working won’t kno the difference btw short and midget? She even described him and said he is like Aki n paw paw, and by every standard those guys are midgets.
DeleteShort man temper ehn. He has ego the height of a mountain and ego as fragile as a duck egg. Self esteem ehn...he will always need to prove something to anyone he comes across.
DeletePoster please keep moving, you haven't seen a husband yet.
ReplyDeleteJust 30 and you are feeling like this already? Hmmm, please calm down before your name turns to chronicle.
The term midget is derogatory. Please refrain from using it, you can say a small person.
ReplyDeleteYou can keep trusting God but get out there to spaces where you can meet ppl or tell your friends and family that you are ready to settle down and to connect you with likeminded persons for dating and courtship. Some churches have singles programs and socials. Join clubs and community groups, you will meet someone.
Leave Dapo alone if you do not feel physically attracted to him, since marriage involves secks and seeing the other person's nakedness, it is important that some level of physical attraction exists. Nobody should have to feel unwanted or scorned in a marriage so keep him as a friend and leave it at that.
Hian! There is a reason the word is in the dictionary, pls allow ppl to use words they know and are comfortable with. Very soon, every word would offend somebody. On this blog u ppl said we should not use the word ‘barren’, that nobody is barren, again they said we should not use the word ‘illiterate’ now you have added to the list. Do u kno that in the world we live today, some ppl would be offended when u call them ‘small person’ just the mere fact that u add the word small is enough to offend them, u wud hear them say i am not small and can never be small in Jesus name. So pls u cant pls everybody.
Delete17:32, "Them" who? No, we do not refer to humans as barren any longer. And it is not about making YOU comfortable in calling ppl names that they do not want to be called by. Elevate your mentality and learn that offending others because it makes you comfortable is no way to live a life.
DeleteGo to places where you can meet different people. There are single people everywhere
ReplyDelete😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 I’m sorry pls but the blue pen write up is really funny
ReplyDeleteThe Chronicles with the longest m after the H.
ReplyDelete30 years and you're under self pressure like this? Be calming down please.
Don't ever marry below your standard, your own husband is coming, don't settle for less.
ReplyDeletePoster please don't be desperate,it is obvious that you don't like the man.
ReplyDeleteIf you are not physically attracted to him, don't waste your time, just let him go.
May God grant your heart desire.
Poster you can't stand him so don't marry him, because if you do you will be irritated and recent him at the long run.
DeletePoster you sounded so desperate. You're just 30 for God's sake. Please don't rush into a loveless marriage. Wait and pray for your own husband and I pray God answers you soon.
ReplyDeleteJust 30 and you’re already in a hurry to marry? After all the paparazzi and you go home, will you be proud of the man you just married? Will you be proud if your children take after him physically? Marry who you can respect and love, in and outside your home not someone that you’re not physically attracted to because of pressure. Marriage is not easy don’t add another layer of uneasiness to it, please.
ReplyDeleteMy sister you are still young to be desperate of marriage. You are in your mid twenties. Love Can find you anytime. Just relax. You will get your better half sooner than you expect. Don't settle for less at this time of your life
ReplyDeleteShe said she is 30, it is clearly written there, but as usual, u ppl always want to modify ppl’s stories to fit ur narrative, u have changed her age for her to mid twenties. Well done ooh.
Deletemadam you better don't start what you cannot finish
ReplyDeletefree the poor to marry someone who will respect and value his size. He did not create himself, someone will love him just the way he is. Keep searching for tall ma.
First off, the right term is ‘little person’. Midget is derogatory and offensive to many people. If you’re not attracted to him, then gently tell him no. Free him to find his spouse. Shebi Small Stout and Pawpaw are married? Keep praying for your own, God makes everything beautiful in His time.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what Jide is doing in this narrative, seems you're silently in love with him. Anyway, the second guy isn't it either,so keep searching
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do, have pity on your future children and the genes you will be passing to them. All these at just 30? You are at the point where you should just start looking out for serious suitors, give yourself between now and age 35. Don't rush. Desperation has an odor so, you should actually be out there enjoying yourself, accepting dates and being the one with a score card ticking off pros and cons of each guy you meet.
ReplyDeleteWait o, try taking Dapo to that your family that are pressuring you and see their reaction 🤣🤣🤣. Trust me, na them go beg you to take your time. They will never pressure you again.
Women who pray so much for husband and don’t move out and show themselves to the world Amaze me
ReplyDeleteSee your circle,only two men since last year
Chubby and on the big side,stature that is well needed but where’s will they see you
Inside your house Abi
Work house church/mosque
What do you do on sundays
What do you do on free days
Shebi you are lowkey regretting not marrying the first man
Look area when they are plenty men that can wipe away his memory from your life patapata but mbanu you are a very reserved person
You don’t want plenty people in your life
Negodu your life fine girl
You say to sit down na wetin you want
Haaaaa
My sister come outside Biko
Don’t let that dwarf marry you abeg
Civil servant oshi
Is that the best God can do?
Ladies will never tell each the truth, why? Look at how you badmouthed the guy you don't know and elevated the ladies ego. Who told you guys need or want a 30 year old chubby lady. Calling the poor guy civil servant.
DeleteDear poster, from all indications you do not have any business being with Dapo. He's clearly not what you envisioned for a husband. Do not allow desperation to push you into something you might regret later... Keep waiting and trusting God with the right mindset and attitude
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart. But make desperation no let you settle for what you will regret later.
ReplyDelete30 is still pretty young. Give it more time. Nothing like that attraction
ReplyDeleteWerey be all this Amotekun. See all of una mouth like you just 30 still very young. Thirty ... not to put pressure on you but you are not ready. Continue searching. #Chosen one. Babe remove the negative mindset and work on urself too.
ReplyDeleteSee how you missed what would have been a chance for you to get a shot at marriage with the first guy because of stupid stereotypes. Who told you that because someone comes from a polygamous home he too will be polygamous??? I know many people who come from such backgrounds that have vowed never to go into such because they don’t want their Children to go through what they went through! Go and marry your midget o!
ReplyDeletePoster try and lose weight. Men are moved by what they see and being on the big size might be limiting your chances. Just like you are not physically attracted to Dapo because of his physical features, a lot of guys might feel same way about you and may be the reason you might not have had any serious suitors.
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